Holiday companion??

[Danger!WillRobinson]

I was planning a "trip of a lifetime" with OH next year. She sadly died last month (not wholly unexpected, given multiple health issues)*. Because of her health she sort of gave me tacit approval to see WGs, but I never confirmed to her this was the case. I'm probably going to take a break from punting for a bit.

On the basis that life goes on, however, and as the destination was one I'd always wanted to go to, I'm still planning to go (probably this time next year). If I've managed to get around to normal dating by then (doubtful) all well and good. If not, what do you think would be the best way to find someone to go with - is this a case of joining SA, or would I be better to approach a regular WG I visit, or is there some other option like an ad in the paper as per Gerald Kingsland/Lucy Irvine ("Castaway" - for younger readers, not the Tom Hanks film). Thoughts?

*not giving too many details to preserve anonymity

[bhudda]

Condolances on the loss of your wife, you must miss her.

The best advice ive heard for bereaved people is dont make any major decisions whilst still grieving because, and i mean this is the nicest possibke way, you may not be thinking clearly, which is perfectly natural.

[daviemac]

I'm sure it's been discussed before but there's loads to consider, not least spending that much time with someone you hardly really know, how she allocates time for you and time for herself, how much she would want paid, how much time would you expect her to spend with you, the list goes on.

Not forgetting you'll need to exchange 'real' details, as in names etc, in order to book, 

[Danger!WillRobinson]

Condolances on the loss of your wife, you must miss her.

The best advice ive heard for bereaved people is dont make any major decisions whilst still grieving because, and i mean this is the nicest possibke way, you may not be thinking clearly, which is perfectly natural.

Thanks. Well, we sort of knew she was on the way out, and she was sensible enough that she'd indicated she thought I should (eventually) remarry - so, whilst I'm still cut up about it, and it will hit me hard again at some stage - hence the break from punting. That said, we were both completely pragmatic enough to know that you can't stand still; that was just our relationship, I guess.

[imtheman]

Condolences on the loss of your wife.

[lewisjones23]

if i was in your position id rather pay for and take a mate/family member

you’ll have a much better time, will cost less and cant have a few punts before you go/after you get back

not sure if that is an option but that’d be number 1 for me

[catweazle]

I would agree with that previoua comment. While - obviously- we don't know the circumstances, my initial reaction was "it's too soon".

Grieving affects different people in different ways. When my Dad died my Mum almost blossomed - she took a trip to Australia which started off as being for 6 weeks and ended up as 8 months. A few months after her return it seemed to suddenly hit her that Dad was gone.

Please wait. If you decide that you are over your wife's death, then plan the holiday. Be careful of who you choose to accompany you - many WGs will jump at the chance but many will also be gold diggers.

[Fuzzyduck]

Mate. Sorry to hear that. My condolences.

Everyone deals with things in different ways but, as many have said, I'd take your time. Then, may I suggest you have a really good think about why you want someone to go with you and what you want from them (companion/friend/someone to go with, partner, fuck buddy etc). This will give you some criteria to filter down any candidate list you create.

For a longish trip, I'd say it's essential to get on with them really well. When you see a WG or are in early stages of dating, you'll likely only see the best side of them. Over a longer period, you might not be so compatible, and it could destroy your trip if it goes tits up. If you find a few potentials, why not test the waters and have a few weekends away first?

In terms of where to find someone, I'd avoid advertising - it will attract the gold diggers - unless you want to turn it into some sort of competition/gameshow. Personally, I'd be reluctant to mention the "big trip" to any girl in the early stages since it might affect their behaviour towards you. A trusted WG could be an option, if it fits the criteria you set.

That said, the chances of finding someone worth taking aren't high, so if it's really about the trip, then friends/family are probably a better shout.

[Home Alone]

My twopenny worth on this would be 2 see a number of different girls over the coming months - no pun intended! - and then float the idea with the one you feel most comfortable with.

I'm not using the word 'chemistry' but you'd have to have some kind of rapport with any girl - SP or 'civvy' - that you were on holiday with for a week.

If she doesn't dismiss the idea when you discuss it, you'd then have to discuss ' ts and cs'. E.g: how much if anything are you paying; & what are you paying for.

I remember seeing a lass last year who told me about a holiday she'd just had with a client - I remember thinking, "Well, I wouldn't be able to afford them prices!

[Danger!WillRobinson]

Thanks all for the kind words. I realise it may come across as "too soon" - to be honest I'm probably just asking because it stops me from brooding, I guess...

[Fabaceous]

Sorry to hear of your loss.
I took a WG on a skiing holiday for a week and it was great fun.
I paid for everything (bulgaria - fucking cheap) and we had a few fucks.
She was great company and I thoroughly enjoyed it all.
But - I had met her as a client many times before.

[hungrypunt]

I have done this with SA girls,1 for 3 weeks, and I have known them very well before doing so. Same advice really, as long as you feel you have known them long enough then all good.

Why not take a mate along and find some Wgs where you are going, or even scope SA out where you are going before you get there. Set up some chats on whatsapp etc, get to know a few and meet when you arrive.

[timsussex]

My condolences too - I was in a similar boat 5 years of being a cancer husband - and part time punter. Always felt I could have got a Papal dispensation allowing me to punt

Although I thought of taking a a companion decided against - i went for local girls
1) cheaper
2) I could pick up younger girls I'm 50 sodidnt fancy checking in with a 25 year old
3) a girl every other day was my ideal
4) i wanted to decide what i wanted to do without considering anyone else - had 20 years of that now to be selfish - I earned it
5) felt less like replacing the OH - it was over a year  before i tried proper dating   

depends of course on where you are planning to go

[Flunt]

It's difficult to answer without the first thing about you. I thought about taking a pro$$ie away for a week and floated the idea on here a couple of years ago. Luckily common sense and advice from others prevailed and I cancelled the reverse booking fairly sharpish.

The trip of a lifetime is very vague, if shagging your way round some exotic location is your main intention then perhaps a destination where pro$$ies are in good supply might be a better choice? Have a look at the punting abroad section for potential destinations...

As others have said, the terms and conditions of a paid partner get complicated very quickly and the overall cost of your holiday instantly doubles with flights, food and drink. Your dream holiday suddenly turns into a nightmare when the places you've dreamed of visiting are uninteresting to the plus one.

[ViperKai]

It's difficult to answer without the first thing about you. I thought about taking a pro$$ie away for a week and floated the idea on here a couple of years ago. Luckily common sense and advice from others prevailed and I cancelled the reverse booking fairly sharpish.

The trip of a lifetime is very vague, if shagging your way round some exotic location is your main intention then perhaps a destination where pro$$ies are in good supply might be a better choice? Have a look at the punting abroad section for potential destinations...

As others have said, the terms and conditions of a paid partner get complicated very quickly and the overall cost of your holiday instantly doubles with flights, food and drink. Your dream holiday suddenly turns into a nightmare when the places you've dreamed of visiting are uninteresting to the plus one.

Sorry for your loss sir. I would wholeheartedly agree with the last paragraph above.

[JamesKW]

The best advice is the last three,dont take a companion,use local girls.

[Billy no mates]

Condolances on the loss of your wife, you must miss her.

The best advice ive heard for bereaved people is dont make any major decisions whilst still grieving because, and i mean this is the nicest possibke way, you may not be thinking clearly, which is perfectly natural.

If we had a poll for 'post of the week' this would get my vote.
What a sensible concise and coherent response, and absolutley right as well.

As others in the thread have already said, take a friend, a family member, do not miss out on the holiday.

Do not take a female 'companion' when you are vulnerable, and could potentially have confusing feelings for, when the holiday inevitably turned sexual (which is what you are paying for).

Condolences on your loss

[JEH7376]

if i was in your position id rather pay for and take a mate/family member

you’ll have a much better time, will cost less and cant have a few punts before you go/after you get back

not sure if that is an option but that’d be number 1 for me

Good post

[JEH7376]

Lots of thoughtful and considerate replies, I hope its a help for you OP

[Knny]

Sorry for your loss.

Some time ago, a mate went to Thailand and hired a local girl for a few weeks to go trekking with.  All included.  I frequently think of doing this as I like the idea of trekking in Thailand but would not do it alone.

There are 'XO' girls in Vietnam who are scooter taxis and give tours around.  I'd love to do the Top Gear Vietnam road trip with one of those girls.  But I don't think they provide the extra service.

[MichyBoy]

Sincere condolences for the loss of your wife.

Thanks all for the kind words. I realise it may come across as "too soon" - to be honest I'm probably just asking because it stops me from brooding, I guess...

Completely understand that. In these situations the best thing you can do is keep active and make plans for the future so you have something to look forward.

[Jerboa]

I wouldn't take a escort abroad on holiday, unless you knew each other very well, why take sand to the beach?
Why not pick a destination(s) that appeals to you, and have a great time alone or with a buddy, and if you meet a sexy lady whilst there, or arrange something online like Vivagos adventures via SA etc, if you like Asian girls go to Thailand or Philippines, or Colombia, Brasil for hot latinas.

[DeanoDeano]

Echoing what others have said - massive condolences.

I would look at SA personally and take the time to meet potential companions a few times before you commit to buying tickets or anything. And definitely don't take an AW reg.

[EnglishRebecca121]

Ive been away a few times with clients but only ones i know very well. i would suggest taking a girl you have seen before as i can be very odd to share a bed for days with a stranger x

[Mansell]

Sorry for your loss, it has obviously hit you hard even though expected.

I would be concerned that if you took a WG / SA girl at some stage in the holiday your loss would catch up with you and you would wonder what on earth you were doing. I think for that reason as much as all the other many good reasons I wouldn't take a WG with you. A family member or good mate maybe.

[shagmore]

Condolences first of all.

Go alone, and pick up some local tart, that way if you get bored you can easily ditch her and get someone else in.
If you take an escort you are stuck with her if things don't gel, or things get to much for you.

Or go with a friend who would be open to you going off with paid pussy

[James999]

Sorry to hear about your wife.

Take a normal girl or go alone,  Pro$$ies are damaged goods 

[Marmalade]

i can be very odd to share a bed for days with a stranger

We gather that dear.   

But the rest of your post was quite sensible. The worst thing about booking a few days away — and I’ve done it, especially a few years ago — is realising you can’t fucking stand them when it’s too late.

I did so with a Thai freebie I’d fucked and paid for a couple of times but unfortunately when on holiday her mask slipped and she ceased to be attractive. Also a Brazilian stunner who was great on her home territory but completely out of her depth once I whisked her away to a nice hotel.

Whereas SA might be a decent bet, it needs experience in doing such things or they can turn out rather badly. The OP doesn’t have the experience. He’s also in an emotionally vulnerable situation, whether he realises it or not. Worse still he maybe even believes the hype when a prossie advertises herself as ‘your ideal companion’.

Unfortunately whores aren’t included in the Trades Description Act and their pissflaps may have a mind of their own   

[Kev40ish]

We gather that dear.   

But the rest of your post was quite sensible. The worst thing about booking a few days away — and I’ve done it, especially a few years ago — is realising you can’t fucking stand them when it’s too late.

I did so with a Thai freebie I’d fucked and paid for a couple of times but unfortunately when on holiday her mask slipped and she ceased to be attractive. Also a Brazilian stunner who was great on her home territory but completely out of her depth once I whisked her away to a nice hotel.

Whereas SA might be a decent bet, it needs experience in doing such things or they can turn out rather badly. The OP doesn’t have the experience. He’s also in an emotionally vulnerable situation, whether he realises it or not. Worse still he maybe even believes the hype when a prossie advertises herself as ‘your ideal companion’.

Unfortunately whores aren’t included in the Trades Description Act and their pissflaps may have a mind of their own   

Yes it could be a very expensive mistake

[Marmalade]

Take a normal girl or go alone

Another good idea. Take a normal girl even just as a friend. Just for some female company.

[MilleMiglia]

We gather that dear.   

But the rest of your post was quite sensible. The worst thing about booking a few days away — and I’ve done it, especially a few years ago — is realising you can’t fucking stand them when it’s too late.

I did so with a Thai freebie I’d fucked and paid for a couple of times but unfortunately when on holiday her mask slipped and she ceased to be attractive. Also a Brazilian stunner who was great on her home territory but completely out of her depth once I whisked her away to a nice hotel.

Whereas SA might be a decent bet, it needs experience in doing such things or they can turn out rather badly. The OP doesn’t have the experience. He’s also in an emotionally vulnerable situation, whether he realises it or not. Worse still he maybe even believes the hype when a prossie advertises herself as ‘your ideal companion’.

Unfortunately whores aren’t included in the Trades Description Act and their pissflaps may have a mind of their own   

I got caught out a few years back, when I believed the statement on a girls profile regarding giving bookings her all, to ensure that you would book her again, and again. Quite the reverse proved to be true, both in terms of her service, and me ever wanting to see her again.

[Bangers and Gash]

Your chances of finding a pro$$ie with even a half functioning brain are slim, especially here in the UK. 

Like the others have said. Go alone and hire the local talent by the hour. 

[Dav618id]

you could always search something like holiday with sex where you go to a resort and pick a girl for you companion, either for the week or can change girl every night.
cant remember search but get the idea.

[Marmalade]

you could always search something like holiday with sex where you go to a resort and pick a girl for you companion, either for the week or can change girl every night.
cant remember search but get the idea.

Bloody expensive that one. Central America somewhere isn’t it?

[EnglishRebecca121]

Bloody expensive that one. Central America somewhere isn’t it?

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[NotThePrimeMinister]

Sorry for your loss, OP.

I echo other comments about not taking decisions when you are so emotionally vulnerable.

Should you decide to take a prossie, it should be someone you have punted multiple times, and not just for 30 or 60 minute sessions, but for longer sessions, dinners etc to make sure you enjoy the company the conversation etc.

Do your homework on the laws and customs of the place you'll be visiting. There have been cases of (legitimate) Western couples arrested in shirty countries because they weren't married. If your ages and races are too different, you will stand out, especially in some places where interracial couples are rare and/or frowned upon.

And you'll need to be comfortable with the risks to your privacy. In the UK you can probably check in at a hotel with a fake name if you pay cash. Abroad you typically have to show your passport. So she'll know your real name. She can look you up on Facebook Google or whatever. She might go through your documents and stuff while you are sleeping or in the bathroom. What if she were to ever blackmail you?
Maybe you could fly separately and get two separate rooms in the same hotel to reduce privacy risks.

Don't take this the wrong way, but the real risk I see is that of EAS, especially because you are so vulnerable now. Do bear in mind that, no matter how much chemistry you think you have, the girl you might take on holiday is a prossie who rents access to her cavities for money. Do you remember that disgusting, fat bald and smelly colleague you couldn't stand? She fucked him. And your annoying neighbour? Picture him grunting on top of her while he gives her a good pounding...

I always wondered to what extent some of the punters taking prossies on dinner "dates" and holidays want companionship, and to what extent they are looking for some delusional idealised version of "romance". I don't mean to offend you, I'm just pointing out what I think the risks could be, since you asked for advice. Have you watched the Escorts documentary on Netflix? If I remember well, there's a part where the girl gets booked for an overnight and says to the camera something like : of course he has a crush on me, he doesn't just want to shag me, otherwise why book an overnight?

Also, long bookings can be tiring for the girl as she has to "act" for much longer. I remember a girl telling me that many of her regulars book her for dinner dates overnight etc, which are less physically tiring but more mentally tiring as she has to put on her "show" for much longer.

[MilleMiglia]

Bloody expensive that one. Central America somewhere isn’t it?

I've seen more than one advertised over the years; all but one involved average looking local women, and they weren't cheap. The one that did have women from Europe was prohibitively expensive.

[Marmalade]

The only ‘package’ I can remember enjoying was The Mansion in Colombia. Run by punters, for punters.

Pre-screened independent prossies, 5-star atmosphere or close (pool, luxury rooms, approachable in-house totty, totally safe and a first class guide to the local knock shops without the aggro, footslog, luck of the dice, or danger. The main difficulty is simply finding dates when it’s not already booked up.

My other paradise get away is Blue Rock Resort in Subic Bay. floating bar, first class food, bungalow on the beach, prossies on tap.

[Knny]

My other paradise get away is Blue Rock Resort in Subic Bay. floating bar, first class food, bungalow on the beach, prossies on tap.

Tell us more! this sounds interesting 

[Marmalade]

Tell us more! this sounds interesting 

I will have done a full report somewhere ... Aussie-run place. Just google Blue Rock Resort. Olongapo. Nice floating bar with quality hi-fi sound and classic rock where one or two resident WGs hang out. Walk up to the main road and there’s a few of the usual Filipino Pussy bars with carry out. Bungalows on the beach. Australian steak and other decent grub. Worst thing is getting there (buses from AC or pickup truck from Ninoy Aquino). Next worst thing is you’ll never want to leave.

For Mansion, see the Medellin threads.

[Knny]

I will have done a full report somewhere ... Aussie-run place. Just google Blue Rock Resort. Olongapo. Nice floating bar with quality hi-fi sound and classic rock where one or two resident WGs hang out. Walk up to the main road and there’s a few of the usual Filipino Pussy bars with carry out. Bungalows on the beach. Australian steak and other decent grub. Worst thing is getting there (buses from AC or pickup truck from Ninoy Aquino). Next worst thing is you’ll never want to leave.

For Mansion, see the Medellin threads.

Sounds brill.  What do you mean by 'carry out' and what are the prices like?

[Marmalade]

Sounds brill.  What do you mean by 'carry out' and what are the prices like?

Normal Filipino/Asia routine. Pick a girl you like, take her back for night. I can’t remember what I paid but it was normal downtown Manila prices, not much, slightly cheaper than AC and without the hype.

[Marmalade]

p.s. I assume people reading this know Asia. The Philippines is not really for beginners but AC is fairly harmless other than getting ripped off or led up the garden path by cherry girls. Downtown Manila is not for the unwary. Medellin is definitely not for beginners but a beginner can go to Mansion and they’ll be pretty well 100% safe and shown the ropes.

[Zidane18]

Use seeking arrangements

You will find a travel companion in no time at all

[xxlmuscles]

Don't do it. Go somewhere with home grown WG's like Thailand. There you can have one for the week and still try a different one as well every night, if you've got the energy, that is

[Fuzzyduck]

you could always search something like holiday with sex where you go to a resort and pick a girl for you companion, either for the week or can change girl every night.
cant remember search but get the idea.

I don't think OP has actually stated the destination he has in mind, so we don't know if there is an infrastructure to support local SPs. It might be a remote trek somewhere. He planned to go to a specific place with his wife so I think it's changing the nature of the trip to turn it into a resort-based sex fest. I may be wrong.

[Bikerboy]

I have done this with SA girls,1 for 3 weeks, and I have known them very well before doing so. Same advice really, as long as you feel you have known them long enough then all good.

Why not take a mate along and find some Wgs where you are going, or even scope SA out where you are going before you get there. Set up some chats on whatsapp etc, get to know a few and meet when you arrive.

+1
I’ve had holidays with girls from aw and SA.
If that’s your thing, get to know them really well or be as sure as you can be that you have enough in common outside the bedroom to have a good trip.
And obv great sex and similar sex drives a plus so she doesn’t feel under (bored) or over used (oh bugger he doesn’t want to go again - I feel like a peice of meat!) sexually.

[Flunt]

A lot of interesting advice and conflicting opinions, none of it I would argue with as it suits the individual punter, the important thing to remember is you are unique, what suits me maybe your worst nightmare.

I think most would agree that punting and relationships are very different, which is where the problem of taking a pro$$ie on holiday lies. In a relationship you enjoy the trip of a lifetime and on a cold winters night you have a shared memory, you can recreate the experiences together and stoke the fires of romance and passion. If you take a pro$$ie then everything is short term and you face being a sad stalker with EAS, struggling to understand why she wants £xxx to join you for an outcall a couple of weeks after you return.

[SophieScott]

I'm really sorry for your loss OP.

I echo what's already been said about it perhaps being too soon....although we obviously don't know you or the entire situation.   I think you also need to consider what happens if you get to the location with the WG and then realise it's been a bad idea and it is in fact too soon....it's going to be an expensive and uncomfortable and potentially distressing trip.  This is especially possible if the trip is to places you'd thought you'd see with your wife.

I agree with others...take a pal, take another family member....you can always look for a WG when you are there if you feel like punting.

Again my condolences and I hope the trip is everything you hope it will be whoever you end up going with.

[joe diddley]

You have my sympathy, DWR. For what it's worth, my advice would be to take a leaf out of Vivago's book and punt abroad the Vivago way by way of going on vacation. See his threads on his adventures in Southeast Asia, South America, Eastern Europe and currently Africa.