I agree with you, 3cm. Having done all my planning to see someone new, I always set off naively assuming that all is going to go to plan.
If it doesn't, then I may have a transitory feeling of "Oh, sh1t's happened again"
- which it has twice in the last couple of months. When you aren't a very frequent punter - once, maybe twice, a month, in my case - that can be quite dispiriting. It puts me off "auditioning" someone new.
But that only lasts for a short while and then I think as you do; the money goes back into my wallet and means I can have an extra session with one of my Regulars or with someone who's been recommended on here. For example, I'm going down to that there London next month and have a recommendation from a "mate I've never met" on here but he's a bloke I know has similar [good!] tastes to me
, so it looks very promising.