No sexual pleasure from punts

[hfe689343]

As a 27yo, I wanted to get rid of my virginity and decided to look for an escort. Being virgin has never really been a huge concern to me, though I wanted the experience and thought it would also help raise my confidence towards women.
I looked at profiles on AW, found one with very good reviews in here so I decided to make booking for 15min, thinking it'd be more than enough. I never thought my first time would be like that, the WG was really good looking, both face and body, and we did all sort of things (FK, OWO, CG, Doggy, A-Level...). Even though I was hard, I couldn't get any pleasure from any of the stuff she was doing and ended up leaving without being able to pop.
I thought at the time it happened because I was regularly masturbating to porn, so I stopped that for a couple of weeks before coming back, and booked for 1h this time.
Well, same thing, but longer. At the end it was even painful, probably because I was getting bored and starting to go soft.
Since then, I saw one different girl and it was shit as well.
They both told me that it was probably happening because I was stressed. Thought I was pretty relaxed with my last punt and even got a 30min massage at the beginning (that was the only nice part). Having read this thread https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=82996.0, I think the problem could also come from the fact that I've been getting less sensible due to porn and the way I masturbate.

I'm planning to stop porn and will try to touch myself without putting too much pressure, as suggested in this thread.

Just wanted to know if anyone had any similar problem and if they had any advice to give.

[tp69]

Wow. So you can climax during masturbation, but a hot WG on your virgin cock for an hour couldn't get you off? Not even with oral or her hand? Seems very strange.

If you're not trolling, good luck, you'll need help from others here.

[hfe689343]

Wow. So you can climax during masturbation, but a hot WG on your virgin cock for an hour couldn't get you off? Not even with oral or her hand? Seems very strange.

If you're not trolling, good luck, you'll need help from others here.

I'm not trolling. I was really looking forward for OWO in particular but was very disappointed. Felt the same as with a condom, it would just press my cock and I could feel the teeth (is that normal?).
When she would masturbate me, I also wouldn't enjoy it much. I was also thinking it could be due to the lubricant and the fact that I'm circumcised. Her hand would just slide on my dick.
I tried doing it myself but it didn't work either.

[hendrix]

Who is the really good looking WG that does anal in 15 minute punts?

[hfe689343]

Who is the really good looking WG that does anal in 15 minute punts?

Mia: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?action=serviceprovider;id=20290

 External Link/Members Only  (AW link added by mod)

She really did seem to enjoy anal. Even when I wasn't in her ass she would say, "yes, fuck my ass".

[FiveKnuckles]

sounds like utter BS to me.   In a 15min booking you got A-levels?   

post the review and name the girl.  they'll be a queue going round her block

[tp69]

If Mia can't get a virgin off in an hour, then I for one am stumped. She must've been too.

No offence at all intended, but is there a chance you're gay?

[shed]

Mia: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?action=serviceprovider;id=20290

 External Link/Members Only  (AW link added by mod)

She really did seem to enjoy anal. Even when I wasn't in her ass she would say, "yes, fuck my ass".

Noticed you recently joined in January this year. So welcome. If I can say anything to you it's best to establish some credibility before posting on the national site with what appears to be Information that is difficult for others to believe and hence offer any advice. Credibility comes from posting honest and informative reviews, simple. A SP who offers anal in a 15 minutes meeting is unreal in my opinion. So your post smells of bullshit. Write a review of your experience including a link of the SP.

[scutty brown]

two ideas

first, go to a thai massage parlour and see if the girls there can bring you off with  rub'n'tug

second, try the local gay sauna and see how you get on

[hfe689343]

If Mia can't get a virgin off in an hour, then I for one am stumped. She must've been too.

No offence at all intended, but is there a chance you're gay?

I'm pretty sure I'm not gay. I honestly asked myself the question and even tried watching gay porn several time, but no, I'm absolutely not into that. Moreover, lesbian porn does work.

sounds like utter BS to me.   In a 15min booking you got A-levels?   

post the review and name the girl.  they'll be a queue going round her block

Noticed you recently joined in January this year. So welcome. If I can say anything to you it's best to establish some credibility before posting on the national site with what appears to be Information that is difficult for others to believe and hence offer any advice. Credibility comes from posting honest and informative reviews, simple. A SP who offers anal in a 15 minutes meeting is unreal in my opinion. So your post smells of bullshit. Write a review of your experience including a link of the SP.

I didn't write a review for Mia since she already had tons of them, but I can write one if you really want me to. I saw her back in January when I created my account.
I'll write a review for the second WG though, because she's only got one here and she's far from what advertised in AW.

I'm really surprised that you don't believe I had anal for a 15min booking. I don't know how I can prove that. And I actually didn't even go for anal in the second 1h meeting...

[daviemac]

I didn't write a review for Mia since she already had tons of them, but I can write one if you really want me to. I saw her back in January when I created my account.
I'll write a review for the second WG though, because she's only got one here and she's far from what advertised in AW.

I think you have the wrong idea about the site, as a member you should want to post reviews to benefit others, not post them to appease others.

The number of reviews an escort has on here is totally irrelevant, your booking is personal to you and there might just be something different, apart from that multiple reviews by different punters shows she is consistent in the level of services she provides to anyone who turns up.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

That suggestion re a half decent massage parlour might be a good bet!.

In the meantime go gentle with your, red cos its  sore, right hand;!..

And do expect a bit of  ribbing on this board, not that there are many, if any, other places to post for help!.

FWIW can't say I get much pleasure these days, mainly cos of the crap "service" if you can call it that, providers!..

[southcoastpunter]

Op, maybe its your femine side coming out - you don't get much/any pleasure from sex without an emotional connection!

[Clarence Boddicker]

I'm pretty sure I'm not gay. I honestly asked myself the question and even tried watching gay porn several time, but no, I'm absolutely not into that. Moreover, lesbian porn does work.





Are our really that unsure that you'd watch gay porn to test yourself? All sounds a little bit Buffalo Bill to me 'Put the lotion in the basket'

[hfe689343]

Here is the review for Mia: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=338111
I'll do a next one after getting some feedback.

[Henry767]

When I was 27 I couldn't come from a BJ ( could with sex), it was only a year or 2 after that I did come from oral, a willing girlfriend slurping away while A very pissed off housemate with no keys was hammering at the front door.

I'd say, if you get pleasure from the act, don't worry about The Big O and count yourself lucky it's not the opposite issue!

[Payyourwaymate]

Spend the money on some therapy OP. I think there may be some issues you need to work out first, then you can come back to punting, or punting will be a misery for you.

[girthyrod]

As a 27yo, I wanted to get rid of my virginity and decided to look for an escort. Being virgin has never really been a huge concern to me, though I wanted the experience and thought it would also help raise my confidence towards women.
I looked at profiles on AW, found one with very good reviews in here so I decided to make booking for 15min, thinking it'd be more than enough. I never thought my first time would be like that, the WG was really good looking, both face and body, and we did all sort of things (FK, OWO, CG, Doggy, A-Level...). Even though I was hard, I couldn't get any pleasure from any of the stuff she was doing and ended up leaving without being able to pop.
I thought at the time it happened because I was regularly masturbating to porn, so I stopped that for a couple of weeks before coming back, and booked for 1h this time.
Well, same thing, but longer. At the end it was even painful, probably because I was getting bored and starting to go soft.
Since then, I saw one different girl and it was shit as well.
They both told me that it was probably happening because I was stressed. Thought I was pretty relaxed with my last punt and even got a 30min massage at the beginning (that was the only nice part). Having read this thread https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=82996.0, I think the problem could also come from the fact that I've been getting less sensible due to porn and the way I masturbate.

I'm planning to stop porn and will try to touch myself without putting too much pressure, as suggested in this thread.

Just wanted to know if anyone had any similar problem and if they had any advice to give.

Heres my take.

Limit yourself to one tug a day, save it for evening.

As for your SP advice, I believe you should seek services of someone similar to your fave pornstar, tell them how it is prior to booking and ask for bespoke service.

Dont eank before the booking, just take it easy an go with the flow. Take a drink witg you if need be. But ffs take it slow and you will enjoy, the more you huild it up, the harder it will be.

[Al]

Wow. So you can climax during masturbation, but a hot WG on your virgin cock for an hour couldn't get you off? Not even with oral or her hand? Seems very strange.

If you're not trolling, good luck, you'll need help from others here.

It is not unusual at all - its a known issue that people who have had access to internet porn since they were young and have been wanking every day (or multiple times a day) suffer with this issue. Part of it is that as the more porn you watch you watch more extreme things and real life isn't as exciting. Indeed even porn becomes boring.

I used to have a lot of difficulty finishing with sex and at the end of a punt almost always had to finish by my own hand. The 'death grip' is also a thing where you lose sensitivity because of a tight grip - therefore i found the ladies were too soft - I had to use quite a tight grip.

OP the answer is to stop watching porn AND masturbating or touching - after a few weeks (possibly more) you will get some sensitivity back.

I've gone through similar.

[isaac_gauss]

+1 on the porn. Been there, done that. Quit that and see how things go. You'll be hornier (at first) so just be careful! Punting over porn any day. (Though porn is unlimited, and punting is budget-limited. But: quality over quantity.)

Op, maybe its your femine side coming out - you don't get much/any pleasure from sex without an emotional connection!

This may be a factor (and I'd say there's nothing unmasculine about that). OP has, it seems, done well in picking an SP with good looks, and good range of services. But something was missing. This is why I stick to SPs who speak fluent English. To get that "connection", for me, we need to be able to communicate. (Or maybe OP speaks Portugese?)

[FiveKnuckles]

first thing you need to determine is which side you're batting for.  if you tend to pull yourself off over women, then I doubt you're gay. 

second you may be suffering from 15 years of death grip?  the stroke rate and pressure you apply when jacking off is not likely to be achieved during intercourse, even with the WG giving you a HJ.
Give yourself posh wanks through a stroker or hump a pillow for a few weeks to desensitize.  don't use your hand!

figure out which position tips you over the edge during porn and ask the WG for that position (within reason/boundaries of course!!).

[TomTank]

when I first started this hobby, I would have a couple of wanks before I punted, to make sure I didn't come too quickly

[sim0256]

TBH, the first post here by HFE is a little suspect, A lot was packed into that 15 minute punt , Virtually everything including anal gives about 2 min per action , might have trouble cumming myself with all the position changes .

You might wish to clarify what actually happened and not what you hoped for.  The WG was very obliging . Especially if you got all that for the 15 min price.

[Aldebaran]

Giving the OP the benefit of the doubt, this sounds like a rather complex problem, possibly with both physical and psychological aspects. Mia is obviously a very experienced SP so maybe she went all out with him in the 15 minutes with the idea of winning over a new reg.
Maybe, though, he would feel less stressed and more relaxed with someone less physically gorgeous and well reviewed, as he might find this subconsciously intimidating. I remember a very highly thought of SP in my area some years ago, literally hundreds of AW feedbacks, and I really wanted to book her, but it took me months to pluck up the courage. Sounds stupid I know, but I just felt intimidated by her reputation. When I did finally see her we got on great and I went back many times, but the first time I had to screw myself up to make a booking, and if I had been as inexperienced with SPs as the OP I would probably never have done it. The suggestion to visit a Thai massage place I think is a good idea, less pressure and nothing to try to live up to.

[stevedave]

Less porn, less wanking.

[Maverick1808]

I find it bizarre that now the OP has named the SP he saw that there’s still comments and disbelievers about his post.

Mia’s profile is clear enough regarding what she offers, along with the durations she offers. That coupled with the best part of 100 reviews stating she absolutely loves anal should be enough for people to stop questioning the OP!

As others have said OP the porn and death grip wanking will be the problem. I used to experience somewhat the same thing but only after the first pop. The first one was easy due to a hot girl being infront of me starkers doing anything i wished. The 2nd pop was literally impossible from sex, i always ended up going soft. The only way for a 2nd was a HJ from the WG but i always had to tell her to increase her grip. I guess this was to imitate my death grip wanking.

I started watching less porn and masturbating less and things have improved. I also used to have a pre punt wank to last longer during the meet but that is a mistake so don’t do that. I’ve been caught out twice after doing that and found I couldn’t cum then during the actual punt.

Remeber to relax, and don’t focus just of blowing your load. 15 minutes is too short really. You need 1hr minimum to get into the punt and feel relaxed with the girl. You can’t loose any punting nerves in 15 minutes and everything will be rushed. Although Mia is excellent she wasn’t ideal for your punt.

As others have said try some Thai girls. And once you find a girl you like and can relax around your performance will improve. I tend to stick to 2 girls as regulars and the sex we have now compared to our first meeting years ago is incredible.

The key is to relax 

[hfe689343]

I find it bizarre that now the OP has named the SP he saw that there’s still comments and disbelievers about his post.

Mia’s profile is clear enough regarding what she offers, along with the durations she offers. That coupled with the best part of 100 reviews stating she absolutely loves anal should be enough for people to stop questioning the OP!

As others have said OP the porn and death grip wanking will be the problem. I used to experience somewhat the same thing but only after the first pop. The first one was easy due to a hot girl being infront of me starkers doing anything i wished. The 2nd pop was literally impossible from sex, i always ended up going soft. The only way for a 2nd was a HJ from the WG but i always had to tell her to increase her grip. I guess this was to imitate my death grip wanking.

I started watching less porn and masturbating less and things have improved. I also used to have a pre punt wank to last longer during the meet but that is a mistake so don’t do that. I’ve been caught out twice after doing that and found I couldn’t cum then during the actual punt.

Remeber to relax, and don’t focus just of blowing your load. 15 minutes is too short really. You need 1hr minimum to get into the punt and feel relaxed with the girl. You can’t loose any punting nerves in 15 minutes and everything will be rushed. Although Mia is excellent she wasn’t ideal for your punt.

As others have said try some Thai girls. And once you find a girl you like and can relax around your performance will improve. I tend to stick to 2 girls as regulars and the sex we have now compared to our first meeting years ago is incredible.

The key is to relax 

Thanks mate, that's super helpful.

I'll just take it slow now and definitely start with a massage with happy ending, for next time. I'm not really in a rush, even if it takes months for my situation to improve, I'll be patient and stop porn completely (never done more than 1-2 months without). The death grip thing + anxiety is most likely the cause of my problem, I would think.

[mradventures]

its likely porn, but also you probably are touch starved, and it takes awhile to get over that...

im similar, but go for the intimacy, being with someone, the talking etc... its unlikely to change like a light switch.

[VitIron]

Thanks mate, that's super helpful.

I'll just take it slow now and definitely start with a massage with happy ending, for next time. I'm not really in a rush, even if it takes months for my situation to improve, I'll be patient and stop porn completely (never done more than 1-2 months without). The death grip thing + anxiety is most likely the cause of my problem, I would think.

This isn't to do with your sexuality.

You're 27. You will have known for years whether you are straight or gay.

I would certainly recommend a 'reboot' i.e. no wanking which (after the inital willpower that's needed) should become easier after a few days.

I think one major reason could be that it is not always easy to enjoy sex that you've arranged by appointment.

You turn up at a specific time and place, you meet the girl and you have sex with her...

You may feel pressurised to enjoy yourself straight away because there's only a limited amount of time plus you're paying for it and want to get value for your money, adding to the pressure even more.

I think it would be far better for you to try and meet someone (speed dating is an option and can be a bit of a laugh as well).

If you start seeing someone and things become more intimate, you don't have to tell her that you're a virgin, instead you could just say 'You might have to bear with me a bit, it's been a while' etc.

When you're with her, you can take things at each other's pace and when you're both in the mood.

Genuine affection between two people makes a huge difference and is not something you will find in a punt - which is really part of a business transaction and that's not very romantic.

[Munter84]

After the stick/disbelief the OP got at the start of the thread I'm almost hesitant to chime in myself, but to me it sounds like OP's issue is something I suffer from myself, namely stress-based delayed ejaculation / male inorgasmia.

Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation get discussed a lot (and there's an entire, very profitable, line of pharmaceuticals to address them) but the other side of the coin, achieving erection but not ejaculation, is much less well understood.

My advice to OP would be thus:

- Seek professional sex therapy if there's some deep rooted sexual issue or hang-up at play
- Keep seeking out sexual experiences to take the fear of the unknown away, men need both arousal and relaxation to perform sexually
- Ease yourself into it by getting a happy ending massage first, then when you start proper punting see how you get on with receiving HJ/BJ rather than going straight for vaginal
- Reset how you respond to stimuli by cutting back on both porn and masturbation, and if you must masturbate, try to do it with a Fleshlight or similar to get accustomed to cumming to hip thrusting rather than wrist action
- Consciously reduce tension at the point you feel you should be climaxing - read up on reverse kegels for men
- If you find you're too stressed or "in your own head" a little pre-sex alcohol can help (not pints and pints, just enough to take the edge off), Cialis is also said to have benefits

Mostly, just keep plugging away and remember any skill can be improved with purposeful practice, and also that improvement isn't always linear. And, of all the things to learn from scratch, this is a pretty pleasant subject to be a student of! Happy punting 

[Jindybandy]

As others have already said, desensitising from your current ‘grip’ strength over a few weeks probably is what is needed most, but there likely is a psychological inhibitor you’re experiencing also. I went through similar back when I started punting in my early to mid-twenties. Couldn’t pop until my third booking! First girl even said to me ‘are you nearly finished’ whilst I was ploughing away on top of her, second one got hand cramp from giving a handjob for too long. Think for me it was that I was putting too much pressure on myself and thinking about it too much rather than just being in the moment.

The third girl I booked I told her in the meet id not finished previously and she helped me relax and said ‘don’t worry, I’ll make you cum’ and she indeed did.

So try not to think about finishing too much while in the booking; maybe let the SP know beforehand that in past bookings you’ve not been able to climax and maybe look at what kind of booking you want to help you get something out of it. For me, it was believing that the girl ‘wanted’ me and her seduction and build-up helped realise that fantasy. Maybe for you it would be an actual PSE experience booking you want, maybe with someone who can do dirty talk or even role play for you.

I think the psychological aspect is a big part of how you get something out of a booking as well as the physical attraction. You’ll see plenty of reviews (I’ve even had one) of bookings with incredibly beautiful SPs who didn’t reciprocate even that ‘fake’ feeling of enjoyment and it has ended up a horrible punt, so try not to beat yourself up too much about it. It will ‘cum’ good eventually

[tp69]

This turned out to be a pretty interesting thread. I'd never even heard of the death grip.

Personally I wouldn't have thought the Thai route could be a solution either as I find it more mechanical (less intimate) as a punt, but it's definitely worth a shot.

I'd agree with staying in position longer as well, don't change positions so quickly. You'll find positions that naturally get you off much quicker, and it may differ slightly with each girl, but each position change will slow down the build-up.

Good luck OP, sounds like some solid things to work on and I'm sure you'll get there.

[OakTree]

You've probably noticed there's a hundred and one different opinions on why you don't derive pleasure from fucking escorts, and the reason is everyone has their own individual limits and abilities on top of their preferences and what ever turns them on. No one is the same.

If I was you I'd try having sex with someone you don't have to pay.

Sex with a woman who wants to be fucked by you and isn't in it for financial gain is a world away from a paid encounter.

[nbarnes]

You've either got Deathgrip Syndrome (like me) \ medical problem or this is all in your head.

Maybe you need the emotional connection? This hobby is not for everyone - some people can't just fuck without a connection.

Sort the problems that are screwing up having a normal sex life for a 27 year old.

[myothernameis]

I'm not trolling

A few suggestions, if not trolling comment on other threads, which would go a long way, for contributing to this forum

Other suggestion, if you couldn't come with-in a 15 min booking, some of us would love this, as some of us might not even last 2 min's and end up coming

So why not make use of a full hour booking, maybe start with a massage to get your self relaxed.  Now with me, I dont want to come until the near the end of my booking, so I favour using toys on her, and cuddles

[signy]

IMO, there is too much emphasis on male climax/ejaculation, and this causes various issues with sex. Punting, let alone civvy sex, is not an 8 minute 70s porn loop: 2 mins plot, 5 mins sexual activity, 1/2 min ejaculation, the end. 

I would suggest trying to move away from that mindset and towards one that focuses on having a good time. Others have suggested longer bookings that allow a wider range of activities, massage or very intense GFE, and I have found roleplay is the thing for me. If you leave the punt happy with the overall experience, then it matters less if you have climaxed, and I am sure the escort won't be bothered.

[shed]

IMO, there is too much emphasis on male climax/ejaculation, and this causes various issues with sex. Punting, let alone civvy sex, is not an 8 minute 70s porn loop: 2 mins plot, 5 mins sexual activity, 1/2 min ejaculation, the end. 

I would suggest trying to move away from that mindset and towards one that focuses on having a good time. Others have suggested longer bookings that allow a wider range of activities, massage or very intense GFE, and I have found roleplay is the thing for me. If you leave the punt happy with the overall experience, then it matters less if you have climaxed, and I am sure the escort won't be bothered.

Totally agree with this. For me the importance is the "journey" not actually reaching the "destination". In other words it's the foreplay, sensuality, gfe, etc , not the end climax which lasts a miniscule of a second. Many times I leave a punt without ejaculating but feel very satisfied.

[petermisc]

I suspect that you have two problems. 

The first is that you are not experiencing the same sensations from sex as you are from wanking.  You are likely masturbating yourself both much faster than you can thrust, and as others have said with a much tighter grip.  Consequently your cock is getting very different sensations than you are ever likely to experience with sex.  Your brain associates the sight and sound of a woman giving oral with the sensation you get with wanking, and consequently when a woman gives you oral for real and you don't get the same sensation, your brain is confused and doesn't register pleasure.  Currently, your brain is telling you that real sex is boring, it is not as good as wanking.  You need to learn the pleasures of real sex, where the whole body is pleasured, after which you will know that mere cock wanking is far inferior.  But you are not going to do that if you keep wanking.

You need to stop the wanking,  Ideally, keep watching the porn, but keep your hands well away from your cock, so that you break this mental link between the sights and sounds of sex with the sensations of wanking.

Secondly, after your first unsuccessful punt, I think you are now worrying about not cumming.  You probably zone-out when you are wanking, and you need to do the same with sex, to get into the zone, in order to come.  You are not going to do this if you are putting yourself under pressure to come.  You will only come when you can let yourself go.  Allow yourself to enjoy what you are experiencing at the moment, and stop thinking of what is ahead.

I am not convinced about the Thai massage route.  Particularly one with a HE - is a frantic thai death-grip what you really need right now?   It might be worth trying it as a transition from your own frantic death-grip, but I would suggest a good full service provider who can give you a sensual massage to start with, to get you in the zone, before moving to oral and sex.  One who will slowly build you up to the point where you can't hold it any longer.

[Kieslowski]

Telling a 27-yo virgin to have sex with someone he's not paying for is about as helpful as telling a disabled person to try walking. "Oh wow, why didn't I think of that?" You don't reach your mid 20s with your virginity intact unless you're terrible with women.

OP, you've been given most of the good advice already:

• cut down the wanking to re-sensitise yourself (I would actually stop it entirely, then after a couple of weeks maybe try wanking with a much looser grip and slower strokes to see if it works, or as others have suggested, try a Fleshlight)
• start off with longer bookings (I'd try a two-hour one to totally remove any anxiety over time)
• try not to put pressure on yourself to pop (easier said than done but you will almost certainly have anxiety about this and it may even be why you're still a virgin at 27)

One thing I'd point out is that you might find it easier to pop in the doggy position - I was in a similar position to yourself and it took me ages to be able to pop through oral or missionary. However, I was able to pop through doggy on my very first punt, and I think it probably helped that I told the escort in question that I had absolutely no idea what I was doing, so could she teach me - that really took the pressure off.

If you haven't already, it may be worth clarifying in advance that you have trouble popping, because some escorts get annoyed when they're doing their usual moves and you're not popping.

But ultimately, don't give up - the fact you can pop when doing it yourself means it's a mental thing, not a physical thing, so you'll get over it with a bit of work. Better to get over this issue with escorts so that you don't have it once you manage to get into bed with a civvy.

[JontyR]

One thing I'd point out is that you might find it easier to pop in the doggy position

That's an interesting one. I think you've hit on something in relation to position but I am not sure I go with your conclusion. If you are used to wanking on your back, surely this would be a better position for your brain to associate with orgasm? Even today cumming when not on the bottom is a rarity for me. Also a SP using her wiles, and moving into the monkey crouch position on top I think is one that assists greatly providing greater head friction akin to a wank grip.

Maybe this alongside thin but ribbed johnny may also boost his chances of splodging his blob.

[Mr_Shins]

I had some problems actually during 2017. The first thing I did was take performance pills and I still have those as they may well have helped.
Some of it though was simply punting the right one. With Melysa I have had no problems whatsoever, and no need for performance pills. Half hour session have worked best with her.

Of course you're not going to have the woman kick you, and Melysa might not be the right one for you but you need to find the escort that makes you tick, which isn't necessarily the best looking one (Melysa is not).

[petermisc]

The first thing I did was take performance pills

One thing to note is that taking Viagra or equivalents, while making you hard, can cause difficulty in climaxing.  The OP didn't mention taking  Viagra, but you never know, there have been a number of threads on here of young men trying it out.

[Band1t]

Maybe go to a gang bang party

[marc_hotsteppa]

Why not go and get a massage with a HE?

Cheaper than going for FS and pick someone that's well reviewed and does edging, then after that work up to FS but go for longer bookings than 15 mins.

[VitIron]

Telling a 27-yo virgin to have sex with someone he's not paying for is about as helpful as telling a disabled person to try walking. "Oh wow, why didn't I think of that?"

You don't reach your mid 20s with your virginity intact unless you're terrible with women.

I really don't think you're in a position to lecture others about what's helpful and what isn't.

[hfe689343]

Some people suggested that I'd need an emotional connection to make the most out of punts. That's probably true, but I absolutely want to avoid EAS. I don't want to spend my days thinking about someone I can't always be with. After my first punt, I read a bunch of reviews to remind myself that the girl doesn't care about me.
If I wanted to fulfil my need of affection, I'd just buy myself a cat. Of course having a real relationship with someone is better but not as easy. I thought it was obvious that finding the right girl has been difficult for me. I had some opportunities with girls but was either uninterested or too anxious about it. Today I'm not that anxious anymore and I've learned that there's more than just physical attraction, but anyway.

Also my problem is not simply not being able to pop, I wouldn't actually care that much if at least I was feeling pleasure most of the time.

There are bunch of great advice in that thread, thanks a lot for that! I'll give an update in a few months if things have improved.

[badsin]

As mentioned above, if you can bag/bang a civilian, that might help by way of them being attracted to you.
Alternately, try massage with happy ending, much less pressure on yourself by way of you thinking you have to perform and shag the escort like your a pornstar.
Definitely reduce the porn watching, and minimise the wanking.
Hopefully the well intentioned advice on this thread will be of assistance. Don't think youre the only one who has sexual issues, you're not, addressing the issue is the first step to fixing it. Good luck 

[Al]

do not watch porn
porn gives you constant pleasure
you need to stay away from it so normal life gives you that pleasure/excitement


if you must, masturbate but without porn and only when you MUST - i.e. every week or few days

you need a 'reset'.

going back 20 years, the vast majority of the world would not have had access to regular porn like we do now - our bodies are not built to cope with it

[Mr_Shins]

Some people suggested that I'd need an emotional connection to make the most out of punts. That's probably true, but I absolutely want to avoid EAS. I don't want to spend my days thinking about someone I can't always be with. After my first punt, I read a bunch of reviews to remind myself that the girl doesn't care about me.
If I wanted to fulfil my need of affection, I'd just buy myself a cat. Of course having a real relationship with someone is better but not as easy. I thought it was obvious that finding the right girl has been difficult for me. I had some opportunities with girls but was either uninterested or too anxious about it. Today I'm not that anxious anymore and I've learned that there's more than just physical attraction, but anyway.

Also my problem is not simply not being able to pop, I wouldn't actually care that much if at least I was feeling pleasure most of the time.

There are bunch of great advice in that thread, thanks a lot for that! I'll give an update in a few months if things have improved.

The girl doesn't care about you but she does care about her reputation and her ability to turn on her client. A very good escort will always get her clients aroused, and won't stay still like a statue whilst you do all the work.

I was terrible with women in my early years but I did have a girlfriend for a couple of years in my mid-20s and had sex with her, so lost my virginity at 25. It was a big deal to me at the time but nobody told me that real people don't care how much you're having sex.

At 29 I met a woman on the internet - that was the early days of the internet - and she lived all the way in North Carolina, USA, and I travelled over to stay with her and we had lots of sex in that time. I'd go so far as to say she was the best sex partner I ever had, as she virtually didn't need to try with me. Maybe I was more sexually charged at the time than at any other in my life, or it could be her. But in any case, I was 29 - older than you are now - and I'd been visiting women to get them to kick me and it would lead to a happy ending but I never even considered having sex with any of them.

[mradventures]

i think most of the sp's want the guy to cum, they see it as you being happy and satisfied, and i think they must enjoy it too, most of the time too, thats their job satisfaction.