Can't cum

[johndoe84]

I've only ever had 3 punts and on all of them I couldn't cum. Technically on the first one I did but didn't even notice until I took the condom off so it wasn't an orgasm or anything. I figured it was nerves at first but the last 2 punts have been the same WG, absolutely stunning girl and I thought I might feel less nervous. I did feel less nervous but still couldn't cum. It gets a bit frustrating when I'm smashing her in doggy and it starts to feel really good but then the sensation just disappears even if we keep fucking in the same way. I have no problem maintaining an erection. I can't tell if the condom is part of it, really just isn't that stimulating at times but I think it's mental.

Any advice? Might just give up punting, seems like a waste of money when I spend £80 for half an hour and walk out of there feeling disappointed. Felt embarrassed too since it was the 2nd time in 2 meetings, not sure why.

[pianodave]

I had a similar issue a few years back. The solution is simple, don't wank for at least 2 weeks.

[flexyy]

sometimes i cant fuck a pussy for long enough as i dont want to cum to soon so i lie down on my back n let the lady suck me n wank me profusely n she'd be like come on time is almost running out u need to cum n its difficult as fuck

[johndoe84]

I'll try a week or 2 without cumming, do you think wanking less when not punting would help? Before my second punt I hadn't had sex in about 8 months and in that period I'd average more than a wank a day so I'm worried my problem is also due to being so used to cumming using my hand.

[JV547845]

Just use the time better, pull out towards the end, take the condom off and wank until you come on her tits.

[cueball]

Lay off the wanking, a week should be more than enough. I avoid popping for about three days if I've an hour punt coming up, that way I can get two pops.
It's definitely the wanking for the op, if that don't work then try letting her finish you off by hand or owo

[Ben4454]

Hi mate

You can get these problems from

A) Too much porn - Unable to cum and release.
B) Lack of feeling - too much death grip masturbation

Porn causes a reward process in your brain. By watching too much porn you can actually end up re-wiring your brain to only be able to feel pleasure by masturbating and watching porn. I myself came from the generation of internet porn users and found I had these problems.

You can actually re-wire your brain back to how it was but it can take quite a long time. The way to do this is by quitting porn and masturbation. At some point after the horny stage passes you will experience what some call a 'flat-line' which means your sex drive disappears for the time being. This is the point where the brain is re-wiring itself. It can take anything from 4-5 months or one person actually said it took him 2 years to regain his sexual appetite.

If the re-wiring process seems dull and long to you then consider these things which worked for me:

Before you punt consider a 2 week hiatus from porn and masturbation.

If you plan to punt regularly you might want to consider ditching the traditional method of masturbation and get a 'sex toy' which simulates sex but doesn't give you as much friction as the death grip gives you. I found the 'head honcho' to be quite a good device and very satisfying.

I have experimented with only getting off via sex which does work but can be quite expensive and emotionally tiring. For example my thoughts were consumed of having sex all day long and i felt it was difficult to concentrate on other things. 

So what you should do is go treat yourself to a decent well-reviewed provider on here and do a punt with 2 weeks notice. During that time do not masturbate or watch porn and work out regularly with good nutritional meals.

Then see what happens - you might find everything resolve itself - it certainly worked for me.

[cueball]

Ben is spot on with the porn

[ForrestGump]

You may find some useful info in this thread...

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=32722.msg454596#msg454596

[Punting Valley]

Same here when I first started having sex I wasn't able to cum at all. It is just so different from your own hand so you will need to go easy on masturbation and porn.

You will have to refrain from masturbating to porn, which will stop your brain from associating the pornographic stimulus and orgasm together. After you brain can discriminate the two then you will have an easier time cumming.

[justfornow]

I have experimented with only getting off via sex which does work but can be quite expensive and emotionally tiring. For example my thoughts were consumed of having sex all day long and i felt it was difficult to concentrate on other things. 

+1 to everything Ben has said

I have completely quit masturbation and been going to wgs for the past 3 months only, but i'm suffering from the problem mentioned above where i cannot focus on anything productive...

Don't masturbate at all for 1 week before punting, and if you do masturbate don't strangle your cock and don't race through it

Also i find that although doggy looks nice i am way more aroused when they are on top and leaning on me or in mish. Both positions with a lot body to body contact and kissing.
Try different things, you may find something is a lot more exciting then you would've thought. You might surprise yourself.

Good luck

[ShyWolf]

I had same problem with my first two punts I put it down to nerves the first time and a hangover the second also being a marathon fucker takes me 40 mins to cum anyway

But not masturbating is a big help and going more slowly and taking in the experience

And if you never used condoms before as with GF make sure foreskin is pulled back when putting condom on if not you won't feel shit when inside her

Also a week is a bit excessive to me I find it hard going a day but that's just me

[ShyWolf]

Second point if you do masturbate I would say better to rush through it and try and cum quickly so it trains your brain to cum and not after an hour

[johndoe84]

Thanks for all the advice, gonna stop masturbating starting today

[tristen92]

I experienced a similar issue some years back; I think you suffer from PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction). As someone eluded to above, it's a combination of visual stimulation becoming habitual as well as your cock becoming desensitised due to hard-gripping wanking over a prolonged period. It's actually very common and is straightforward to fix also. Don't wank or use porn going forward...it'll take months for you to retrain your brain/dick by doing this. However, if you must punt, allow a week of no jerking and you'll cum harder than ever.

Don't worry about it - easy to solve and no wanking for about a week will allow you to successfully punt.

[ShyWolf]

I don't think he has PIED if he says that he would take a week off from wanking porn its not a big part of his life or routine like some people are with watching porn and wanking multiple times a day

[MancSean]

I had a similar problem when I was in my last relationship. My ex worked nights at the local pub so I used to watch porn and wank whilst she was at work. When she wanted sex I wasn't able to and had to try and not wank for a couple of days. Although my willpower was shit and I ended up wanking anyway which led to some heavy arguments. 
When we finally split up I punted a bit but always came to quick and was never as hard for round 2. I then lost my job so wasn't able to punt. In this time I was wanking to porn 2 to 3 times a day. I was worried I would not be able to have a satisfactory punt so I didn't punt for 18 months.
I started seeing an older woman during my no punting phase but when we went to bed together I couldn't get a stiffy. I am not sure why but it could be I just didn't fancy her as she was in her 50 's and whilst in good shape she was a good 18 years older than anyone else I shagged apart from one punt with milf Mrs Robinson a few years back.
Anyway this year I decided I had to get back in the punting saddle.
Amazingly I have much better self control now and can either cum quickly let's say 20-30 minutes or I can last ages. With Platinum Cindy I managed not to spunk till 10 minutes before the end of a 2 hour punt.
I agree with porn stuff but now I can wank even in the morning of a punt and still have 2 cums if I desire. I just hope things carry on like this as I can really pummel a twat or bumhole now which I wasn't able to do previously as too trigger happy. 
Exercise is important so is your diet. Plus I think a lot is in your head and whilst not easy it is possible to ignore the brain and have a good time. I still wake up with a massive boner every morning which makes me realise it's not a type of ED. As the other lads say stay off the porn.
My worry is I have loads of dates lined up in the next couple of weeks with lasses in their forties. I doubt I will want to shag em coz I need hardcore pse style sex now and I can't believe these women are going to deepthroat me like some prossies do or take an anal pounding.

[madeinwales56]

It's stress, performance anxiety or a side effect of anti depressants.

[helmsdale]

Try breathing very heavily and grunting, eventually your body will catch up and you will be breathing heavily for real and close to orgasm.

[unclesweetheart]

Performance anxiety can sometimes set in with me - as in, why ON EARTH would this hot woman want to fuck me? The cynical answer - she wants my money - is no help in this situation. So apart from the obviously good advice to stay off the porn + wanking, and diet + exercise -  allow yourself to believe (as a thought experiment, if you like) that it's not so much that you want her, as SHE wants YOU. The girls pretty much always act as if this were the case, so switch off the (self) critical part of your brain and go with the fantasy. It is after all what you're paying for.

[DG]

I'll try a week or 2 without cumming, do you think wanking less when not punting would help? Before my second punt I hadn't had sex in about 8 months and in that period I'd average more than a wank a day so I'm worried my problem is also due to being so used to cumming using my hand.

I think the rest of the guys have covered it; if you're wanking every day chances are you are blowing your load and there's nothing good left for the punt and you may even be desensitising your cock. I know when I've had a bit of a wank fest, it can take a few days to get any kind of sexual feeling back. I seldom wank now as I want to make sure I get the best experience possible from my punting, and I enjoy the ego boost I usually get when the WG comments on how much I produce when I cum all over her face or in her mouth.

[Malvolio]

Why not vary things by getting her to suck you off?

[Trevor12]

Agree with the no porn or wanking for atleast a few days before a punt. The girl you've seen twice may be willing to offer you a 45 min rate, which would help take some of the pressure off.

[JV547845]

Sometimes I cum prematurely, other times I can't climax either.  As long as I'm hard I just get on with it and focus on her.  If I just want to cum I'll stay at home.  I enjoy it more there anyway.

[Bluefin]

Yep I know exactly where you are coming from, pardon the pun. After wanking every day for 33 years I find it difficult to come through sex, especially when wearing a condom. BB with the wife works but that is a bi annual event I'm afraid. Even as a teenager all I used to hear about was premature ejaculation when I was thinking my problem was the exact opposite. I would be interested to know how unique I am in not ever being brought to orgasm with a girls hand or mouth, they usually give up, knackered!

[ForrestGump]

Yep I know exactly where you are coming from, pardon the pun. After wanking every day for 33 years I find it difficult to come through sex, especially when wearing a condom. BB with the wife works but that is a bi annual event I'm afraid. Even as a teenager all I used to hear about was premature ejaculation when I was thinking my problem was the exact opposite. I would be interested to know how unique I am in not ever being brought to orgasm with a girls hand or mouth, they usually give up, knackered!

Your circumstances are remarkably similar to my own, Bluefin. So, no, you're definitely not unique.

[Type_O_Negative]

Like many here said - less porn and less wanking.
Just look at these girls you pass on the street. REAL GIRLS.
I was punting today - last time i had a wank it was 5 days ago. So i shot my load like it was The Guns of Navarone 

[fettish008]

I had the same problem to start with.i think it was just nerves.i seem to be ok now.

[Roulette]

I had this problem too. Quit porn and it solved the problem. Make it a rule to only wank in the shower. If you can cum looking at tiles then you can cum with a woman.

I wonder if part of the problem with porn is it trains you to hold back for the good bit that's just coming up.

I've now got a problem maintaining an erection if I'm not doing the thrusting. Probably psychosomatic. I worry about it and therefore my erection goes.

[Bluefin]

Your circumstances are remarkably similar to my own, Bluefin. So, no, you're definitely not unique.

Thats good to know Forrest. I'm hoping to get a punt in a couple of weeks so will try and stay off the porn until then if that's possible and see what happens. Also read on this thread to pull foreskin back before you put condom on, I've never done that and as the post says you feel jack shit if you dont.

[Sparquin]

I find condoms deaden sensation terribly for me and it probably does not help that I am circumcised and so naturally a bit less sensitive. However you might try using a large size condom and adding a bit of lube in the tip in order to get a little movement and friction from within the condom. Make sure the lube does not get onto the base of your shaft as that will risk the condom slipping off.

If you are using cialis or viagra note that the trade off for better hardness is a reduction in sensation and more difficulty in climaxing, at least that is my experience.

Finally, I do not find it essential that I cum as there is lots of fun to be had along the way. If you put less emphasis on climax you might enjoy your sessions a bit more.

Let us know how you get on and what you think did the trick, so to speak.

[cueball]

Also read on this thread to pull foreskin back before you put condom on

The prossie will put the condom on for you and if she knows what she's doing your foreskin will already be back.

Just to add to a few comments, I'm glad of condoms because I can last longer so get better vfm

[Blackpool Rock]

Agree with most of the posts and advice such as not wanking for a while before a punt etc but stress and psychology can have a big effect here. If you are going into a punt with it playing on your mind then the problem is probably made worse and you get into a vicious circle, it's then made worse when the girl starts reminding you about the time and that you need to cum soon etc.

Some of the issue could be that you are used to wanking / cumming in a certain way, basically you are in your comfort zone when at home and controlling the situation, going faster / slower as suits you to maximise your feeling and pleasure.
When I punt I like to control the action as I tend to cum too quickly so i start in mish where I can control the pace and once I've overcome the initial urge to come in the first minute I can build up a rhythm.
I then move onto other positions such as doggy and prone bone where i can again control the action, it's rare for me to do cowgirl etc as while it's great when done well most girls don't seem too good at it and just sit on your cock then bounce up and down as hard as they can resulting in me losing my stiffy.
It took me years to cum from oral as again I wasn't in control but this is now my preferred method as I've overcome the psychological issue and OTC gives me an orgasm which is far more intense than through sex.

If lack of sensitivity from using a condom is part of the issue then you could try finishing with an oily tit wank as this gives skin on skin feeling with lots of lube and you can thrust to suit yourself       

[charger70]

Quite an interesting one this, as generally I reckon us men spend more time discussing Premature ejaculation, now most of us have  problems the other way! I used to have to sank to ensure I never blew before I even got inside her, now I too have top hold off for a few days to ensure action. Makes me wonder if we are all of an age?? 

However the old condom does act as a dampener on matters for sure. Perhaps Prossies use heavy duty versions?

[bunny84]

I try not to watch to much porn as it takes excitement out the real thing .

I don't know who people can give up wanking . It would be beyond me . Only a few times in my life have I ever managed to make it to over 24 hours without wanking or sex .

I never used to be able to cum shagging hookers . It was just all in my head . Went from not being able to cum to being able to cum everytime in the space of 1 punt

[steve_o]

In agreement with most on here; too much wanking and totally desensitised by on-tap porn.

And have never been able to cum wearing a condom...only on a very few occasions.

But I finish nearly all my punts now with wanking and cumming in their mouth. I actually find that much hornier as it's skin to skin, so to speak and my cum actually goes inside her, rather than into a condom. I don't mind if they spit TBH, as after I've cum, the sexual desire immediately leaves me...so them spitting after I've cum is okay.

[cueball]

In agreement with most on here; too much wanking and totally desensitised by on-tap porn.

And have never been able to cum wearing a condom...only on a very few occasions.

But I finish nearly all my punts now with wanking and cumming in their mouth. I actually find that much hornier as it's skin to skin, so to speak and my cum actually goes inside her, rather than into a condom. I don't mind if they spit TBH, as after I've cum, the sexual desire immediately leaves me...so them spitting after I've cum is okay.

I know what you're saying Steve but that don't stop me punting with prossies that don't do cim, I'll still pop in my bag happily if that's the case.

[306]

the blue pill hardens but delays is that correct

[Sonny Crockett]

I agree with what others have said in that it's best not to wank for about a few days. Also on the day of the punt you should drink plenty of fluids in order to hydrate yourself....