So it's the usual thing I have posted before and I am ready to be ripped apart. . .
I haven't had sex with the OH for coming up to 100 days I reckon. Valid reasons which I don't need to go into, some of which are medical though. But I am struggling......
I am usually a massage man and I;ve had 2 or 3 in this time frame and they've been awesome but feel I really need to get my leg over. Starting to get distracted at work and manual relief doesn't seem to cut it anymore.
I've punted before but it's not something I am into that much so don't do it, but things are getting pretty desperate!
Feel like I need to find a pump and dump WG. I know I will feel guilty as but I can see me pursuing this on my next business trip unless something changes at home.
Any thoughts or words of encouragement / discouragement
Yours is a dilemna shared by many, and there's a lot of interesting responses here.
My 2p's worth: it seems to me that you do still want to have sex with Mrs WBW, and I think you need to confront her with that.
My own situation is that I don't want to have sex with Mrs Nuts any more, but I have no intention of leaving, because of the kids. And like a great many people on here, I'm a 50+ guy who still has plenty of lead in his pencil. So what to do?
Yes, tarts have their uses. But you can go off that idea. Too many useless ones, too much fake advertising, lousy VFM in the main. Or you can try dating for married people, and there are a few sites catering for that. But the same pitfalls of fake advertising, chasing dead ends, and poor VFM apply there too.
Guilt? Sometimes. I'd be a chump not to feel guilty. But I don't all the time. Only sometimes.
End of the day, all these problems can't ever really be solved, but they can be managed. You carve out a corner of your life, out of the work and family stuff, for yourself. You don't let it overlap or intrude onto 'reality'. You learn to be discreet, and you take all possible precautions to make sure there's no comeback and you don't get found out.
I don't know of any other way. Life isn't perfect. But you can make the most of it if you're smart, and acknowledge you have needs but you're not going to be a totally selfish pig about it.