I’ve only been to one place that was cluttered, dirty and smelled of smoke but it didn’t matter to me in that instance because I was there for a domination session anyway. It sort of added to the atmosphere. I didn’t need a shower before and declined one afterwards. If it was for a GFE then I’d have probably felt differently.
My second ever punt was in a hotel room with a touring girl and it was a bit of a shambles, but I’d basically sent a booking request out of the blue with an hour’s notice and she’d been getting something to eat, so I didn’t think much of it.
I’m such a messy fucker, myself. I’m not really in a position to criticise, but I don’t blame you for walking.