Does punting make you a crap lover?

[dave123]

At the moment I punt for extramarital sex because there's not enough on offer at home but I like to believe that one day I might fall in love again and have hot sex with someone who is doing it because they love me back not for money. But it struck me that does sex with prostitutes actually mean I'm not going to be a good lover because I'm used to having what I want? Perhaps some might think it would make you a better lover.

[smiths]

At the moment I punt for extramarital sex because there's not enough on offer at home but I like to believe that one day I might fall in love again and have hot sex with someone who is doing it because they love me back not for money. But it struck me that does sex with prostitutes actually mean I'm not going to be a good lover because I'm used to having what I want? Perhaps some might think it would make you a better lover.

Could go either way, if say rimming and snowballing were essentials to you at a punt you might be disappointed when a partner is not into them.

I have read punting has helped some punters build their confidence talking to women, as long as they realize talking to a WG your paying is a different scenario to talking to a civvie then that could be a definite help.

[dave123]

Yes. I'm just imagining how it would go if you forgot she wasn't a wg.   

[Dani]

I think for most men who have already had relationships it can make them better lovers as they have tried and experienced things most civvie people don't which gives them an edge.

However I think for the younger punters of 18 or 19 who haven't had many real sexual relationships it can skew what they think it should be like as realistically most partners are not always going to be dressed to please in bed nor are they going to do everything we do on a regular basis as with an escort all the attention is on you, the booking is all about your pleasure and in rea life women are a bit more sexually selfish than that and want it to be about them as much or more than about you.
For instance after talking with prossie mates we have found the younger punters think it is ok to spit on your lady bits or to spunk on your face and hair 'by accident'  or to slap your lady bits as they have seen it in porn and in real life I cant see many women putting up with that.

[punk]

I think for most men who have already had relationships it can make them better lovers as they have tried and experienced things most civvie people don't which gives them an edge.

However I think for the younger punters of 18 or 19 who haven't had many real sexual relationships it can skew what they think it should be like as realistically most partners are not always going to be dressed to please in bed nor are they going to do everything we do on a regular basis as with an escort all the attention is on you, the booking is all about your pleasure and in rea life women are a bit more sexually selfish than that and want it to be about them as much or more than about you.
For instance after talking with prossie mates we have found the younger punters think it is ok to spit on your lady bits or to spunk on your face and hair 'by accident'  or to slap your lady bits as they have seen it in porn and in real life I cant see many women putting up with that.

dont think that applies to all, but i think younger woman seem to be more broad minded now a days, is that because porno has warped minds and peoples limits have expanded?

[smiths]

Yes. I'm just imagining how it would go if you forgot she wasn't a wg.   

That could result in a kick in the nuts.

[punk]

That could result in a kick in the nuts.

or open up possibilities 

[Horizontal pleasures]

I have never been a crap lover, crap belongs down the toilet.

[smiths]

or open up possibilities 

Indeed, you never know. I always ask first though.

[beef4u]

In a post-relationship review with my ex she told me in as many words that she liked the kink but that I switched position too much. Porn and punting.

[dave123]

Well my wife gets annoyed if I expect her to suck me off and I havent given her any foreplay. I m wondering if I'm becoming a lazy lover and incapable of enjoying sex in a normal civvie relationship. I dont really want to think I'll always be a punter.

[mr man]

I reckon it can turn a inexperienced lover into an ok lover. But It could turn a good lover into a lazy one. 

[punk]

Well my wife gets annoyed if I expect her to suck me off and I havent given her any foreplay. I m wondering if I'm becoming a lazy lover and incapable of enjoying sex in a normal civvie relationship. I dont really want to think I'll always be a punter.

i think your wife is being fair.

[punk]

Indeed, you never know. I always ask first though.

of course i have had one one of the best deep throat from a non wg, she went very slow but wow, i thought to myself she could be making £££££££.

[Dani]

dont think that applies to all, but i think younger woman seem to be more broad minded now a days, is that because porno has warped minds and peoples limits have expanded?

I think most people are more broad minded now than say 40 or 50 years ago regarding sex.  Porn does have a lot to do with it as we are becoming a desensitized nation as we see sex everywhere (desensitized to not just sex but violence and death as well).

I don't think that many girls watch porn compared to young lads as we tend to be more emotional than visually stimulated. 

Only my opinion but Of course it doesn't apply to all that is why I said the younger ones who have not had proper sexual relationships before it also relates to the younger women who join this industry as they get a skewed view of men and relationships and then find it hard to trust men as most of their clients will b married and cheating as the have no experience of proper relationships to compare it to.. 

[616]

Depends on the punter

If you want a partner who likes anal, swallowing your cum, watching porn with you and is up for things like double penetration with your dick and a vibrator in her front bottom at the same time, get yourself a much younger partner instead of paying a complete stranger for it.

Punting probably does give some guys the confidence to seek out totally up for it hornbags but you CANNOT become a worse lover if you punt - you have to be of a very horny disposition in the first place AND open to the idea of being willing to try anything to make a new partner come like a freight train.

In my experience, anyway.   

[punk]

I think most people are more broad minded now than say 40 or 50 years ago regarding sex.  Porn does have a lot to do with it as we are becoming a desensitized nation as we see sex everywhere (desensitized to not just sex but violence and death as well).

I don't think that many girls watch porn compared to young lads as we tend to be more emotional than visually stimulated. 

Only my opinion but Of course it doesn't apply to all that is why I said the younger ones who have not had proper sexual relationships before it also relates to the younger women who join this industry as they get a skewed view of men and relationships and then find it hard to trust men as most of their clients will b married and cheating as the have no experience of proper relationships to compare it to..

you know i agree with you there on all points, thou i have known women who like porn, i know one girl who really loves the hard stuff may be cause she is dutch.
yeah most of the wg's i have seen think A. your married or B. have a girlfriend

but i dont personally see the point if you are, your made your choice and made your bed so lay in it.

[Horizontal pleasures]

and made your bed so lay in it.

I have not made my bed in years, whether at home or away, I let her make it! I prefer to cook.

[wristjob]

I think I can make the distinction. In a proper relationship there's the whole different emotional level. The upshot of that is that in my punting life I'm a lot more physically picky than in real life. I guess extra physical attractiveness makes up for less emotional attraction. What probably goes with that is how you treat the other person. With WGs I'm not a generous sharing lover really - it is pretty much all about what I want. Within a relationship giving becomes a thrill.

[Daffodil]

I think I can make the distinction. In a proper relationship there's the whole different emotional level. The upshot of that is that in my punting life I'm a lot more physically picky than in real life. I guess extra physical attractiveness makes up for less emotional attraction. What probably goes with that is how you treat the other person. With WGs I'm not a generous sharing lover really - it is pretty much all about what I want. Within a relationship giving becomes a thrill.

Quite right too. I recently had a prossie cancel on me because something had happened (if I even believe that) that would mean she wouldn't enjoy our meeting.

News flash: I'm paying (often) £100+ per hour for me to enjoy our meeting. If she does too then that's great, but it is pretty low down my list of priorities.

[wristjob]

I'd love to hear my bosses reply if I phoned in and said I couldn't go to work because I wouldn't enjoy it.

[Silver Birch]

Quite right too. I recently had a prossie cancel on me because something had happened (if I even believe that) that would mean she wouldn't enjoy our meeting.

News flash: I'm paying (often) £100+ per hour for me to enjoy our meeting. If she does too then that's great, but it is pretty low down my list of priorities.

Fair point, but if something happened that meant she couldn't even pretend to enjoy our meeting, I would prefer her to cancel.

[Daffodil]

Fair point, but if something happened that meant she couldn't even pretend to enjoy our meeting, I would prefer her to cancel.

I agree, but I can only go on the wording on her text.

But I also agree, that knowing prossies like we do, what you suggest is likely what she meant.

[NIK]

No it doesn't. I am a brilliant lover. 

If only I had someone to show how good I am. 

[Wiltsboy01]

Fair point, but if something happened that meant she couldn't even pretend to enjoy our meeting, I would prefer her to cancel.

I click through profiles where it's.....yadda yadda...and for me to have a good time too

I don't give a shit about you baby, sorry.

[Horizontal pleasures]

Quite right too. I recently had a prossie cancel on me because something had happened (if I even believe that) that would mean she wouldn't enjoy our meeting.

News flash: I'm paying (often) £100+ per hour for me to enjoy our meeting. If she does too then that's great, but it is pretty low down my list of priorities.

I find if she enjoys herself this is infectious and I receive a better treatment also.

[hollysbeenabadgirl]

I find if she enjoys herself this is infectious and I receive a better treatment also.

I personally will not see anyone again unless I have a great time. Both parties having a great time leads to a totally different experience for the punter IMO. I would not say I offer better treatment, just that a woman being genuinely horny totally changes the game.

[Dani]

I personally will not see anyone again unless I have a great time. Both parties having a great time leads to a totally different experience for the punter IMO. I would not say I offer better treatment, just that a woman being genuinely horny totally changes the game.

+1.  If I am horny or turned on then I cant help but give the punter a much better time than if I am not.  Its not something that can be faked properly either

[Ray55]

I personally will not see anyone again unless I have a great time.

Really? So if I you have a client who is polite, clean, paying the fee upfront without taking the piss, you still wouldn't see him again because he didn't give you a great time?

[Phantom]

I would say most certainly not.

Although we go there for our enjoyment mainly. I've learnt that finding out what the lady likes as well will help future meetings be more intense and as time goes one you'll learn more then a few tricks to put into practise with any partners you may later get.

Just be prepared with a good explanation as to how your so good in bed.

Just never forget that in the real world, sex is supposed to be good for both parties.

It may sound mad, but when i start a non punting relationship. I like to find out what my partner likes first and encourage discussion at the earliest opportunity. This way you don't fumble around cluelessly and have the relationship end prematurely.

[Ray55]

Mate, I am 55 and certainly know how to please a woman.
The difference is that punting is not the real world.

I just find it hard to believe that a pro$$ie will refuse future business just because the client was not able to please her.

[hollysbeenabadgirl]

Really? So if I you have a client who is polite, clean, paying the fee upfront without taking the piss, you still wouldn't see him again because he didn't give you a great time?

It is not about him giving me a great time, but about us having a great time together. That does not mean he has to be a stallion or anything else though. Sometimes two people just do not work together.

If I had to see ten men a day 7 days a week perhaps I would not be so damn picky.

[ParisB]

I think for most men who have already had relationships it can make them better lovers as they have tried and experienced things most civvie people don't which gives them an edge.

However I think for the younger punters of 18 or 19 who haven't had many real sexual relationships it can skew what they think it should be like as realistically most partners are not always going to be dressed to please in bed nor are they going to do everything we do on a regular basis as with an escort all the attention is on you, the booking is all about your pleasure and in rea life women are a bit more sexually selfish than that and want it to be about them as much or more than about you.
For instance after talking with prossie mates we have found the younger punters think it is ok to spit on your lady bits or to spunk on your face and hair 'by accident'  or to slap your lady bits as they have seen it in porn and in real life I cant see many women putting up with that.

lol yeah  fanny slapping and spitting in abandon  - i blame the porn

[vorian]

At the moment I punt for extramarital sex because there's not enough on offer at home but I like to believe that one day I might fall in love again and have hot sex with someone who is doing it because they love me back not for money. But it struck me that does sex with prostitutes actually mean I'm not going to be a good lover because I'm used to having what I want? Perhaps some might think it would make you a better lover.

No I was a crap lover before punting, I am crap lover whilst punting and I will be a crap lover after punting. I am also fat and have a below average sized penis. However none of that matters to me at all or the prossie I am punting with and that is why I love punting.

[Bellabella]

Not every session with the wifey is going to be like a porno, I have to remind clients of that regularly. it doesn't make you shit, you make love with your wife, it's different with working girls x

[overhead]

Not every session with the wifey is going to be like a porno, I have to remind clients of that regularly. it doesn't make you shit, you make love with your wife, it's different with working girls x

That's right, it's an outlet. One thing I notice with WG's is that it doesn't become routine and, dare I say, even boring, like it can in a relationship. Maybe because the encounters with WG's is more focused on just sex, and not so much other life issues.

[cjkanye02]

I am not a stud in the slightest, but I get some really good reactions and results with civvy girls nowadays. The last one had never had an orgasm with a guy but came twice with me  Booyaka!!

Even with a WG I really want them to have a good time, but when you are trying to do your best work with a civvy then you will realise how much punting helps!!

I think they key is enjoying giving pleasure to a WG. If you just want to focus on your own pleasure then it could make you lazy in the real world.

[overhead]

I am not a stud in the slightest, but I get some really good reactions and results with civvy girls nowadays. The last one had never had an orgasm with a guy but came twice with me  Booyaka!!

Even with a WG I really want them to have a good time, but when you are trying to do your best work with a civvy then you will realise how much punting helps!!

I think they key is enjoying giving pleasure to a WG. If you just want to focus on your own pleasure then it could make you lazy in the real world.

For sure. So many WG's insulate themselves from what's going on. So I was quite surprised once when a WG said to me afterwards - That was a really good fuck, thank you! A little ego boost, and I hadn't even been down on her. Has only been said the once so far though. I've had compliments, but don't usually take them seriously, but this girl meant it and it made me feel good. I always try my best to make it feel good for them too, because that's part of what it's all about.

[punk]

its like any thing else some are really in to it, so are not, mostly for the ££££