Can’t get hard- help

[MrMatrix]

If your doctor decides you are depressed ffs don't take any pills that mess around with serotonin, not only can they make it slightly harder to get an erection but they can stop you coming, this can be a life-long after effect.

While it sounds great that you can bonk away for hours without coming, in reality the target/objective is missing so the bonking becomes boring and mr limp steps in.

It took me two years to half-recover and ten years on its still not right.

I thanked one wg profusely after she patiently spent ages to get me to come properly, the first time in eight months of serious trying.

Yes I took anti depressants some 14 years ago and within 24 hours I couldn't unload and the hard wasn't the same. I was on antidepressants for 5 months, took an age to recover. Still have problems unloading now if I'm honest. But I tend to feel its all in the mind, but I really dont know any more. Just be careful of anti depressants thats all.

[DavidBanner]

I've used a whole food plant based diet to turn my health around (ie. does what it says on the tin, whole foods, plant based, no oil, salt or processed sugar). One side effect is that the health of arteries is dramatically improved, therefore bloodflow to ALL parts of the body is dramatically improved. It's a regular anecdote from the doctors I've been following that a patient will come to them to help their diabetes or heart disease or arthritis but will also report that it's improved their erectile dysfunction. You don't need to have any outward signs of ill health to already have the beginnings of 'heart disease' ie. damage to the arteries / plaque / deposits. It is entirely normal to have this damage already even in fit, slim, college age men eating the standard developed world diet. No signs on the outside but it shows up in scans.
The simplest way to cause a dramatic improvement in blood flow is to dramatically reduce your consumption of oil and animal fats. Oil, even extra virgin olive oil, damages the lining of blood vessels (endothelium). If you're not one for reducing foods you enjoy then you can instead increase consumption of certain foods. The best foods to add for dramatically improved arterial function and blood flow are beetroots and green leafy vegetables. The contain nitric or nitrous oxide (can't remember which, look up Dr Caldwell Esselstyn on youtube) which helps repair this delicate single layer of cells so the arteries can expand and contract to easily take the max amount of blood flow. This is why athletes often talk about betroot juice being great. You could try to get betroot and dark green leafies (eg.kale, spinach, chard etc.) in as many of your meals as possible and see if you notice a difference.

[DavidBanner]

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[Waterhouse]

I've used a whole food plant based diet to turn my health around (ie. does what it says on the tin, whole foods, plant based, no oil, salt or processed sugar). One side effect is that the health of arteries is dramatically improved, therefore bloodflow to ALL parts of the body is dramatically improved. It's a regular anecdote from the doctors I've been following that a patient will come to them to help their diabetes or heart disease or arthritis but will also report that it's improved their erectile dysfunction. You don't need to have any outward signs of ill health to already have the beginnings of 'heart disease' ie. damage to the arteries / plaque / deposits. It is entirely normal to have this damage already even in fit, slim, college age men eating the standard developed world diet. No signs on the outside but it shows up in scans.
The simplest way to cause a dramatic improvement in blood flow is to dramatically reduce your consumption of oil and animal fats. Oil, even extra virgin olive oil, damages the lining of blood vessels (endothelium). If you're not one for reducing foods you enjoy then you can instead increase consumption of certain foods. The best foods to add for dramatically improved arterial function and blood flow are beetroots and green leafy vegetables. The contain nitric or nitrous oxide (can't remember which, look up Dr Caldwell Esselstyn on youtube) which helps repair this delicate single layer of cells so the arteries can expand and contract to easily take the max amount of blood flow. This is why athletes often talk about betroot juice being great. You could try to get betroot and dark green leafies (eg.kale, spinach, chard etc.) in as many of your meals as possible and see if you notice a difference.

Now trying to work out if you're the colour of beetroot or a nice shade of green as per your username 

Seriously though, good info and thanks... I'd heard about beetroot being good for high blood pressure, but makes sense now as to why given that it can help to improve vein and artery elasticity.

Cheers.

[winkywanky]

I've used a whole food plant based diet to turn my health around (ie. does what it says on the tin, whole foods, plant based, no oil, salt or processed sugar). One side effect is that the health of arteries is dramatically improved, therefore bloodflow to ALL parts of the body is dramatically improved. It's a regular anecdote from the doctors I've been following that a patient will come to them to help their diabetes or heart disease or arthritis but will also report that it's improved their erectile dysfunction. You don't need to have any outward signs of ill health to already have the beginnings of 'heart disease' ie. damage to the arteries / plaque / deposits. It is entirely normal to have this damage already even in fit, slim, college age men eating the standard developed world diet. No signs on the outside but it shows up in scans.
The simplest way to cause a dramatic improvement in blood flow is to dramatically reduce your consumption of oil and animal fats. Oil, even extra virgin olive oil, damages the lining of blood vessels (endothelium). If you're not one for reducing foods you enjoy then you can instead increase consumption of certain foods. The best foods to add for dramatically improved arterial function and blood flow are beetroots and green leafy vegetables. The contain nitric or nitrous oxide (can't remember which, look up Dr Caldwell Esselstyn on youtube) which helps repair this delicate single layer of cells so the arteries can expand and contract to easily take the max amount of blood flow. This is why athletes often talk about betroot juice being great. You could try to get betroot and dark green leafies (eg.kale, spinach, chard etc.) in as many of your meals as possible and see if you notice a difference.

I have to say, I think that's absolute bollocks re: the olive oil. Infact, quite the opposite.

I'll have a Google and see what I can find.

[winkywanky]

I've used a whole food plant based diet to turn my health around (ie. does what it says on the tin, whole foods, plant based, no oil, salt or processed sugar). One side effect is that the health of arteries is dramatically improved, therefore bloodflow to ALL parts of the body is dramatically improved. It's a regular anecdote from the doctors I've been following that a patient will come to them to help their diabetes or heart disease or arthritis but will also report that it's improved their erectile dysfunction. You don't need to have any outward signs of ill health to already have the beginnings of 'heart disease' ie. damage to the arteries / plaque / deposits. It is entirely normal to have this damage already even in fit, slim, college age men eating the standard developed world diet. No signs on the outside but it shows up in scans.
The simplest way to cause a dramatic improvement in blood flow is to dramatically reduce your consumption of oil and animal fats. Oil, even extra virgin olive oil, damages the lining of blood vessels (endothelium). If you're not one for reducing foods you enjoy then you can instead increase consumption of certain foods. The best foods to add for dramatically improved arterial function and blood flow are beetroots and green leafy vegetables. The contain nitric or nitrous oxide (can't remember which, look up Dr Caldwell Esselstyn on youtube) which helps repair this delicate single layer of cells so the arteries can expand and contract to easily take the max amount of blood flow. This is why athletes often talk about betroot juice being great. You could try to get betroot and dark green leafies (eg.kale, spinach, chard etc.) in as many of your meals as possible and see if you notice a difference.

Beetroot and green leafy vegetables are indeed good for the blood vessels, beetroot particularly good for intense efforts in athletes.

They don't contain nitrous oxide, that's laughing gas  .

Beetroot contains high levels of nitrates.

Did you just get all this stuff 'off the internet' or something?

[winkywanky]

Olive oil is GOOD for your heart: External Link/Members Only

[winkywanky]

Again: External Link/Members Only

[winkywanky]

And: External Link/Members Only

[winkywanky]

This says different: External Link/Members Only

But it's from 14yrs ago and based on a study of monkeys...who eat a diet completely different from our own, so why would their bodies react to olive oil in the same way when their gut produces different enzymes to help digest their food?

Other, more recent articles seem to use this as a source, and are written by journalists, not doctors.

I'm sticking with the olive oil.

[Rack Admirer]

If you're not occasionally waking up with an erection then there might be a physical issue. Morning wood is not affected as much by mental health factors (such as stress), as far as I know.

All the best to you.

[psb]

You're obviously stressed about the subject which, if not the total cause, will undoubtedly be a factor. A doctor can nowadays prescribe silendafil which is generic viagra however there is a list of side effects as long as your arm including blindness and death!!

It can be cured by Traditional Chinese Medicine, just google TCM for your area and there will probably be two or three in any city. There are a few in China Town in Manchester. They will treat you with a combination of acupuncture and Chinese medicine. You won't suffer any side effects other than parting with a few quid.

Good luck

[Pakimans768]

Has anyone tried wet cupping? Someone mentioned it to me and said it’s done wonders for them.

[opal]

Has anyone tried wet cupping? Someone mentioned it to me and said it’s done wonders for them.

I not a great believer in alternative therapies. If you believe it may work in a mind over matter way.

Personally a practical tea bagging is my preference

[Khuramm]

Hi guys

Firstly thank you all for such an amazing thread and some proper and high quality help. I’ve also been suffering from something pretty similar and agree with the points around this being a mental and physical issue. Seeing this discussion means I can also share my own experience  and its truly a shit and lonely place dealing with this solo. Also some “understanding” SPs is a good shout to get the mojo back.

Mine is more work stress and life demand related with a lack of sleep and tiredness mixed in.  But on reading your comments will look into all of the above and maybe look into resetting it all via chilled out massages that could lead to more - no pressure to perform. Appreciate the list shared by fellow punters and will give those ladies a try.

Would be good to learn some more about results others have had, what you’ve tried and what has worked. I’ve totally given up on the porn, taken a break from wanking and let my brain just do it’s own thing. For me it’s something that has happened gradually and fueled by lifestyle - only noticed it in the same way as the start to this thread.

I also train in the gym (but not a gym freak)  but don’t take any of that ball reducing stuff - just normal protein powder. I’ll give the ingredients a proper read to see if there’s any nasties in there or better still, stop and try something else and report back results.

The lack of porn and pressure is giving me some results but think there’s more to be done.

For those of you looking for quality beetroot juice - there’s a few really good products available in Asda and the main places - I’ve tried juicing and it did help, Will get back on that too.

Thanks all. K

[DavidBanner]

This says different: External Link/Members Only

But it's from 14yrs ago and based on a study of monkeys...who eat a diet completely different from our own, so why would their bodies react to olive oil in the same way when their gut produces different enzymes to help digest their food?

Other, more recent articles seem to use this as a source, and are written by journalists, not doctors.

I'm sticking with the olive oil.

Pritikin site is absolutely correct. Since you asked my sources are both internet and books, all backed up by peer reviewed research which you can check out if in doubt. The Mediterranean diet high in olive oil is healthy DESPITE the olive oil, not because of it. All the fruit and veg etc. which is protective and improves artery health, outweighs the negative effects of the oil. Olives on the other hand have a positive effect without any downside because the oil is within the matrix of the food with all the fibre and full range of chemicals. Same applies to nuts, seeds and avocadoes and coconuts as opposed to their oil. (In the same way that fruit is healthy but isolated fructose is harmful). My sources include Dr John McDougall, Dr Neal Barnard, Dr Michael Greger, Dr Dean Ornish, Dr Caldwell Esselstyn, T Colin Campbell, Dr Pam Popper, Dr Michael Klapper, Dr Garth Davis and others. NITRIC oxide (not nitrous, my mistake  )!!! A little bit explained here, by a Doc who has a long career track record of reversing artery damage External Link/Members Only
I'll take the science over the marketing every time.
If you do keep on with the olive oil just make sure you eat all the other good stuff too to nullify the artery-impairing effects.
PS I was a big oil consumer until I learned the science and it was so overwhelming it convinced me to change my habits.

[Pakimans768]

Second visit to Doc

What a waste of time, all he done was prescribe Slidenfil again,

Lieterlaly went there and soon as I walked in they tried to fob you off as they have a full waiting room

They don’t give you anytime. I was expecting more blood test, ECG etc but noting offered

Their service is just as bad as some negatives on here

[aquilla]

Second visit to Doc

What a waste of time, all he done was prescribe Slidenfil again,

Lieterlaly went there and soon as I walked in they tried to fob you off as they have a full waiting room

They don’t give you anytime. I was expecting more blood test, ECG etc but noting offered

Their service is just as bad as some negatives on here

Then you should change your GP if you're not happy. There are plenty of good ones about.
You don't continue to visit a WG if she is not meeting your needs.

Bear in mind that they won't do tests just because you think you need/want them. They have to be justified.
And sometimes people (I'm not saying you) don't hear what they want to hear from their GP so assume that they are wrong or a waste of time.

[Waterhouse]

You could try to get betroot and dark green leafies (eg.kale, spinach, chard etc.) in as many of your meals as possible and see if you notice a difference.

Do you steam, boil or eat the greens raw?  Assuming the beetroot has to be boiled to make it soft and edible.

Cheers.

[chrishornx]

Do you steam, boil or eat the greens raw?  Assuming the beetroot has to be boiled to make it soft and edible.

Cheers.

crikey Yondu we are getting very complex now

surely the OP should just visit a top end 5'8" tanned busty Swedish style tanned nymphomaniac blonde virgin with thigh boots and PVC underwear offering every service possible and  a brunette friend in a fishnet bodysuit ready to give him a full on lesbian show no holes barred service including everything he wants ...if he still can't get a stiff then accept life as it is

[winkywanky]

...followed by one with her tongue up his arse, the other simultaneously slobbering all over his cock and balls...

[threechilliman]

I've used a whole food plant based diet to turn my health around (ie. does what it says on the tin, whole foods, plant based, no oil, salt or processed sugar). One side effect is that the health of arteries is dramatically improved, therefore bloodflow to ALL parts of the body is dramatically improved. It's a regular anecdote from the doctors I've been following that a patient will come to them to help their diabetes or heart disease or arthritis but will also report that it's improved their erectile dysfunction. You don't need to have any outward signs of ill health to already have the beginnings of 'heart disease' ie. damage to the arteries / plaque / deposits. It is entirely normal to have this damage already even in fit, slim, college age men eating the standard developed world diet. No signs on the outside but it shows up in scans.
The simplest way to cause a dramatic improvement in blood flow is to dramatically reduce your consumption of oil and animal fats. Oil, even extra virgin olive oil, damages the lining of blood vessels (endothelium). If you're not one for reducing foods you enjoy then you can instead increase consumption of certain foods. The best foods to add for dramatically improved arterial function and blood flow are beetroots and green leafy vegetables. The contain nitric or nitrous oxide (can't remember which, look up Dr Caldwell Esselstyn on youtube) which helps repair this delicate single layer of cells so the arteries can expand and contract to easily take the max amount of blood flow. This is why athletes often talk about betroot juice being great. You could try to get betroot and dark green leafies (eg.kale, spinach, chard etc.) in as many of your meals as possible and see if you notice a difference.

Bloody hell, my blood should be racing round my body as I (unknowingly) follow that diet almost to the letter. I avoid fatty/sugary foods and almost everything I eat is made from the 'basic' ingredients. The only item missing is beetroot, which I like but rarely eat and that could easily be incorporated into one of my meals each day.

[NigelF]

Maybe mentally struggling, before anything even starts I’m thinking I hope I can get hard, and if I can’t ive had snide comments that destroys confidence, just comments like “why you can’t get hard, what’s that? Is that a midget? Just comments like that

Assuming those comments were from WGs, please review all of those who've said that to you (and similar things), even if you saw you them a long time ago. Comments like that only come from truly crap escorts and they should be extremely rare. I've only ever had one or two crap Romanians tell me something similar, if anything it's almost funny because clearly saying something like that will only serve to make you even softer (indeed I told one of them that and it didn't go down too well  ).

Sometimes when I half half one and I’m doing business with condom I have to fake ive come because I can feel it shrinking, mentally it’s tough having a shag just for the fear I’m gonna so small

Always remember that you're there for your pleasure only and fear of being judged by the girl you've just paid for a service is just not something you should concern yourself. Indeed, pretty much all escorts will have seen it all before (many clients with similar erection issues, including younger ones) and all the decent escorts really won't care.

Also, most escorts will very likely notice that you've faked ejaculation because they've seen so many real ones they know exactly what it looks, sounds and feels like (even though it obviously varies significantly person to person ) and they should probably recognise the signs of fake one too (especially since many do it themselves  ). Even if they don't notice any of that, they probably will notice the lack of cum in the bag. Of course they won't say anything because a) they'll probably be happy that the "hard work" is over and b) they won't want to say anything for fear of offending you/making you "lose face".

By the way any working girls on here that would understand and be willing to see me without discrimination

There are LOADS of WG's out there who meet that criteria. Most of the well reviewed escorts on this list should fit the bill (double click on the Rating heading/column to sort the table into the order of most positive reviews to least): External Link/Members Only

ProtocolDroid has also given you some great suggestions for HE providers in his earlier post (reply #35).

Not really overweight, 154 pounds 5’8”

Don’t drink, never touched the stuff

Based on your BMI (23.3) and what I presume to be your ethnicity, even though you are a healthy weight, you're ever so slightly just into the category of being at "increased risk" of type 2 diabetes, heart disease, stroke etc. See here:
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I'd recommend measuring your waist circumference (ensure you do it correctly as per the previous link or the following one - it's definitely not the waist size of trousers) and, assuming you're ethnicity is South Asian (e.g. Pakistani as per your username), if it's 35 inches or more, I'd recommend making some small improvements to your diet (or increasing the intensity of your exercise but fat loss is much with diet changes and it's probably a little healthier given that you already exercise) in order to get your waist circumference down. See this link for more info: External Link/Members Only

Well I’m 24 and using viagra unfortunately. Physically Im fine so must be mental

Even if you're using over the counter Viagra, I presume you've been to the doctor and had all the relevant tests done to show that there is no physical problem?

As with the OP, I recommend seeing some of the most well reviewed girls on the list above. Obviously, it won't always be an amazing punt (e.g. as with Molly Swedish) but the likelihood is a lot higher. Since I think you like MILFs, this one has very recently received a couple of very positive reviews on here: External Link/Members Only (reviews here: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?action=serviceprovider;id=21076)

Yes I took anti depressants some 14 years ago and within 24 hours I couldn't unload and the hard wasn't the same. I was on antidepressants for 5 months, took an age to recover. Still have problems unloading now if I'm honest. But I tend to feel its all in the mind, but I really dont know any more. Just be careful of anti depressants thats all.

Not all anti depressants will have that effect, I think it's just the SSRIs (Selective Seratonin Reuptake Inhibitors) but obviously it's definitely worth asking the doctor about it if you are prescribed anything.

I have to say, I think that's absolute bollocks re: the olive oil. Infact, quite the opposite.

I'll have a Google and see what I can find.

+1

Although I do think the potential benefits are sometimes overstated by the media but they definitely do exist. Funnily enough, I was recently researching this myself (specifically olive oil vs other oils). That systematic review you posted in reply #58 is a recent and rather thorough one which includes numerous well designed studies and it backs up what you've said very well.

Here's an interesting and very recent, well designed randomised trial comparing olive oil with coconut oil and butter: External Link/Members Only

Basically, olive oil is the pretty much the healthiest oil you can use and as long as you don't over-consume it (as with anything really), it's perfectly fine.

Pritikin site is absolutely correct. Since you asked my sources are both internet and books, all backed up by peer reviewed research which you can check out if in doubt. The Mediterranean diet high in olive oil is healthy DESPITE the olive oil, not because of it. All the fruit and veg etc. which is protective and improves artery health, outweighs the negative effects of the oil. Olives on the other hand have a positive effect without any downside because the oil is within the matrix of the food with all the fibre and full range of chemicals.

Read that systematic review he posted in full - External Link/Members Only

Not all the studies included in that review are based on those with Mediterranean diets (although many are), some are just studies done on people who took olive oil as a supplement.

While you're definitely right that olives are mostly even healthier and do contain the full range of chemicals it's important to note the concentrations of some of those chemicals in olives vs olive oil. In olive oil, some compounds, some of which are beneficial (e.g. some beneficial antioxidants as well as other compounds and obviously fats, including "healthy" fats) are found in much higher concentrations. If you really want the best benefits then it's actually best to eat olives (not just green olives but also black ones too) and olive oil. Here's an easy to understand article (I'm not sure who it's written by):
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And here's the source it's based on (a study looking at the cancer protective effects of olives and olive oil):
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There is obviously good reason for olive oil being studied so much, not just olives.

Anyway, please posts links to the peer reviewed research you're referring to. Also note that peer review is pretty much the minimum standard for decent scientific evidence. There are numerous way research can be conducted and some studies are VASTLY superior to others. Systematic reviews and meta analyses are the best standard of evidence because they include multiple studies and tend to only include the high quality ones.

Technically, clinical guidelines (e.g. guidelines published by organisation such as NICE, the Royal Colleges etc) are the best standard of evidence because they tend to be made by a panel of leading experts (medical doctors and scientists) and are based primarily on the best available evidence (which obviously includes good systematic reviews as much as possible). Since we're discussing the actual evidence though, I won't bother linking any of these guidelines unless you want me to (I'd also have to find them because I'm not a doctor).   

Oil, even extra virgin olive oil, damages the lining of blood vessels (endothelium).

Here's an even more recent review illustrating the protective effects of olive oil on the endothelium:
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Here's some other recent reviews looking at the potential health benefits of olive oil:
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All the above links aren't just an individual study each, they all include data from numerous studies and in order for the to be included in the review they needed to be highly relevant and well designed too (although of course to truly check that you'll need read the individual methodologies and asses for yourself). Of course, some of them will be including/referencing the same studies so there will be some "overlap".

I can provide plenty more evidence if you want but please only ask once you've read and understood all the above in full. If you have any questions feel free to ask.

Obviously no absolutely concrete conclusions can be made and more studies are always needed (as with pretty much everything in the biological sciences) but there is A LOT of robust scientific evidence to support what winkywanky has said.

Anyway, I'm definitely not disagreeing with pretty much everything else you've said. It's absolutely vital not to over-consume olive oil otherwise it certainly will be unhealthy. You're also very right about their being a variety of other sources of many the beneficial compounds and fats in olive oil. You definitely don't need olive oil and a diet rich in the things you've suggested will be very beneficial to your health.

Then you should change your GP if you're not happy. There are plenty of good ones about.
You don't continue to visit a WG if she is not meeting your needs.

Bear in mind that they won't do tests just because you think you need/want them. They have to be justified.
And sometimes people (I'm not saying you) don't hear what they want to hear from their GP so assume that they are wrong or a waste of time.

+1

Personally I also think it's worth going private but that shouldn't be absolutely necessary.

[cueball]

Looks like not only was the op 's cock soft, his head was too.... Previously banned trying to sneak back in.

Bloody scoundrel... I knew it were a mistake being friendly 

[Logamimo]

I've had the problem too and I have only recently started to recover to the point where I've started punting again.

The underlying cause is stress, which is caused by life events so its a very individual problem. Stress builds up over a long period and you don't realise it's having an effect on you until this sort of thing happens. It is reversable but it takes time.

The natural tendency is to worry about the problem, which increases stress levels and makes the problem even worse. I resolved the problem by learning to relax it two ways. Firstly, you need to learn to relax physically by practicing a form of yoga called Progressive Relaxation, if you Google it you'll  find out how to do it.

Secondly, you need to pracitce meditation to calm the mind. Again meditation methods can also be found on Google. I found that when I learned how to relax both physically and mentally the problem eventually went away and I'm now enjoying punting again.

I'm in my sixties and I can still get it up without the aid of the blue pills. Stress is the biggest killer of erections known to man, just learn to relax both physically and mentally and all will be fine. 

[marlboro20]

Totally agree ... Stress is the biggest killer of erections known to man, just learn to relax both physically and mentally and all will be fine. ... that's unless you have underlying medical issues. However, I 'd guess arranging sex with a complete stranger is, in itself, stressful for a lot of guys unless you've got a totally lay back attitude. Maybe finding a SP who you feel comfortable with, and meeting regularly, could alliviate the stress ?

[Khuramm]

Couldn’t agree more. Have started doing yoga and chilling out and we are back on the field. I’ve also been trying this stuff a friend recommended called “Shilajit” which is an ayurvedic product. Hard to say if it’s thay stuff that’s been having and impact or just me relaxing and not putting pressure on myself.

Has anyone else tried Shilajit??

[cat1144]

How much porn do you watch and how often do you wank? Too much can have an effect.

this

ease off the porn, and the wanking

you'll be ok 

[Silva21]

I had this for absolutely years... Like 10/15 years where I struggled. I finally met my wife and she tried and failed for the most part but through her sheer persistence we managed to have a kid. Afterwards we just chose to not have sex.
I wanked away and just got on with life and was thankful to have my general health. Eventually it stopped bothering me, I just didn't have sex.

In Jan this year for some unknown reason I decided to stop wanking and stop watching porn. 5 weeks later my brain was clearly trying to force me to cum and all I could think of was sex.

Convinced my wife to give it ago and it went OK, not great but I did the deed twice in an hour.

Over the next two months we did it a few times with varying degree is success and then she announces she felt under pressure and wanted to go back to no sex. I took up punting unbeknown to her.

I'm taking cialis but some of these women are good and I'm getting proper bang on hard ons again.

So, point being. I feel your pain mate. I agree with what others have said on here. Back to basics and build it up slowly.

This is a decent forum

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Have a read and post some stuff on there. Good luck.

[MrMatrix]

I had this for absolutely years... Like 10/15 years where I struggled. I finally met my wife and she tried and failed for the most part but through her sheer persistence we managed to have a kid. Afterwards we just chose to not have sex.
I wanked away and just got on with life and was thankful to have my general health. Eventually it stopped bothering me, I just didn't have sex.

In Jan this year for some unknown reason I decided to stop wanking and stop watching porn. 5 weeks later my brain was clearly trying to force me to cum and all I could think of was sex.

Convinced my wife to give it ago and it went OK, not great but I did the deed twice in an hour.

Over the next two months we did it a few times with varying degree is success and then she announces she felt under pressure and wanted to go back to no sex. I took up punting unbeknown to her.

I'm taking cialis but some of these women are good and I'm getting proper bang on hard ons again. Back to basics and build it up slowly.

This is a decent forum

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Have a read and post some stuff on there. Good luck.

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Thanks Justin - this reboot site is really quite good and after todays performance I can only gain by looking at it further. 
I did 6-7 weeks nofap a couple of years ago and was feeling confident at going into the next punt and the auto failed to work and Mrs P bailed me out , which is more than she did today...

Unlucky with the OHs attitude, I fail to see how she is under pressure to perform. Womans logic I guess, I wouldn't give up on her though, got to be worth hanging in there. Does she miss sex?

[Silva21]

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Thanks Justin - this reboot site is really quite good and after todays performance I can only gain by looking at it further. 
I did 6-7 weeks nofap a couple of years ago and was feeling confident at going into the next punt and the auto failed to work and Mrs P bailed me out , which is more than she did today...

Unlucky with the OHs attitude, I fail to see how she is under pressure to perform. Womans logic I guess, I wouldn't give up on her though, got to be worth hanging in there. Does she miss sex?

My wife is quiet a bit overweight and body and conscious. I think she secretly blames herself as much as anything.

When I started to be able to get some decent wood and a touch of confidence back, when I felt I was.... On the mend... I think she felt so bad about herself that she backed out and started saying she felt under pressure.
Maybe she was because I'd got 15 years of desires pent up.
I'd been watching porn, got some filthy ideas and was thinking I could get myself some.

She was moaning that I was hassling her for sex and then just went complete shutout.

In a way I'm half glad because at 43 I thought the best of my sex life was behind me. Now I'm fucking girls in there 20's again and enjoying it. I should add that it's not all rosey. I still shit myself everytime I start incase little Justin doesn't get hard, I'm taking cialis before a punt and sometimes a viagra too. Potential lack of performance still weighs on my mind but each time it works out it gives me a little bit more confidence and I think that the reboot (my story is on reboot nation too but under a different name) did just that. It rebooted me, let me start from scratch and I'm slowly healing as a result.
Filthy WGs are a big help too 

So in answer to your question 'does she miss sex' I think privately yeah, proberbly. But she's so consumed by her own body image that she doesn't want it.

[MrMatrix]

My wife is quiet a bit overweight and body and conscious. I think she secretly blames herself as much as anything.

When I started to be able to get some decent wood and a touch of confidence back, when I felt I was.... On the mend... I think she felt so bad about herself that she backed out and started saying she felt under pressure.
Maybe she was because I'd got 15 years of desires pent up.
I'd been watching porn, got some filthy ideas and was thinking I could get myself some.

She was moaning that I was hassling her for sex and then just went complete shutout.

In a way I'm half glad because at 43 I thought the best of my sex life was behind me. Now I'm fucking girls in there 20's again and enjoying it. I should add that it's not all rosey. I still shit myself everytime I start incase little Justin doesn't get hard, I'm taking cialis before a punt and sometimes a viagra too. Potential lack of performance still weighs on my mind but each time it works out it gives me a little bit more confidence and I think that the reboot (my story is on reboot nation too but under a different name) did just that. It rebooted me, let me start from scratch and I'm slowly healing as a result.
Filthy WGs are a big help too 

So in answer to your question 'does she miss sex' I think privately yeah, proberbly. But she's so consumed by her own body image that she doesn't want it.

Like you many of us thought the best years were behind us. Like you never drempt I'd be shagging a 27 year old as I did today. So every cloud has a silver lining. However the little guy continues to let me down. Stays up just doesnt chuck up. I've resolved my self to the fact I enjoy just being with hot looking SPs. I can still have a lot of fun and make the most of things. MrsP occaisionally helps out but not always successfully. I've tried rebooting several times and will give it another go. Just may get lucky.

If your OH misses it , perhaps she would do well to do something about it then. She'd feel so much better in herself, let alone the sex. Easier said than done though .Best of luck

[tcm]

Stop being a wet lettuce might be a start

[hungrypunt]

I'll take the science over the marketing every time.

If you do keep on with the olive oil just make sure you eat all the other good stuff too to nullify the artery-impairing effects.
PS I was a big oil consumer until I learned the science and it was so overwhelming it convinced me to change my habits.

Yeah, the Dr does raise some good points and considering he was an Olympic rowing champion, then more power to him, but his videos are all about marketing too, his books, his websites, his advice.