100 Girls in my 1st Year of Punting

[mradventures]

I spent £12k on punting in 2016 and had over 100 girls mainly Thai and Chinese. In 2017 I was still punting like a nutter, but made a lot of repeat visits e.g. 3 x 2 hours with the same girl in the same week sometimes. It's money well spent and my main source of happiness. My civvie gf thinks I'm a sex addict. I think I crave intimacy.

maybe you crave sexual intimacy?

im a conflicted mess of cravings,fears and stuff, so not judging you

[Yellowman18]

As you have punted loads in a short time, how has your confidence with women changed from how you were before?

It felt strange for me when I realised that being a 'very very nice' lad and being too polite around girls/Sex Workers is not the best method.  I get dismissed/used less often now, but I am still working on my game.

This is actually a really interesting question and I’m keen to hear JayEZ2K’s and others response!

Me personally I’ve found that I can’t get out of the “Mr nice guy” mode too easily and as Knny said you can get taken advantage of by working girls v. Fortunately I’ve only had that happen a handful of times; one time I recall in Warsaw where I spent ages on the balcony having a fag and a deep conversation about life with the WG, only to realise 2hour later we were over time and she wanted her hour’s pay...!

[Home Alone]

It's not a numbers game to me; I don't do it for notches on the headboard.  It fulfills a missing part of my civie life and my only goal is to properly enjoy myself before it's too late and I pop my clogs so to speak.
 

Fwiw, I think this is a brilliant thread, OP; thanks for posting it - it seems to have triggered off similar thoughts in quite a lot of us.

For example, I can identify with what you say here, Waterhouse. I've slowed down quite a bit in the last 18 months/2 years, but after the OH pissed off in 2003, it took me about 20 months before driving round the northern half of Greater Manchester with the Evening News on the passenger seat open at the Massage Parlours' small adverts page, trying to locate one of them - any one would do! -  where I could, hopefully have my first shag in probably 15 years since the OH turned the tap off.*

I had no intention - still haven't! - of entering another Civvy relationship, but punting hasn't just filled a physical void in my life. I'm sure I'm a lot more relaxed around women in general than the pre-punting HA ever was, to the extent that if I set my mind to it, I'm confident that, even at 73, I could probably 'pull' one of the increasing number of attractive widows in the 60-70 age range. And any young bucks who find that last sentence amusing should remember the adage, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." As well as its blunter equivalent, "Many a good time played on an old fiddle."

So I approach the 15th anniversary of my first punt with a spring in my step and the belief that after the best part of two years, I think I recently auditioned a successful candidate for the vacant post of HA's Regular!

To quote a comedian's catchphrase from the 1980s, "That'll do for me, Tommy!"

* @ Metalgear I hope this explains what I meant when I used the phrase "making up for lost time" which seemed to perplex you two or three days ago.

[Home Alone]

Damn. I wonder how much money you spent?

In the great scheme of things, that doesn't matter, imo. What matters more is the enjoyment you've derived from what you've spent the cash on.

Which is easy enough for a punter to think, when he has no kids expecting to inherit any money.

[B4bcock]

As you have punted loads in a short time, how has your confidence with women changed from how you were before?

It felt strange for me when I realised that being a 'very very nice' lad and being too polite around girls/Sex Workers is not the best method.  I get dismissed/used less often now, but I am still working on my game.

Good point.

Since I started punting I have gradually become quietly confident around women in all scenarios.   I no longer try hard to impress them as I know some quality sex will soon be on my agenda and that stupid inbred trait of wanting all women to find me attractive is now irrelevant.  The result is that I happily flirt at checkouts etc, then walk away with no disappointment because things can't go any further.

Regarding numbers and "catalogueing" of WG's I think you have to be careful not to end up going on punts for the sake of it, just to add a new "conquest" or number to your list.   For me, it's all about fun and I would rather have, say, 30 or 40 well-researched, quality punts in a year than 100 where many are disappointing.

[MrMatrix]

Fwiw, I think this is a brilliant thread, OP; thanks for posting it - it seems to have triggered off similar thoughts in quite a lot of us.

For example, I can identify with what you say here, Waterhouse. I've slowed down quite a bit in the last 18 months/2 years, but after the OH pissed off in 2003, it took me about 20 months before driving round the northern half of Greater Manchester with the Evening News on the passenger seat open at the Massage Parlours' small adverts page, trying to locate one of them - any one would do! -  where I could, hopefully have my first shag in probably 15 years since the OH turned the tap off.*

I had no intention - still haven't! - of entering another Civvy relationship, but punting hasn't just filled a physical void in my life. I'm sure I'm a lot more relaxed around women in general than the pre-punting HA ever was, to the extent that if I set my mind to it, I'm confident that, even at 73, I could probably 'pull' one of the increasing number of attractive widows in the 60-70 age range. And any young bucks who find that last sentence amusing should remember the adage, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." As well as its blunter equivalent, "Many a good time played on an old fiddle."

So I approach the 15th anniversary of my first punt with a spring in my step and the belief that after the best part of two years, I think I recently auditioned a successful candidate for the vacant post of HA's Regular!

To quote a comedian's catchphrase from the 1980s, "That'll do for me, Tommy!"

* @ Metalgear I hope this explains what I meant when I used the phrase "making up for lost time" which seemed to perplex you two or three days ago.

I now see why you call your self Home Alone, appropriate bearing in mind your story. Apart from the OH pissing off there are similarities in our reasons for punting. I too seem to be slowing down and on a sliding scale over the last 4 years. Not had a punt for over a month now, was hoping to get one in to day but my car failed its MOT yesterday. I also view this hobby as making up for lost time, indeed had it not been for the hobby I probably would have gone long ago. It has help me to find some physical relief and consolation in life, been an interesting journey, but I would have preferred a fuller journey with my OH. 

[JonasG]

Not much correlation between using whores and how you act with real women tbh.

It improves your skills in the bedroom but that's it I think.

[JonasG]

Also it makes you care less, I've fobbed off advances from 6/10 or below women cos you know you'll fuck a fit whore in no time and don't see the point in pursuing them.

[LLPunting]

Not much correlation between using whores and how you act with real women tbh.

It improves your skills in the bedroom but that's it I think.

No guarantee that it improves one's skill as that requires the punter to care about how they're doing any given act as opposed to just being serviced.  Much like whether one has an interest in any social interaction with SPs during a punt.

[LLPunting]

Make wahey while the Sun's shining OP 

Will you be reviewing any of the 15 or so other girls from this year's mongering?

[winkywanky]

Not much correlation between using whores and how you act with real women tbh.

It improves your skills in the bedroom but that's it I think.

I think for a lot of guys (never married, 'unsuccessful with girls at school', long-term sexually dead marriage etc) it can help improve confidence levels with women.

No, your cock isn't too small, yes, you can fuck girls successfully and learn a little of what turns them on.

We all know the old adage about women sensing men that aren't confident and being a turn-off for them. If you've fucked a girl up the arse and then jizzed down her throat a week before the office party, you'll be giving off 'different signals' for sure.

[JonasG]

I think for a lot of guys (never married, 'unsuccessful with girls at school', long-term sexually dead marriage etc) it can help improve confidence levels with women.

No, your cock isn't too small, yes, you can fuck girls successfully and learn a little of what turns them on.

We all know the old adage about women sensing men that aren't confident and being a turn-off for them. If you've fucked a girl up the arse and then jizzed down her throat a week before the office party, you'll be giving off 'different signals' for sure.

Yeah I see your point.

Similar to having a wank before a night out, you care less about trying it with a girl and it subconsciously kinda shows it to a girl you're talking to.

[winkywanky]

Especially if it's down the front of your trousers 

[webpunter]

  

We all know the old adage about women sensing men that aren't confident and being a turn-off for them. If you've fucked a girl up the arse and then jizzed down her throat a week before the office party, you'll be giving off 'different signals' for sure.

Agree with fobbing off 6's or below [mentioned above]
For me also applies when there is a 8-10 in play potentially
When the situation arises I think to myself is it worth the effort
With no guarantees of payback
It depends - sometimes i crack on
Other times, especially when wasted with mates & its getting late, i think to myself that i'm tired / running out of steam
Would much rather wake up on my jack jones
Feeling like shit & suffering from a severe medical condition known as the hangover horn
For which the cure is have a cup of tea, get out punting mobile & line up a massage burd for a couple of hours hence
Then go for a greasy spoon, have a read of the paper
Then go & get tugged or noshed off.  Ideally making minimal of effort

[RogerBoner]

I think I crave intimacy

...This may well be true but from escorts?

Well I have found satisfactory faux intimacy with a few.

Ex-fucking-actly

The civvy GF has hit the mark
Little does she know
Weirder if she actually does

The civvie is an ex-bar girl from Thailand. After 6 months I confessed that I was a punter after coming back from a secret holiday to Thailand. This was supposed to split us up. Instead she just asked me to go for a checkup. Now she says that I'm the same as her and has turned into her real self, almost a nymphomaniac. And she knows I'm still friends with some touring girls. I call her my civvie gf but she's married to a Farang.
Ok give it to me 

[webpunter]

On the intimacy front [with escorts] #metoo
Well with massage type burds
Very occasionally
A good few sessions in things can develop
YMMV type stuff
Get em juiced up teasing the fuck out of em & see what happens
I've never paid extra for FS
Hence they must feel slightly inclined, coz on their part its a bit of ramp up just to get you to return
They must 'like' me 

Edit:  intimacy sort-of

I think I crave intimacyWell I have found satisfactory faux intimacy with a few.
The civvie is an ex-bar girl from Thailand. After 6 months I confessed that I was a punter after coming back from a secret holiday to Thailand. This was supposed to split us up. Instead she just asked me to go for a checkup. Now she says that I'm the same as her and has turned into her real self, almost a nymphomaniac. And she knows I'm still friends with some touring girls. I call her my civvie gf but she's married to a Farang.
Ok give it to me 

As for your thai burd "GF' quality behaviour 
Hopefully she hoovers out said farang's wallet & your tanks

[mr.bluesky]

Splendid work, Jay. I started punting 18 months ago, and apart from re-visits I'm on 54, with a target of 100 different girls by the time 3 years is up. So I don't blame you for feeling very pleased with yourself. 

I think it has taken me about 20+ years of punting to reach this figure. Then again I do tend to stick to my favourite service providers. Quality over quantity in my case 

[Jonestown]

To do 100 individual girls in a year with no repeats and all the caveats you outline is really quite a feat, it must also mean your total punt count in the year is probably getting on for a double century, if not more - that's dedication over and above the call of duty, well done, Sir !

[signy]

We all know the old adage about women sensing men that aren't confident and being a turn-off for them. If you've fucked a girl up the arse and then jizzed down her throat a week before the office party, you'll be giving off 'different signals' for sure.

This. Forever and a day. Plus the equally well repeated "fact" that women can smell desperation a mile off. If you are getting sex whenever you want it, you will seem far less needy with civvies.

[Payyourwaymate]

Also it makes you care less, I've fobbed off advances from 6/10 or below women cos you know you'll fuck a fit whore in no time and don't see the point in pursuing them.

+1. There's too much to deal with in real life, and then adding civvy women to the mix with their emotions, issues and pointless love/mind games they bring as well to make life even more inconvenient...cannot mentally afford to do that, literally. 

[MrMatrix]

+1. There's too much to deal with in real life, and then adding civvy women to the mix with their emotions, issues and pointless love/mind games they bring as well to make life even more inconvenient...cannot mentally afford to do that, literally.

Isn't that the truth.

[County Militia]

+1. There's too much to deal with in real life, and then adding civvy women to the mix with their emotions, issues and pointless love/mind games they bring as well to make life even more inconvenient...cannot mentally afford to do that, literally.

Wow what a sad pessimistic view to have on relationships with civilian women. It's a good thing your negative thinking doesn't speak for everyone. Sorry your life is going so rough.

[Payyourwaymate]

Wow what a sad pessimistic view to have on relationships with civilian women. It's a good thing your negative thinking doesn't speak for everyone. Sorry your life is going so rough.

Sorry, you misunderstand. My life is not rough, if it was I would not be punting.... but who has the time to deal with the drama women bring? The world is in a constant state of flux; with social, economic and cultural dynamics always moving at such a fast pace now, which if not paid attention to can lead to one "falling behind the curve"....I am not a man prepared to engage in frivolous emotional exchanges that in the long run have little meaning; that is not what the life I desire to experience. I do not know if you are from a different generation from me (I would be classed as a millennial according to the pigeonhole people these days  ) but girls now are not as they were perhaps back in "your day".

There are far bigger things to focus on than dealing with the shit women bring. I do not want paint all women with the same brush but... I've seen too many cases of men been broken by women, emotionally and financially. Just look around and pay attention, it's not hard to find. Any man with sense can conduct a risk analysis and quickly realize that dealing with the caliber of women of these days is not worth the emotional or time investment. Yes, there are some women that are amazing, but I will not go out of my way to search for a needle in a haystack. If that makes me a pessimistic, cynical prick....then so be it  . 

PS: Many apologies for detracting off the main topic of the 100 girls OP of the thread. May you have good punts in the future .