Sub Services

[buddyboy92001]

If a girl advertises herself as "sub" what should be the minimum to expect?

[MancSean]

A good spanking with some implements

[Chris2x]

In my experience nothing - you need to question them about their limits, what you mean by sub is not what the girl thought when she ticked the box. It could range from agreeing to wear what you ask for, to a complete submissive who will do anything you ask to please you.

So she likes spanking? is that a few swots on the bottom during sex or to be caned to leave severe bruising - its a continuum that you need to discuss, to find out where she is along the line.

Trust that helps.

[spkmstr48]

A good spanking with some implements

No you can't assume that.

You really need to talk about what is and isn't acceptable, know limits, set safe words, calibrate your idea of soft/medium/hard with her, etc.

No simple answer, how long have you got?

[MancSean]

That's why I go to specialised subs where spanking is welcomed although not so many that will take a facial too

[davidgood]

As said by others, the OP needs to establish exactly  what the sub services offered actually are.

Also he needs to be aware that real serious subs are rare and they will generally charge a high fee.

However there are plenty dommes out there who say they will switch, as they know it brings in the punters, but in reality they still want to be in charge and are not really submissive.

If you find what you looking for, please let us know and ideally do a review.

Regards,

davidgood

[pye024]

When I'm looking for a Sub on AW, I always try to Email the WG with details of what I'm hoping to do so they know what to expect. No answer from them, I just move on.

[spkmstr48]

When I'm looking for a Sub on AW, I always try to Email the WG with details of what I'm hoping to do so they know what to expect. No answer from them, I just move on.

That's quite a good approach, to get the attention of a real sub you could even improve it by asking what she would like to get out of it. If she answers that one properly you've got the makings of a great D/s punt.

[spkmstr48]

As said by others, the OP needs to establish exactly  what the sub services offered actually are.

Also he needs to be aware that real serious subs are rare and they will generally charge a high fee.

However there are plenty dommes out there who say they will switch, as they know it brings in the punters, but in reality they still want to be in charge and are not really submissive.

If you find what you looking for, please let us know and ideally do a review.

Regards,

davidgood

Could give a good result as the Domme girl will understand what being a sub is about so as long as she's a good actress...

A potential drawback is that if she's only dommed men it might not be all you'd hoped for as male and female subs are subtly different.

[MancSean]

Try this link
External Link/Members Only
Should allow you to meet a real sub

[Clooney]

With subs or any degree of BDSM, you assume nothing.

Talking through things with them as others have said, is the key.

If any supposed sub, gets impatient or brands you a timewaster, they are no loss. They are not really a sub. They may have the odd submissive tendency but a real sub appreciates and understands the need for discourse. They should welcome it.

Also, in my experience most truly sub girls seem to be very bright and perceptive indeed. They'll understand if you are serious, novice, experienced etc. the only problem is that of they have to 'train' a new Dom it can sometimes be quite laborious for them, but most will understand and do it.

Good luck!

[lancspunter]

With subs or any degree of BDSM, you assume nothing.

Talking through things with them as others have said, is the key.

Also, in my experience most truly sub girls seem to be very bright and perceptive indeed. They'll understand if you are serious, novice, experienced etc. the only problem is that of they have to 'train' a new Dom it can sometimes be quite laborious for them, but most will understand and do it.

I totally agree with Clooney on this one. All the true submissives I have met (through AW or otherwise) have been highly intelligent and knowledgeable about the lifestyle. It is generally clear after a couple of email exchanges whether she understands what is potentially involved. I also think that the Dom too should have some experience and understanding of power exchange and the protocols that ensure a safe, consensual meeting. Communication and trust are vital ingredients.

[Clooney]

Yup.

Agreed. I've been through this at length on a similar thread. The Dom has a huge responsibility to ensure the sub's safety and happiness, and of course, her reward.

There are a great many sides to BDSM of which on familiar with a fair few. It ain't all flogging and whipping. It is about care as well as correction.

You can't really have one without the other. Otherwise it is sadism. A side of BDSM which isn't really my thing.