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Offline JPin

After reading this thread - https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=368658.0 - and thinking back to Smiths' big departure and subsequent (perhaps predictable) return, plus my own personal experience of "giving up", only to return 12 months later, I wondered if anyone would care to discuss/give some insight as to why it is a lot of men keep coming back to punting...

Obviously, there isn't one specific reason, but I'd love to know what other's think.

Is it simply habit/addiction/compulsion?

The conveniece/ease of access to pretty much any type of woman you want?

Access to sex minus all the complications that come with relationships/dating?

All of the above?

Offline big-al93

My guess/opinion is that once blokes get over the stigma of "paying for it" the realisation that transactional sex is freely available to them, we are less likely to put up with less than ideal situations/relationships than we would be if to get sex we had to find/start another relationship.

Obviously I am only talking about those who get into a new LTR and give up punting. If things aren't going well, or the sex life starts to dwindle, former punters are armed with that knowledge should they require, whether the decision is to punt on the side or end the relationship, they know they don't have to accept a less than fulfilling sex life.

Offline Herts_Outcaller

It's the oldest profession , and it'll never die out.

It gives guys that can not get any pussy at all access to the finest pussy in the land, and given that this is man's greatest desire, there's no wonder we keep coming back.

I would punt every day if I could

Offline JontyR

I think everyone is different about how they can deal with such things but I can only draw comparisons about how I have left behind other vices.

Firstly, you have to really want to give up. Again speaking personally I find that I have to have something which provides a jolt, a splash of metaphoric cold water.

Secondly, you don't have to just give something up, you have to remove yourself completely from it. All paraphenalia, all potential reminders, all interaction.

Thirdly, distraction. Find something else to do instead.

Finally, give yourself a realistic aim in terms of quitting.

So for example, smoking. I gave up following some dental work. I then removed all ashtrays, lighters, matches, papers anything.

I found that when I had cravings the ability to lose myself in something else was critical - online games such as chess and backgammon did it for me. They concentrated my mind on something else.

And finally an aim. I didn't aim to quit smoking for ever. To start with it was a day, then a week, then a month. It must be over a decade now.

With smoking it helped that all adverts are covered, smoking in pubs ceased, it's not in telly progs and films any more and they aren't in display in shops.

With punting I do wonder if I were to give up whether I'd get a craving every time I see a massage shop in some tiny sub-high street?

Offline Stevelondon

I like it.
It’s not harming anyone.
I can afford it and there’s no emotional attachments that seem to fog up everyday lives.

Finding what I like in vanilla street is such hard work. Why bother.
Why does paying for a shag in its many variations have to be dissected and thought of as being so bloody complicated.
It ain’t
« Last Edit: February 19, 2023, 10:39:28 pm by Stevelondon »

Offline Watts.E.Dunn

Come up to mid anglia, the usual choice will make you want to give it up;(..

Online Southernbloke

I have punted since I was 22 (I am 53 now) and I started punting because all the girls I met wanted commitments before putting out so I started seeing girls who advertised in the papers.
I have always carried on as I enjoy meeting girls who normally wouldn’t give me the time of day unless I was paying them.

Offline willie loman

loads of people give up, not the people who post here obviously , otherwise the girls would be busy all day every day. new punters appear, replacing punters who move on, finding a girl friend seems the main reason for leaving, followed by change in health or financial situation.

Offline Colston36

I like it.
It’s not harming anyone.
I can afford it and there’s no emotional attachments that seem to fog up everyday lives.

Finding what I like in vanilla street is such hard work. Why bother.
Why does paying for a shag in its many variations have to be dissected and thought of as being so bloody complicated.
It ain’t

I am old and perverse.. No time to waste. I can't afford weeks or months getting a woman to do what I want, which may shock a straight woman or - even harder to find - couple.

Offline alabama1

I am old and perverse.. No time to waste. I can't afford weeks or months getting a woman to do what I want, which may shock a straight woman or - even harder to find - couple.
Exactly this. The most precious commodity we all have is time, and the older we get, the more valuable it becomes.

Offline RAJEC

As a punter, once you’ve seen and experienced what it is that we do, nothing will be the same.

The ‘you know you’re a punter’ thread is a prime example of this. Many a time I’ve referenced punting related puns or activity or places and friends have cluelessly not known (or maybe they have) what the hell I'm talking about, but it’s those experiences that stay with you.

I also feel that what you learn about sex from punting is generally quite unique. I’ve had a few long term sexually uninhibited relationships, but it’s only really punting that allows you live out certain fantasies. “Real life” sex can also sometimes be quite plain in comparison.

Offline Kool Keef

Once you know it's out there & relatively easily available & you enjoy it & there's always new WG's turning up, in big towns/cities anyway, then it's very hard to give up.
That's my experience anyway.

Offline MysteryManNo.7

I've become a bit burned out by punting at the moment but it's happened before and I will return after a break to reignite the spark.

As a relatively young bloke I do it as it's just so convenient and gets me exactly what I want: intimacy and shagging gorgeous women, without any of the baggage and bullshit that comes from trying to get that from civvies plus its far cheaper in the long run.

I've honestly given up on trying to pull civvie women at this point. Modern Brit women are massively entitled and have standards that are impossible to meet. I've had relationships in the past and I'm not some hideous incel who can't get laid without escorts but it's not worth the effort and stress of modern dating to get some intimacy. Even if I meet a good woman through my hobbies or day to day life and we get into a long term relationship I can't see myself ever giving up punting.

Offline hairdownthere

I went out on a date last week, set up by a mutual friend. 

Had a good time, very nice woman, quite attractive, got a wee quick snog at the end of the night.  Even though we halved in for everything it still cost me £70, and a full night of my time

Whereas a quick 30 min punt with decent SP will cost £80, and 90 mins of my time.  I'll get my hole and wont have to listen to any pish about family/work/world, and I'll still have time to spend with friends/family/etc

Thats why I'll always be a punter

Offline Hobbit

It's easy sex and not too much work involved. Our dicks tend to control us until we master it through experience, values, discipline, and self enquiry. Unfortunately many don't or struggle to. The world is full of temptations and hookers are probably the hardest temptation once you have broken the seal. This is why I always say to people that want to punt - DON'T DO IT!

Online jamiekinkxxx

It's easy sex and not too much work involved. Our dicks tend to control us until we master it through experience, values, discipline, and self enquiry. Unfortunately many don't or struggle to. The world is full of temptations and hookers are probably the hardest temptation once you have broken the seal. This is why I always say to people that want to punt - DON'T DO IT!

100% agree. I have friends that have / do and a few other that are v tempted... like you I say Don't Do It!

Online hendrix

As long as I want sex, I'll be paying for it.

Offline Hobbit

As long as I want sex, I'll be paying for it.

That's a life sentence dude.  :D

Offline Stevelondon

100% agree. I have friends that have / do and a few other that are v tempted... like you I say Don't Do It!

I’d possibly say that so someone emotionally insecure. But let’s face it. If you want to pay for sex what’s the problem.
If you want to give it up…… then bloody give it up.

I can’t stand this feckin argument,
“It’s addictive I can’t stop”

People bleating on about “I want to stop smoking but can’t”
Cos you’re a tosser with no will power that’s why you twat.

I just don’t get this punting lark as being problematic. It’s easy, simple, enjoyable (well most of the time)

The way some folk go on about it you would think it’s some religion or whatever.
« Last Edit: February 20, 2023, 03:15:51 pm by Stevelondon »

Offline advent2016

After a medical procedure, I took some time off UK punting, took a round the world holiday, watched some depressing sport and did a little bit of V expensive, unsatisfying punting in random places.
I've come back and have decided to try a few sensual massage places to ease myself back.

Offline PumpDump

After reading this thread - https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=368658.0 - and thinking back to Smiths' big departure and subsequent (perhaps predictable) return, plus my own personal experience of "giving up", only to return 12 months later, I wondered if anyone would care to discuss/give some insight as to why it is a lot of men keep coming back to punting...

Obviously, there isn't one specific reason, but I'd love to know what other's think.

Is it simply habit/addiction/compulsion?

The conveniece/ease of access to pretty much any type of woman you want?

Access to sex minus all the complications that come with relationships/dating?

All of the above?

All of the above but for me it is the excitement leading up to punt. And you can't beat that walk in to a strange girl's bedroom who happens to be beautiful and you know you will be balls deep in her.

I too used to quit punting. I would change all my passwords on punting accounts to something random so I couldn't log in again. Then after a few months, week or sometimes days I would get horny and have to create all new accounts again plus get a new burner SIM. Now I accept I will always be a punter. A leopard never changes it's spots.
« Last Edit: February 20, 2023, 03:37:58 pm by PumpDump »

Online hendrix

That's a life sentence dude.  :D

Exactly! As long as my cock/libido is there, I'll be punting  :drinks:

Online jamiekinkxxx

I’d possibly say that so someone emotionally insecure. But let’s face it. If you want to pay for sex what’s the problem.
If you want to give it up…… then bloody give it up.

I can’t stand this feckin argument,
“It’s addictive I can’t stop”

People bleating on about “I want to stop smoking but can’t”
Cos you’re a tosser with no will power that’s why you twat.

I just don’t get this punting lark as being problematic. It’s easy, simple, enjoyable (well most of the time)

The way some folk go on about it you would think it’s some religion or whatever.

I don't disagree, but I think you need to punt with your eyes wide open and balance everything. I would veer on the side of caution on what can be an expensive hobby

Online southern punter

I've honestly given up on trying to pull civvie women at this point

it's not worth the effort and stress of modern dating to get some intimacy.

Same.  Nothing about the "dating" scene is appealing on any level.  I honestly think it must be the worst way to try and start a relationship.

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Even if I meet a good woman through my hobbies or day to day life and we get into a long term relationship I can't see myself ever giving up punting.

I would be open to a civvie relationship starting this way but punting has made me realise my sexual appetite is relatively extreme.  I can't see myself settling for infrequent vanilla sex life but I also definitely can't see myself sneaking around with the cloak and dagger routines I read on here.  And it seems unlikely I would stumble on a woman who would either match those appetites or be OK with me openly punting.  So the only conclusion is that I'll be punting until my dick stops working.

Offline Malvolio

It's the ease of paying for sex (assuming you've got some cash to spare) that keeps us in the game.

Offline akauya

I'm one of those odd blokes who are addicted to women. I go from punting, swinging, and lovers in different degrees. When I'm happy with a lover I punt less often. When I punt too much I miss the emotional intimacy of a woman, so I find lovers (yes, I know, they come with dangers if the wife finds out, etc.) Swinging is a bit between the two, having sex with women who find you somewhat attractive enough to fuck you but you don't have to pay them. It's really hard work but it's the variety that makes it exciting. Sometimes I just want to touch a hot young woman so punting gives me that pleasure.

Not sure I want to give up, libido is too strong - for now at least.
 
« Last Edit: February 21, 2023, 01:15:38 am by akauya »

Offline Hobbit

I’d possibly say that so someone emotionally insecure. But let’s face it. If you want to pay for sex what’s the problem.
If you want to give it up…… then bloody give it up.

I can’t stand this feckin argument,
“It’s addictive I can’t stop”

People bleating on about “I want to stop smoking but can’t”
Cos you’re a tosser with no will power that’s why you twat.

I just don’t get this punting lark as being problematic. It’s easy, simple, enjoyable (well most of the time)

The way some folk go on about it you would think it’s some religion or whatever.

Everything in life requires balance for it to work in harmony with everything around you. If things are not in balance then things can get chaotic. Yes, quitting something like smoking may seem easy for you but for many, it's not easy because their life is not in balance. They may have family issues, depression, work issues et cetera which are not in harmony with themselves. So it's not just about willpower or someone being a tosser. It's easy to judge from the outside but until you walk in people's shoes you don't know how difficult it is.

With regards to Punting, it also requires balance for it to be enjoyable and not destructive. Some can find that balance whereas others use it as a crutch or a means to escape. This is why I say don't do it as it can be addictive if your life is already out of harmony.

Offline luv2kiss54

Ive been punting for a very long time but i do feel  its definately now become more of a habit rather than a desire. The fees girls are now asking is also fast meaning im being priced out of the game which could be a good thing. Personally im just not going to cough up a day's pay for half hour of "fun" anymore.

Offline Cheltclient

I’ve been punting for bloody years. Always stop if in a relationship but when they invariably end, back to escorts. For the longest time, I loved it. There were always loads of options and was horny for most of them. Gosh, one 24 hour period I recall fucking three escorts.

These days, and many years into the habit, things feel a little off and different. Maybe I’m losing some of my sex drive. Options are too limited and most of the decent girls I’ve seen (I like trying new girls). Costs are excessive across the board now - seems there’s nothing below £160 these days and even some unappealing girls start at £200. When I feel the itch - trying to find a suitable girl is a nightmare and feels like too much effort. But it remains a habit and one I’ll prob never kick. Seem to be booking someone almost every quarter now, so far less prolific

Problem is, no escorts, no shagging for me :)

Offline Stevelondon

Ive been punting for a very long time but i do feel  its definately now become more of a habit rather than a desire. The fees girls are now asking is also fast meaning im being priced out of the game which could be a good thing. Personally im just not going to cough up a day's pay for half hour of "fun" anymore.

There are all kinds of different arguments as to why should I punt, why shouldn’t I punt etc etc

It’s just sex for christs sake.
If you can afford to punt and it’s what you want to do…… then punt.

This whole idea that it’s a habit and it’s not as enjoyable as it used to be……. Then don’t bloody do it.

I used to run a lot. As I got older it definitely wasn’t as enjoyable as it used to be. So I stopped. 😂

Offline Melnw6969

I’m in my 50s now and been punting since my 20s, the amount of my hard earned I’ve spent is justified to me given the release and pure pleasure punting gives me.

It’s about time this was legalised and controlled properly - think of all the additional tax generated as well plus also the enhanced well being of SPs and safety of punters.

Offline alabama1

I’m in my 50s now and been punting since my 20s, the amount of my hard earned I’ve spent is justified to me given the release and pure pleasure punting gives me.

It’s about time this was legalised and controlled properly - think of all the additional tax generated as well plus also the enhanced well being of SPs and safety of punters.
It is legal  :lol:

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I’m in my 50s now and been punting since my 20s, the amount of my hard earned I’ve spent is justified to me given the release and pure pleasure punting gives me.

It’s about time this was legalised and controlled properly - think of all the additional tax generated as well plus also the enhanced well being of SPs and safety of punters.
After punting for so long I would have thought you would know something about it, it is legal.  :unknown:

Offline alabama1

After punting for so long I would have thought you would know something about it, it is legal.  :unknown:
Maybe he will pack it in now that he knows it is legal. No more adrenaline rush.  :D

Offline hairdownthere

I dont punt anywhere near as much as I used to, there are 3 things that have caused this (excluding covid)...

1.  Choice, my preference for a curvy mature has seen quite a drop in the past few years, though there are some stalwarts that I've yet to punt.

I can address this by changing my preference (which I am slowly doing)

2.  Cash, whilst I'm more flush than I've ever been, though by no means rich, the value for money aspect is coming into it more and more.  Is £100 hh for a curvy mature really worth it?  (Thats a question aimed at me)

I can address this, by changing my preference by punting younger ladies

3.  Arsedness, in my 50's now, pretty healthy and fit, always up and about, and my libido is still pretty high, but I'd rather spend my free time doing something else I enjoy.  Is this related to my personal preferences?

I'm not sure how I can adress the point above, maybe seeing younger girls will redirect me?

But no matter what, I'll still be punting, it is addictive knowing that I can fire off a text and have a fanny on my face in a very short time

Offline Melnw6969

After punting for so long I would have thought you would know something about it, it is legal.  :unknown:

Haha - I hold my hands up, poor use of English.  I didn’t articulate myself properly, I meant to say more controlled and regulated etc.   I’ll crawl back under a rock for a bit  :D

Offline Mr Sinister

It's easy sex and not too much work involved. Our dicks tend to control us until we master it through experience, values, discipline, and self enquiry. Unfortunately many don't or struggle to. The world is full of temptations and hookers are probably the hardest temptation once you have broken the seal. This is why I always say to people that want to punt - DON'T DO IT!

Hit the nail on the head, punting is like opening Pandora's box, once you open it you're Fucked there's no putting it back in the box.

You can never really stop as you know the option will always be there you only take breaks at a time

Offline Mr Sinister

I went out on a date last week, set up by a mutual friend. 

Had a good time, very nice woman, quite attractive, got a wee quick snog at the end of the night.  Even though we halved in for everything it still cost me £70, and a full night of my time

Whereas a quick 30 min punt with decent SP will cost £80, and 90 mins of my time.  I'll get my hole and wont have to listen to any pish about family/work/world, and I'll still have time to spend with friends/family/etc

Thats why I'll always be a punter

I'm on a punting hiatus at the moment as the market is pretty dire from my point of view.

Gone back into dating civvies, I'm enjoying myself so far since I've managed to get a NSA Fwb type situation. Dating can get quite pricey as it builds up over time when you're seeing someone 1-2 times a week but it's down to you to lead the interaction in terms of spend.

As much as dating can be a headache but you can't beat a civvie woman naturally finding you attractive and the intimacy that comes with it, that's very hard to replicate seeing random prossies

Offline luv2kiss54

I’ve been punting for bloody years. Always stop if in a relationship but when they invariably end, back to escorts. For the longest time, I loved it. There were always loads of options and was horny for most of them. Gosh, one 24 hour period I recall fucking three escorts.

These days, and many years into the habit, things feel a little off and different. Maybe I’m losing some of my sex drive. Options are too limited and most of the decent girls I’ve seen (I like trying new girls). Costs are excessive across the board now - seems there’s nothing below £160 these days and even some unappealing girls start at £200. When I feel the itch - trying to find a suitable girl is a nightmare and feels like too much effort. But it remains a habit and one I’ll prob never kick. Seem to be booking someone almost every quarter now, so far less prolific

Problem is, no escorts, no shagging for me :)

Absolutely spot on and mirrors my thoughts/situation exactly.

Offline Cheltclient

Absolutely spot on and mirrors my thoughts/situation exactly.

Reassuring to know someone is on the same page. The habit doesn’t have the same appeal or excitement as it once had. But if I do not continue with the hobby, no sex for me. So as we stand, it feels like I’ve no other choice but to be a punter. At least it feels like I’m less addicted these days.

I wonder, does anyone else experience this. I start to get into a horny phase and I’m super wanting to book an escort, to the extent I find myself distracted. However, I know there are hardly any options I want to spend serious money on. So in the background, I have the cash but not itching to spend it. I spend too much time pouring over AW and really struggle to find options.  Find a girl I am tempted to fuck but not desperate to. As options are limited, there’s no same day, impulsive option and it’s all about booking in advance. I consider doing so, send a couple introductory emails, convinced I’m committed, get quite horny. During the wait, I’m wanking like a trooper, often to the images of the girl in anticipation as porn has become a little boring and it seems only escort fantasises float my boat. Then I cum and like being hit by a punch I instantly change my mind. Horniness gone. Black and white common sense returns. Not itching to see the girl. Can’t he bothered to travel. Can’t justify the inflated price. Sleep. Wake. Rinse and repeat. So I always seems to be conflicted about whether to even bother with escorts.

Can’t you tell I’m bored this afternoon :)

Offline PaulRuff

Post Nut Clarity, gotta love it!

Offline Doc Holliday


Can’t you tell I’m bored this afternoon :)

What time is your next wank due?  :D

Offline Cheltclient

What time is your next wank due?  :D

Ha ha - in these phases, could be any bloody time now!!! Would be a lot easier if I wake up with the horn, check AW, have three or four local options, fire off a text, there an hour later (no chance to wank myself into doubt) - job done! Can’t remember the last time that happened :)

Offline Kenaldo

For me it’s the -

Sex,
Then the thrill of planning for the sex,
Then the thrill of finding someone who you are looking forward to planning sex with.

Although a quick text and knickers down in less than 30 minutes also has its attractions!

 :yahoo:

Offline Tender.french.kiss

The convenience/ease of access to pretty much any type of woman you want?
+1

Offline JonasG

In a nutshell, cos punting is bloody brilliant.

Offline Bum Lovin Criminal

Can confirm, (for me anyways) the "Once a Punter, Always a Punter" is a real thing. 

Not been Punting, or peeked at Adultwork, Vivastreet, Kommons, ER, etc, not even SAAFE for 320 days.

I said it before, most punters after a certain number of punts/years will seriously struggle to pair bond, form 121 long-term exclusive

relationships.  Once tasted and loved, that punting Genie is not going back in the bottle.

However, maybe the price we have to pay for it is worth it because...





Online FLYING BLUE

There was a very specific reason (personal / family) that I began punting and at one point, I was indulging weekly.

I am single & have never dated since becoming single - I didn't want to then, I still don't want to now.

Several times over the past 10 years, I've tried to quit, but I've just never managed to last more than 2 months without some female sexual contact (even during Covid, there were the 'massage' providers).
At some point around May this year, I realised that it's been 20 years since I had any form of sexual contact that wasn't paid for - I am not ashamed of this, it suited me to do that, and as long as my daughter didn't find out, it wasn't hurting anyone but my bank balance.

I punt much less frequently these days as I'm older, now need a blue pill (which does not always do the trick), prices have gone haywire & often as not, have to travel a bloody long way to indulge with a WG who fits my (very fussy) criteria.

I guess that's the reason I fall into the category of 'once a punter, always' etc :hi:
« Last Edit: July 11, 2023, 10:19:54 am by FLYING BLUE »

Online Jonestown

I think there is a deep rooted belief in this country that if there is something you enjoy doing it must be a very bad thing and you really should stop.

Online mr.bluesky

I think there is a deep rooted belief in this country that if there is something you enjoy doing it must be a very bad thing and you really should stop.


Does that include wanking. (Asking for a friend )
 :rolleyes:
« Last Edit: July 11, 2023, 12:04:42 pm by mr.bluesky »