Massage - arousing or relaxing?

[Badboyrich]

I love to receive a massage but it always makes me feel relaxed and almost trance like.
I am fascinated with the idea of massage with HE but worry that I won't get it up. I read field reports where arousal occurs during the massage. Does everyone that enjoys a HE feel aroused by the massage as opposed to relaxed?

[Will2k]

Done well it knocks me out, done badly its pain

[donnybob]

I am nearer 70 than 60 so I am not as vigorous as I used to be, and I find it totally depends on the massage

Normal massage with no reach unders or cc swipes and on the turn I am very relaxed

Lying naked on my front with a lady half my age and her boobs raking across my back and her movements slow and sensual I will be rock hard when I turn over

[Thephoenix]

I'm only aroused by the massage if it's performed in an arousing way, with teasing, reach unders, c/c swipes etc, all with the object of arousing me with the promise of extras.
On the other hand a legit massage can be anything from relaxing to painful depending on what you ask for.

[victor989]

I had a proper thai massage and it was good. 

I had a thai massage with HE and it was not good and I felt conned. 

I had booked a 1 hour massage for £45 and later opted for HE for an extra £20. I expected a 1hour
massage followed by 10min of HE. Instead the 10min was deducted from the 1hour, giving only 50min
of massage.

The hand relief itself was very mechanical and my little soldier would not stand to attention. 10min
with pornhub was much better and completely free. I would never do HE again.

[Stevelondon]

Sensual teasing massage and the anticipation of that HE does it for me.

If I want a legitimate massage (Sciatica) then I am in a different mindset, so me getting aroused doesn’t happen.

Saying that. Yonks back I did have a four hand (The one and only time ever) as one girl was giving me the reach hinders and cc swipes. The other was doing that gentle head massage thing ........ I have to tell you I nearly dozed off it was so good.
The girl had to actually give me a shake. Had a bit of a laugh and carried on........ both down at the business end on the turnover.

[Jayne_cobb]

I’m with the op for a lot of the massages I’ve had - more relaxing than sensual and then sometimes jarring to move from that to the happy ending. I’ve never struggled to get it up though even if he’d been asleep the rest of the massage.
The proper sensual massage women though - they know what they’re doing and get you hard quickly from sensual touches and keep you hard throughout. Those meets are incredible, but the masseurs who can do that are few and far between.

[Bikerman]

I always get hard...just love the sensual teasing touches...i even get hard and aroused when i go to man for my treat of massage...he drains you...hate the massuer that stops playing once i  have cum..just carry on for few minutes

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Just FWIW;(..


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[dkn]

Done right, it's absolute bliss - the anticipation, sensual touch, the teasing erotic touches, and the business part to finish it off that can ideally be drawn out until the inevitable.

But, like all punting, done badly it can be a big disappointment.

[MrT222]

I used to be against them - my thinking was why on earth would anybody pay, let's say £70 when you can get everything for £20 more.

However, I've had a few B2B massages now and they've been great. Very sexy. Definitely recommend.

I think my ideal booking would be a B2B massage, followed by OWO, a short break and then full service. Shame though as most seem to offer one or the other.

[DocJohnson]

I used to be against them - my thinking was why on earth would anybody pay, let's say £70 when you can get everything for £20 more.

However, I've had a few B2B massages now and they've been great. Very sexy. Definitely recommend.

I think my ideal booking would be a B2B massage, followed by OWO, a short break and then full service. Shame though as most seem to offer one or the other.

+1 to this probably being my perfect combo for a meet too. However, I might actually prefer FS after a back massage and a few CC’s (ie everything before the turn). After popping from FS, I’d ideally want the SP to pick up where they left off in respect of the massage.  I’d relax nicely into a front to front B2B during my recovery phase, with some lovely deep and slow owo to get me to climax again. Ideally a quality indian head massage to finish the session, after they’ve cleaned me up with a hot towel. Possibly they could join me for a long shower and a 3rd pop by owo too if I was going for a 90-120 min meet.

But in response to the OP’s original query:- I used to be pretty excited and horny when going into a massage place if I was hoping for HE, so I’d be pretty hard from the beginning. But then I learned to chill out, appreciate the massage and allow the provider to gradually stiffen me. They have never failed to do this even when I am super relaxed during the first phase.

Part of the trick for me is to remember to point my Johnson down between my legs at the beginning when lying on my front. This is so they can brush and tickle me firm before the turn. Sometimes I forget to do this and weirdly regret not having my cock accessible to her while on my front. Weirdly perhaps, I feel it is in-polite, or too pushy, to adjust the little fella to pointing south after the massage has already begun. It would interrupt the flow too. In those situations I am quietly kicking myself and hoping for the turn to come quickly so she can touch my tackle ASAP.

[AgedCases]

If I was going for a massage it would be for relaxation purposes only. I would feel very awkward laying there hoping she will touch my prick and can toss myself off for free anyway.

[RAJEC]

Just FWIW;(..


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Great post. Shame there’s still cunts out there that will push boundaries

[stampjones]

I never relax during a massage these days. Too much expectation caused by too many of the type reported on here lol

[mr.bluesky]

I prefer my my massage to be relaxing to begin with then moving on to plenty of teasing to get me in the mood on the turn over so when she starts massaging the front I'm laying on my back sporting a boner. 

[SpaceRaiderDave]

I had booked a 1 hour massage for £45 and later opted for HE for an extra £20. I expected a 1hour
massage followed by 10min of HE. Instead the 10min was deducted from the 1hour, giving only 50min
of massage.

When you book a one hour appointment then thats what you get. If you pay for extras (Topless, Naked, HE, B2B, Oral, FS) these will always be performed within the paid time. Very ocassionaly a girl will allow you to overun the time but a much more frequent thing is the session finishes when you cum even if there is time left on the clock

[catweazle]

When you book a one hour appointment then thats what you get. If you pay for extras (Topless, Naked, HE, B2B, Oral, FS) these will always be performed within the paid time. Very ocassionaly a girl will allow you to overun the time but a much more frequent thing is the session finishes when you cum even if there is time left on the clock

Always the way that the extra services take place during the booked time. Very rarely have I had a FBSM end with the cumshot - indeed Sue at Bliss in Chester le Street does a "happy middle" and the remaining time is most relaxing.

[petermisc]

When you book a one hour appointment then thats what you get. If you pay for extras (Topless, Naked, HE, B2B, Oral, FS) these will always be performed within the paid time. Very ocassionaly a girl will allow you to overun the time but a much more frequent thing is the session finishes when you cum even if there is time left on the clock

Agreed, you are paying for extra services, not extra time.  And ideally, after you have come, there is still time for a bit of winding down massage.

[JontyR]

I find a really good legit massage can be blissful. To enter a state of true relaxation where he mind empties completely is such a rarity in this world. I find at this time that you can get aroused by just not having all the other crap the world has to deal with weighing you down. But similarly, I don't care at this point if there is nothing else on offer.

[victor989]

When you book a one hour appointment then thats what you get. If you pay for extras (Topless, Naked, HE, B2B, Oral, FS) these will always be performed within the paid time. Very ocassionaly a girl will allow you to overun the time but a much more frequent thing is the session finishes when you cum even if there is time left on the clock

I know that now, I didn't know it then. I still wont waste my money on a mechanical HE anymore.

[Dave33ws6]

I prefer my my massage to be relaxing to begin with then moving on to plenty of teasing to get me in the mood on the turn over so when she starts massaging the front I'm laying on my back sporting a boner. 

+1

[The0neAnd0nly]

I find a really good legit massage can be blissful. To enter a state of true relaxation where he mind empties completely is such a rarity in this world. I find at this time that you can get aroused by just not having all the other crap the world has to deal with weighing you down. But similarly, I don't care at this point if there is nothing else on offer.

I agree with this.

A really good massage from a lady who knows what she is doing puts me in the same state of mind as being abroad on holiday, sat by a pool with a beer in my hand. Mind completely empty, no worries at all and sometimes getting a stiffy that I try and (barely) hide 

[yorkshirepunter3333]

man thing out, lady in room.. cannot help myself it just happens , massage or no massage.

[mattmugwump]

It depends on the underwear situation - if they are on then I'm relaxed, if they are off I'm aroused... I think that is more due to the fact that I only remove them when a happy ending is guaranteed and leave them on when I've actually gone for a "real" massage in a legit place.

Now if it's a pants off situation I want the girl to tease me with cc swipes, reach unders etc. while I am on my front so that I enjoy that phase more. I hate when a girl just flips you over, rubs a bit of oil into your thighs then starts pulling at your thing... part of the excitement for me is the build up while on your front and the "will she, won't she" (even though you know she will). All the better if the HE is actually a BJ, that's the ultimate massage for me (ignoring FS at the end)

I actually remember one massage vividly that didn't quite follow this - it was in Norwich at some Thai lady's flat, lovely massage room with a proper couch, culturally appropriate art and music, bottled water etc. It was a proper Thai massage, pretty brutal but your muscles felt amazing afterwards... and her USP was that towards the end of half of the time on your back she started being a bit gentler, teased your fella a bit, then flipped you over and as kind of an apology gave the best HJ I've ever got before continuing on with the massage. I don't think I've ever had a better massage or HJ since that time, I walked back to the town centre floating on air and it felt amazing.

[belamy85]

Previous poster aside, it occurs to me that everyone gets the HJ at the end. Has anyone tried the HJ at the beginning to get that element out of the way so you can just relax deeply with the massage afterwards?

I should say my experience of massages is v limited as I normally indulge in FS.

[mattmugwump]

Previous poster aside, it occurs to me that everyone gets the HJ at the end. Has anyone tried the HJ at the beginning to get that element out of the way so you can just relax deeply with the massage afterwards?

I should say my experience of massages is v limited as I normally indulge in FS.

I only don't get the HE at the end of a massage on the few rare occasions I've been gifted a massage voucher for a reputable establishment

I've seen massage ad's that explicitly offer FS (if you want to pay the extras for it) at the start then the rest of the time for the massage... makes sense from an SPs perspective as you don't know how long the guy will take to cum, he leaves happy as he got his full time and is more likely to come back. I suppose that Thai lady I mentioned kind of does that with the HJ in the middle, means she's not having to guess how much time to leave at the end of the massage.

[Thephoenix]

Usually HJ at the end, which is why it's called happy ending, however had a few half way through, last one being at Thai massage place in Crewe.
I'd taken viagra and fitted my cock and ball ring before going into the room.

The massage was arousing and my cock was trapped underneath my body and swelling to a larger than normal erection.
As soon as I turned over and the lady saw the swollen, purple monster, she said....' Ooooh!, I'll have to sort out this big baby'.

The only problem if that happens, and I've still got half an hour left for a gentle relaxing massage, I'm likely to fall asleep, and even been known to start snoring..

[crunchy_guy]

Interesting topic.  For me it really depends what sort of massage you book.  For a legit deep tissue massage with a decent provider, an offer of a HE is not always welcome.  With a relaxing massage, the gentle touches can cause arousal and its perfectly natural to transition into a sensual happy ending.  Very few can manage this smooth transition without the awkward moment of a discussion, you getting off the table to find the required fee and trying to get back into that relaxed state again.  If you know a guaranteed HE will happen, it loses some of the excitement and build up.

[RAJEC]

The establishment should usually guide you; don’t go legit when you’re horny.

On the flip side, if you go to a guaranteed wank joint, be sure to leave some time after your massage to wind down.

I generally find that when I’m like a dog on heat, the massage is very rarely a massage. It’s more straight to work between the legs, even in fdm. Post eruption I am usually drained (balls and body) so a good solid massage is welcomed (feet, back, head - wherever I feel like it).

I only go to legit joints when I need a genuine hour of Thai or other massage to work on an issue. That for me is purely relaxing and there is no arousal. Also being legit, the kegs will stay on, so no accidental brushes etc.

[Olly Polluin]

I remember from the early 80s going for ther first time to a place in Nottingham.  It was a WsheW'ntshe session, a very good straight and relaxing massage until, without taking hold of my cock, she touched it with her hands gently at first as she passed it.  The touches became harder and harder, still without taking hold. Until the inevitable, which was intensely pleasurable. I visited three or four times, until sadly she disappeared.  She was a very attractive 30 or so year old and remained clothed throughout.

[Snunzl]

Usually HJ at the end, which is why it's called happy ending, however had a few half way through, last one being at Thai massage place in Crewe.
I'd taken viagra and fitted my cock and ball ring before going into the room.

The massage was arousing and my cock was trapped underneath my body and swelling to a larger than normal erection.
As soon as I turned over and the lady saw the swollen, purple monster, she said....' Ooooh!, I'll have to sort out this big baby'.

The only problem if that happens, and I've still got half an hour left for a gentle relaxing massage, I'm likely to fall asleep, and even been known to start snoring..

I may be wrong but aren’t those Cock and ball rings only supposed to be on for 20 mins maximum ?

[RAJEC]

I may be wrong but aren’t those Cock and ball rings only supposed to be on for 20 mins maximum ?

30 mins

[the_exile]

On balance, I would say that I find a massage more relaxing than arousing, so would if offered would have one at the end of a punt, after the sex. It can be a nice wind-down and chance for a bit of a chat with the girl.

[Thephoenix]

I may be wrong but aren’t those Cock and ball rings only supposed to be on for 20 mins maximum ?

Should be 30 mins max.

Being an ol codger I need meds and cock ring for erections.

I enjoy one hour fbsm.

If I don't put it one at the start, I have to interrupt the proceedings on turning over, sheepishly excusing myself to hobble over in the dark, without my glasses, looking a bit like Mr Magoo, fumbling through my pockets, probably dropping the flaming cock ring on the floor, which then roles under the table.
I'm then on all fours, hairy arse and bollocks in the air, trying to retrieve the little blighter.

By now, the SP has probably pissed herself laughing, any atmosphere of sensuality has vanished and the situation has developed into a farce.

And that's before I've even tried getting the big strong stretchy cock ring on, still with no glasses, without doing myself a serious injury....all in view of the masseuse  who's probably thinking.... what's this poor old bastard doing here?

So yes....30 mins maximum is recommended, but by putting it on at the start I can avoid all that palaver.

Maybe my dick will fall off. Maybe that's for the best and will save me a lot of money.

[Rentahero3000]

I feel aroused during both legit and extras massages. After legit massages just have sort myself out when I get home.

[KentAde]

Bit of both for me - depends on how legit the place is.
For example, I regularly visit a professional spa locally - where the therapists are attractive to fuck - but keeping my underwear on as per the rule seems to get my brain to know nothing can happen and I stay soft .......however, when naked at a SP or non-legit premises, then 'he' starts to engage! 

[Silver Birch]

I want the girl to tease me with cc swipes, reach unders etc. while I am on my front so that I enjoy that phase more. I hate when a girl just flips you over, rubs a bit of oil into your thighs then starts pulling at your thing... part of the excitement for me is the build up while on your front and the "will she, won't she"

I agree 100%. I always want a HE but I love the anticipation "did she mean that 'accidental' touch? Did I open my legs enough for her 'to know'?"

One benefit of agreeing you want HE from the start, the teasing often starts almost immediately, but removes a different kind of pleasure, and that is the mystery and anticpation.

In most cases I am getting aroused as soon as she starts to slide her hand up my inner thigh 

I have had many massages and only once ended the session still fully loaded. Apparently she no longer offered this service but I was still 3/4 mast on the turn, even though her fingers had not actually touched my dick or balls. She did say I could do it myself. I can't believe I went shy 

I never have any trouble getting aroused but if I did on a massage, I think I would enjoy the girl trying to make it happen. There is no pressure on you to perform.

[yorkshirepunter3333]

I agree 100%. I always want a HE but I love the anticipation "did she mean that 'accidental' touch? Did I open my legs enough for her 'to know'?"

One benefit of agreeing you want HE from the start, the teasing often starts almost immediately, but removes a different kind of pleasure, and that is the mystery and anticpation.

In most cases I am getting aroused as soon as she starts to slide her hand up my inner thigh 

I have had many massages and only once ended the session still fully loaded. Apparently she no longer offered this service but I was still 3/4 mast on the turn, even though her fingers had not actually touched my dick or balls. She did say I could do it myself. I can't believe I went shy 

I never have any trouble getting aroused but if I did on a massage, I think I would enjoy the girl trying to make it happen. There is no pressure on you to perform.

This is spot on, I have been known the finish myself in the loo