Would you have left?

[Abs]

So I had a strange punt this evening and would like to know what others think. Apologies for the essay but I think a decent bit of detail is needed. I had an hour booking with a SP I have seen before a few times and generally have received a good service.

Tonight started off the same and we had just started with OWO when she got a text. She stopped and replied to it (not ideal but I don’t mind too much as long as it’s only once or twice). She started sucking me again and again she got a text and again she stopped and replied. And then again, and again, and again. I was getting frustrated at this point and, to be fair to her, so was she. By the 7th or 8th text, she called whoever it was and just verbally abused them for a couple of minutes (she is Eastern European so I couldn’t understand what she was saying but there was no mistaking her tone) before hanging up and then she turned her attention back to me. She continued to get texts but she now ignored them.

After round 1, she sits on the edge of the bed and gets back on her phone. I’m going to need some time before round 2 so I don’t mind this again. There’s texts going back and forth rapidly and suddenly I realise that she is crying. I ask her if she is ok and she tries to smile at me and says she is fine. She puts her phone down and lies next to me. She is still tearful and I ask if she would like me to go (I wouldn’t have expected any money back) but she says no. She tells me that it’s just some family troubles. She starts snuggling up to me and I figure she needs a little comforting so I give her a cuddle and just hold her for probably about 10 minutes.

She then starts making moves to getting round 2 underway. Again I ask her if she is ok and if she is sure about this and if she wants me to leave, and again she says she’s fine and I should stay. She puts on a condom and climbs on top of me and rides me until I finish. But she is clearly somewhere else mentally and just looks really sad. She cleaned me up and I got dressed and she was just thanking me over and over again for being understanding.

So I was just wondering what others would have done in this situation? Would you have left despite her asking you to stay or would you have done as I did? I didn’t want to insist on going and perhaps upset her further, and I am wondering if she actually just needed some human contact in the moment, but I also worry that I might have taken advantage of her when she was vulnerable. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong as such, but perhaps just a little bit unseemly, for want of a better word. Your insights would be appreciated.

[jeanphillipe]

Dont get in to it with a whore and her problems bud unless you suspect human trafficking in which case alert  the relevant authorities.

[Abs]

Dont get in to it with a whore and her problems bud unless you suspect human trafficking in which case alert  the relevant authorities.

No, I don’t think trafficking is an issue based on my previous bookings with her. And I’m definitely not looking to get involved. I was just wondering what people think about whether I should have left or if it was reasonable for me to stay.

[bobby1973]

you paid you stayed no worries

[cotton]

Id have done exactly as you did apart from the mental gymnastics afterwards.

[Plan R]

You probably should've suggested a spot of anal - get her mind off things 

[Strawberry]

Does she usually reply to texts within a booking, have you agreed this is ok with her?

Otherwise if I was a customer I'd be very unhappy.

Sure you have been understanding, however doesn't sound fair on you (or her too).

[SlamBoy]

I would have done the same.

You acted as a human and treated her as one too. You asked her how she wanted to proceed, she told you, you complied. She was seemingly grateful and appreciative for that.

WGs are people with feelings too - even if they generally switch those feelings off during a punt - and even though we generally depersonalise them during the punt - she had her feelings heightened during her time with you and you responded sensitively. Good lad. Fair play to you. And ignore the macho bollocks some will offer up on this thread. 

[dboy74]

I would have left


.......her a negative on here.

[RedKettle]

I would have done the same.

You acted as a human and treated her as one too. You asked her how she wanted to proceed, she told you, you complied. She was seemingly grateful and appreciative for that.

WGs are people with feelings too - even if they generally switch those feelings off during a punt - and even though we generally depersonalise them during the punt - she had her feelings heightened during her time with you and you responded sensitively. Good lad. Fair play to you. And ignore the macho bollocks some will offer up on this thread. 

Yep I was about to put this.

[SlamBoy]

Yep I was about to put this.

 

[bob the knob]

there is no right or wrong thing to do here,  just do what works for you as a person,  just be the person you are  and dont worry about it afterwards

[CheeseBoard]

Sounds like the news wasnt bad enough for her to call time and give you some or all of your money back. She should have either have called time or turned her phone on silent.  Dont forget she is getting your hard earned.  I get the sentiment but a punt should be with your leaving with a spring in your step, not pondering if you did the right thing or not.

Will you see her again?

[Foxtail17]

Does she usually reply to texts within a booking, have you agreed this is ok with her?

Otherwise if I was a customer I'd be very unhappy.

Sure you have been understanding, however doesn't sound fair on you (or her too).

I now have a policy of giving at least a neutral if the escort interrupts my time by going on her phone, a neg if it happens more than once.

[Grumpy Pumpy]

Interesting dilemma.

No right or wrong answer to this. But I'm siding with those who think you handled it about right.

[Cuntminion]

I don't know if I'd leave as already paid and services sort of delivered

I wouldn't be back though if she can't keep if her phone

[Abs]

Thanks for all the replies.

Having slept on it, I already felt better about what happened but it’s reassuring that others agree that I behaved reasonably

[Abs]

Does she usually reply to texts within a booking, have you agreed this is ok with her?

Otherwise if I was a customer I'd be very unhappy.

Sure you have been understanding, however doesn't sound fair on you (or her too).

It’s never been agreed about her texting but it has happened in our previous meets as well, but only like 1 or 2 texts. What happened last night was not usual. I am generally quite relaxed about texting as long as it is at the start or in between rounds 1 and 2 and not taking the piss (which last night was but obviously it seems there were some extenuating circumstances).

Will you see her again?

I probably will. This seems to be a freak incident based on my prior experience with her. It’s possible I just got lucky with her in the past though.

[Culverin]

I'd have done the same. Everyone has a bad day once in a while, and it's not always possible to completely conceal that from customers - this is just as true if you're working in a shop or something.

You asked her if she wanted to call time, fair enough. It was her choice not to, so there it is

[scutty brown]

only other thing you could have done is ask if someone was threatening / forcing her and if she needed help getting away. Unlikely she'd say yes, but at least you would have tried.
If there was any doubt about her safety the next step should be a call to the police, but if it really was just a family problem thats hardly appropriate. All you can do is play it as you think best at the time, just be aware of all possibilities

[AnthG]

So I was just wondering what others would have done in this situation? Would you have left despite her asking you to stay or would you have done as I did?

Not left, but definitely post a negative.

She got upset as she was reading texts in your paid for time. If she waited till the booking was over to read them this wouldn't have happened.

By the 7th or 8th text, she called whoever it was and just verbally abused them for a couple of minutes

That is insane levels of timewasting

[MrMatrix]

So who was she OP and why no review and of course the Neg to go with it.

[OakTree]

Not left, but definitely post a negative.

She got upset as she was reading texts in your paid for time. If she waited till the booking was over to read them this wouldn't have happened.

That is insane levels of timewasting

Totally agree. She could of done this in her own time or if not then ended the session and handed your money back.

[Payyourwaymate]

You are very reasonable OP. Not 100% sure on what I would have done, probably stayed but would have been fuming inside at my unfortunate timing for this happening on my hour.

[Kingy28]

You should review her. Straight red for me

[Abs]

You are very reasonable OP. Not 100% sure on what I would have done, probably stayed but would have been fuming inside at my unfortunate timing for this happening on my hour.

Yeah, I was pretty pissed off at the timing, but to be clear I don’t blame her for that. Sometimes shit happens.

A number of people have suggested I put a review up. The link to her profile is below. I have previously reviewed her with a positive. I’m not going to add this as a review as I think this was just a freak incident and not reflective of her usual level of service (her reviews are a bit of a mixed bag so obviously others rate her service differently but I’ve never had any problems). But at least with the link posted this info will show up if someone searches for her.

Just to clarify, I understand some people think I should red card her for even checking her texts in a booking. I understand where you’re coming from but I personally don’t mind this as long as she doesn’t take the piss so I wouldn’t red card her straight away just for that. Yes, what happened yesterday (before she started crying) did take the piss but it looks like there were extenuating circumstances and this is not usual for her in my experience. I will probably see her again and if it happens again I will review her negatively at that point.

The link: External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only

[tynetunnel]

I’d have done the same as you OP 

[tesla]

Just to clarify, I understand some people think I should red card her for even checking her texts in a booking.

The link: External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only

yes you should, her phone should not have been visible during the booking, never mind answered! text or voice

[mrfishyfoo]

Even I wouldn't redcard the lass in this circumstance. 

Shit happens and FWIW IMHO you acted like a gentleman. 

[winkywanky]

Constantly on her phone? I'd definitely have left.

Although you have to weight his up with whether you thought you'd be able to get your money back.

[Abs]

Even I wouldn't redcard the lass in this circumstance. 

Shit happens and FWIW IMHO you acted like a gentleman. 

 

[2 pair]

A different one to answer, what we would have done, in that situation.
Especially, that it is someone, you've seen before.
The only answer, I do know is, I wouldn't be going back, unless there was a valid reason, with a possible discount.

[mrfishyfoo]

A different one to answer, what we would have done, in that situation.
Especially, that it is someone, you've seen before.
The only answer, I do know is, I wouldn't be going back, unless there was a valid reason, with a possible discount.

Given that it was a repeat, and not a first, punt there's familiarity with the lass. I've asked her if she's ok to continue and she's said yes. As long as I got what I wanted and wasn't robbed on time I'd have let her get away with it. Well I do like fucking her, which is why I've gone back, so I don't want to piss on my own chips by walking do I. 

If it was a first punt I'd have demanded a refund and then walked and then redcarded her on here. 

[Abs]

Given that it was a repeat, and not a first, punt there's familiarity with the lass. I've asked her if she's ok to continue and she's said yes. As long as I got what I wanted and wasn't robbed on time I'd have let her get away with it. Well I do like fucking her, which is why I've gone back, so I don't want to piss on my own chips by walking do I. 

If it was a first punt I'd have demanded a refund and then walked and then redcarded her on here. 

I think this pretty much sums up what I’m thinking, just expressed more clearly than I did

[The Owl]

So I had a strange punt this evening and would like to know what others think. Apologies for the essay but I think a decent bit of detail is needed. I had an hour booking with a SP I have seen before a few times and generally have received a good service.

Tonight started off the same and we had just started with OWO when she got a text. She stopped and replied to it (not ideal but I don’t mind too much as long as it’s only once or twice). She started sucking me again and again she got a text and again she stopped and replied. And then again, and again, and again. I was getting frustrated at this point and, to be fair to her, so was she. By the 7th or 8th text, she called whoever it was and just verbally abused them for a couple of minutes (she is Eastern European so I couldn’t understand what she was saying but there was no mistaking her tone) before hanging up and then she turned her attention back to me. She continued to get texts but she now ignored them.

After round 1, she sits on the edge of the bed and gets back on her phone. I’m going to need some time before round 2 so I don’t mind this again. There’s texts going back and forth rapidly and suddenly I realise that she is crying. I ask her if she is ok and she tries to smile at me and says she is fine. She puts her phone down and lies next to me. She is still tearful and I ask if she would like me to go (I wouldn’t have expected any money back) but she says no. She tells me that it’s just some family troubles. She starts snuggling up to me and I figure she needs a little comforting so I give her a cuddle and just hold her for probably about 10 minutes.

She then starts making moves to getting round 2 underway. Again I ask her if she is ok and if she is sure about this and if she wants me to leave, and again she says she’s fine and I should stay. She puts on a condom and climbs on top of me and rides me until I finish. But she is clearly somewhere else mentally and just looks really sad. She cleaned me up and I got dressed and she was just thanking me over and over again for being understanding.

So I was just wondering what others would have done in this situation? Would you have left despite her asking you to stay or would you have done as I did? I didn’t want to insist on going and perhaps upset her further, and I am wondering if she actually just needed some human contact in the moment, but I also worry that I might have taken advantage of her when she was vulnerable. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong as such, but perhaps just a little bit unseemly, for want of a better word. Your insights would be appreciated.

Sounds rather unpleasant, however I don't feel like you took advantage of her as you asked her repeatedly if she wanted you to go and it seems like she instigated sex with you after the phone call. I kind of think you gave her a rather human moment which she may have needed after a difficult phone call. I couldn't say if I'd have walked or not simply because I wasn't there in the moment.

However she was working and taking texts, taking a call whilst she was supposed to be working, earning the fee you had paid her. Obviously there were issues for her but she did drag you in to them by not having a decent work/personal life boundary in place.

As for the sex and her looking elsewhere, receiving unwanted news or whatever can put people in a disassociated state as they try to deal with something unpleasant, but escorts can also deliberately disassociate themselves during sex with clients anyway. It's a tactic that keeps some of them mentally safer in the moment. If you've had sex with her before and she was different then it was probably the texts and phone calls.

It's entirely up to you whether or not you review the escort and give her a negative. The punter side of me thinks she failed to offer you a proper session by having her phone running and focussing on that when she should have been focussed on you, but I'd get it if you felt like you'd be kicking her when she was down by giving her a negative review.

Your money, your decision.

[s0whatsnew?]

You clearly like her a lot, and thats great.   I would think she also likes and appreciates you just as much.  This  mutuality between you gives you the right to question her quite strongly, even insisting,  on getting an explanation that feels like the truth.  Some will say its none of your business and thats valid.  But i think that you yourself won't be happy until you know something more.  The risk, tho, is that you get drawn into her life more than you expected.  Its called relationship.   Good luck.   

[SlamBoy]

You clearly like her a lot, and thats great.   I would think she also likes and appreciates you just as much.  This  mutuality between you gives you the right to question her quite strongly, even insisting,  on getting an explanation that feels like the truth.  Some will say its none of your business and thats valid.  But i think that you yourself won't be happy until you know something more.  The risk, tho, is that you get drawn into her life more than you expected.  Its called relationship.   Good luck.   

WTF are you talking about? This girl obviously had a family emergency or some other emotionally upsetting event to deal with. Just because some bloke pays to knob her for an hour, it does not give him "the right" to "question her quite strongly, even "insisting" about what it was in her personal life that was troubling her so much. What an absolutely ludicrous thing to say - and an even more ludicrous thing to think.

He paid her for her time and they both resolved the issue in a sensitive and mature way, without asserting non-existent "rights" with "strong questioning" and "insistence" - yours is probably the most ridiculous post I have read in my years on this forum. It really makes you wonder what sort of people are out there 

[Abs]

You clearly like her a lot, and thats great.   I would think she also likes and appreciates you just as much.  This  mutuality between you gives you the right to question her quite strongly, even insisting,  on getting an explanation that feels like the truth.  Some will say its none of your business and thats valid.  But i think that you yourself won't be happy until you know something more.  The risk, tho, is that you get drawn into her life more than you expected.  Its called relationship.   Good luck.   

WTF are you talking about? This girl obviously had a family emergency or some other emotionally upsetting event to deal with. Just because some bloke pays to knob her for an hour, it does not give him "the right" to "question her quite strongly, even "insisting" about what it was in her personal life that was troubling her so much. What an absolutely ludicrous thing to say - and an even more ludicrous thing to think.

He paid her for her time and they both resolved the issue in a sensitive and mature way, without asserting non-existent "rights" with "strong questioning" and "insistence" - yours is probably the most ridiculous post I have read in my years on this forum. It really makes you wonder what sort of people are out there 

Thanks SlamBoy. I was wondering how to tactfully reply to that but you seem to have pretty much nailed it.

s0whatsnew - even if I did have some sort of right to know more, I’m really not interested in any sort of ‘relationship’.

[Bonker]

Hmmm
'family troubles' and crying. That would worry me. I couldn't have sex with a WG that was upset even if she told me to carry on.

I couldn't help but speculate - illness, rows, being trafficked...
Was it sergei calling?

[Fuzzyduck]

Hmmm
'family troubles' and crying. That would worry me. I couldn't have sex with a WG that was upset even if she told me to carry on.

I couldn't help but speculate - illness, rows, being trafficked...
Was it sergei calling?

+1

No-one I see more than a couple of times uses their phone during punts. I wouldn't go back if any thought that behaviour was acceptable. In the scenario that a reg was behaving out of character, making several communications to someone else (for whatever reason) and getting distressed, I'd terminate the booking. Getting remotely involved in the drama is a no-no, if only to avoid feeling like too much of a shit asking for money back.

Quite frankly she shouldn't have been working but fair play to her for trying to deliver on her end of the contract. Family troubles? She wouldn't be the first SP to say that when there's something else going on.

Props also to OP for posting her link. Personally I would have posted a neutral for this.

[brandonpete]

Loads of alarm bells ringing here..."I will go back and see her" quote.....toooooo familiar with her....you've sort of penetrated the customer/seller relationship, by quite rightly asking about her as an individual.

[Hobbit]

Texting or using a phone during a punt is very bad and I would never see them again and give them a negative review, without a question of doubt. However, I had a similar thing happened to me over 20 years ago when I used to see a very popular girl that used to work in a brothel. We had just started the session when she started crying, I asked her what happened and as I had been seeing her for a few weeks she felt comfortable telling me. Basically, she had an argument with her boyfriend in the morning who wanted to have sex with her and because she was tired she said no maybe later and he then got upset and they had an argument.

Long story short, I still went ahead with the session as she was okay after having expressed herself. On the long walk home, I thought about what she said then and I felt extremely sorry for her and decided never to see her again.. I came close to never punting again after that day, but obviously, I didn't quit.

[boffin]

I would have walked the minute that she made the phone call. That is a red line for me.

[king tarzan]

Texting or using a phone during a punt is very bad and I would never see them again and give them a negative review, without a question of doubt. However, I had a similar thing happened to me over 20 years ago when I used to see a very popular girl that used to work in a brothel. We had just started the session when she started crying, I asked her what happened and as I had been seeing her for a few weeks she felt comfortable telling me. Basically, she had an argument with her boyfriend in the morning who wanted to have sex with her and because she was tired she said no maybe later and he then got upset and they had an argument.

Long story short, I still went ahead with the session as she was okay after having expressed herself. On the long walk home, I thought about what she said then and I felt extremely sorry for her and decided never to see her again.. I came close to never punting again after that day, but obviously, I didn't quit.

we are paying for sex.. not to hear about there lovers tiffs with there boyfriends/husbands... or anything else that makes them upset..
had that experience once years back, don't ever want that repeated ever again..
I want sex.. I'm not a counselling dispensing service..

[Hobbit]

we are paying for sex.. not to hear about there lovers tiffs with there boyfriends/husbands... or anything else that makes them upset..
had that experience once years back, don't ever want that repeated ever again..
I want sex.. I'm not a counselling dispensing service..

Maybe we should start charging them for sound advice we give and all the bullshit we hear, We would probably make a fortune. 

[Abs]

Update. I’ve since seen this girl again. She apologised for what happened the last time and was consistent with her story of family troubles. Service was back up to her usual standard so I left happy.

[2 pair]

Update. I’ve since seen this girl again. She apologised for what happened the last time and was consistent with her story of family troubles. Service was back up to her usual standard so I left happy.

That's good to hear.
Nothing worse,to have a regular, that might have you looking around again.
Always handy, to have a back up regular.
Shame for me, mine quite about a year back.

[dynatron]

well this is a very hard question to answer-point is you stayed and made your choice which is fine-maybe some would have left-i couldant realy say what i would have done to be honest-we all have to make decisions in our daily life and sometimes on the spur of the moment so as long as you were happy with staying then all good

[Strawberry]

Update. I’ve since seen this girl again. She apologised for what happened the last time and was consistent with her story of family troubles. Service was back up to her usual standard so I left happy.

I am glad everything is back to normal for both of you, doesn't bode well if one person feels vulnerable - which we all are at some time.

[tesla]

Update. I’ve since seen this girl again. She apologised for what happened the last time and was consistent with her story of family troubles. Service was back up to her usual standard so I left happy.

all well and good as long as you are happy, but I still feel that her phone should not be visible or answered in any way whilst she is on your clock,