I must have been very unlucky with some of the civvies I met when I was younger. Passive, it was like shagging a corpse, but I didn't know any better.
Agree with you on all points. The scenario you listed does sound very exciting though - even the insults, I tend to insult back and be cheeky which might not be the desired response. I wouldn't class myself as anywhere near a Brat Tamer or even working towards it though. I can get a bit dark as well and as I've said before it is like flicking a switch with me where I just get lost in the moment\roleplay. I have a rough idea of where it is going and follow the girl as well and play off her.
I can relate to the latter. I've had to bin a few girls off as the replies were very vague or they half answered what was actually available. Weirdest one was a girl who offered a lot of kinky services, but wouldn't kiss which was a total deal breaker. In all honesty I trust my gut instinct and as everybody knows punter or escort - you never know what the person you meet will be like on the day. There's people who have replied to this thread who are a lot more experienced than I am both you and Midori for a start as well as some of the punters, but I am having a lot of fun learning.
Ah, the dead fish, I didn't know men could be like that until I encountered one. A civvie I ended up throwing out as like you say, it was like shagging a corpse. Put his hand on my head during a bj, flop back on the bed, on my hips in cowgirl, flop back on the bed. No sounds, eyes shut.
Even had the gall to complain he was enjoying it when I told him to put his pants back on.
Fine if you're paying for it, but otherwise give some feedback.
I like the insulting back, but both sides have to be prepared for when things get personal and recognise it's part of the fun, not actually meant. Getting lost can be dangerous there. Or really any roleplay/bdsm, as you have to be attuned to the other's body language. And be prepared to stop at the drop of a hat if either party needs to stop.
I've only called stop occasionally, mostly with civvies. But twice with punters. One of those punters I have to take some blame for, I should have cancelled on him, he was very erratic and clearly confusing me with someone else during the run up. But we live and learn. Much like with the incidences I've had with civvies that don't obey limits.
Any one who offers sub services should absolutely be specific about what they offer, any vagueness can lead to problems. Including any physical or medical limitations. Yes, maybe it's not sexy, but it's important for both parties safety and enjoyment.
It establishes that there's a level of frank conversation can occur. And you both know what to do if something goes wrong, as well as aftercare (very important, especially with a heavy scene). Without that clear discussion, almost always someone will leave the scene with a bad taste in their mouth.
Much like with discretionary services, explicitly state what the conditions are, then it's clear what the boundaries are. Otherwise at least one party is going in blind, which is never a good thing.