Helping out a previous regular

[stevedave]

I can't believe anyone would even consider doing this.

You're not their sugar daddy, you're just a punter who they've thought is a.soft touch.

Name and shame.

[Glasgow28]

Appreciate its tough times but no, never. Highly unlikely you will get it back, and how many other regulars have they asked. Just seems they are taking advantage of you. I wouldn't do and tbh I'd cut them off / stop meeting them.

[shagmore]

Defiantly not, most of these WG's have notes on their AW page saying don't ask for discounts etc, so do you expect to be graced with any favours when this shite is all over, no, they will just charge the same, and offer the same service
They make enough per day/ week so should like any normal person put money aside for bad times.

[Subboy1980]

They just take advantage of weak fluffy regulars.  They don't give a damn about you.  They make out your the "one" when in actual fact they probably have another 6 regulars they will be doing the same too.  Little fucking chancers.  Just pay your rate and fuck off, don't get dragged into their poverty pleas.

[PaulRuff]

They just take advantage of weak fluffy regulars.  They don't give a damn about you.  They make out your the "one" when in actual fact they probably have another 6 regulars they will be doing the same too.  Little fucking chancers.  Just pay your rate and fuck off, don't get dragged into their poverty pleas.

+1.

Try telling a regular that you're worried about losing your job and can you have a 50% discount or even free sessions until you know you're safe from redundancy... you'll either be laughed at or instantly blocked.

At an hourly rate from £100-£160 they should have plenty of savings to tide them over the hard times...most of us manage that on an hourly rate one-tenth of that they enjoy!

[Lp1975]

An old regular asked for some financial help, gave a long list of reasons.

We agreed to some sort of pre-payment arrangement - which kind of worked. But the problem is that you know if you want to see her at a certain time, and if there is something else making an enquiry, she would give the time to the someone else bringing the cash that day.

So it felt a bit upside down - I was genuinely happy to help out (only in amounts that I am ready to write off), but instead of getting better treated, I became a second class customer!

So I would say it’s generally not a good idea.

[Subboy1980]

An old regular asked for some financial help, gave a long list of reasons.

We agreed to some sort of pre-payment arrangement - which kind of worked. But the problem is that you know if you want to see her at a certain time, and if there is something else making an enquiry, she would give the time to the someone else bringing the cash that day.

So it felt a bit upside down - I was genuinely happy to help out (only in amounts that I am ready to write off), but instead of getting better treated, I became a second class customer!

So I would say it’s generally not a good idea.

Totally!  When I helped out a reg I found the service became sloppy, she became dull in bed and it was just a chore.  I felt like I was doing all the running around for her and getting nothing back in return.  They just don't care, they do this for easy money.  I will never help a wg again, treated like a 2nd class citizen.  Its not worth it because they will be doing the same thing to their other regs - chances!

[king tarzan]

The way l look at it..
If you want to be a wet soppy puss then be one..

If you respect your money and your own intelligence just ignore..

It's pay fuck Bye bye

Some guys just want to firm friendship's, relationships.. go ahead and enjoy if that's your liking..

[PaulRuff]

Totally!  When I helped out a reg I found the service became sloppy, she became dull in bed and it was just a chore.  I felt like I was doing all the running around for her and getting nothing back in return.  They just don't care, they do this for easy money.  I will never help a wg again, treated like a 2nd class citizen.  Its not worth it because they will be doing the same thing to their other regs - chances!

Just like the wife! 

[ulstersubbie]

At an hourly rate from £100-£160 they should have plenty of savings to tide them over the hard times...most of us manage that on an hourly rate one-tenth of that they enjoy!

Pleading poverty when you've been charging those rates is indeed taking the proverbial. Put savings aside like the rest of us, how many Gucci handbags does a woman really need?

[no2punter]

No. This pandemic has been hard on everyone, especially those on much lower salaries than most WGs.

Prostitutes should’ve saved up when the times were good instead of living large.

[Nicemaan]

Thanks All....

Lots of valid points

I'll do my best not to be a "Borris" ...

[JonasG]

Staggered anyone can be so naive to actually lend a WG money. Honestly baffling. Getting fleeced by a prostitute ffs, come on think about it!

I'd actually be offended if one asked me, cos she actually thinks I might be or look daft enough to agree lol.

They essentially think you're a muppet of the highest order and you've fell for it by actually giving it to them.

Irrelevant how close you may think you two are.

[Tender.french.kiss]

No chance!!  ...  These wgs get paid a lot of money so there is no reason for them to be fucking  skint or have no savings!!  Lies, lies and lies they just prey on fluffy clients who will give them easy money. 

100% agree.
No chance. These girls can make many thousands a months. They probably earn more than most of us.
So if they blow it all, tough cookie. You have no excuse to be broke and without savings.
As other so rightly put it, would they fuck you for free if you had a dire patch ? No way.
It's all about business.
Could well be a genuine girl who's not been cautious enough with her money, but could also be (and that's more like my opinion) a girl who's found an easy way to appeal to the white knight side of some of us.

[Tender.french.kiss]

... I have had 2 previous regulars ask me if I would be prepared to help them out

2, not 1.
Might your UKP nickname have been unconsciously chosen to reflect your personality ... and these 2 businesswomen (after all that's what WGs are) have felt it and are trying to exploit it?

[Rochelle]

Totally!  When I helped out a reg I found the service became sloppy, she became dull in bed and it was just a chore.  I felt like I was doing all the running around for her and getting nothing back in return.  They just don't care, they do this for easy money.  I will never help a wg again, treated like a 2nd class citizen.  Its not worth it because they will be doing the same thing to their other regs - chances!

Don't you think it's time to get over it and stop lumping all escorts in one basket?

[Thephoenix]

Don't you think it's time to get over it and stop lumping all escorts in one basket?

Best of luck with that one Rochelle.

[Rochelle]

The ignorance on this thread is astounding. Yes, we're all rolling in it.

[Tender.french.kiss]

Quote from: victor989 on Yesterday at 02:22:11 pm
How much money did they ask you for ?

£250.

In the grand scheme of things, 250 isn't much. Won't cover a month rent, so I see it more like a first step from her to see 'can I get this out of him' with the intention later to come back and leverage that budding EAS to greater heights.

[Bonker]

Are you really astounded? Or just disappointed?

[Mr_Shins]

Don't you think it's time to get over it and stop lumping all escorts in one basket?

It's not lumping together, it's setting boundary rules between ourselves and escorts and saying we shouldn't cross them.

One of those is not handing over money unless it's for a paid session at the time it is taking place.

[Rochelle]

It's not lumping together, it's setting boundary rules between ourselves and escorts and saying we shouldn't cross them.

One of those is not handing over money unless it's for a paid session at the time it is taking place.

You've blocked me on the other site, so no need to respond to me here.

[Rochelle]

Are you really astounded? Or just disappointed?

I'm disappointed because I was just about to send a mass message asking for money.

[southcoastpunter]

new members joining here must think what a load of old cynics we all are. Whilst a number, maybe the majority,  of WG's are like the way they have been portrayed in these thread (and they have made us both streetwise and cynical) it is important to remember that not ALL WG's are like that.

I have, in the past, paid a regular a bit in advance on a few occasions - (just the one WG but 3 or 4 time).  She was a mum of 3 struggling to get by, and a part time WG when the kids were at school.  She lived in an area where people noticed coming and goings so i fully believed her when she said she saw just one guy a day and for no more than 3 days per week so was not "linning them up" as some guys would have you believe. On a couple of occasions she asked if I could pay part of my next session in advance - for the electric meter or similar. I did on about 4 occasions and never had any problems at all and no fall off in service level - in fact, if anything the other way. Even better!

This was in the days of being about to pay £50 in cash into her bank account and it worked well for me. But I would not have done that for others. well maybe just one other regular - but it was never asked.

so like most other things, ask yourself the question - do you trust her completely? And like gambling, never risk more than you can afford to loose if it goes belly up!

[Buttons]

Here’s an idea you might think about trying OP, if you are genuinely considering helping this lady out. Maybe you are struggling with your conscience a bit, and who could blame you for just being a nice guy.

Call the lady up and say you are willing to help her, but you don’t feel comfortable just giving her money. Offer to spend £50 in the supermarket on some staple supplies. Bread, soup, cereals, tea etc etc. Nothing like booze, fags or chocolate. Just the basic types of things we all have kicking around.

I bet you £1 that all of a sudden she will lose interest or come up with a story to justify why she needs cash. If she’s genuinely struggling you will know by her response and then if you decide to go ahead you will have made a difference for her which you get to feel good about. If she starts on the excuses and still wants cash, I’m sure you can make your own mind up about her real motivation 

[Mr_Shins]

You've blocked me on the other site, so no need to respond to me here.

Irrelevant, these are two completely different sites, and my response here is to the point you made and not aimed personally at you.

[Rochelle]

Hi All

Pretty shit times for a lot of people... I have had 2 previous regulars ask me if I would be prepared to help them out

One I know is probably just not happy to punt right now for health reasons, and the other might just be not getting regular work

Would you help if you could ?

Thanks all

May I ask how much they asked for? Did they say what they needed it for?

[stevedave]

The ignorance on this thread is astounding. Yes, we're all rolling in it.

And all punters are?

[Rochelle]

And all punters are?

Did I imply that? No.

[ulstersubbie]

The ignorance on this thread is astounding. Yes, we're all rolling in it.

Some wgs are financially savvy, a lot are not. Time isn't kind to women in this business, you need to be thinking long term if you are going to survive, surely you must know this.

[Lou2019]

Yes but not all wgs share the same stance as you on this matter.  Look at all the punters on here who have been deceived by some of these wgs.  Many of these wgs are quite good at pleading the poverty line, when infact are just taking advantage of their good regulars.

sorry to sound heartless but all the fool them to allow themselves to be taken advance of

[Fac51]

Here’s an idea you might think about trying OP, if you are genuinely considering helping this lady out. Maybe you are struggling with your conscience a bit, and who could blame you for just being a nice guy.

Call the lady up and say you are willing to help her, but you don’t feel comfortable just giving her money. Offer to spend £50 in the supermarket on some staple supplies. Bread, soup, cereals, tea etc etc. Nothing like booze, fags or chocolate. Just the basic types of things we all have kicking around.

I bet you £1 that all of a sudden she will lose interest or come up with a story to justify why she needs cash. If she’s genuinely struggling you will know by her response and then if you decide to go ahead you will have made a difference for her which you get to feel good about. If she starts on the excuses and still wants cash, I’m sure you can make your own mind up about her real motivation 

That's a great idea...

I still wouldn't offer this myself though

[Fkk]

Don’t be fooled by their hard luck stories. Most of the time it is bullshit. Modern day con artists. Yes they provide a good service and get paid handsomely.

They should be wise enough to save their money. As the saying goes easy come, easy to.
We all earn our money and we all have choices.

Also they get paid in cash and you are telling me they all pay there taxes and national insurance. Come guys don’t lend them nothing.

[lewisjones23]

None should be suffering too bad in the covid crisis as they’ll have paid the right tax and qualify for the 80% grants 

[king tarzan]

The ignorance on this thread is astounding. Yes, we're all rolling in it.

Yes I whole heartedly agree👍👍

[king tarzan]

Don’t be fooled by their hard luck stories. Most of the time it is bullshit. Modern day con artists. Yes they provide a good service and get paid handsomely.

They should be wise enough to save their money. As the saying goes easy come, easy to.
We all earn our money and we all have choices.

Also they get paid in cash and you are telling me they all pay there taxes and national insurance. Come guys don’t lend them nothing.

Don't say that please..
Prada, Gucci, Chanel etc etc they would suffer significant amount of losses..

[spiralnotebook]

I until relatively recently had a regular who completely out of the blue texted me asking to borrow some money, I politely declined, she then politely declined any further bookings. I was surprised she asked me but my spidey senses were correct methinks.

[JontyR]

Sorry if you've mentioned this elsewhere OP but "previous regulars", did you stop seeing them or is it COVID?

It's up to you how you treat the request. I'd suggest you need to treat it as any other request to money. Would you give to a beggar in a doorway? Would you give to a bucket clanging person in fancy dress for a kiddy charity? Would you give to some annoyance in the office wanting to bike ride round india for the deaf? Would you give to some bloke in the pub on the promise of a return on payday?

I'd understand offering a beggar on the street a sandwich instead of cash, but asking someone who you have a relationship of any kind (not romantic) for control over the money on what you spend it on is a weird level of control and power. That could screw it over much more than refusal.

If you need the money back then its a gamble which is high risk with a limited risk of return beyond a warm fuzzy feeling. If you don't then can you lend me £50?

As always, listen to the advice and then do what you were going to do anyway. You only have to answer to yourself. Some lessons are more expensive to learn than others though.

[winkywanky]

I until relatively recently had a regular who completely out of the blue texted me asking to borrow some money, I politely declined, she then politely declined any further bookings. I was surprised she asked me but my spidey senses were correct methinks.

What great business sense she had then 

[Whiteknight]

They can still fuck you at least and earn the money. Simple.

[mradventures]

you really shouldnt lend woman - any women more than you can afford to lose, because its like 95% certain you will.

:/

[Ailee]

Here’s an idea you might think about trying OP, if you are genuinely considering helping this lady out. Maybe you are struggling with your conscience a bit, and who could blame you for just being a nice guy.

Call the lady up and say you are willing to help her, but you don’t feel comfortable just giving her money. Offer to spend £50 in the supermarket on some staple supplies. Bread, soup, cereals, tea etc etc. Nothing like booze, fags or chocolate. Just the basic types of things we all have kicking around.

I bet you £1 that all of a sudden she will lose interest or come up with a story to justify why she needs cash. If she’s genuinely struggling you will know by her response and then if you decide to go ahead you will have made a difference for her which you get to feel good about. If she starts on the excuses and still wants cash, I’m sure you can make your own mind up about her real motivation 

Never intended to actually comment on this site, I was just being nosey.... BUT..... CHOCOLATE IS A STAPLE AND A NECESSITY!!! 

[cotton]

That's a great idea...

I still wouldn't offer this myself though

Personally id say offering to buy £50 of food isnt a good idea.  First what if she accepts it , your £50 down.  And secondly what if she comes up with a good reason why she needs £50 cash not £50 food then youve put yourself in a hole where arguement-wise its dificult to get out of ,  like she appreciates you offering to give her £50 for food , she new she could rely on you  but she can get food free from the food bank but she really needs £50 cash for (insert devious hooker reason here)
At which point youl be wishing you hadnt tried to out-clever a hooker and wish youd just said no.

[Jeffe]

Never intended to actually comment on this site, I was just being nosey.... BUT..... CHOCOLATE IS A STAPLE AND A NECESSITY!!! 

If you never intended then what are you doing here?! Just sponging off other peoples advice and recommendations? If you don’t contribute then don’t be surprised if a banning is coming your way

[CheeseBoard]

Never intended to actually comment on this site, I was just being nosey.... BUT..... CHOCOLATE IS A STAPLE AND A NECESSITY!!! 

With a post like that, makes me think you are an SP.

Are you an SP Ailee 

If you are you need to register as one.

[The_Don]

Never intended to actually comment on this site, I was just being nosey.... BUT..... CHOCOLATE IS A STAPLE AND A NECESSITY!!! 

Please take some time to read the Rules:

[122jay]

Block the number until normal times. She’s probably texted so many it doesn’t matter.

When normal times return, text and say you’ve hit hard times and can you get a free punt? You’ll have your answer.

[The_Don]

She’s probably texted so many

I've found having several sim card's and punting phones, on the go has it's uses. This has saved some of my punting fund$, from time wasting W/G, maids and pimps over the years.   

[Stevelondon]

As others have mentioned. Would you lend a friend money.
I’m guessing it’s all subjective.
How good a friend, how much money etc.

I go along the lines that if someone is a real friend..... they wouldn’t be asking for money.

It’s a no from me.

[Mr_Shins]

As others have mentioned. Would you lend a friend money.
I’m guessing it’s all subjective.
How good a friend, how much money etc.

I go along the lines that if someone is a real friend..... they wouldn’t be asking for money.

It’s a no from me.

Yes, I might, I will even gift a friend money if they're really hard up, it's called charity.

However I do not consider someone who expects me to pay them a fee if we're going to meet up (for any purpose) a friend. Therefore Melysa my regular, in spite of how much I like her, is not one of my friends.