To each their own.
I punted before I met my wife, and was open with her about the fact that I'd punted - despite having had two girlfriends before who decided that made me a "bad person" although they couldn't quite explain why.
I promised my wife I would never punt while we were married and did not, even when the sex became linked to the phases of the moon.
We did have a number of other issues, did go to relationship counselling, and in the end I just decided that it couldn't be fixed so moved on.
Very happy to now have the possibility to punt guilt free, in no rush to get into a "civvy relationship" again, and if I do I will be honest about not only having punted but that I might also consider punting if the sex dries up at home. That likely means I will remain single and punt my days out, and so be it. Would rather be up front than deceive someone that close to me - but that's just me.