I stumbled on this site whilst looking for a tantric massage on the net and this thread that got me to register for the site.
Happily Married Yes, although we have our ups and downs like all couples.
Love the wife, no chance of leaving her.
Last time for sex, technically a few weeks ago but her comment of ' This isn't doing it for me' killed it straight, before that couple of years maybe, there's been the odd hand job or we've played with toys, got her to come etc.
Kids, no
Sleep together, yes
Guilt free punting, Just considering it. I need something.
If I did would I tell her, hell no.
Would our marriage survive no. We've always said we would forgive each other a drunken one night stand, but consciously seeking out a WG not a chance.
We've been together 11 years but a combination of my ED with her anxiety and depression has turned out sex life into a disaster.
Last week was the prime example, she travels a lot for work and is usually knackered at the end of the day, I'm busy myself and not always up for it, anyway she had just come off her period and Thursday night she tells me Friday night she's all mine.
So far so good, I'd stopped knocking one out for a few weeks and was fantasising about pretty much every female with a pulse. I took the afternoon off sent her a flirty text at work telling her I'm waiting, not to be late etc I pop 100 mg of Sildenafil and am rock hard. I then get a text as she's leaving work saying she's not in the mood, stressed at work and her anxiety had kicked in.Grrrrrrrrr!!!
She complains it's never spontaneous and doesn't like to plan it (Friday was her idea). She doesn't seem to get it can't be that spontaneous and I'm not going to continually pop ED drugs just in the hope that she is in the mood.
In every other way our relationship is great but I think the both of us feel like throwing in the towel on our sex life.