Punting Dilemma - Low Sexual Confidence

[bboard2010]

Long-time lurker here and, due to being in a relationship, have not had the inclination to punt (the sex was good).

The relationship ended earlier this year since my ex turned into an abusive bitch towards my kid so she had to go.
Now I'm dying to break my punting cherry but have low self-confidence (sexually) and I'm thinking of shagging my way through it.

Has anyone had a similar experience (bad breakup and low self-esteem) and used punting to elevate their confidence with women?
Apologies if: 1) this has been asked previously and 2) this is posted in the wrong place...

[FiveKnuckles]

find the hottest well reviewed SP you can afford,  turn up clean, smelling nice and be respectful.  see how things turn out.   

write a review once done   

[bboard2010]

Thanks! I’m in the process of selecting an SP right now. Would you suggest a 30 min booking or an hour?

[lillythesavage]

Long-time lurker here and, due to being in a relationship, have not had the inclination to punt (the sex was good).

The relationship ended earlier this year since my ex turned into an abusive bitch towards my kid so she had to go.
Now I'm dying to break my punting cherry but have low self-confidence (sexually) and I'm thinking of shagging my way through it.

Has anyone had a similar experience (bad breakup and low self-esteem) and used punting to elevate their confidence with women?
Apologies if: 1) this has been asked previously and 2) this is posted in the wrong place...

You did he right thing, don,t beat yourself up, look what happened with the guy that did not do the right thing.

Get out there and pick yourself up, last post was good advice.

Plenty of fish in the sea, a shark is best got rid of.

[bboard2010]

You did he right thing, don,t beat yourself up, look what happened with the guy that did not do the right thing.

Get out there and pick yourself up, last post was good advice.

Plenty of fish in the sea, a shark is best got rid of.

Yeah this break-up was worse than my divorce. She was batshit and I’ve taken a huge knock. But, like you say, it’s time for me to muster up the courage to get back out there. I know I’ve done the right thing but the journey since - dealing with her post-break-up craziness has been difficult. Onwards and upwards!

[mradventures]

yep ive done something similer.
only thing ill add is dont put pressure on yourself to perform, just go to be intimate with a woman you fancy... emotional baggage can take awhile to overcome, and you dont know until your part way through if something will effect you.

[bboard2010]

yep ive done something similer.
only thing ill add is dont put pressure on yourself to perform, just go to be intimate with a woman you fancy... emotional baggage can take awhile to overcome, and you dont know until your part way through if something will effect you.

Thanks for the advice. I have been putting pressure on myself re performance and I’ll have to be patient for the emotional baggage to dissipate before I’m back to full strength. I want to put myself in that intimate moment and the main worry is performance, currently…

[Malvolio]

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[l4at]

I wouldn’t worry about how the SP thinks, you’re paying and whether you perform or how you perform doesn’t concern them (as long as whatever you do is consensual).

If you’re worried nervous stop you performing properly, there’s certain SP who are a safe bet in terms of making you feel relaxed and used to first timers. I’d suggest booking one of those type of SPs for half an hour or an hour and just rolling it with. You can find recommendations in the review section of the forum.

Book her, smell nice and be polite (as suggested by another poster earlier) and see what happens.

[bboard2010]

If you're for real, take a good look at this.

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Yeah I’m for real and have been through a real shit break-up unfortunately.
Cheers for this, I’ll take a look!

[windowlicker]

Don't go for full service in the 1st instance.

Try a sensual massage with a finish. Less pressure and you can see how you get on and decide whether you want more.

[Colston36]

Yeah this break-up was worse than my divorce. She was batshit and I’ve taken a huge knock. But, like you say, it’s time for me to muster up the courage to get back out there. I know I’ve done the right thing but the journey since - dealing with her post-break-up craziness has been difficult. Onwards and upwards!

You are far from unique think many of us lack self-confidence. I have had more relationships and done more linky stuff than most ... but in a paradoxical way lack of self-confidence drove me to try harder. Not just in sex but life generally.

[isaac_gauss]

I had low confidence in my ability to fuck. Seeing escorts helped me find out that ED medication would help (a nice SP gave me my first blue pill) and access to opportunities to figure out how to most effectively use the stuff. Some good experiences seemed to give me a confidence boost.

But you were having good sex already. So your situation isn't quite the same. Maybe I'd be even more confident if I invested that effort into getting a girlfriend with whom to conduct my dickpill experiments, who knows.

I'd advise: don't feel the need to cling to some dubious theraputic excuse to punt. Punt if you have the desire and the means. Stop when you don't.

[hendrix]

I have zero confidence with women that I'm not paying to fuck, so I'm not sure that punting definitely helps in that regard. Good luck though!

[Straightsix]

Get yourself a cheap Romanian or £20 Smethwick punt so it's not much to lose. Get her to suck you off or stand there naked and cry. You'll feel better either way. Your next punt will be so much easier.

[bboard2010]

Don't go for full service in the 1st instance.

Try a sensual massage with a finish. Less pressure and you can see how you get on and decide whether you want more.

I've contemplated this and it's probably a softer intro into the punting world. At least I'd be naked around a woman who isn't my ex (something I haven't done in over 4 years).

[bboard2010]

You are far from unique think many of us lack self-confidence. I have had more relationships and done more linky stuff than most ... but in a paradoxical way lack of self-confidence drove me to try harder. Not just in sex but life generally.

Thank you for making me realise that I am not unique in feeling this way. Sometimes when you're in the midst of your emotions you start to believe that you're alone in feeling what you're feeling.

[bboard2010]

I had low confidence in my ability to fuck. Seeing escorts helped me find out that ED medication would help (a nice SP gave me my first blue pill) and access to opportunities to figure out how to most effectively use the stuff. Some good experiences seemed to give me a confidence boost.

But you were having good sex already. So your situation isn't quite the same. Maybe I'd be even more confident if I invested that effort into getting a girlfriend with whom to conduct my dickpill experiments, who knows.

I'd advise: don't feel the need to cling to some dubious theraputic excuse to punt. Punt if you have the desire and the means. Stop when you don't.

Well said. The sex with the ex was very good and I was performing without any of the magic beans (I did take them once during the relationship, more out of curiosity). The overriding feelings of low self-esteem that I'm going through now stem from a fear of not performing to the levels that I did when I was in that relationship. Pretty messed up!

[bboard2010]

Get yourself a cheap Romanian or £20 Smethwick punt so it's not much to lose. Get her to suck you off or stand there naked and cry. You'll feel better either way. Your next punt will be so much easier.

This is EXACTLY how I envisaged my first punt...some cathartic crying involved...

[bboard2010]

I have zero confidence with women that I'm not paying to fuck, so I'm not sure that punting definitely helps in that regard. Good luck though!

Thank you!

[Yankee41]

I would find a really good escort that offers more of a gfe experience and book for an hour and just relax.  It may even take a few tries before you find a good one.  Some girls are better at dealing with nervous clients than others.

[s0whatsnew?]

I was in something of a similar situation when I started punting around 7-8 years ago.   The first big mistake I made was to imagine the working girl actually felt something for me !  I cringe when i think of those early days. Now i've gone to the other extreme and become a cynical bastard. 

Its also  a psychological journey of growth and discovery.  Its tough, and expensive.  But actually I wouldn't have missed it for the world; best thing i've ever done.  Good luck.   

[Ghost89]

As previous advice, probably the best option for a massage. Easier on the pocket, relaxing and eases you into the world of punting. No pressure at all. If you don’t pop it doesn’t matter! At least you know how you’ll be and can take your time to get into things. It’s the season to be jolly! Best of luck!

[bboard2010]

I was in something of a similar situation when I started punting around 7-8 years ago.   The first big mistake I made was to imagine the working girl actually felt something for me !  I cringe when i think of those early days. Now i've gone to the other extreme and become a cynical bastard. 

Its also  a psychological journey of growth and discovery.  Its tough, and expensive.  But actually I wouldn't have missed it for the world; best thing i've ever done.  Good luck.   

Thank you. It's strange how the mind works. When I think about seeing a working girl, there are parts of my brain that expects reciprocity(!). So, I'll have to take it for what it is in the moment and not overthink anything, I'm guessing.

[bboard2010]

As previous advice, probably the best option for a massage. Easier on the pocket, relaxing and eases you into the world of punting. No pressure at all. If you don’t pop it doesn’t matter! At least you know how you’ll be and can take your time to get into things. It’s the season to be jolly! Best of luck!

Thank you. And let's hope I can empty my (quite full) Xmas stocking soon...

[Bonker]

Here we go again, sigh.

[The0neAnd0nly]

Considering you've been a member on here for 2 and a half years and these are your only posts...

Let's hope you're not on here just for a whinge about your ex and sympathy. If you are real about actually having a punt look forward to your first review.

Good luck!

[thor555]

Don’t over think it! As others have said go for a massage first ease your way in to it all. Did a few massages before I had my first fs

[Maak]

Thanks! I’m in the process of selecting an SP right now. Would you suggest a 30 min booking or an hour?

Always book 30 mins for a SP you never met before. Once you enjoy their services, you can book hr bookings with them

[bboard2010]

Considering you've been a member on here for 2 and a half years and these are your only posts...

Let's hope you're not on here just for a whinge about your ex and sympathy. If you are real about actually having a punt look forward to your first review.

Good luck!

Thank you. And I understand your skepticism. I’ll post my review soon - am lining up the girl and the date.

[bboard2010]

Always book 30 mins for a SP you never met before. Once you enjoy their services, you can book hr bookings with them

Thanks and I am planning to do just that.

[Thephoenix]

Go for a nice hour's fbsm.
Much less pressure to perform, more relaxed and no passion killer condom required.

However, don't expect your punting to cure your break up issues.
It might help. It might not.
Time is the best healer, but in the meantime, punting is a great distraction, and something just for you to enjoy.

For advice on break ups, there's good reading on the'Relate' website.

Keep you pecker up!



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[Watts.E.Dunn]

Thanks and I am planning to do just that.

Go for it mate and remember what punting is about thats having fun and leaving her so you don't get the crazy bits afterwards, and theres a lot of them and that about let alone your ex!

And do review!! and let us know how you got on good ot bad, thats what this site is about and you may get a bit of critiscism if you don't!...

[mills_and_bhuna]

Get yourself a cheap Romanian or £20 Smethwick punt so it's not much to lose. Get her to suck you off or stand there naked and cry. You'll feel better either way. Your next punt will be so much easier.

not sure that's good advice unless money is your be all and end all.
If I'd gone to a robot who made it clear that she resented my physical presence and would have preferred if I shoved the money through her letter box and fucked off I doubt I would have punted again.
Looking back I'm glad I found this site and invested a good bit of time in research.
And trust your instincts.
I've always found a well thought out profile and a little bit of originality seems to translate into a good punt

[mr.bluesky]

Go for a nice hour's fbsm.
Much less pressure to perform, more relaxed and no passion killer condom required.

However, don't expect your punting to cure your break up issues.
It might help. It might not.
Time is the best healer, but in the meantime, punting is a great distraction, and something just for you to enjoy.

For advice on break ups, there's good reading on the'Relate' website.

Keep you pecker up!



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That lady would certainly keep my pecker well up 

[Nightingale]

Here we go again, sigh.

Are you thinking what I’m thinking?

[Straightsix]

Get yourself a cheap Romanian or £20 Smethwick punt so it's not much to lose. Get her to suck you off or stand there naked and cry. You'll feel better either way. Your next punt will be so much easier.

This is EXACTLY how I envisaged my first punt...some cathartic crying involved...

not sure that's good advice unless money is your be all and end all.

Advice?  I'll take that as a compliment.
And money plays its part...it's what it's all about, no? What else do you want, genuine hugs? Bit of cheek stroking complimented with "there there, everything is going to be alright. Now get out cus your time is up" 😄

[Spacecowb0y]

Always book 30 mins for a SP you never met before. Once you enjoy their services, you can book hr bookings with them

Sage advice and something I follow. Even if it's shit, you can leave early without wasting huge amounts of cash. If it was good, the SP will be only too happy for a longer booking next time.
Find a well reviewed SP that you fancy and book 30 minutes.

[bboard2010]

Thank you for all of the advice - helped a lot with my mindset.
I’ve got a booking this evening so will put up my review in the next few days!

[Nightingale]

What region are you punting in?

[Straightsix]

Thank you for all of the advice - helped a lot with my mindset.
I’ve got a booking this evening so will put up my review in the next few days!

Don't forget your box of tissues.

[bboard2010]

What region are you punting in?

London town

[bboard2010]

Don't forget your box of tissues.

 

[Munter84]

So OP, how did it go?

As somebody who got into punting for similar reasons, my (belated at this point) advice would be to go for either a HE massage or an hour of GFE to ease yourself into it.