Pro' and Con's of having an outcall to your home?

[SOSPunter]

Occasionally the Mrs spends a few days away and I've often thought of having a girl visit. Anyone done this with negative consequences ?

[Billy no mates]

I have done this many times without any issue, however the wife is happy for me to punt.

I would never do it behind her back. Women have a sixth sense about stuff regarding their home and it’s far to risky. My wife notices if I put the mugs back in a slightly different position, let alone if I had another woman in the house.

I would recommend avoid.

[LLPunting]

I have done this many times without any issue, however the wife is happy for me to punt.

I would never do it behind her back. Women have a sixth sense about stuff regarding their home and it’s far to risky. My wife notices if I put the mugs back in a slightly different position, let alone if I had another woman in the house.

I would recommend avoid.

Now if only you could convince the missus to get on M...net and tell them to all let their DHs off the leash.  Talk about Societal Advancement.

You're a lucky chap, I hope you cherish her, even if she's high maintenance 

[KatieEdinburgh]

Occasionally the Mrs spends a few days away and I've often thought of having a girl visit. Anyone done this with negative consequences ?

To be pedantic then this is not for using your home as an incall location, but rather an outcall, re. title of this thread?

But to answer the question, yes this is super common and happens all the time. Get plenty of requests for this - just check with that particular WG she does home visits as some may do hotel outcalls only

[Thephoenix]

Occasionally the Mrs spends a few days away and I've often thought of having a girl visit. Anyone done this with negative consequences ?

When your Mrs comes to shag me for those few days away, she often wonders what you get up to.
The only advice I can give is make sure you cover your tracks....(snail tracks).

[Billy no mates]

But to answer the question, yes this is super common and happens all the time. Get plenty of requests for this - just check with that particular WG she does home visits as some may do hotel outcalls only

Yeah, this is a good point, I would estimate in my case, around 50% of girls, won’t visit a home for an outcall, when I have opened comms.

I’ve perhaps had 15 (ish) in my home and only one drove herself, so in my case that’s a low percentage, I have good transport links to my area so that probably helps, this may reduce your options.

Again I would stress, do not do this unless you have your wife’s blessing.

[lillythesavage]

Occasionally the Mrs spends a few days away and I've often thought of having a girl visit. Anyone done this with negative consequences ?

Only you know how inquisitive your wife would be  .

I have done it when the wife was away, but not when it was only a day or two, and she knows I punt anyway but I did not tell her,, since being separated done it often, and she has noticed when visiting somehow, sometimes.

The problem with only a few days is lingering perfume, maybe needing to change or wash bed clothes, and if you do not usually do it, good luck explaining why you have  .

If you are the worrying type def . do not do it, being OCD about everything in its place, and making everything look how it should will probably give a clue to something off, as will a guilty demeanour.

Be aware of nosy neighbours, or those asked to keep an eye on you  . Make sure you are looking out for arrival and she goes to the right door first time, give her something to aim for, car, door colour, tree, we have all probably struggled to find the right strange door at times.

Enjoy the buzz if you go for it 

[daviemac]

Occasionally the Mrs spends a few days away and I've often thought of having a girl visit. Anyone done this with negative consequences ?

This has been coming up for years on here and like I said on this thread - https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=292145.msg3078009#msg3078009 - there is no right or wrong answer.

What I will say is I've had loads of outcalls to my house with no issue at all but that is me, my personal circumstances, my location and with the trusted escorts I see.

Your circumstances are individual to you, nobody else has your wife, nobody else has the same neighbours, it's a question only you can answer.

BTW I've changed the title to outcall as what you were asking was "is it OK to let an escort work from my home".

[trainspotter]

I keep 'normal' life and punting entirely separate from eachother. I would never give real name or address to an escort and keep other details vague. I live by myself but would not personally run the risk of friends or family calling at an inopportune moment or of neighbours noticing. When things go wrong in the punting world, they can go wrong big-style as we have seen from many threads on here and no way is an escort, pimp, boyfriend or heavy-mob friend going to know where I live in the unlikely but possible event of things turning sour.

[sharpshoes78]

They could leave some hair behind. I had a long one on my coat after a pint once but managed to explain it away as a random occurrence. But in the bed? No way

[lillythesavage]

I keep 'normal' life and punting entirely separate from eachother. I would never give real name or address to an escort and keep other details vague. I live by myself but would not personally run the risk of friends or family calling at an inopportune moment or of neighbours noticing. When things go wrong in the punting world, they can go wrong big-style as we have seen from many threads on here and no way is an escort, pimp, boyfriend or heavy-mob friend going to know where I live in the unlikely but possible event of things turning sour.

Fair enough, it shows we all have different views on punting and different ways of enjoying it.

There are some, like you, it is an underground thing, others enjoy the planning like a James Bond mission, others spur of the moment when the big and little head tell them too, probably that is me, some for looks alone, we are all different.

The pimp etc can be mitigated with good choices though, neighbours only you know how that will effect things, personally does not bother me at all, said my hello coming or going with a young lady, not their business and there is no one to grass me to.

Home has its advantages, there is rarely sticking to time limits within reason, there is not another punter waiting at the door  , the odd unexpected overnight if you are lucky, you know where everything is and clean towels are readily available, no dumps to punt in, if you get ghosted it is no big deal, no travel, no parking issues, road fees etc. No booking Hotels.

To me, for a single guy it makes sense, but some are far more cynical about the human race than I am and punting than I am I suppose.

[MissWolf]

I would say that the majority of outcalls I do are to a guys home address, for me I need to know that there is absolutely 0 chance of someone walking in, coming home etc and catching the action.

I often get requests for short skirt, heels etc and refuse point blank due to discretion to arrive in anything other than smart or casual civvies then change on arrival, I don't wear any perfume unless asked to specifically.

Most bookings take place in a spare room or if in the main bedroom I advertise putting a sheet over the bedding if they think it may be picked up and I take everything with me when I leave including used condoms,  wrappers and any wet wipes etc the odd stray hair I can't be sure of but then a quick wizz with the hoover should pick up any stragglers.

Just pick your escort with care, makes sure your window of opportunity is big enough not to leave you compromised if timings get skewed a little,  make your directions and arrival instructions clear and detailed and obviously have fun.

[shed]

I am an extremely private punter, so would never divulge my home address. Same as I never mention being a member of UKP and only give the necessary review details to ensure I am not sussed by the SP if she is a member. None of my friends or family, colleagues etc know that I punt. Just my preference. Everyone is different.

[Al R]

Only ever done it once with a girl I used to see regularly when the other half was away

Only advantage for me was saving the cost of a room as she was outcall only.

I was stressing too much about the neighbours and everything being left as it was - no long blonde hairs lying around etc. It was a step too far for me tbh, & felt a bit of a cunt afterwards. Would never do it again

[southcoastpunter]

Occasionally the Mrs spends a few days away and I've often thought of having a girl visit. Anyone done this with negative consequences ?

if you are concerned enough to ask this question then the answer for you is easy - don't do it! Unless the one that you REALLY want to see doesn't do incalls to hers and / or the additional cost of a day use hotel is too much for you, and if you don't really care if things go tits up and ends up wrecking your marriage,   then why take any risks at all?

[The Outsider]

I think your missus would see this as the ultimate betrayal if you were unlucky enough to be caught. 

I live alone but do have a partner who stays here some of the time.  I've have had outcalls from escorts in the past but there are risks.  One stray hair, earring, foil from a condom wrapper, or something minor I can't even think of could be your undoing. 

Here's an example.  I once changed the bedding as my other half was due to stay and noticed a couple of oily marks that hadn't come out in the wash.  On closer inspection the marks were perfect hand prints of my regular from last time she'd applied lube then assumed the position for doggie.  That'd be a tricky one to explain away! A further high temperature wash made no difference so I threw the bedding away.  Imagine finding an excuse for chucking out your wife's favourite duvet cover.   

[SeekingSteve]

If you want to get caught out, go for it.
If you value your current living situation, book a hotel room and order room service 

[Hobbit]

The pros.

No travelling time required
Don't need to pay for a hotel
It's more comfortable and relaxing as it is your premises

The cons

If you don't know them well then there is a risk she may steal something
If she has a pimp, then he will know where you live and could blackmail you
Your neighbours may be watching or be nosy and could tell your Mrs
She could accidentally forget her knickers and your Mrs could find out

[tp69]

The pros.

No travelling time required
Don't need to pay for a hotel
It's more comfortable and relaxing as it is your premises

The cons

If you don't know them well then there is a risk she may steal something
If she has a pimp, then he will know where you live and could blackmail you
Your neighbours may be watching or be nosy and could tell your Mrs
She could accidentally forget her knickers and your Mrs could find out

IMO, when one side of this equation is disproportionate to the other, then the answer is pretty simple. The cons here significantly outweigh the pros on that list.

[Thephoenix]

Never underestimate women.
If there's something to find, they'll find it.

[alabama1]

IMO, when one side of this equation is disproportionate to the other, then the answer is pretty simple. The cons here significantly outweigh the pros on that list.

Totally agree. Even if you trust the SP, there is very little to gain, and everything to lose.

[Henry767]

Take ALL the sheets and covers off and keep separate. Put on a spare or new set. Then, after the meet, you can replace with the originals that still have that special smell of you and the missus, with no risk of stray hairs or marks.

[thimble29]

Anyone considering this must have a different type of neighbor to me, all of my neighbours are nosy and would immediately notice something was up!

[SOSPunter]

Thanks for all your comments guys and girls, after due consideration, I think a day room somewhere is the way forward. 

[webpunter]

You have reached the right conclusion
Irrespective of a UKPer's situation IMO the potential downsides of a home visit outweigh the upsides
Day Rooms are well easy on the app to book
Though if you cancel too many you might be blocked

Let alone an SP, one of my mates banged a civvy whilst his missus was on hols
Then spent hours & hours on a CSI style clean up the next day before she returned home
Was then shitting himself for about a week until he reckoned she hadnt noticed anything amiss, phew TFFT

Maybe an urban myth but supposedly a geezer bangs a burd at his gaff whilst his OH is away
She decides to leave her knickers in the OH's draw [for these]
Now what are the chances of the geeezer spotting these ? 
I reck between nil & zero 

Thanks for all your comments guys and girls, after due consideration, I think a day room somewhere is the way forward.

[lillythesavage]

Thanks for all your comments guys and girls, after due consideration, I think a day room somewhere is the way forward.

Yep, for only a short window that is the best way, only you know your wife, neighbours and the risks.

It really is a single guys game, but the pimp thing keeps getting repeated, why would you book someone you suspect of being pimped?

Surely you would only book a well reviewed independent, or for some an agency, there are clues given in the comms process though, if a driver is hinted at or parking questioned probably best to avoid, if they ask nearest station or want an Uber/taxi booked or they say they drive themselves in convo, then you probably are not going to get a pimped one.

Not fool proof obviously, has worked well for me though.

[petermisc]

I gave up on outcalls to my home, following a couple of very worrying encounters.  And that was as a single man - the idea of doing it behind a partner's back makes my blood run cold.  You would be leaving yourself wide open.

An escort coming to your home will want to be reasonably sure that she isn't being sent on a wild goose chase (there are some sad gits who try sending them to a neighbours so they can perve from behind the net curtains), or worse.  She will want to be able to confirm that you are who you say you are, and that you really live where you say you do.  Would you be happy about her ringing back on your landline later in the year when she is desperately trying to raise cash, for example?  Or deliberately leaving behind a momento of her visit if she felt badly treated, such as you not stumping up for extras.

[Mr Sinister]

I'm not married but would never bring another woman home behind my wife's back to sleep in our bed, also there's a good chance your wife will pickup on something.

Never done an outcall with a pro WG, I used to think it would be too risky in terms of the WG but I've come around to the idea of doing it with a girl I've seen previously. I've done plenty of paid civvie meets to my home never had a problem, anything that is of value is out of sight in my flat. The best thing about it is just the convenience and relaxed atmosphere, I had a girl come over while I was WFH and sucked me under my desk while working was a great thrill, that's the one thing putting me off seeing a pro is that she'll be too robotic, business like.

[Steely Dan]

II've done plenty of paid civvie meets to my home never had a problem, anything that is of value is out of sight in my flat. The best thing about it is just the convenience and relaxed atmosphere, I had a girl come over while I was WFH and sucked me under my desk while working was a great thrill, that's the one thing putting me off seeing a pro is that she'll be too robotic, business like.

A paid civvie = a pro.

Back on topic, I had a flat for a while that I used for a weekly commute.  I had escorts round.  I would not do it again.  My OH did sometimes come to the flat.  Also, I have since then, despite being careful, met some escorts that I would politely say had a screw loose. Uncommon but they exist.  Don't want that sort knowing where I live, even if a working flat. I got away with it, but that does not mean it was a good idea.

[lillythesavage]

I gave up on outcalls to my home, following a couple of very worrying encounters.  And that was as a single man - the idea of doing it behind a partner's back makes my blood run cold.  You would be leaving yourself wide open.

An escort coming to your home will want to be reasonably sure that she isn't being sent on a wild goose chase (there are some sad gits who try sending them to a neighbours so they can perve from behind the net curtains), or worse.  She will want to be able to confirm that you are who you say you are, and that you really live where you say you do.  Would you be happy about her ringing back on your landline later in the year when she is desperately trying to raise cash, for example?  Or deliberately leaving behind a momento of her visit if she felt badly treated, such as you not stumping up for extras.

I have never been asked to prove where I live in any way, gave up using the landline years ago anyway. That is with CL and AW, though AW feedback helped with those I suppose.

Make sure fees and services are agreed beforehand, do not take liberties and treat them as humans, should negate the other problems you mention. Punting phone solves the other.

Never been contacted without agreeing to stay in touch either, though have by those on Aw I have enquired with but not booked.

A lot of over thinking and assumptions going on  , do your homework and speak to them on the phone, ignore 1 line email replies, you can tell a lot from a few sentences back and forth and a chat, and you should avoid loose screws.

Doing it still living with the OH,  you are the only one that make that choice and make that risk assessment, no amount of advice can make your mind up, except do not do it 

[ShamrockLDN]

Thanks for all your comments guys and girls, after due consideration, I think a day room somewhere is the way forward.

As a single lad living in my own place I did it once to ‘inaugurate’ a new double bed I’d got delivered from Argos. It was a great experience (once she eventually found my building) and well worth the extra charge. A lot easier than faffing around in taxis. It’s basically sex delivered to your door    But I doubt I’d risk it if living with a g/f or wife as the risk she’d pick up on something would be too great.

[Bru1901]

Outcalls tend to be better punts for me

More relaxed

Less clock watching

Also they tend to use the bathroom

Some of my best 2021/22 punts have been outcalls to mine

[petermisc]

Make sure fees and services are agreed beforehand, do not take liberties and treat them as humans, should negate the other problems you mention. Punting phone solves the other.

Never been contacted without agreeing to stay in touch either, though have by those on Aw I have enquired with but not booked.

A lot of over thinking and assumptions going on  , do your homework and speak to them on the phone, ignore 1 line email replies, you can tell a lot from a few sentences back and forth and a chat, and you should avoid loose screws.

In one case, we had clearly agreed fees and services beforehand, and she sounded very reasonable on the phone.  When she arrived, it became increasingly obvious she had a screw loose.  When I refused to pay twice what we had agreed beforehand, she promptly pocketed a "souvenir".

The second case was a WG who I had seen several times, and seemed trustworthy - until she arrived unexpectedly one day at my door with her drug dealer asking if I could help her out.

As a single bloke, I was able to brazen the situations out.  I dread to think what a partner would have made of either situation.  Nowadays, I only take outcalls in hotels.

If you really think that you can suss out the ones to avoid from a couple of brief phone calls, you are either a much wiser man than me, or a fool.  If you are prepared to invite WGs to your house who are prepared to make the journey without any idea of who they are going to, I suspect the latter.

[Tender.french.kiss]

Only going to repeat what's been stated above:
The fact you're asking the question is the sign you do not benefit from the same freedom as Billy no mates.
The stakes to be lost if things go wrong is enormous when you're in a relationship as you are OP (unless it sucks so much you unconsciously looking for an opportunity to sink that relationship).
Despite all the precautions listed before, you can never control every risk of something going wrong and getting noticed.
And even if all goes well and you OH does not sense anything, the anxiety and stress for the few day afterwards is taking away all the pleasure from the meet itself. No worse it for just the price of a day hotel room.

If not in a relationship, the stakes are significantly lower (but potential effect on family, work, reputation... are not to be underestimated though)

[Home Alone]

Back in the day when External Link/Members Only was my local SP, she told me about having had another client who lived in a Residential Care Home whom she, erm, "visited"  from time to time.

At the time, I didn't pay too much attention, because I was still mobile enough not to need incalls to my flat. Which was just as well when you had neighbours who could have won medals for their, erm, "concern" [a.k.a. nosiness! ]

Fast forward about 18 months and my medical condition has gradually deteriorated to the state where I've sold that flat and rent a smaller one, about 20 miles away, in what people call "semi-sheltered accommodation".

So I'm now in the fortunate position of having a fairly substantial nest-egg, which I can dip into if I fancy a cheeky little punt from time to time. My only reservation is what I might call the "nosiness quotient" of my new neighbours.

There seems to be a good community spirit here; but I don't want to get too matey with my neighbours and the manager of the accommodation, lest one of them might knock on my front door without any notice to invite me to our communal lounge for a game of bingo at a time when there are other, better, more exclusive games I'd rather be playing!

I realise this isn't that far from the sorts of problem that other members on here can face; it's just the enhanced community spirit I don't want to disrupt.

Well; I do really; but I don't want to get a reputation for that sort of thing with my new neighbours!

[Thephoenix]

I guess like most residential premises of this nature she'd also have to sign in and out as a visitor.
Seeing the name of Fifi Bignips in the visitor's book might raise some eyebrows HA

[big-al93]

I realise this isn't that far from the sorts of problem that other members on here can face; it's just the enhanced community spirit I don't want to disrupt.

Well; I do really; but I don't want to get a reputation for that sort of thing with my new neighbours!

If you do get a reputation, you might find some of the more capable female residents are right up for it. And the guys will probably start asking how to get these "personal care visitors" for themselves.

It might just make you the most popular guy in the place! And if it goes over like a turd in a puch bowl , then at least you are still getting some.

[Home Alone]

If you do get a reputation, you might find some of the more capable female residents are right up for it. And the guys will probably start asking how to get these "personal care visitors" for themselves.

It might just make you the most popular guy in the place! And if it goes over like a turd in a puch bowl , then at least you are still getting some.

A particularly vivid simile, @big-al ! I think I'll take a gently, gently approach, though!

[victor989]

Outcalls are usually more expensive.

[Crunchie]

Definitely worth it with a very trusted regular WG.   A few years back I enjoyed a lovely riverside house and the day I prepared her lunch, went for a boat ride, fucked in the boat, fucked in the Jacuzzi and on the sofa with the patio doors open, I will remember forever.

Sure there was another occasion when the WG and the wife must have passed one another on the private approach road so that was bloody close but I got away with it. 

I've been involved in all sorts of stuff around the world & there's hardly anything that lifts my heart rate or sparks my adrenaline and I know full well I tread seriously close to the line sometimes.  So that's why I am so relaxed about it but appreciate why others wouldn't want to risk it.

[newhere456]

Done it loads of times but that was when I was single.  I wouldn't contemplate it now - risk vs reward too far in the wrong direction and wife's sixth sense is way too powerful. 

Have hosted an outcall on my yacht though, that was fun - had a few mates around and we took it in turns (the only way I could get a hand with the antifouling).

[lillythesavage]

Back in the day when External Link/Members Only was my local SP, she told me about having had another client who lived in a Residential Care Home whom she, erm, "visited"  from time to time.

At the time, I didn't pay too much attention, because I was still mobile enough not to need incalls to my flat. Which was just as well when you had neighbours who could have won medals for their, erm, "concern" [a.k.a. nosiness! ]

Fast forward about 18 months and my medical condition has gradually deteriorated to the state where I've sold that flat and rent a smaller one, about 20 miles away, in what people call "semi-sheltered accommodation".

So I'm now in the fortunate position of having a fairly substantial nest-egg, which I can dip into if I fancy a cheeky little punt from time to time. My only reservation is what I might call the "nosiness quotient" of my new neighbours.

There seems to be a good community spirit here; but I don't want to get too matey with my neighbours and the manager of the accommodation, lest one of them might knock on my front door without any notice to invite me to our communal lounge for a game of bingo at a time when there are other, better, more exclusive games I'd rather be playing!

I realise this isn't that far from the sorts of problem that other members on here can face; it's just the enhanced community spirit I don't want to disrupt.

Well; I do really; but I don't want to get a reputation for that sort of thing with my new neighbours!

Not quite the same situation HA, but close, as I live in a close and my door is always open, literally, it is now as I type this.

Every neighbour comes for something and there is always someone outside, we often chat out there, they have seen comings and goings, even had chats with the arriving or leaving with a girl, and not upset anyone or frightened them off.

I think you will find the same, and said earlier, now repeated you might get some very local free action if you want it, just say massage helps with your ailments if questions are asked, just not the body part that gets most attention.

Life is too short for letting others dictate how you live yours.

[SOSPunter]

And I hadn't even considered the ring doorbell video evidence 

[Adoniron]

I wouldn't even contemplate it unless Iived alone and it was with an SP I already knew and could trust.

[Sibiu]

I’ve done it a few times when the coast was very clear. I remember one SP, at that time a student at Cambridge Uni (now a lawyer!). It was a warm day and I ended up taking her doggie style on the back lawn - she’d never had sex outdoors before. Every time I now mow that part of the lawn it brings back wonderful memories.

[webpunter]

Fun in the lady garden 

I’ve done it a few times when the coast was very clear. I remember one SP, at that time a student at Cambridge Uni (now a lawyer!). It was a warm day and I ended up taking her doggie style on the back lawn - she’d never had sex outdoors before. Every time I now mow that part of the lawn it brings back wonderful memories.

[Markc]

Like most have said Outcall are generally a bad idea to your house. If you have a wife or g/f they could come back
and they would notice is something was out of place. Also if an escort is from agency they are going to take your
address and phone number and keep it for there records and most escorts don’t drive so there driver knows your having an escort to your home.

I agree outcalls do seem a little more relaxed than incalls to independents or parlours and you normally get the full time you booked. If the wife or g/f is away for a couple of days you can still book a room at a local hotel and get her to visit you there. A hotel locally l used in the past does day rooms for £35 and that saves a lot of hassle to try and tidy up the house after a visit including having to change sheets and washing

[Home Alone]

Not quite the same situation HA, but close, as I live in a close and my door is always open, literally, it is now as I type this.

Every neighbour comes for something and there is always someone outside, we often chat out there, they have seen comings and goings, even had chats with the arriving or leaving with a girl, and not upset anyone or frightened them off.

I think you will find the same, and said earlier, now repeated you might get some very local free action if you want it, just say massage helps with your ailments if questions are asked, just not the body part that gets most attention.

Life is too short for letting others dictate how you live yours.

Thanks for that, @lillythesavage. It's interesting to read of people having similar experiences; and as you say, I won't correct any misunderstanding neighbours might make as to which, erm, "muscle" the 'masseuse' had been paying attention! 

Mind you, it probably speaks volume about my shallowness; but there are none of my new female neighbours who, erm, tickle my fancy!

[Thephoenix]

Thanks for that, @lillythesavage. It's interesting to read of people having similar experiences; and as you say, I won't correct any misunderstanding neighbours might make as to which, erm, "muscle" the 'masseuse' had been paying attention! 

Mind you, it probably speaks volume about my shallowness; but there are none of my new female neighbours who, erm, tickle my fancy!

I suppose you could always say it's a visiting chiropodist, physio or District nurse, although you may need to ask her to tone the uniform down a bit.
You don't want to cause too much excitement for some of the older residents.



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[CigarSmoke]

the wife is happy for me to punt.

Keeper!