Elusive almost mythical GFE

[Jobloggs]

Hey guys, apologies if this topic has been done before, I did a quick search and couldn’t find one so here I am. Being based in Peterborough I can’t say there is too much about really. I have met a couple of really nice girls who I will eventually get around to reviewing. The burning question that I have really is the gfe escortings biggest lie? For me sex is not about the sex, it’s about an emotional connection, banter, intimacy, cuddles, kisses and sex. I guess after tonight’s punt it has dawned on me that the human need I have driving me toward a wg is precisely what a wg cannot give. My logic is that we’re a wg to share that level of intimacy on a punt she would be exhausting herself emotionally. Therefore she must have a bubble around herself which means that in actuality the gfe is elusive but is it mythical? I’m curious what seasoned punters think of the issue.

[EnglishRebecca121]

 

[Waterhouse]

What do I think?

Well 1) It's not the issue, you are.
and  2) This game of Service-seekers and Service-providers is not for you.

Try Match.com or EliteSingles.co.uk

 

[Jobloggs]

Fair enough, I am in between partners having recently moved to the area. You might very well right in thinking so. I am new to punting and do agree with you, but you did not answer the question but instead made a comment or observation on me. You have a fair few punts under your arm, so I genuinely am curious what you think about gfe.

[king tarzan]

Hey guys, apologies if this topic has been done before, I did a quick search and couldn’t find one so here I am. Being based in Peterborough I can’t say there is too much about really. I have met a couple of really nice girls who I will eventually get around to reviewing. The burning question that I have really is the gfe escortings biggest lie? For me sex is not about the sex, it’s about an emotional connection, banter, intimacy, cuddles, kisses and sex. I guess after tonight’s punt it has dawned on me that the human need I have driving me toward a wg is precisely what a wg cannot give. My logic is that we’re a wg to share that level of intimacy on a punt she would be exhausting herself emotionally. Therefore she must have a bubble around herself which means that in actuality the gfe is elusive but is it mythical? I’m curious what seasoned punters think of the issue.

you should put a rose and a chocolate on top of her mango, and mutter sweet shit in her ear...

[Jobloggs]

Sounds like a plan stan I feel like we managed to answer one of life’s mysteries, thanks for helping me wrap that one up bud

[s0whatsnew?]

Hey Joe,  I think your op hits the nail on the head, at least for me.   Its precisely the conclusion i also come to.   A complete mindfuck that by definition of the situation - paid sex - any real intimacy is an impossibility.  I've met so many lovely women over the last few years (and also plenty of skanks and meh's, obviously) of punting, whom i would love to know as a friend as well as a lover.   I'm still naive enough to think that just once or twice those feelings might have been half reciprocated.  The irony is that any responsible wg will be well aware of the dangers of lowering the drawbridge between herself and her customers and will be doubly vigilant towards any attempt to jump the gap.

My own solution is to alternate between FBSM,  BDSM, and the occasional normal fuck.   At least in the first two its possible for the relationship to be a bit more relaxed since whats being transacted is a conscious (ie depersonalized) action rather than a body being itself as in pure sex.

All of this is just one way of looking at it.  Another is to see it all as just sex without emotional involvement at all.  I'm envious of this ability!   

[Branny]

Pop down to Bristol and chat to Rebecca - she'll put you straight and you'll probably enjoy the experience too. Best solution I can think of?

[Jobloggs]

thanks for your insight bud, I’m thinking the way forward for me is just quick appointments with oral Which I guess saves money from unrealistic expectations, the fbsm sounds like a route to explore. I’m a total novice when it comes to that kind of service I’m curious to have a look around and see what I can find.

[Jobloggs]

I was thinking just that very thought Rebecca does sound like good banter.

[peter purves]

Hey guys, apologies if this topic has been done before, I did a quick search and couldn’t find one so here I am. Being based in Peterborough I can’t say there is too much about really. I have met a couple of really nice girls who I will eventually get around to reviewing. The burning question that I have really is the gfe escortings biggest lie? For me sex is not about the sex, it’s about an emotional connection, banter, intimacy, cuddles, kisses and sex. I guess after tonight’s punt it has dawned on me that the human need I have driving me toward a wg is precisely what a wg cannot give. My logic is that we’re a wg to share that level of intimacy on a punt she would be exhausting herself emotionally. Therefore she must have a bubble around herself which means that in actuality the gfe is elusive but is it mythical? I’m curious what seasoned punters think of the issue.

Punter's Alienation strikes again  

[Jobloggs]

I just found your definition of the above on another post. Very beautiful definition. Made me chuckle, sounds like you are a philosophising punter

[DaVINCI]

Hey guys, apologies if this topic has been done before, I did a quick search and couldn’t find one so here I am. Being based in Peterborough I can’t say there is too much about really. I have met a couple of really nice girls who I will eventually get around to reviewing. The burning question that I have really is the gfe escortings biggest lie? For me sex is not about the sex, it’s about an emotional connection, banter, intimacy, cuddles, kisses and sex. I guess after tonight’s punt it has dawned on me that the human need I have driving me toward a wg is precisely what a wg cannot give. My logic is that we’re a wg to share that level of intimacy on a punt she would be exhausting herself emotionally. Therefore she must have a bubble around herself which means that in actuality the gfe is elusive but is it mythical? I’m curious what seasoned punters think of the issue.

A WG may offer a GFE in which l think they are being sincere about, it appears you are looking for a lot closer connection which l think would eventually scare  a WG.

l do agree with you that there is a barrier she will not breach but from what you describe you are looking for, it could then lead to you getting emotionally attached (EAS) and this never ends well.

I heard a good saying "you pay to walk away, not to get involved". 





 

[Jobloggs]

I hear what you are saying, but this seems to be the very issue as sincere as one may be, there is still the element of distance and detachment. Now on a one night stand the gfe can be had because there isn’t the distance and detachment generally speaking due to it being a one off. Now a wg by rights develops this distance and detachment due to having to maintain personal boundaries, in a very personal situation. I guess for this reason a wg May prefer a pump and dump due to somebody seeking a gfe but does this mean that the very essence of the gfe is provided? I with only five punts under my belt am speculating not. This however could very well be a general rule with exceptions. What these are I’m curious about. Regarding the scaring a wg off, I guess I’m not in fear of that happening as I’m far too British in eating pasta when I ordered steak, or eating a steak well done when I had ordered it rare.
The saying has a nice ring to it. Il have to give it a ponder

[HarryZZ]

I've met a number of WGs who have given an excellent GFE, it's an act I know that but a damn good one, your problem is probably that you don't want it to be an act, I don't think anybody here can help you with that.

[SlamBoy]

I hate to be blunt, but the original post is absolute Mills & Boone twaddle constructed on a child-like misunderstanding of the service that is on offer.

The clue (should you wish to think about it for more than a second, which you clearly haven't) is in the title:

It is called "Girlfriend Experience" it is not called "Girlfriend".

I hope that clears it up for you.

 

[Stevensmiles]

Had some girlfriends in the past and they were terrible experiences    Nuff said !!!

[OakTree]

Hey guys, apologies if this topic has been done before, I did a quick search and couldn’t find one so here I am. Being based in Peterborough I can’t say there is too much about really. I have met a couple of really nice girls who I will eventually get around to reviewing. The burning question that I have really is the gfe escortings biggest lie? For me sex is not about the sex, it’s about an emotional connection, banter, intimacy, cuddles, kisses and sex. I guess after tonight’s punt it has dawned on me that the human need I have driving me toward a wg is precisely what a wg cannot give. My logic is that we’re a wg to share that level of intimacy on a punt she would be exhausting herself emotionally. Therefore she must have a bubble around herself which means that in actuality the gfe is elusive but is it mythical? I’m curious what seasoned punters think of the issue.

The term GFE is a bit misleading. I think of it more of a FBE (Fuck Buddy experience). I think the service of kissing being more accepted now where as it used to be a definite no no has brought about the term GFE. Not her falling in love with you or vice versa.

Anyway as is often the case with minimal posters on here, you’re over thinking it. It’s merely a paid sex encounter. What you’re describing is a longing for emotianal attachment and that is definitely not what you should be seeking when you hand over cash to a women for sexual favours.

[LLPunting]

Many SPs offer genuine banter, unsurprisingly about the same proportion as civvies.  You will find speaking the same language helps.
Many SPs cuddle, kiss, caress, lick, tickle, tease with a smile and a glint.  What do YOU mean by intimacy?
Plenty of SPs will go on a "date" if you pay.

If you strike up a rapport with them:
Some SPs will banter by text after you've seen them but not obsessively
Some SPs will remember what you've talked about and follow up.
Some SPs will engage in interested conversation.
Some (probably more) SPs will do more sexually than civvies you want to fuck.

All part of their service aka CRM motivated because you're paying.  None of this is "mythical".

NONE of the SPs I've enjoyed ring/message me after to remind me to put the washing on, get the groceries, feed the fish, pick up their (step) kids, call my parents, call her parents, get her immac or tampons in my lunch hour, remember the presents, come to her office party, stalk me to another SP and cause a scene...

What more do you want them to do to give you what you think is a GFE?

[LLPunting]

Had some girlfriends in the past and they were terrible experiences    Nuff said !!!

Amen

[LLPunting]

The term GFE is a bit misleading. I think of it more of a FBE (Fuck Buddy experience). I think the service of kissing being more accepted now where as it used to be a definite no no has brought about the term GFE. Not her falling in love with you or vice versa.

Anyway as is often the case with minimal posters on here, you’re over thinking it. It’s merely a paid sex encounter. What you’re describing is a longing for emotianal attachment and that is definitely not what you should be seeking when you hand over cash to a women for sexual favours.

+1

That said, you could be paying to "interview/assess" a prospective GF for her sexual compatibility.  The fool then has to figure out how to get her out of the game... pay lots being part of the solution...

[satyromaniac]

Sounds like you need a girlfriend.
Your paying a girl to fuck them, not fall in love.
The gfe is just a niche in the market to offer some variety. If you are under the illusion it’s anything more then you need to reconsider what you want from punting.

Think of it from the WG point of view, she has no idea what you look like until you turn up, she then has to pretend to be attracted to you instantly. Whilst you have had plenty of time wanking over her AW pics and fantasising about what you want to do with her.
Then she provides a service that is supposed to mimic as if you were in a relationship, but only the sexual parts of a relationship. Unless that is what you are looking for? Nagging, uncomfortable silences, financial arguments, talks about having kids and your “future “ together. 
I punt to avoid these things!


With your attitude I don’t think you will ever be satisfied, your expectations are to high.
Even if a WG went the full mile and beyond to provide a GFE, you will have that doubt in the back of your mind that it’s all bullshit.
Not telling you to quit punting, but maybe lower your expectations.
Or invest the money in finding an actual girlfriend!! 

[Philmeboots]

Sounds like you need a girlfriend.
Your paying a girl to fuck them, not fall in love.
The gfe is just a niche in the market to offer some variety. If you are under the illusion it’s anything more then you need to reconsider what you want from punting.

Think of it from the WG point of view, she has no idea what you look like until you turn up, she then has to pretend to be attracted to you instantly. Whilst you have had plenty of time wanking over her AW pics and fantasising about what you want to do with her.
Then she provides a service that is supposed to mimic as if you were in a relationship, but only the sexual parts of a relationship. Unless that is what you are looking for? Nagging, uncomfortable silences, financial arguments, talks about having kids and your “future “ together. 
I punt to avoid these things!


With your attitude I don’t think you will ever be satisfied, your expectations are to high.
Even if a WG went the full mile and beyond to provide a GFE, you will have that doubt in the back of your mind that it’s all bullshit.
Not telling you to quit punting, but maybe lower your expectations.
Or invest the money in finding an actual girlfriend!! 

Everything in post above needs carefully reading and taking on board OP

Think you have got off lightly so far in the responses and have been given genuine advice in response.

Just to make clear: the GFE experience is a complete pretence to give gullible punters the illusion that the WG  in some way has an attraction to them . If not careful will act like a drug and you will become addicted.As will all drugs will have side effects .....Empty wallet,creeping EAS to name but 2

Will not end well for you..

If your confident your just 'between partner's ' then just masturbate for now and put some serious effort into meeting the next girlfriend through normal social circle or possibly on line dating,although careful with the pitfalls of POF and similar as the GFE might not meet your expectations either.

 

[king tarzan]

Sounds like you need a girlfriend.
Your paying a girl to fuck them, not fall in love.
The gfe is just a niche in the market to offer some variety. If you are under the illusion it’s anything more then you need to reconsider what you want from punting.

Think of it from the WG point of view, she has no idea what you look like until you turn up, she then has to pretend to be attracted to you instantly. Whilst you have had plenty of time wanking over her AW pics and fantasising about what you want to do with her.
Then she provides a service that is supposed to mimic as if you were in a relationship, but only the sexual parts of a relationship. Unless that is what you are looking for? Nagging, uncomfortable silences, financial arguments, talks about having kids and your “future “ together. 
I punt to avoid these things!


With your attitude I don’t think you will ever be satisfied, your expectations are to high.
Even if a WG went the full mile and beyond to provide a GFE, you will have that doubt in the back of your mind that it’s all bullshit.
Not telling you to quit punting, but maybe lower your expectations.
Or invest the money in finding an actual girlfriend!! 

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[Happyjose]

I hate to be blunt, but the original post is absolute Mills & Boone twaddle constructed on a child-like misunderstanding of the service that is on offer.

The clue (should you wish to think about it for more than a second, which you clearly haven't) is in the title:

It is called "Girlfriend Experience" it is not called "Girlfriend".

I hope that clears it up for you.

 

This

[threechilliman]

What do I think?

Well 1) It's not the issue, you are.
and  2) This game of Service-seekers and Service-providers is not for you.

Try Match.com or EliteSingles.co.uk

 

As above.

[Hobbit]

Hey guys, apologies if this topic has been done before, I did a quick search and couldn’t find one so here I am. Being based in Peterborough I can’t say there is too much about really. I have met a couple of really nice girls who I will eventually get around to reviewing. The burning question that I have really is the gfe escortings biggest lie? For me sex is not about the sex, it’s about an emotional connection, banter, intimacy, cuddles, kisses and sex. I guess after tonight’s punt it has dawned on me that the human need I have driving me toward a wg is precisely what a wg cannot give. My logic is that we’re a wg to share that level of intimacy on a punt she would be exhausting herself emotionally. Therefore she must have a bubble around herself which means that in actuality the gfe is elusive but is it mythical? I’m curious what seasoned punters think of the issue.

You will not find what you're looking for with a prossie! All they care about is money. It's a job to them and a means to make ends meat. Always remember that a prossie is a prossie, is a prossie, is a prossie, is a prossie, is a prossie!

With regards to finding the intimacy you are seeking, you will find that it cannot be found in external objects. Look within and go swimming in the pleasure that comes from you. 

[Branny]

Some WGs can be friendly too, but there is always that line as noted above. You pay, and any extras are a bonus, no more than that.

Many WGs are hardened to the game and will disappoint you, but there are a few ex swingers and part timers around who might float your boat. You are definitely in the wrong place for courtesan types, but that sounds where you might be best looking?

[Jock D]

The term GFE is a bit misleading. I think of it more of a FBE (Fuck Buddy experience). I think the service of kissing being more accepted now where as it used to be a definite no no has brought about the term GFE. Not her falling in love with you or vice versa.

Anyway as is often the case with minimal posters on here, you’re over thinking it. It’s merely a paid sex encounter. What you’re describing is a longing for emotianal attachment and that is definitely not what you should be seeking when you hand over cash to a women for sexual favours.

Spot on.

[Billy the kid]

I hate to be blunt, but the original post is absolute Mills & Boone twaddle constructed on a child-like misunderstanding of the service that is on offer.

The clue (should you wish to think about it for more than a second, which you clearly haven't) is in the title:

It is called "Girlfriend Experience" it is not called "Girlfriend".

I hope that clears it up for you.

 

Completely agree with this and exactly what I was thinking reading through the posts.
She is providing services similar to what you would 'expect' from a girlfriend.

Going for a Porn star experience does not qualify you to be a porn star either I'm afraid.

[stewpid]

To the OP I say be careful what you wish for!

I have been lucky this past year to find a new regular who delivers the best GFE I have ever had, the sex is the most passionate and intense I've experienced and its a bit of a headfuck to be honest. I think you only get this if the girl is actually attracted to you in some way but while there is still money changing hands during the encounter then is still a business transaction and involves some form of performance from the girl herself. However, as others have already said, the fact that it is so good means that the experience is like a drug so you have more and you begin to wonder if there is potentially more to it from her. But then I have to keep reminding myself that she could be the same with the next punter she's seeing not more than 30 minutes after I'm out the door!

I probably should stop seeing her for my own good but can't bring myself to at the moment and while she has given me her personal number and real name I am keeping contact limited to arranging bookings at the moment. It's the sex I'm after more than a relationship, as being involved with an active or even ex-WG comes with its own set of problems more than any civvie relationship. 

[shagmore]

The Wg will have a bubble around her, that bubble will and can be deflated the more you see her, and the more connection you get with her, but then you are getting Emotional Attachment,
I agree with you on the issue of wanting the GFE, but its all very methodical form the WG
If you are after the GFE then honestly dude, going with a WG is not for you unless you just want to pump and dump, which you clearly don't.
Go onto a proper dating site, not one of the sex related ones, you will be surprised. Get yourself a proper GF
Good luck

[The Owl]

Hey guys, apologies if this topic has been done before, I did a quick search and couldn’t find one so here I am. Being based in Peterborough I can’t say there is too much about really. I have met a couple of really nice girls who I will eventually get around to reviewing. The burning question that I have really is the gfe escortings biggest lie? For me sex is not about the sex, it’s about an emotional connection, banter, intimacy, cuddles, kisses and sex. I guess after tonight’s punt it has dawned on me that the human need I have driving me toward a wg is precisely what a wg cannot give. My logic is that we’re a wg to share that level of intimacy on a punt she would be exhausting herself emotionally. Therefore she must have a bubble around herself which means that in actuality the gfe is elusive but is it mythical? I’m curious what seasoned punters think of the issue.

GFE is a very good marketing term that sounds nicer than basic service or full service and probably appeals to punters who want to experience something akin to real intimacy because they are either single or are in a relationship that has become habit rather than a fulfilling partnership.

I do believe it is possible to receive a GFE service that approaches something like the good times in a relationship but it requires a lot of research, some blatant trial and error, a nice helping of good luck and the ability to compartmentalise the time spent with an escort so that you don't get EAS, end up financially exploited or as a report on NUM and SAAFE.

For me the real GFE was pure pot luck. I liked what an escort posted, I got through her screening and we clicked when we met. The sexual side was what I was looking for and the between sex parts of the bookings are a lot of fun too. I don't see her all the time, I have another reg and see other escorts inbetween so the bookings stay fresh and enjoyable.

The issue of GFE as an actual positive service is subject to two strangers getting along mentally and sexually or the very fine creation of a fantasy that is maintainable by both sides. I've certainly seen at least 1 escort where enjoyable fantasy she crafted slowly descended in to a sort of apathy but that's the risk of the job/punt.

The most important part of the really good GFE is remembering that it's a service you paid for, not real dating. If you want to keep that fantasy then make sure to leave behind the fantasy when the door clicks shut behind you.

[Branny]

, I got through her screening and we clicked when we met. The sexual side was what I was looking for and the between sex parts of the bookings are a lot of fun too. I don't see her all the time, I have another reg and see other escorts inbetween so the bookings stay fresh and enjoyable.

Screening? Care to elaborate?

[rickyponting]

All I will say is,that sex with the OH is far better than any I have had with a whore.

There is simply no comparison ,in my experience anyway.

[LLPunting]

All I will say is,that sex with the OH is far better than any I have had with a whore.

There is simply no comparison ,in my experience anyway.

So why are you punting if your OH is the dogs?

[Waterhouse]

All I will say is,that sex with the OH is far better than any I have had with a whore.

There is simply no comparison ,in my experience anyway.

Whore???  Maybe the SPs detect your contempt as soon as you walk through their door and purposely deliver a shit sevice so you don't come back.

If your BH is so good in the sack, why do you feel the need to visit 'whores' and two-bit TCMs?