I feel you but with therapists, unless they have lived it I just don't see how they could understand. I'm doing better now, feel my focus coming back. As for relationships, I think I will just have to conclude that is dead in the water for me. I've changed too much and relationships are too much hassle. If I got into a relationship before I started paying and having unbridled access to sex, maybe it could have been different but then again over time ending up in a deadbedroom situation like other members, I may have still ended up here anyway.
Yeah I get you. Especially with the therapists comment. For me it is all well and good for just talking about our problems but they must be a solution to my problems and I mean the right solution that is. That and I feel like therapists these days lean far left-wing politics. I got nothing with the politics but when in the USA recent APA's guidelines for example is a problem talking about stoicism, competitiveness, dominance, aggression or any traditional male/conservative qualities is harmful/toxic then I doubt the therapists got my best interest in helping my mental health (e.g. video for example -
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Don't get me wrong the mentioned things I talked above can be bad when push to the extremes (like being very aggressive) but at the same time they can also be helpful in bettering yourself. I also feel like this "let talk about your problems to me" mental health rave feel like make people feel good for a day or two (mostly on international men's day and mental illness day) and get back talking how bad males are. These will be the same people who will say it is ok to talk to them about your mental health then call you incel or woman hater when you mention something that they don't like hearing. And it is worst with some females who say it is ok to talk to them about any of your mental health issues but don't want to do anything with you once you open up to them as they find you unattractive/wimpy mentioning your problems. Then act surprised why some men don't want to open up to some females especially when the same men see that said female sleeping with some man who is cold and don't treat her right.
Anyways back on track. For me a good therapist that got X amount of experiences and willing to put me accountable to my actions is the best. Problem is it is hard to find such people these days. That said it is good that you are doing better. I get you on that deadbedrooms comment. Maybe you feel it is over for you with relationships but I think you should have your windows open to one just in case regardless how bad modern relationships are in todays climate. For me I have never experience such relationship situation but being on here and talking to married men in the past make me feel like I would not like to be in relationship in today climate if it ends up in miserable marriage. That said I have not reached the jadded feeling about relationship and will be open to one. But from looking around me, I not holding my hopes up with today's modern relationship in the west.