Friends who rip on you for punting

[Henchmanlet95]

Anyone else had this before? I'm pretty open about my punting adventures IRL so pretty much all my mates know. I regularly show them pics of WG's I've shagged and tell them my stories. Some of them don't agree with it but others are genuinely intrigued and curious about my 'hobby' and are always asking me questions about punting.

I have this one friend who lately keeps saying that someone like me in there prime (I'm only 25) shouldn't be paying for sex and that only lonely old men punt when that's far from reality. He keeps saying I need to get a girlfriend and stop wasting my money on escorts.

The thing is I've had this before, people think that just because you're young, half decent looking and in good shape that I should try pulling civvies instead but tbh I hate the whole process of dating.

Having to take girls out, chat a load of bollocks to impress them just so I can bang them. I could get laid easily for 'free' if I lower my standards but the thing is if I want to bang a girl I actually find attractive I have to put in a fuck ton of effort which I find mentally draining. Even then there's alot more competition in your 20's, as many guys my age look better and are confident/charismatic than me so its easy for girls to lose interest fast.

This is what civvies don't understand, I find punting very convenient and because I work full time and still live my parents I have lots of disposable income to spend money on what I want within reason. For me it's a quick and easy way to shag a really fit women who's way out of my league just by sending a simple text.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

All OK with that, wimmen are a cost whichever way you look at it. My now ex missus has over time cost me far far more then a resonable rate of punting!.

I've no objections about younger men shgagging who they want when they want etc!.

If yer got the dosh - then do it Tosh!...


What I do object to is that wimmen don't pay me to shag them, thats grossley wrong and unfair!!!

[Payyourwaymate]

Don't tell your friends about it anymore, if they ask just say you stopped. Unless they start punting they will never understand. Punting is a different ball game from chatting up civvy girls.  It's like being a man asking a woman about pregnancy or a woman trying to understand what makes a man. You have to live it to fully understand it. You're wasting time telling others about it, you should only punt for yourself and the reasons you chose, not bragging rights or story times.

[Davey Dykes]

I agree, stop blowing off about it.

Compare notes with fellow punters by all means but this isn't for Civvies.

[Tierney]

Nobody ripped on me but they were confused as to why so I would spend money on a girl. I convinced my mate to come to a local brothel with me to check out the girls which he did, he enjoyed it, but didn't even want to spend £50 of his cash. I'm 30 and good looking and usually always had a girlfriend or someone I'm seeing. The urge to punt for me is the excitement and lust, the taboo. While I have never punted while in a serious relationship, punting is the first thing I do when I break up.

Also, I told my recent ex I had punted and she was disgusted. I blagged it was a lads holiday and we all did it. Lesson learned, treat punting like Fight Club. Don't talk about it.

[Atlas1957]

Looks like you are setting yourself up for some grief in the future here.

You stop punting, find the woman of your dreams, start dating, get serious with her, introduce her to your friends, they tell her about you shagging 100 prostitutes, she dumps your arse.

[Mr Sinister]

Some of them don't agree with it but others are genuinely intrigued and curious about my 'hobby' and are always asking me questions about punting.

I would stop doing that to be honest, you never know who might expose you, it's not something to be so open and brazen about especially if you have a good career.

I have this one friend who lately keeps saying that someone like me in there prime (I'm only 25) shouldn't be paying for sex and that only lonely old men punt when that's far from reality. He keeps saying I need to get a girlfriend and stop wasting my money on escorts.

You're not in your prime yet that will come in your mid 30s, but he is right in a way at such an age I wouldn't be seeing escorts so frequently. Hunting tail is a good part of your development as a man. No need to jump into a serious relationship.

The thing is I've had this before, people think that just because you're young, half decent looking and in good shape that I should try pulling civvies instead but tbh I hate the whole process of dating.

Well yes no reason why you can't improve on your decent looks and shape, improve on game and fuck civvies.

Having to take girls out, chat a load of bollocks to impress them just so I can bang them. I could get laid easily for 'free' if I lower my standards but the thing is if I want to bang a girl I actually find attractive I have to put in a fuck ton of effort which I find mentally draining. Even then there's alot more competition in your 20's, as many guys my age look better and are confident/charismatic than me so its easy for girls to lose interest fast.

Yes it can be a chore at times but sounds you still need to do a bit of work on yourself there's always going to be competion in many different aspects of life. You need to get better at being more confident/charismatic.

This is what civvies don't understand, I find punting very convenient and because I work full time and still live my parents I have lots of disposable income to spend money on what I want within reason. For me it's a quick and easy way to shag a really fit women who's way out of my league just by sending a simple text.

At your age these girls are all about casual sex and loose relationships despite what they say otherwise. Sex with wgs is fun at first but the novelty soon wears off. Being able to spend money on sex is easy you will always be able to access this option. Look at improving yourself and getting intimate with civvy women, fuck as many as you can.

[Bum Lovin Criminal]

There's an older gentleman where I work who has no quarms about trumpeting his exploits at the establish, "Winstons" in Leeds.   This guy is such a regular there he

could have his mail forwarded and they wouldn't even blink at it.  Everyone laughs and enjoys his tales, but when he's not there they viciously rip the shit out of him,

men and women and painful to hear.    I would never dream of discussing this hobby outside of this forum....never!

True, having a girlfriend/pulling etc is cool and I tried that route but get extremely bored with even the nicest girl after the sex and restless like an addict for thrill and

variety.

"Once a punter....." is real and won't go back in the box  easily.

This is not fair on the girl...so punting fits the bill....besides, girlfriends/FB etc can cost a lot more than just money and be just as dangerous as punting..

[ulstersubbie]

You're wasting time telling others about it, you should only punt for yourself and the reasons you chose, not bragging rights or story times.

+1

[Moby Dick]

Nowts free in life, but even so meet as many “real” woman whilst you still can.
Paying for it makes you fussy and lazy.

In 5 to 10years time you will get bored of shagging stunners. You never feel fulfilled, always wanting more. You will soon start to do duos, and parties, even the taste of your own cum becomes normal. Don’t tell ya mates that!

25years later you will realise that the fun was in the chase,
But you can hardly walk let alone run anymore.

[NotThe]

Telling other people about it is very risky : there are so many ways this piece of information could be used against you...
Maybe now you don't care and think you have nothing to lose, but what in... 5 years? 10? 15?

[willie loman]

if you can afford to punt, fine, but it would be better to save your money for a flat etc, its actually a good point that you should learn to chase women, they are actually quite keen to be chased, and please dont refer to dating , as talking a load of bollocks, its a reflection on you , not them.

[JontyR]

I’d be more concerned with the info getting back to your mother. You could wave goodbye to the ironing and see a tripling of the board you pay!!

[Moby Dick]

I’d be more concerned with the info getting back to your mother. You could wave goodbye to the ironing and see a tripling of the board you pay!!

Or your mate saying “wait a minute that pic looks just like my mum” 

[myothernameis]

I know someone, who back in 2009, let it be known, he likes escorts, and today 2021, most of the people who work round him, know of this.  To some of the girls in the work, this disgusts them, and they keep away from him

So keep this to your self's

[Bikerman]

When i was single i rather pay for a shag than waste money on night out and get nothing at end..
In my 20s i was going to massage parlour once a week...then i met wife not in parlour by way....
But in ladt couple of years i tie it in with massge for health benefits.....when i was in germany in 1980s  we used to go to a club  near camp as we watched footbal on saturday then go through doors in to sex show and brothel...and there were some women who would go in with hubby to play with ladies too while hubby had a beer...our attitude in this country isnt right and should open up more

[Jonestown]

...our attitude in this country isnt right and should open up more

I wouldn't disagree with you, but as the barometer of public disgust presently puts punters somewhere above child abusers, but below those that mutilate animals in fields at night, its really best to keep it to yourself.

[Henchmanlet95]

Nobody ripped on me but they were confused as to why so I would spend money on a girl. I convinced my mate to come to a local brothel with me to check out the girls which he did, he enjoyed it, but didn't even want to spend £50 of his cash. I'm 30 and good looking and usually always had a girlfriend or someone I'm seeing. The urge to punt for me is the excitement and lust, the taboo. While I have never punted while in a serious relationship, punting is the first thing I do when I break up.

Also, I told my recent ex I had punted and she was disgusted. I blagged it was a lads holiday and we all did it. Lesson learned, treat punting like Fight Club. Don't talk about it.

I've had mates who have punted but it was a one off when they were pissed up after a night out so they're not really punters.

One of them deeply regrets it as he said the WG's fanny stunk and it put him off for life.

But yeah it's the sheer excitement and adrenaline rush that makes punting so addicting, going to there place knowing I'm gonna be shagging a really fit women within 5 mins of walking in. Nothing gets my heart racing more. It's not even the sex itself at times but purely the process of going to see them. Feels like I'm on some secret mission lmao.

[Henchmanlet95]

Telling other people about it is very risky : there are so many ways this piece of information could be used against you...
Maybe now you don't care and think you have nothing to lose, but what in... 5 years? 10? 15?

Don't tell your friends about it anymore, if they ask just say you stopped. Unless they start punting they will never understand. Punting is a different ball game from chatting up civvy girls.  It's like being a man asking a woman about pregnancy or a woman trying to understand what makes a man. You have to live it to fully understand it. You're wasting time telling others about it, you should only punt for yourself and the reasons you chose, not bragging rights or story times.

I did keep it a secret when I first started punting back in 2017 and never told anyone plus I didn't do it for 2 years after that.

I was embarrassed at the time till one day one of my mates confessed that he once seen a hooker so I ended up spilling the beans myself. Now all my  friends know (I told them all myself)

The only people who don't know are my family or civvie girls that I've been seeing,  they'd be horrified if they found out how much I've spent on escorts lmao.

But yeah I shouldn't really be too open avout it but it does make for some good banter and discussions with my friends at times. Some of them want to do it themselves but are too scared to go through with it.

[rowdow]

I’m a bit older than you, also in decent shape and fairly good looking. I still see normal birds, i punt when i want to try something different, try out foreign girls or when my current dating pool has dried up.

Punting is great, being able to smash fit birds pretty much whenever you want to is a life hack of sorts but i think it’s also good to date while you’re young for the experience. The more experience you have dating the easier it becomes even if it’s long and stressful at times, especially if you want to pull good looking girls but i would say sex with a girl whose’s super into you can’t really be compared. Plus you could meet a girl you really like.

Two books that really helped me with girls are ’The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi” it’s a great book to understand in depth about female nature when it comes to dating and ‘The Mystery Method’ which has some great points that would improve your game with girls. 

[HeavyRepeater25]

I punt maybe once or twice a year, so probably spend £500 tops. For that I get to bang absolute stunners. My friends on the other hand probably spend closer to £5k and get to bang absolute munters.

Given the state of the dating landscape, i.e. women's delusion, punting is great value. Fwiw I'm 38, a solid 7/10, barely get a look in in the real world (2/10's thinkimg they're 8's etc.), Thanks to social media and all that.

As a 25yr old it's infinitely tougher to date women than it was 10+ yrs ago. Have your fun with escorts, play safe (as many escorts no doubt cleaner than many civvy women), but maybe not shout it from the rooftops 😅. Only one of my mates knows I do it when the mood takes, the rest think I'm a monk

[Stevelondon]

As others have said. I do not really see why you need to expose yourself like this.
What you do in your own time with your own money is up to you. But let’s face it. There will always be a stigma where punting is involved.

At 25 I enjoyed the chase so to speak. So if you just don’t like the whole thing about dating etc. Fair enough..... keep punting.
But speaking personally. I think your missing out on something.

[Thephoenix]

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I think punting in today's society is a case of...
See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil

[hellohi21]

I am late 20s and have been punting for a few years, following a few years of considering it.

The convenience is ideal as someone who’s very busy and doesn’t have the time to chat endlessly hoping for a shag. Even on a swinging site, you need to chat for weeks before maybe getting a shag. Sometimes easier to stump up and get a guaranteed hot girl (who you know is reliable via this forum).

Would never tell anyone about it though a) it’s wrongly frowned up on, b) people can turn on you and use stuff against you but each to their own. I kinda like that it’s my secret anyway - everyone has their own secrets haha.

[Edo244]

I live a private life. I would never tell people I punt. That would be the end of my career and my family would disown me.

[mradventures]

i find it mentally easier in some ways, and it really helped my confidence and self value. but ive been told loads of times i need to have a top job, a flat, a car, pile of money, be this that and the other which im just not, to get a girl (and keep her) so renting a sp isnt that different really.

and even with the stinky vag thing, ive had that with civvies, but with a escort you dont have to see her again, and its only x minutes long, and your paying todo the things you want todo.

Ive had civvies do mindfucks and try to destroy my life before too. so i dont really want to do a potentially exploitative false things to just get some intamcy and sex. and im typically ignored by all but obese civvies, who i dont fancy :/

[Henchmanlet95]

I live a private life. I would never tell people I punt. That would be the end of my career and my family would disown me.

I wouldn't disagree with you, but as the barometer of public disgust presently puts punters somewhere above child abusers, but below those that mutilate animals in fields at night, its really best to keep it to yourself.

Lol that's going abit too far, how anyone could compare punting to nonces or harming animals is beyond me. You literally have to be some crazy feminazi to think that. I don't know how you can lose your career over punting either? what someone else does in there spare time is none of your employers business unless they're making a company look bad.

I agree punting is definitely frowned upon by certain sections of society but you'd think most people with common sense  would see it for what it is, purely a business transaction between two consenting adults. They might think it's abit sad
that we pay for sex but it's not something morally wrong. End of the day none of us are breaking the law or harming anyone so it baffles me how people can treat us like we're scum.

What I find hypocritical though is that when footballers, celebs etc pay for sex no one bats an eye lid yet if an average man does it he's looked down upon? Lmao load of bollocks.

[Hotpocket]

I work with a load of younger blokes and they are really open about it, showing pics of previous shags and saying its easier and cheaper than trying to pull on a night out. I would never tell anyone about my secret hobby, maybe its a generational thing ? Pretty sure if my mates found out i would get ripped so much and possibly shunned by some that i would be better off moving country and changing my name also possible plastic surgery definitely grow a beard.

[DouglasReynholm]

Looks like you are setting yourself up for some grief in the future here.

You stop punting, find the woman of your dreams, start dating, get serious with her, introduce her to your friends, they tell her about you shagging 100 prostitutes, she dumps your arse.

Yep, that covers it. People don't forget.

Silly how people think it's either/or - that if you rent women you don't also pull them and vice versa.

[Jomoore]

Looks like you are setting yourself up for some grief in the future here.

You stop punting, find the woman of your dreams, start dating, get serious with her, introduce her to your friends, they tell her about you shagging 100 prostitutes, she dumps your arse.

I think the above is the best bit of advice in the thread.  The scenario he outlines is not just realistic, it's almost odds-on to happen.  Beware.

[Doc Holliday]

Looks like you are setting yourself up for some grief in the future here.

You stop punting, find the woman of your dreams, start dating, get serious with her, introduce her to your friends, they tell her about you shagging 100 prostitutes, she dumps your arse.

This ^

[ulstersubbie]

I live a private life. I would never tell people I punt.

Exactly. People only need to know what you choose to tell them, too much information can be a dangerous thing.

[contentguy]

Looks like you are setting yourself up for some grief in the future here.

You stop punting, find the woman of your dreams, start dating, get serious with her, introduce her to your friends, they tell her about you shagging 100 prostitutes, she dumps your arse.

Totally agree, I've seen it happen.
An immature guy I knew in his mid 20s went shagging prossies and bragging to his mates.
They told their GFs probably in confidence, maybe after a few sherberts or between the sheets.

Said immature guy got a bit older and started to "get serious" with someone.
And got dumped, the young lady's mates shared his stories of his exploits with her.

As explained here:

The only people who don't know are my family or civvie girls that I've been seeing,  they'd be horrified if they found out how much I've spent on escorts lmao.

What's to gain from bragging?  What are you doing that's worth bragging about?

Just sayin'

Guy 

[Mr Sinister]

Only my closest mates know I've punted by proxy of doing it with them on lads holiday, couple of them are married even, we've done some shit on these holidays but have taken an oath to never speak of these things to anyone else and take it to our graves. We still reminisce from time to time which is a good laugh, I don't share any other punting activity I may do here in the UK with them there's no need, I tell them all the filthy stuff I do with civvies that's different.

[fr0zen2]

I myself have told a very close friend about my experiences (mostly from SA, and even then keeping it high level), but otherwise I keep it to myself.

[workinallweek]

 3 people know and one of thoses is me

 Ive done things that i couldnt hope to do if i didnt punt  (and intend to do more) 
 Ive met some girls (now retired)  that i still see as mates (one ive been away with and was dues to again)
  Ive spent loads of cash (but its a hobby)

[bushman]

Lol that's going abit too far, how anyone could compare punting to nonces or harming animals is beyond me. You literally have to be some crazy feminazi to think that. I don't know how you can lose your career over punting either? what someone else does in there spare time is none of your employers business unless they're making a company look bad.

I agree punting is definitely frowned upon by certain sections of society but you'd think most people with common sense  would see it for what it is, purely a business transaction between two consenting adults. They might think it's abit sad .

That is unfortunately the problem, people don't just think it is sad. They also consider it to be a character fault, that becomes a label. Labels stick around. In my line of work I am aware of a few guys that punt. People are more critical of their performance in the workplace and have been passed over for promotion. What you do in your spare time say a lot about you as a person. (Slightly off topic) - Hence certain company HR departments have started to implement a social media clause in employment contracts limiting what you as an individual can post before "gross misconduct" become an issue.If you pack shelves in a big retail group,folk my not give a toss.
Don't brag about it, except in a review.

[magnetico]

Looks like you are setting yourself up for some grief in the future here.

You stop punting, find the woman of your dreams, start dating, get serious with her, introduce her to your friends, they tell her about you shagging 100 prostitutes, she dumps your arse.

This will happen, best for you to say youve totally stopped

[Home Alone]

I did keep it a secret when I first started punting back in 2017 and never told anyone plus I didn't do it for 2 years after that.

I was embarrassed at the time till one day one of my mates confessed that he once seen a hooker so I ended up spilling the beans myself. Now all my  friends know (I told them all myself)

The only people who don't know are my family or civvie girls that I've been seeing,  they'd be horrified if they found out how much I've spent on escorts lmao.

But yeah I shouldn't really be too open avout it but it does make for some good banter and discussions with my friends at times. Some of them want to do it themselves but are too scared to go through with it.

Ah, but can you be absolutely, totally, sure of the bit of your post that I've copied in bold, OP? You sound a bit too, erm, "cocksure" - pun intended - for your own safety.

You - we - never know who's around. And that's even true in a connurbation where you may be punting in a nearby town so that you don't "shit on your own midden" as we say oop north.

It just takes one uncle, aunty, cousin, work colleague to be on the same stretch of road - passing by on a bus, say, or driving to the cinema - for your cover to be blown.

I'm probably old enough to be your grandad - and yes, still regularly punting - but I always have a cover story planned to explain, if a family member, friend or former work colleague suddenly asks, "Oh, by the way, I saw you last Tuesday in such and such a place; what were you doing there?"

[PMAC123]

Funnily enough I have had some of that attitude from my male friends in the years past, only very mildly and in a jokey sense but I learnt quickly not to talk to them about it and haven't bothered since. I have one friend who's punted with me on holiday and I'd feel comfortable talking to him about it but nobody else. However I have 5-6 female friends who are aware and not judgey at all, in fact they tend to ask a lot of questions and be super intrigued by it. Seems like there's a masculine thing some guys have about pulling your own girls making you a real man that makes them feel like there's something wrong with paying for it. Women on the other hand often more easily see it as "just a transaction", potentially because even those who have never tried sex work have at least considered it and are aware of the power they have in that sense.

Looks like you are setting yourself up for some grief in the future here.

You stop punting, find the woman of your dreams, start dating, get serious with her, introduce her to your friends, they tell her about you shagging 100 prostitutes, she dumps your arse.

Anybody that would dump you for something that happened before you were together is not the woman of your dreams and not worthy of a second thought.

Most girls these days are much more open minded to sex workers and a large percentage wouldn't give a shit as long as it wasn't when you were together.

[MME]

Tell nobody anything - you'd be very surprised at how loyalties can change over the years. I'm older than you and get the feeling this will come to bite your backside sooner or later so best off keeping schtuum about it from now on.

Need to talk about it? Find a PunterMate from your region in this forum, you can then talk about your exploits, share notes etc in more or less complete security. You can even meet each other in person to do it with no comeback or qualms whatsoever - share notes etc. It's a great way to spend a bit of time.

I've met a couple of great blokes in our regional forum and we chat online, met one in real life and he's a top bloke. Very very discreet (just like me) and very keen to remain totally private. It's great to meet someone else with a shared interest of our own strange little hobby with no worry about disclosure to my friends / family as it's all been compartmentalised.

[Home Alone]

Tell nobody anything - you'd be very surprised at how loyalties can change over the years. I'm older than you and get the feeling this will come to bite your backside sooner or later so best off keeping schtuum about it from now on.

Need to talk about it? Find a PunterMate from your region in this forum, you can then talk about your exploits, share notes etc in more or less complete security. You can even meet each other in person to do it with no comeback or qualms whatsoever - share notes etc. It's a great way to spend a bit of time.

I've met a couple of great blokes in our regional forum and we chat online, met one in real life and he's a top bloke. Very very discreet (just like me) and very keen to remain totally private. It's great to meet someone else with a shared interest of our own strange little hobby with no worry about disclosure to my friends / family as it's all been compartmentalised.

A definite +1 from me for this.

Yes; there's a lot to be learned among the camaraderie of the Regional Boards.

[Tonyg]

Nowts free in life, but even so meet as many “real” woman whilst you still can.
Paying for it makes you fussy and lazy.

In 5 to 10years time you will get bored of shagging stunners. You never feel fulfilled, always wanting more. You will soon start to do duos, and parties, even the taste of your own cum becomes normal. Don’t tell ya mates that!

25years later you will realise that the fun was in the chase,
But you can hardly walk let alone run anymore.

......and that’s when you start getting your kicks burning your arse on hotel lights whilst your gangbanging lasses

[Tierney]

Looks like you are setting yourself up for some grief in the future here.

You stop punting, find the woman of your dreams, start dating, get serious with her, introduce her to your friends, they tell her about you shagging 100 prostitutes, she dumps your arse.

I mean we are all different and from different backgrounds here, but none of my friends would ever start divulging secrets to my girlfriend. What kind of friend is that? They would either get a slap or cut off from me completely and likely both.

Honestly, if you guys live in fear of your friends outing you to your partners then you don't really have friends or you're a pushover.

Gear and brasses is a very normal thing where I'm from and my girlfriend having secret convos with my mates is never happening.

[Payyourwaymate]

I mean we are all different and from different backgrounds here, but none of my friends would ever start divulging secrets to my girlfriend. What kind of friend is that? They would either get a slap or cut off from me completely and likely both.

Honestly, if you guys live in fear of your friends outing you to your partners then you don't really have friends or you're a pushover.

Gear and brasses is a very normal thing where I'm from and my girlfriend having secret convos with my mates is never happening.

Don't underestimate the power of pillow talk. Of that I mean say your friend telling their partners and then somehow it gets round to your partner.

[daveman23]

I’ve been punting for approx 14 years - always kept it under wraps - much easier that way.

[Bonker]

If anyone has any doubts about the possible consequences of coming out as a punter, he only needs to check a certain female forum. Has been mentioned on here before including a story of an unfortunate 'colleague' who was discovered by his wife.

[vindici]

I’ve been punting for approx 14 years - always kept it under wraps - much easier that way.

Accurate, either you haven't had a punt in 3 years, or you're keeping it very secret from your peers on this forum...

[Endevour117]

Loose lips , it will come back and bite you when least expect it !
Dont be daft or trying to be the big man in front of your so called mates , somethings are best kept a secret like punting
Our lovely hobby is frowned upon by the majority of society , so tell no-one ever .   

[Helloyou75001]

2 years ago I went to a FKK in Germany from London, thinking that I wouldn't meet anyone I know there...

But in the sauna I saw the my department director... when he saw me he just starred at me saying nothing... I pretended I didn't see him.

Once back in the office, and over drinks, we never ever mentioned anything about it. Both of us pretended to never having seen each other.

That's the way to be!