My bottles gone -mojo deserted me!!

[mrpeterman]

Colleagues !!!

Here's the thing, after a tough partnership break up, where in the last 6 months sex was nonexistent and occasional punts to keep me in the zone, I took a break.

Got my own flat sorted and the break up which was amicable sorted I'e who has the jam greatest hits cd etc (you've been there)

 Not looking to get into another relationship and thought ide punt, but I've got no bottle, desire is there, mojo is there, but bottle gone, frightened to go through whatever is stopping me!

Yep I'm on a reduced budget, punting wise but I select someone and bottle it at last momment, not literally I'e be a time waster to girls, but say on morning of punt., then kick myself as low self esteem/bottle

Anyone been through similar and advice, as can't face fucking say someone like Paris lamour who I've seen 6+ times as the thought of getting in car going to her place, etc just makes me bottle?

Another 6 months break?

[BP96]

Why don't you go for a nice massage + handjob type service that doesn't carry the same expectation of "performance" then build up from there?

[MisterMr]

Definitely just go for an half hour massage. Thats all, just massage..... in time your confidence will build up

[mediumjoe]

 Going through a breakup and divorce is an extremely  distressing time, plays havoc with your mind, I didn't lose my bottle or Mojo but looking back I did some very strange things  in both my private and business life, seemed perfectly logical and normal at the time .
 Give yourself time and don't try to push too hard, it will come right again. Best of luck  Joe

[Blackpool Rock]

The massage option sounds like a good idea then no pressure and if you see a girl that you have seen before who gave you good service then you can perhaps upgrade when you are there if you feel like it.
Remember as a kid when you fell off your bike and said you'd never ride it again but were back on whizzing down the road 5 minutes later

[mrpeterman]

Cheers chaps, I'm sure it's more mentally then physical,

I'm worried re performance, and yes I know w.girls couldn't care less, but I stopped before as I didn't cum when in a punt, felt frustrated and that built up, went for cheaper options I'e Ays and same happened so thought ide take a break and 5/6 months later it's a mess

[Shearer1955]

Get back on that horse & don't look back 

[rubric]

I'm worried re performance, and yes I know w.girls couldn't care less, but I stopped before as I didn't cum when in a punt, felt frustrated and that built up, went for cheaper options I'e Ays and same happened so thought ide take a break and 5/6 months later it's a mess

TBH if you are stressed, then you are stressed. I wouldn't sweat it, and I wouldn't immediately jump into a punt in order to try and 'break the duck' or whatever, that's just going to make you more stressed.

Relaltionship breakups are shit, try and get into some kind of routine of light exercise - it'll de-stress you longer term and make you look and feel better about yourself.  In time your desire for sex will come back, and that will be the right time to start punting.

[Rockhead]

Cheers chaps, I'm sure it's more mentally then physical,

I'm worried re performance, and yes I know w.girls couldn't care less, but I stopped before as I didn't cum when in a punt, felt frustrated and that built up, went for cheaper options I'e Ays and same happened so thought ide take a break and 5/6 months later it's a mess

Your describing a situation that'll be familiar to many - it's just one of those things that's hard to talk about. There are normal reactions to stressful situations. Just take it easy and wait for things to normalize, and when you're with a girl just try to enjoy the moment for whatever it brings, and don't worry about achieving a certain outcome (i.e - cumming, or whatever).

[bigmanbigman]

Time takes time thats it.

[Buttons]

Book a holiday, doesn't even have to be away anywhere. Just take a week or two to be in your new home, chill out and relax. Time away from the rat race. Do whatever it is that you enjoy, but don't figure punting into the equation.

Sounds like you need to readjust a bit and recharge your batteries. You'll feel better, ready to get on with normal life again. 

[Punter115]

Have a word with your Doctor...tell him how you feel and listen to his advice.
You take it easy mate and you will bounce back and for fucks sake don't get into a serious relationship for a long time ...enjoy yourself ( wish I had taken my advice).
All the best ...it will get better .

[mrpeterman]

Thanks for all the replies clearly my post/Situation resonates with some on here.

I will keep all posted and let you know how things go, prehaps a step back, a nice massage with option of happy ending might be the way..I'm considering Lola bell if she's still around and tell them not to worry if I just have massage

Anyway thanks for advice

[Plan R]

Even lower performance pressure than happy ending is getting a beautiful young lady to sit on your face.
You could then just finish yourself off during 30 joyous, rejuvenating mins spent slurping 24yr old Euro-vag

I bet you won't find advise this good in 100 issues of 'Psychology Today' 

[Jas1975]

Go for a massage with somewhere that offers more - then part way through if you feel like there can be some performance you can take up the extra...... If not, you get a poor massage but still all is well - there is a naturist massage somewhere or other in Cambridge I think too.

[kamu]

If your on antidepressants then jack them in that will solve the problem.

[Sir Lance-a-lot]

Well, normally I'd advise seeing a girl you've seen before, in a place you've been to before.  But as you've already tried that, I'm not sure what the problem is.

Performance anxiety?  Take viagra, even if you don't usually need it.  One less thing to worry about.

Not really in the mood?  Then don't try until you are, and congratulate yourself on how much money you're saving.  Stash it somewhere, the less you spend now, the more you will have later.

[TomR]

Having experienced something similar years ago what worked for me was to try not to think about doing anything. I tried to focus on
other interests, got plenty of fresh air and did lots of walking. Eventually the stress levels dropped and the thought of getting involved
again came back naturally without forcing it. By that time I was ready to get back in the swing and remember going through a short phase
when sometimes I was seeing an escort every day and enjoying it. I then settled back into a routine and that worked. Sometimes best to
let things just happen by themselves rather than to impose anything yourself that just increases the pressure and reduces enjoyment.

Hope that helps.