"Reverse" EAS

[catweazle]

First off, this may sound like a brag, but I don't  intend  it as such, and I'm a bit troubled  by it.

Booked to see a regular.  Booked by text in the morning for an evening appointment.

When I got there, she said "oh, I've been waiting  all day to see you", which I took as usual  SP flattery.

Great session, mix of PSE and GFE. Afterwards, she cuddled up to me and there was some chit-chat including some quite personal stuff.

Eventually got up to dress, 45 minutes into a 30 minute booking. She helped me dress, buttoned my shirt  tied my laces and so on. In between,  she was kissing me.

Took my wallet out (I've  always paid at the end) and she refused the money ("no, no you don't need to pay".)

Now it's all very well getting a freebie, but her behaviour  bothered  me like SHE had EAS on me.  What do you chaps reckon? I don't want to stop seeing her but only as a SP not a "girlfriend".

[Jonestown]

I’d say she is on the scout for a “provider” and she has earmarked you.

Best not to go back unless you fancy paying for her extended family et al.

[MissWolf]

As nice as a freebie is you should have insisted on paying with something like, no I would rater pay you for your time, your biggest mistake is paying at the end,  always pay at the beginning especially if its someone you have been to before and you know the service will be good.

How often do you see her?

This game can be a very lonely one and eas works both ways, especially if you get a client who treats you like a person and seems genuinely interested in you as well as the sex.

[Doc Holliday]

Took my wallet out (I've  always paid at the end) and she refused the money ("no, no you don't need to pay".)

What did she say when you asked her why she didn't want paying?

[Southernbloke]

As MissWolf says pay up front. I know a lady that I get on well with but I always pay her for her time.
If she says you don’t need to pay, I always just put the money in her hand and if she refuses it then I transfer her the money.

[scutty brown]

what nationality is she?

[big-al93]

what nationality is she?

I did wonder, due to the description of helping him dress ect, if she was an asian provider?

[MysteryManNo.7]

Tricky situation for sure. I've been in a similar one, being asked out by an escort I'd been seeing and foolishly saying yes. Felt good at first but things were way too complicated and I broke it off which was painful.

I've heard from quite a lot of SPs I've been seeing recently that, as MissWolf says, this is a very lonely game for them and EAS will strike them on occasion when they get a client they really like and who treats them well. One girl I've seen is ridiculously stunning and could bag basically any man she wants based on her looks alone IMO but she has said how painful it is when she meets a client she starts to get feelings for and she has to force herself to not make a move and that it's mentally, as well as physically, exhausting.

Another I've been seeing recently works with a good friend and at the last booking she even showed me off to her saying how much she likes me and how excited she gets when she sees my name in her diary. It's certainly flattering but I worry she may be getting a bit attached.

I think the simplest and wisest option is to stop seeing her as much as that may not appeal as this could get very messy very quickly. As others have said, if you do see her again insist on paying up front, I always do, and if she refuses the money leave it somewhere for her before you leave and insist on paying her. This will hopefully make it clear that you only want to see her professionally.

[catweazle]

Thanks everyone fir the helpful answers. To pick up a few queries:
I've seen her off and on for, I suppose, 9 years

Initially,  I would pay up front, then, 4 or 5 years ago  it somehow  changed to pay on departure,  no conscious  choice, it just happened.

Looking back, yes, I should have insisted, but I was taken aback and a bit bemused. I didn't want to  get into a Chuckle Brothers "to you, to me" with a handful of banknotes.

I'll leave it a while; although she has my (punting) phone number she's never contacted  me, only in reply to my texts.

Thanks again chaps- the power of a community!

[Doc Holliday]

Thanks everyone fir the helpful answers. To pick up a few queries:
I've seen her off and on for, I suppose, 9 years

Initially,  I would pay up front, then, 4 or 5 years ago  it somehow  changed to pay on departure,  no conscious  choice, it just happened.

Looking back, yes, I should have insisted, but I was taken aback and a bit bemused. I didn't want to  get into a Chuckle Brothers "to you, to me" with a handful of banknotes.

I'll leave it a while; although she has my (punting) phone number she's never contacted  me, only in reply to my texts.

Thanks again chaps- the power of a community!

So you didn't ask her why?

[mr.bluesky]

what nationality is she?

I bet Chinese or Thai (with a family to support back home.) 

[scutty brown]

I bet Chinese or Thai (with a family to support back home.) 

also my expectation

[pythondan]

I've never had a girlfriend button my shirt let alone a service provider. Was that new or does she often do that?

After seeing her for 9 years the OP is in the best position to judge what it going on but maybe it could be she wants out of the game and is looking for someone she feels might be up for helping with that. Seeing a girl for that long without some form of EAS on the punters part developing would be unusual so maybe she sees something happening between them?

[Trex]

9 years is a long time, perhaps she looking for someone that can look after her and see you as a potential partner.

I think it might end badly for you but I don’t know her so it’s up to you, it’s your life. I personally wont because if she breaks up with you, she wont bring you back as a client again, so I wont risk it.

[Bonker]

Why does this never happen to me?
Is it just because I'm old, ugly, rude and smelly?

[B4bcock]

Why does this never happen to me?
Is it just because I'm old, ugly, rude and smelly?

It's probably because the bulge in your trousers isn't big enough.  (I'm talking about your wallet, of course).

[Jonestown]

Thanks everyone fir the helpful answers. To pick up a few queries:
I've seen her off and on for, I suppose, 9 years

Initially,  I would pay up front, then, 4 or 5 years ago  it somehow  changed to pay on departure,  no conscious  choice, it just happened.

Looking back, yes, I should have insisted, but I was taken aback and a bit bemused. I didn't want to  get into a Chuckle Brothers "to you, to me" with a handful of banknotes.

I'll leave it a while; although she has my (punting) phone number she's never contacted  me, only in reply to my texts.

Thanks again chaps- the power of a community!

This changes the scenario entirely, I really think the OP should be asking himself what he wants to do about this lady, rather than slightly misrepresent the situation to a bunch of strangers and ask their opinion.

There's a great line in the Dire Straits song Romeo & Juliet - "You and me babe, how about it ?"

[northface]

Not many Asians stay in one area for 9 years even if they returned on a regular basis and he has reviewed a few of them to make this race the favourite.
Unless she does not advertise I could have a good guess since we punt similarly and in the same area but that's up to him to disclose this.

[Stevelondon]

This changes the scenario entirely, I really think the OP should be asking himself what he wants to do about this lady, rather than slightly misrepresent the situation to a bunch of strangers and ask their opinion.

There's a great line in the Dire Straits song Romeo & Juliet - "You and me babe, how about it ?"

Exactly……. Maybe she is just a nice lady. I’d be thinking along the lines of, she is treating me sweet cos I’m a regular and this is a kind of thank you.

I’ve had a couple of relationships with SP’s over the years. No it wasn’t me falling in love. We just got on and like MissWolf said. I think perhaps they just enjoyed having a fella who wasn’t going to overthink things. I also think it’s difficult for some SP’s to form relationships because of the line of work they are in.

I chatted to a SP not so long ago and she mentioned she would really love to have a close female friend she could just be best buds with. Girly nights out etc.

Surrounded by people but loneliness still there if that makes sense

[KatieEdinburgh]

Unless she does not advertise I could have a good guess since we punt similarly and in the same area but that's up to him to disclose this.

I would recommend for the SPs safety NOT to name her. It’s not like she’s dangerous or done anything wrong and simply all that will happen is she’ll have tonnes of clients propositioning her and asking to be her boyfriend lmao.

[daviemac]

I would recommend for the SPs safety NOT to name her. It’s not like she’s dangerous or done anything wrong and simply all that will happen is she’ll have tonnes of clients propositioning her and asking to be her boyfriend lmao.

Not to mention chancers looking for freebies or discounts.

[mr.bluesky]

Not to mention chancers looking for freebies or discounts.

Especially that.

[Hornydevil666]

Maybe she has started a new trend like buying a Costa coffee, buy 8 and get a freebie.


Sorry i could resist 🤣🤣

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Well someone made a reference to the SAFFIE site the other day and reading that quite a few SP's do like the men they see and often wonder why their single!

i've yet to find a chinese or Asian girl who dosent help you get dressed, it just somethimng they do as part of their makeup or upbringing!..

[willie loman]

there is never really enough info on these sort of posts, for the rest of us to form any opinion, but 9 years is a long time for someone to make a move,  in my experience sex workers and customers hook up quite quickly, and its not uncommon.

[Richthescouser]

As nice as a freebie is you should have insisted on paying with something like, no I would rater pay you for your time, your biggest mistake is paying at the end,  always pay at the beginning especially if its someone you have been to before and you know the service will be good.

How often do you see her?

This game can be a very lonely one and eas works both ways, especially if you get a client who treats you like a person and seems genuinely interested in you as well as the sex.

I always used to prefer the girls who get stuck in at the start and take payment at the end, always felt more natural. After nearly walking out without paying (we both forgot) I started paying at the start with a joke that I’d forget otherwise.

I did have a lovely meeting with a girl a while ago - booked 30 minutes, had a great time. She was saying how boring it gets waiting for a booking to be made when it’s busy and I told her I was free for a while if she wanted to chat. Ended up gabbing for nearly 2 hours when she got her next booking so off I went. It was really nice just chatting with someone who doesn’t judge a punter, and I’d like to think it was nicer for her than watching daytime TV. I can see how hard it could get when you have a good connection with a punter. I’m lucky - happily married, wife knows what I get up to so it takes away a lot of the risk of EAS as I’ve got a good home life too, but I do much prefer meeting girls who I’d get on well with in real life.

[The_Don]

although she has my (punting) phone number she's never contacted  me, only in reply to my texts.

I've lost count of the amount of punting sim cards (or phones) I've replaced over the years.

Its easy it bin a sim or replace a phone (once they go bad) 

[Bru1901]

A couple arabs havw done this

One to get me out the door quickly for next punter

One just does it as normal sometimes

Both took payment at end as im a regular of some sort.

Paying at start or end isnt an issue as the service is always good and no different if paid at start ot end

[scutty brown]

Dressing the customer at he end of a punt is a basic part of course 101 at the Chinese sex-gang whoring academies.
It's forced into them as part of their happy-smiley indoctrination training

[Jonestown]

Dressing the customer at he end of a punt is a basic part of course 101 at the Chinese sex-gang whoring academies.
It's forced into them as part of their happy-smiley indoctrination training

Can you please post a link to the official documentation that verifies this ?

[pbrown355]

You won't be able to read it becauese it'll be printed in Thai

[JontyR]

I've twice encountered a possiility of a reverse EAS. However I was at a stage in my life where I was overly cynical and wouldn't have entertained any notion of an extended or heightened emotional connection with anyone. (Maybe that's why it happened!!)

Anyhoo on both occasions I sort of shrugged it off right from the get go. Which I am pleased about, because it allowed us all to carry on in the same way. I think that if I'd entertained or acted on it in any fashion it would have ballsed up what seemed to be a pretty good mutually beneficial relationship.

Of course, YMMV.   

Oh one thing I didn't mention though, both did leave the profession, one wonders whether someone else took a different view. Good luck to all concerned if they did.

[Tender.french.kiss]

I did wonder, due to the description of helping him dress ect, if she was an asian provider?

Exactly my thoughts too

[thimble29]

Wouldn't say no to the occasional freebie, maybe insist on paying next time but once in a while let her "win" and take the freebie? Maybe she just wants to reward a good customer without lowering the cost and making it awkward if she needs more in future.
She's an adult!

[Maak]

Enjoy the chance of getting freebie punts

[JontyR]

Wouldn't say no to the occasional freebie, maybe insist on paying next time but once in a while let her "win" and take the freebie? Maybe she just wants to reward a good customer without lowering the cost and making it awkward if she needs more in future.
She's an adult!

And so are you. So why not just be honest?

[unclepokey]

I and my fave sex worker lady have a totally unenforceable understanding to marry if I should become available. I'm quite sure she is motivated by the prospect of enough money even to quit the game and maybe perhaps because we get along together well outside my financial circumstances.
Only time will tell - and the money!

[pythondan]

I and my fave sex worker lady have a totally unenforceable understanding to marry if I should become available. I'm quite sure she is motivated by the prospect of enough money even to quit the game and maybe perhaps because we get along together well outside my financial circumstances.
Only time will tell - and the money!

Sounds like it could be basis of an entertaining film along the lines of Fatal Attraction! Maybe your wife would have several close brushes with the Grim Reaper and suddenly you realise that the sex worker is trying to bump her off, marry you and make off with the Pokey millions.

Suggestions please for actors who should play you and the two ladies and also for the fim's title!

[thimble29]

And so are you. So why not just be honest?

I think what you're calling dishonesty I'm calling charity, different perspectives I suppose.

[unclepokey]

Sounds like it could be basis of an entertaining film along the lines of Fatal Attraction! Maybe your wife would have several close brushes with the Grim Reaper and suddenly you realise that the sex worker is trying to bump her off, marry you and make off with the Pokey millions.

Suggestions please for actors who should play you and the two ladies and also for the fim's title!

Just the man to deal with. As my old boss used to say "You seem to know all about it it, do me a paper" in this case a story line and a script.
 Again, I await the future with interest

[Fuzzyduck]

I’d say she is on the scout for a “provider” and she has earmarked you.

Best not to go back unless you fancy paying for her extended family et al.

Yeah, my first thought was "what does she want?"
I don't buy the argument that it was to reward being a good customer, unless she explicitly said so.

[LLPunting]

Dressing the customer at he end of a punt is a basic part of course 101 at the Chinese sex-gang whoring academies.
It's forced into them as part of their happy-smiley indoctrination training

That's comforting, I've never been assisted with dressing by any of the Chinese SPs I've met in London, so perhaps they're all free-trading, self-possessed, indie tossers.
Similarly present generation of Thai's have not been so hospitable, whether escorts, parlour girls or genuine masseuses.

[petermisc]

if she refuses it then I transfer her the money.

How do you do that?  None of my regulars have given me their bank account details.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

How do you do that?  None of my regulars have given me their bank account details.

Got the reg's and a few chinese indies!..

[tomnash1971]

I'm going through a simular situation.
I am married but in a sexless , loveless marriage basically for past 6 years. I don't punt that often and I did find a local SP that I got on well with sexually and emotionally.

I've been seeing her for past 8 months.

Recently we have become closer and we ended up with an " agreement " her choice not mine as I was happy with the situation. Basically I pay for a booking and then see her as often as I can for free. Obviously her other bookings come first. We have now started talking about me leaving my wife and seeing each other properly.

Only slight issue I have is she is extremely popular and is going to continue working. I don't get jealous over other clients booking her time . But long term I have been at hers on an evening and her phone has been constant with  texts from clients. Has anybody else gone or going through this ?

[Doc Holliday]

.. we ended up with an " agreement " her choice not mine as I was happy with the situation. Basically I pay for a booking and then see her as often as I can for free. Obviously her other bookings come first.

How does that work? How often do you pay her?

[RandomGuy99]

How does that work? How often do you pay her?

BOGMF - Buy One Get Many Free. I can't see the point of buy one.

[Atrueyorkie]

I'm going through a simular situation.
I am married but in a sexless , loveless marriage basically for past 6 years. I don't punt that often and I did find a local SP that I got on well with sexually and emotionally.

I've been seeing her for past 8 months.

Recently we have become closer and we ended up with an " agreement " her choice not mine as I was happy with the situation. Basically I pay for a booking and then see her as often as I can for free. Obviously her other bookings come first. We have now started talking about me leaving my wife and seeing each other properly.

Only slight issue I have is she is extremely popular and is going to continue working. I don't get jealous over other clients booking her time . But long term I have been at hers on an evening and her phone has been constant with  texts from clients. Has anybody else gone or going through this ?

Don’t do it! That nice effect can wear off and then you’ll be stuck with her while she still gets ploughed daily.

Don’t think with your dick. Think long term

[Jonestown]

Don’t do it! That nice effect can wear off and then you’ll be stuck with her while she still gets ploughed daily.

Don’t think with your dick. Think long term

Indeed, if you’re of a mind to leave your wife do it and set up on your own, then see how the relationship with this SP looks, otherwise it could be out of the frying pan and into the fire tout suite. If the phone activity is irking you now, imagine what the whole set up would be like full time.

[SimonSays2108]

I'm going through a simular situation.
I am married but in a sexless , loveless marriage basically for past 6 years. I don't punt that often and I did find a local SP that I got on well with sexually and emotionally.

I've been seeing her for past 8 months.

Recently we have become closer and we ended up with an " agreement " her choice not mine as I was happy with the situation. Basically I pay for a booking and then see her as often as I can for free. Obviously her other bookings come first. We have now started talking about me leaving my wife and seeing each other properly.

Only slight issue I have is she is extremely popular and is going to continue working. I don't get jealous over other clients booking her time . But long term I have been at hers on an evening and her phone has been constant with  texts from clients. Has anybody else gone or going through this ?

I went through something similar and looked to leave my wife - let me just say when it all blows up and comes out in the open its not nearly as much fun ... and i assure you the SP will loose interest as its not 'naughty' or 'exciting' any more ... pls pls pls don't - others , like me, have been here and its not good.