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Author Topic: Perhaps OT, but what do folks do with a vanishing libido?  (Read 1428 times)

Offline egamar

It's age and medication related, I'm sure but I have found my libido has vanished over the last months since I posted my first (and only) review.

Now: libido is 'desire' not 'functionality' (lest ye think a blue pill will cure it).  The blue pills make it work, but I can't be bothered. I can still look at tasty tottie and go "oh, that's nice: I'd fuck that" and then i realise; no I wouldn't.  Can't be bothered.


I had great hopes earlier in the year: pension kicked in; wife 5000 miles away ... fanny here we come.  But no. No desire.  No even during the act which ends up being a mere mechanical performance.

I've tried eating lots of broccoli ....

Anyone else had the same experience and found a solution?

Offline bhudda

It's age and medication related, I'm sure but I have found my libido has vanished over the last months since I posted my first (and only) review.

Now: libido is 'desire' not 'functionality' (lest ye think a blue pill will cure it).  The blue pills make it work, but I can't be bothered. I can still look at tasty tottie and go "oh, that's nice: I'd fuck that" and then i realise; no I wouldn't.  Can't be bothered.


I had great hopes earlier in the year: pension kicked in; wife 5000 miles away ... fanny here we come.  But no. No desire.  No even during the act which ends up being a mere mechanical performance.

I've tried eating lots of broccoli ....

Anyone else had the same experience and found a solution?

Well if the broccoli didn't work i'm stumped.

On a more serious note, we punt to satisfy the need ... if the need isnt there then it doesnt have to be satisfied. Look on the positive side

Offline Gordon Bennett

There's no law that says you have to be horny and constantly on the prowl for fanny y'know.  It might be that deep down the idea of paying a lady for sex doesn't actually appeal to you or sit with your spousal values? I wouldn't sweat it really.

Offline Happylad

I`d be delighted to swap some of my (completely undiminished) libido for some of your functionality.  Never mind your diminishing libido, get on and use the functionality before the rust sets in or you`ll regret it when you`re my age.


Offline egamar

There's no law that says you have to be horny and constantly on the prowl for fanny y'know.  It might be that deep down the idea of paying a lady for sex doesn't actually appeal to you or sit with your spousal values? I wouldn't sweat it really.
Oh, I've been paying ladies for sex since 1976 on four* continents - including both my wives!

:)

* three really, I suppose: one of my wives was american, so that's the fourth.  I sure as hell paid her though ...
« Last Edit: November 25, 2019, 05:38:10 pm by egamar »

Offline ShadowProclamation

I have been shocked at the speed of my libido decline. Viagra was the answer for me. It doesn't boost libido, but ensures a performance. Sex is broader than bonking and orgasms. A loss of libido is an incentive to explore other aspects of sex, such as role playing.

Offline egamar

such as role playing.
I'm a crap actor.  I have been thinking of just going for a toy show with a good squirter though ... Maybe you're right: I shouldn't think so much about the happy ending as the fun beforehand.

Offline Murray Mint

You’re 62, I gather egamar, so a bit rough to be loosing your mojo, I agree, but if you have no real desire and can’t be bothered, such that it just becomes a mechanical act (your words!), then why bother at all? Just read a book or go to the pub and think of the money you’ve saves.

One of the problems I have with this pastime (I’m 72) is that sometimes the punting can become an end in itself – not just a means to an end.

Offline Punterenas

A loss of "desire" probably means your testosterone levels are low. You could be going through something called the Andropause (the male version of the menopause). Not sure if there is a treatment for it but talk to your doctor if you are concerned, accept it as part of getting older if you are not.

Offline aronteo

@Punterenas might have a point - it could be low levels of testosterone, and in any case talking about it with your GP is the best possible advice.

Good luck  :hi:

Offline workinallweek


 Try something different  i found a two girl meeting watching them playing truly a game changer in the interest dept ..
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Offline sensualencounter

Embrace having a fuller wallet!

Punting isn't the be all and end all and I've gone through phases of not feeling like it. Sometimes, I've even punted just for the sake of it.

I've got a much better sense of perspective now and see it as "I'll punt when I want to and will make as sure as I can that it will be fun and positive".

No pressures on myself and enjoy it for what it is. Or don't punt and that's fine too.

Offline threechilliman

Embrace having a fuller wallet!

Punting isn't the be all and end all and I've gone through phases of not feeling like it. Sometimes, I've even punted just for the sake of it.

I've got a much better sense of perspective now and see it as "I'll punt when I want to and will make as sure as I can that it will be fun and positive".

No pressures on myself and enjoy it for what it is. Or don't punt and that's fine too.

Pretty much my take on it. As and when I feel like it. I can happily go for months without a punt these days.

Offline Home Alone


Try something different
  i found a two girl meeting watching them playing truly a game changer in the interest dept ..

I've vacillated quite a bit in the last 18 months. I'd not thought of it as loss of libido as such; more that I wasn't finding it easy to replace a recently-retired and much-missed Regular at a time when part of me was thinking that these were harbingers of the end of my punting career.

Then I thought about services that I'd not experienced - services, I might add, that I'd never thought about when I had my first punt! :yahoo:  I've now seen: two lasses separately before enjoying their MFF service; another lass who's featured in porn films; and a fourth who specialises in Roleplays. A mea culpa, by the way, for not yet having posted reviews on the latter two.

So now I'm back in the position of being a 'proper' punter; not having a Regular any more, but meeting various SPs within easy travelling distance of Home Alone Mansions who offer a kind of service I've not yet enjoyed.

There are still some other services for me to 'tick' before I hand in my last Repeat Prescription for Tadalafil. I am aware, of course of 'the clock ticking' but for the time being, this new approach seems to have prolonged my punting 'career'.

Offline scutty brown

Get your GP to do some basic blood tests:
iron levels
testosterone
diabetes
thyroid function
he might think of a few more as well

Offline threechilliman

I've vacillated quite a bit in the last 18 months. I'd not thought of it as loss of libido as such; more that I wasn't finding it easy to replace a recently-retired and much-missed Regular at a time when part of me was thinking that these were harbingers of the end of my punting career.

Then I thought about services that I'd not experienced - services, I might add, that I'd never thought about when I had my first punt! :yahoo:  I've now seen: two lasses separately before enjoying their MFF service; another lass who's featured in porn films; and a fourth who specialises in Roleplays. A mea culpa, by the way, for not yet having posted reviews on the latter two.

So now I'm back in the position of being a 'proper' punter; not having a Regular any more, but meeting various SPs within easy travelling distance of Home Alone Mansions who offer a kind of service I've not yet enjoyed.

There are still some other services for me to 'tick' before I hand in my last Repeat Prescription for Tadalafil. I am aware, of course of 'the clock ticking' but for the time being, this new approach seems to have prolonged my punting 'career'.
Keep going fella.

Offline sadolddeejay

I'm 65 and started to experience a drop in libido a few years ago. While on the one hand (no, I'm not about to make a joke about hand jobs) it's annoying not to feel the urgency I felt in my younger days, it's also liberating not to be so preoccupied with it, and not have to feel as I did in my younger days that I have to keep the missus sweet to get it regularly. Funny thing is that actually now she wants me more - maybe because of my "I can take it or leave it" attitude.

I keep my weight down and keep fit, but I drink like a fish. The drinking has almost certainly given me a fatty (maybe even cirrhotic) liver, and I suspect that is the cause of my lack of libido. A healthy liver is vital to good sexual function. I read some research that indicated that roughly nine months of abstinence from booze can improve libido, but I'm unlikely to achieve that because I like the poison too much. I can still get it up without pharmaceutical help (but sometimes use Cialis as insurance) but if that stops being the case I'll try to dry out.

Offline Home Alone

Thanks, tcm; you know I will. ;)  :drinks:

I'd love to be the corpse whose coffin lid wouldn't close properly! ;) :yahoo:

Interesting stuff you write, sadolddeejay. As someone who drinks more wine than he ought to, I can see I'm going to have  to be more determined to cut back of the glasses of Red, red wine.
« Last Edit: November 26, 2019, 11:48:34 pm by Home Alone »

Offline John Johnson

 I have been a fairly heavy drinker since my teens. From about 45 onwards I suddenly found that I wasn't waking up with a knob like a frying pan handle but everything still functioned and as time has gone on I am less motivated towards sex. As I am aproaching 60 I also cannot be bothered to walk down to the pub for the usual half a dozen beers so I tend to stay in, read a book and have a couple of small tins or a Scotch. After only a month I am waking up with a cock like a Morris Marina handbrake and the wife is suddenly interested after 10 years of apathy. It also wakes up during the day as, ocassionaly does the wife after 10 years of being ignored.

Offline bhudda

I have been a fairly heavy drinker since my teens. From about 45 onwards I suddenly found that I wasn't waking up with a knob like a frying pan handle but everything still functioned and as time has gone on I am less motivated towards sex. As I am aproaching 60 I also cannot be bothered to walk down to the pub for the usual half a dozen beers so I tend to stay in, read a book and have a couple of small tins or a Scotch. After only a month I am waking up with a cock like a Morris Marina handbrake and the wife is suddenly interested after 10 years of apathy. It also wakes up during the day as, ocassionaly does the wife after 10 years of being ignored.

Something doesnt ring true here ... are you saying you fancy your wife when sober?

Offline mh

I've experienced a decline in interest over the years, partly down to having now done a lot of what I always wanted to do, partly because the OH does at the moment put out more than she used to (and with more variety/interest) and partly because the options on offer are not that great.

I just keep on the lookout for something that piques my interest and think of all the cash I'm saving...  :cool:

Online myothernameis

Anyone else had the same experience and found a solution?

Me as well, just dont have the urge anymore, but dosn't mean I won't punt at sometime, and a few factors might explain my concern

No one issue, finances won't just cover punts, which if i want to would need some planning, but also my health isn't that great, so try to take it easy

I know my appetite for sex hasn't gone away, as when I wake up in the morning, have morning glory

Offline RadioKid

If you're losing your Libido i imagine most here will agree it's a good thing and notice your Wallet regain some health.

I know I saved a bundle when my Libido was non-existent after a football injury

Offline Watts.E.Dunn

Gone a bit these days but still, thats aging.

Not as rock hard either but this is rather odd how stiff des the average UK Punting dick need be as tho the rock hard, and that was rock hard, has gone we're still sufficent for penetration and whats even odder is quite a few girls have remarked too "thats hard"!

Now of course they may well say that to bolster the ego but one reg says that its as good as most all dicks she experinces and i don't doubt her word on that. Age dosent matter so she also says but time duration is a function mainly of age.

But that maybe she possibly sees more off older blokes.

I'll ask her when I see her again.

Offline Laudanum

I'm lucky to get half mast these days. In the last two years or so I've barely thought about sex, which is a bit depressing, but I am early 50s, so maybe that's what happens.

I definitely don't have diabetes or thyroid issues (have had general blood tests).

I wonder if it might be age, low testosterone or psychological.


Offline B4bcock

I'm lucky to get half mast these days. In the last two years or so I've barely thought about sex, which is a bit depressing, but I am early 50s, so maybe that's what happens.

I definitely don't have diabetes or thyroid issues (have had general blood tests).

I wonder if it might be age, low testosterone or psychological.

Go see a GP.    I noticed from your posts you mentioned your low libido back in March, eight months ago.  At your age you should be still regularly sexually active and erectile dysfunction/loss of libido may indicate underlying health issues such as heart problems and should be checked out.

Offline advent2016

Try some different things
Things that have worked for me over the last 20 years

o tried receiving strap-on - I quite like this in the right scenario
o Give / receive domination spanking / caning. I quite like spanking a girls arse and then getting a sloppy BJ
o Dual BJ and Snowballing/cum kiss  - difficult to find participants at sensible money
o Face sitting - didn't do much for me TBH
o being rimmed - like
o edging BJ / HJ - like
o Having my balls sucked - like
o BJ from a TS - done it once, probably won't repeat
o older providers - 60+, 70+
o young providers 20 to 30 - Prefer 30+ for conversation
o voyeurism watching simulated lesbian - didn't do much for me

More often than not these days I go for a massage and hope to get a BJ though usually accept a HJ

Offline Doc Holliday

Interesting read.

I think everything has been covered? There may be an organic cause, especially if it happens over a fairly short time period, so as others have suggested see your GP. Mostly though it is psychosocial worsened by a natural age changes.

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Also as mentioned in the OP and by others, it is important to distinguish between libido loss and ED. They are separate entities but of course one can effect the other.

Is it necessarily a bad thing? Whilst in a relationship it may well be, especially if those involved have differing libidos, but as others have touched upon as a punter it maybe isn't?

On a personal note I would actually be quite happy if my libido diminished. It has completely dominated my entire life, even in pre pubescence and certainly not always for the better.


Offline distancetravel20

I’m sort of getting to the stage where i need something a bit kinkier to get turned on.  A standard shag I’m noticing I’m less interested in than I was.  Tend to need a bit more engagement from the girl and something a bit different to get me interested and fully hard.  Alarming!
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Offline Home Alone

I’m sort of getting to the stage where i need something a bit kinkier to get turned on.  A standard shag I’m noticing I’m less interested in than I was.  Tend to need a bit more engagement from the girl and something a bit different to get me interested and fully hard.  Alarming!

Do you think that's because you're a punter, distancetravel?

I found that, once I came to terms with being a punter, I realised there were different kinds of services  I'd never thought of before I took those first fateful steps into a Massage Parlour. Now that I'm approaching - reluctantly, of course - the end of my life as a punter, I'm trying to tick all the sexual 'boxes' I want to before I call it a day.

Offline Happylad


 Now that I'm approaching - reluctantly, of course - the end of my life as a punter,

You`re nobbut a lad yet!

Offline Tonyg

Mine went a few years ago, for about 9 months wasn’t really interested in anything, thankfully it came back, apparently past mid/late forties it comes and goes in waves...


Some good advice was “never waste one”  ;)
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Offline zulu1964

Since I was castrated I adapt (testosterone sits at about 0.1),now enjoy cuckold and sub duties