Am I being paranoid?

[peter_bungee]

Hi there

Just wanted to share something on my mind having visited a handful of escorts since starting this "hobby" in the last 12 months

Prior to this I did not have much sexual experience and am fairly young, however during my meetings (mainly with english parlour girls) I have tended to dominate during sex and once warmed up bang em quite hard (excuse my french).  I dont mean anything rough or painful, just with more force as well as telling them what position to get into and dictating it all lol

I was not like this with my gf in the past , so have been starting to feel like im being disrespectful and not sure if they are used to being treated like this and how other guys use their time with them???

I mean I still do foreplay and chat etc dont get straight into it.  None of the 6 girls i have seen so far ever told me to go slow or refused a position i have suggested (i tend to do homework of things id like to try lol) but always feel like i am "using" them.  But the last girl (who had a abit of a attitude in general) was sighing when I asked her to do something which got me thinking...

[cockneybstrd]

Hi there

Just wanted to share something on my mind having visited a handful of escorts since starting this "hobby" in the last 12 months

Prior to this I did not have much sexual experience and am fairly young, however during my meetings (mainly with english parlour girls) I have tended to dominate during sex and once warmed up bang em quite hard (excuse my french).  I dont mean anything rough or painful, just with more force as well as telling them what position to get into and dictating it all lol

I was not like this with my gf in the past , so have been starting to feel like im being disrespectful and not sure if they are used to being treated like this and how other guys use their time with them???

I mean I still do foreplay and chat etc dont get straight into it.  None of the 6 girls i have seen so far ever told me to go slow or refused a position i have suggested (i tend to do homework of things id like to try lol) but always feel like i am "using" them.  But the last girl (who had a abit of a attitude in general) was sighing when I asked her to do something which got me thinking...

Dear Ricky in Harrow

Your being paranoid.

She sighed and moaned as she had to work a bit harder for her cash.

Dont worry about using them. Your not if you werent paying them and were pretending to be interested in them just to get them to fuck then maybe your using them.

[cylon]

Well the fact of the matter is you are using them, that's the name of the game. As for banging away too hard, I'm pretty sure they'd tell you if you was causing them any pain or discomfort. The WG sighing I would guess is part and parcel of her attitude, she was bored, annoyed, wishing she was somewhere else, who knows. Don't worry just enjoy yourself.

[CBPaul]

They'll tell you quickly enough if something is off limits, quite often the very second the money is in their hand and safely stashed away.

The last one was probably pissed off that you didn't bolt in 30 seconds, opt for a nice time wasting massage and bugger off 10 minutes early. Personally this type gives me an increased desire to make them work for their money and a very childish satisfaction after making them work harder for their money. Don't go back, find another who is willing to put the effort in and definitely don't worry about it.

[Malvolio]

The great thing about punting is that you get to do exactly what you want.  As long as she's listed it on her services list and confirmed it with you beforehand, you're getting what you paid for, regardless of how twisted it may seem to anyone else.

Frankly, hard thrusting and ordering her to change positions every few minutes is standard stuff.  It may not be how you'd treat a woman you're in a relationship with, but remember that you have no relationship at all with these women other than the fact that they're taking your money in return for sex.

[madeinwales56]

Yes, you're being paranoid and, believe me and the other contributors to this thread, the prossie will not hesitate to let you know if you are banging her too hard. So carry on doing it or else you may be branded a fluffy!

[sparktj]

No you're not being paranoid, but I'd put a different view to the other replies.  I used to share your feeling but have since come to realise that there are many women (not just escorts) who love being used and taken hard.  They're often a bit submissive, love their man to act like a man and take what he wants - provided she gets the pleasure she needs.  It doesn't mean a woman wants disrespect, nor indeed pain, and her need to be used depends on many factors - you can't assume she always wants a good hard pounding.  I've generally found that older women particularly enjoy being used hard, including dirty talk, maybe a bit of restraint and a slap on the bum.  They have the maturity to know what they want and to demand it, and know how to judge the partner who's using them so that no lines are crossed.  Younger women can do it, but they're invariably the ones with a bit more maturity upstairs.

My wife, who I love and respect more than anyone else in my life, still likes gentle lovemaking, but more often likes me to give her a good hard pounding, and gets really turned on when I tell her what I want and talk dirty to her.  She groans with pleasure when I tell her she's such a great fuck and how I'm going to splatter her cervix with cum and clean out the mess afterwards - it's only since she's been in her 50's that she's been happy to be used like that.

Google "The Truth About Kinky Women" and you'll find a piece that helped me get my head around all this some years ago.

[madeinwales56]

No you're not being paranoid, but I'd put a different view to the other replies.  I used to share your feeling but have since come to realise that there are many women (not just escorts) who love being used and taken hard.  They're often a bit submissive, love their man to act like a man and take what he wants - provided she gets the pleasure she needs.  It doesn't mean a woman wants disrespect, nor indeed pain, and her need to be used depends on many factors - you can't assume she always wants a good hard pounding.  I've generally found that older women particularly enjoy being used hard, including dirty talk, maybe a bit of restraint and a slap on the bum.  They have the maturity to know what they want and to demand it, and know how to judge the partner who's using them so that no lines are crossed.  Younger women can do it, but they're invariably the ones with a bit more maturity upstairs.

My wife, who I love and respect more than anyone else in my life, still likes gentle lovemaking, but more often likes me to give her a good hard pounding, and gets really turned on when I tell her what I want and talk dirty to her.  She groans with pleasure when I tell her she's such a great fuck and how I'm going to splatter her cervix with cum and clean out the mess afterwards - it's only since she's been in her 50's that she's been happy to be used like that.

Google "The Truth About Kinky Women" and you'll find a piece that helped me get my head around all this some years ago.

Fuck me. I think I've just cum reading that Sparky! Why on earth do you go out spending your money fucking prossies when you've got a sex goddess at home?

[threechilliman]

Fuck me. I think I've just cum reading that Sparky! Why on earth do you go out spending your money fucking prossies when you've got a sex goddess at home?

Now that's not the point. My OH loves to be fucked hard to the point where she knackers me out. Doesn't stop me seeing wgs though. Love it when they liked being banged as hard as my OH. Variety my friend, variety.....

tcm

[sparktj]

Well said threechilliman.  Playing with other women has given me a confidence and imagination in bed that I wouldn't have got from just staying at home.

[peter_bungee]

The great thing about punting is that you get to do exactly what you want.  As long as she's listed it on her services list and confirmed it with you beforehand, you're getting what you paid for, regardless of how twisted it may seem to anyone else.

Frankly, hard thrusting and ordering her to change positions every few minutes is standard stuff.  It may not be how you'd treat a woman you're in a relationship with, but remember that you have no relationship at all with these women other than the fact that they're taking your money in return for sex.

Thanks guys I will keep banging their brains out!

I think this is what I was thinking and glad to see its normal, i am still a fluffy and worry "will the girl fancy me" and feel bad what I "must be putting her through having to sleep with me" lol.. 

 I have had bad experiences recently at hod/annabellas but thought with my little man and went to visit Cara at annabellas last week, who complained she was tired after sucking me off for what must have been 1minute ...am sticking to regular indis from now on!

[Dani]

You are being paranoid.  You pay a prossie for sex how YOU like it and want it to be.  Obviously within agreed limits.  You are using them for sex just as they are using you for money.  Most will tell you if they are being hurt or if they find it rude when you tell them what position you like.   
Obviously if you are ordering the woman around and snapping your fingers then expect to find it hard to book some parlour girls or even parlours again but if you are polite there is no issue as it is your booking so you do what you like within agreed limits
The tell tale sign is when you try to revisit someone, are they happy to see you or not, are they suddenly too busy to fit you in or are they agreeing straight away
If it really worries you mention it before handing over the cash.  Just say, I like to go hard and fast and get you to change positions is that ok?  That way if they don't like that sort of thing you can save your money and find someone who does.

You are using a service.  Its a two way street.  You pay to get what is agreed.  If they are happy to take the cash they are happy to do what you have asked of them

[Ben4454]

When I first started I was 18 and let the prossie dictate exactly what happened. Usually it involved both of us stripping in some form of awkward non-intimate way and then getting a massage and then her riding me on top.

Punting just felt very mechanical to me until I started to be the driver of the moment rather than the passenger. Now I often 'lead' where I want the punt to go. For example - I got a good girlfriend experience out of a massage WG girl once. She wanted to start off with a massage but I had her instead get on my lap so i could play with her tits. Worked perfectly for me.

I will lead the situation and then add in domination naturally. Remmeber you're paying for the experience so you have every right to be the director.