seeking.com - Open Topic

[BrumTallGuy]

Just out of curiousity i signed up for Sa, and what struck me when you search is how few women take advantage of the verification agaisnt soc media or photo. Considering how easy it is and private i wouldnt trust the vast majority of profiles i hace seen, or these women are just lazy, thick or afraid of hackers.

[BrumTallGuy]

On further investigation the vast majority i see on sa are identikit kylie jenner wannabe lookalike thots..
I can see why its time consuming to dimd the diamonds in the rough.
At least you can search amd create a hotlist without paying.

[NightKid]

Hi all, just wanted to mention that I've recently been another victim of false rape allegation by a vindictive ex-SB. Had to go through the process of being arrested while at home and all that before having my name cleared which wasn't pleasant, to say the least, so here's another reminder again to be aware of the inherent risks that comes with SA.

A couple things I picked up from this:

1. Don't give the hotel your actual address, even if you're trying to make an online booking with your card. Just do it over the phone or in person instead should you have problems.

2. Don't register your punting number with the mobile company either - I did it to unlock the age verification thing for internet browsing and obviously it came back to bite me.

Reposting from the Seeking London thread.

[MrMatrix]

Reposting from the Seeking London thread.

Thans for this post NK. I replied on the other thread. Pleased to see your OK.

[nigel4498]

After reading posts on here about been robbed and accused of rape don't think SA is for me.
I'll stick to my Punting maxim of the 4f's. Find, Fee, fuck, Flee.

[datwabbit]

After reading posts on here about been robbed and accused of rape don't think SA is for me.
I'll stick to my Punting maxim of the 4f's. Find, Fee, fuck, Flee.

Thanks for sharing 

[Shanks]

I’m wondering how older guys get on , I’m mid 40s myself ?

quote author=Jumping Jack Flash link=topic=244630.msg2502518#msg2502518 date=1554791850]
Since I first started to use SA I’ve hardly used AW. I’ve met and fucked some fantastic young women who are fresh and don’t have that jaded WG view of life.

I have been seeing one woman off SA now for over 2 years, she accommodates and it’s free. I reward her in other ways like takeaways or the occasional night out and we are more like FWB. When I have an itch, I scratch it and she knows exactly what to do. EAS is a possibility but that’s not something that either of us are looking for so for the moment we are enjoying ourselves.
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[ik8133]

I’m wondering how older guys get on , I’m mid 40s myself ?

quote author=Jumping Jack Flash link=topic=244630.msg2502518#msg2502518 date=1554791850]
Since I first started to use SA I’ve hardly used AW. I’ve met and fucked some fantastic young women who are fresh and don’t have that jaded WG view of life.

I have been seeing one woman off SA now for over 2 years, she accommodates and it’s free. I reward her in other ways like takeaways or the occasional night out and we are more like FWB. When I have an itch, I scratch it and she knows exactly what to do. EAS is a possibility but that’s not something that either of us are looking for so for the moment we are enjoying ourselves.

I would think mid-forties would be a good age for SA, it's how you go about approaching the SB's that counts.

[hungrypunt]

I’m wondering how older guys get on , I’m mid 40s myself ?

quote author=Jumping Jack Flash link=topic=244630.msg2502518#msg2502518 date=1554791850]
Since I first started to use SA I’ve hardly used AW. I’ve met and fucked some fantastic young women who are fresh and don’t have that jaded WG view of life.

I have been seeing one woman off SA now for over 2 years, she accommodates and it’s free. I reward her in other ways like takeaways or the occasional night out and we are more like FWB. When I have an itch, I scratch it and she knows exactly what to do. EAS is a possibility but that’s not something that either of us are looking for so for the moment we are enjoying ourselves.

Im just shy of 50 and have similar experiences to JJF

[Home Alone]

Sounds to me like you're both lucky lads with the best of both worlds. I'm sure you'll both enjoy the situation.

I strongly suspect that, at my age, visiting SA orr a similar site wouldn't throw up anything similar for me. Anyway, SA sounds a bit too much like hard work, which is why I'll stick with AW.

[MrMatrix]

Sounds to me like you're both lucky lads with the best of both worlds. I'm sure you'll both enjoy the situation.

I strongly suspect that, at my age, visiting SA orr a similar site wouldn't throw up anything similar for me. Anyway, SA sounds a bit too much like hard work, which is why I'll stick with AW.

I agree with you HA. I've spoken to people who use SA and whilst it sounds enticing as several are having a great time, I just feel it requires too much commitment communication wise. I havent got time to keep watsapping every one etc etc. Also its a bit risky I feel. AW is a phone call, pitch up, have a shag, close the door on the way out and go home and thats it. Suits me nicely..

[Spencer Fobby]

I agree with you HA. I've spoken to people who use SA and whilst it sounds enticing as several are having a great time, I just feel it requires too much commitment communication wise. I havent got time to keep watsapping every one etc etc. Also its a bit risky I feel. AW is a phone call, pitch up, have a shag, close the door on the way out and go home and thats it. Suits me nicely..

You're completely right.

SA is fraught with risks and makes big demands on your time.  There have been so many stories about blackmail, rape allegations, flakes, fakes, scammers and time wasters that it does take an increased amount of effort, preparation and diligence to stay safe and have good experiences. 

But it has its rewards, otherwise it wouldn't be successful.   

[InMefan]

This may sound strange but I've often felt sometimes I've had better value for money seeing escorts over girls from seeking. Majority of my arrangements I had were £150- £200 ppm, I think the lowest I had was £120, only a few girls could accommodate so 85% of the time I'd have to book a hotel which is between £40-50 on average. Most of the girls from seeking I saw did generally only stay for an hour, maybe 2 at a push but most of that time was spent talking, eating etc so maybe at a push 40 mins sexual fun if that, there have been a few occasions girls have only stayed for half an hour! some of the girls also seemed to stop after I cum once so, a lot of the girls also been fussy, i.e. don't like kissing, or don't kiss properly, don't enjoy receiving oral etc, there was one that actually didn't like giving blowjobs! I've probably only had a few girls from seeking that I have met for 3 hours or so and have been great fun in bed plus good connection etc but it has been pretty rare for me. I've always kind of been hopeful I could get a freebie but that hasn't happened 
With escorts at least with an hour booking I get a lot of good fun sexual things done in an hour, don't have to worry about hotel costs if it is an incall, probably paying between £120-150 most of the time.

[Good-timer]

This may sound strange but I've often felt sometimes I've had better value for money seeing escorts over girls from seeking. Majority of my arrangements I had were £150- £200 ppm, I think the lowest I had was £120, only a few girls could accommodate so 85% of the time I'd have to book a hotel which is between £40-50 on average. Most of the girls from seeking I saw did generally only stay for an hour, maybe 2 at a push but most of that time was spent talking, eating etc so maybe at a push 40 mins sexual fun if that, there have been a few occasions girls have only stayed for half an hour! some of the girls also seemed to stop after I cum once so, a lot of the girls also been fussy, i.e. don't like kissing, or don't kiss properly, don't enjoy receiving oral etc, there was one that actually didn't like giving blowjobs! I've probably only had a few girls from seeking that I have met for 3 hours or so and have been great fun in bed plus good connection etc but it has been pretty rare for me. I've always kind of been hopeful I could get a freebie but that hasn't happened 
With escorts at least with an hour booking I get a lot of good fun sexual things done in an hour, don't have to worry about hotel costs if it is an incall, probably paying between £120-150 most of the time.

So what do the girls on SA actually get out of it? Sorry I'm a bit new to this topic

[MrMatrix]

So what do the girls on SA actually get out of it? Sorry I'm a bit new to this topic

Our hard earned CASH.
If they are lucky a sugar Daddy at best.

[BrumTallGuy]

I am into my subscription a few weeks and have found it quite fun for 80 quid. I have plenty of free time so the whatsapping etc to get to an agreement i havent found onerous.
I have found i dont fancy any of the thots so stick mostly to women nearer my age. I agree with inmefan on price ranges. Only had a couple of delusionals so far.
My amounts range from milf freebie to max 200 for a few hours from age 25 to 40. I have around five lined up and tried 2.
The ppm girls will fuck a few a month for sure but you wont be kissing a girl with someones jism in mouth or pussy. Also it is great for subs if you like a good deal of pampering.
So all in all 80 quid well spent so far as a one off.
But for short notice cant beat the good b2b providers.

[Cunning Punt]

So what do the girls on SA actually get out of it? Sorry I'm a bit new to this topic

Some cash, yes, and a fantastic time with nice, intelligent and experienced older gents where they have vastly better conversation and sex than they do with boys their own age who are selfish and inexperienced in the bedroom and life generally.

What's not to like? 

[martini2429]

So what do the girls on SA actually get out of it? Sorry I'm a bit new to this topic

What they want is plenty of money for doing fuck all in return

 

[BrumTallGuy]

If i had an sb propose bareback should i share here or not ?

[Cunning Punt]

If i had an sb propose bareback should i share here or not ?

While it would attract one or two guys, the vast majority of members would want to avoid her so I would say yes, for a public health warning pov.

[tynetunnel]

While remembering that this is an open part of the site and anyone can read it 

[BrumTallGuy]

As it happens i binned her straight away and she wanted 500 to 1000 ppm. So i am guessijg she wont attract many off here. If i come across again i will share if advised itx ok.

[NightKid]

This may sound strange but I've often felt sometimes I've had better value for money seeing escorts over girls from seeking. Majority of my arrangements I had were £150- £200 ppm, I think the lowest I had was £120, only a few girls could accommodate so 85% of the time I'd have to book a hotel which is between £40-50 on average. Most of the girls from seeking I saw did generally only stay for an hour, maybe 2 at a push but most of that time was spent talking, eating etc so maybe at a push 40 mins sexual fun if that, there have been a few occasions girls have only stayed for half an hour! some of the girls also seemed to stop after I cum once so, a lot of the girls also been fussy, i.e. don't like kissing, or don't kiss properly, don't enjoy receiving oral etc, there was one that actually didn't like giving blowjobs! I've probably only had a few girls from seeking that I have met for 3 hours or so and have been great fun in bed plus good connection etc but it has been pretty rare for me. I've always kind of been hopeful I could get a freebie but that hasn't happened 
With escorts at least with an hour booking I get a lot of good fun sexual things done in an hour, don't have to worry about hotel costs if it is an incall, probably paying between £120-150 most of the time.

You aren't the only one who feels that way, I'm sure most meets are as such on average ... after all, people trying to get more from doing less isn't a thing that's exclusive to SA.

[dmitrybulgakov]

What they want is plenty of money for doing fuck all in return

 

+100

[Cunning Punt]

This may sound strange but I've often felt sometimes I've had better value for money seeing escorts over girls from seeking. Majority of my arrangements I had were £150- £200 ppm, I think the lowest I had was £120, only a few girls could accommodate so 85% of the time I'd have to book a hotel which is between £40-50 on average. Most of the girls from seeking I saw did generally only stay for an hour, maybe 2 at a push but most of that time was spent talking, eating etc so maybe at a push 40 mins sexual fun if that, there have been a few occasions girls have only stayed for half an hour! some of the girls also seemed to stop after I cum once so, a lot of the girls also been fussy, i.e. don't like kissing, or don't kiss properly, don't enjoy receiving oral etc, there was one that actually didn't like giving blowjobs! I've probably only had a few girls from seeking that I have met for 3 hours or so and have been great fun in bed plus good connection etc but it has been pretty rare for me. I've always kind of been hopeful I could get a freebie but that hasn't happened 
With escorts at least with an hour booking I get a lot of good fun sexual things done in an hour, don't have to worry about hotel costs if it is an incall, probably paying between £120-150 most of the time.

Yes there are bound to be the odd unsatisfactory experience, but if that is pretty much the norm for you on SA, then, with respect, you are doing something wrong.

I'm not sure where you are based but 150-200 for a hotel meet with a girl anywhere outside London should get you reasonable SB, by using a bit of charm, nous and persistence.

Firstly, look to improve your filtering system etc and chose a girl who seems more 'up for it' and looking to for enjoyment rather than a girl who doesn't seem that bothered or a bit too concerned about cash.

Secondly, actually discuss with a girl what you want in advance of an intimate meet! Don't just leave length of meeting and sexual activities to chance.
Say you prefer relaxed meets of 2-3 hours but as some girls think this means 2-3 hours of sex, make clear it won't be, but there will also be chatting and eating/drinks.
Also check through each other's likes/dislikes in the bedroom ie FK, OWO, RO - but don't actually use those acronyms!

If the girls object to any of the above or seem hesitant, then leave it and move on. Yes, some girls will always lie but if you improve your filtering in terms of the girl in the first place and do the 'Q&A' then you will reduce the risks and have a good experience the majority of the time.

However, if you don't feel you have the time or patience to do all that, then yes you may be better off with AW. Though as it's best to check services in advance with sex workers anyway, it is much the same thing with SBs, but in a different tone.

[Jumping Jack Flash]

Excellent advice Cunning Punt.

[AgedCases]

The girls on Seeking will judge you by your looks. Not all  of them, but a good deal of them wont fuck you if they dont like your pictures.

That's me out! 

[BrumTallGuy]

Not being a fugly obese illiterate cheap pussy chaser does help.

[exhippy]

Well using seeking in Argentina, whenever I said ‘can you bare to be with this old guy in his 60s, they kept telling me I was handsome and the law of averages means some were truth telling. But hey I don’t look that bad.

[itk]

I agree with you HA. I've spoken to people who use SA and whilst it sounds enticing as several are having a great time, I just feel it requires too much commitment communication wise. I havent got time to keep watsapping every one etc etc. Also its a bit risky I feel. AW is a phone call, pitch up, have a shag, close the door on the way out and go home and thats it. Suits me nicely..

+1.

[Greenchilli]

Secondly, actually discuss with a girl what you want in advance of an intimate meet! Don't just leave length of meeting and sexual activities to chance.

I think before meeting your sb this is very important to discuss. I had one sb who did not like bj and atleast 2/3  who were not ready to go to the hotel room straight away as they had other 'commitments' on that day. Better to discuss all this to avoid disappointment.

[MrMatrix]

I think before meeting your sb this is very important to discuss. I had one sb who did not like bj and atleast 2/3  who were not ready to go to the hotel room straight away as they had other 'commitments' on that day. Better to discuss all this to avoid disappointment.

Sounds very common sense, but will this not put the SB off or does it just save disappointment all round.

[Steve2]

I always try to do a coffee meet 1st and that seems to work well. On the occasions that I haven't it's about 50/50 whether they work out positive experiences

[Greenchilli]

Sounds very common sense, but will this not put the SB off or does it just save disappointment all round.

Whilst she is sipping her gin n tonic/ latte you can open her with sheepish smile and ask her - So how do you like it normally? She will say- What !  On serious note you can ask her about her previous work experience with SDs and gauge from that and politely state what you prefer behind closed doors. It all depends on the vibe, SB and level of banter you have built before and during the meeting.

[Cunning Punt]

Sounds very common sense, but will this not put the SB off or does it just save disappointment all round.

The key is timing. She may think all you're interested is sex and be put off if you talk about sexual preferences straight off the bat without getting to know her a bit. This is why this is important:

I always try to do a coffee meet 1st and that seems to work well.

Sometimes I raise the subject of sex then, often not due to it being a public place and wanting to see how we get on. Once you've established there is chemistry and she's comfortable with progressing to sex, I then go through a 'Q&A' on preferences by text when finalising a 'proper meet'.

If she's put off discussing it then, then frankly it's likely to be a shit experience and she's not for you.

[Aengus]

Spot on C P.   That’s how I approach things. 

Usually meet for a coffee before, but sometimes it’s straight to her place, half hour chat then sex.

For dinner dates, you soon get a feeling of how she is reacting to you and when to start moving the conversation onto what might happen later.   

I’m never pushy and often have fairly lengthy message conversations without mentioning anything sexy.  Works for me and I’ve had dinner and fantastic sex as well as overnights with 25-35 yr old good looking women and I’m 71! 

Usually pay 150 for evening dinner and sex or up to 350 for dinner and overnight.  Been scammed a few times (my own stupid fault!) and had a couple of no shows.

I do spend a lot of time looking and chatting, but I guess I have to In order to establish a rapport to compensate for the large age gap, although I do get 18yr olds wanting to meet. 

It’s a brilliant way to meet hot sexy women who really do want to enjoy sex with an experienced guy, even old codgers like me!  Can’t believe it sometimes ! 

[Steve2]

Well put Aengus

I think the older I get,  the fussier I get on SA, so meets are fewer and further apart but the quality better

[MrMatrix]

Spot on C P.   That’s how I approach things. 

Usually meet for a coffee before, but sometimes it’s straight to her place, half hour chat then sex.

For dinner dates, you soon get a feeling of how she is reacting to you and when to start moving the conversation onto what might happen later.   

I’m never pushy and often have fairly lengthy message conversations without mentioning anything sexy.  Works for me and I’ve had dinner and fantastic sex as well as overnights with 25-35 yr old good looking women and I’m 71! 

Usually pay 150 for evening dinner and sex or up to 350 for dinner and overnight.  Been scammed a few times (my own stupid fault!) and had a couple of no shows.

I do spend a lot of time looking and chatting, but I guess I have to In order to establish a rapport to compensate for the large age gap, although I do get 18yr olds wanting to meet. 

It’s a brilliant way to meet hot sexy women who really do want to enjoy sex with an experienced guy, even old codgers like me! Can’t believe it sometimes !

That sounds amazing Aengus. No wonder I feel a bit of jealousy. Think you should try an 18 year old just to tick the box.

You seem to have the scope to do this and I would ask are you single, cos no way could I avoid scrutiny if I watsapp'd like many of you here.

[Aengus]

Matrix...... I did ‘try’ an 18 yr old but I didn’t enjoy it. I just felt like a dirty old man (which I guess I am!)  I didn’t see her again but when I told her I felt uncomfortable because of her age she said she really wanted to see me regularly.  I didn’t.

I am married but the Mrs is not interested in sex although she’s a lot younger than me.  I happily scan  and message SA sitting on the sofa while she’s nearby chatting on Twitter.  I’ve many friends with similar car obsessions and I’m always chatting to them,  or that’s what I say !

[MrMatrix]

Matrix...... I did ‘try’ an 18 yr old but I didn’t enjoy it. I just felt like a dirty old man (which I guess I am!)  I didn’t see her again but when I told her I felt uncomfortable because of her age she said she really wanted to see me regularly.  I didn’t.

I am married but the Mrs is not interested in sex although she’s a lot younger than me.  I happily scan  and message SA sitting on the sofa while she’s nearby chatting on Twitter.  I’ve many friends with similar car obsessions and I’m always chatting to them,  or that’s what I say !

Its surprising how many of us get away with typing on UKP or AW with the missus beside us. Mine occasionally asks who what am I typing. Never mind dear I go..
Even so Aengus, just feel SA would be too demanding time wise and then there's the getting away from the OH. I do quite well really. 

[T0pgun]

Yasminx123, Leicester 24

+447305546457

She stole my money. She ran out of the hotel room while i was in the bathroom.

Maya987, Birmingham
External Link/Members Only

Shes back. BEWARE

[yepitsmeagain]

I keep myself to a punting budget, otherwise I would probably end up spending way too much.

So, im in a quandary, do I spend this months punting budget on AW, or have a wank and get a months subscription to Seeking?

If I take the Seeking route, Im happy to keep you all informed of how it goes. (obviously within forum rules)

[Spencer Fobby]

I keep myself to a punting budget, otherwise I would probably end up spending way too much.

So, im in a quandary, do I spend this months punting budget on AW, or have a wank and get a months subscription to Seeking?

If I take the Seeking route, Im happy to keep you all informed of how it goes. (obviously within forum rules)

You'll need a bigger budget for seeking than for AW.  Factor in hotels.  Possibly meals and drinks depending on the girl and the arrangement.  You'll waste a lot of time messaging with girls who turn out to want to sell you pics first. 

[Aengus]

Spencer... it’s true what you say and I do both.

If I want a guaranteed shag then it’s AW, but as I’ve got the time it’s quite exciting to do the messaging and coffee meeting stuff necessary on SA I enjoy that too. 

The results with SA are sometimes stunning! The girls I’ve met have been fantastic, young, open and at the end of the evening really do want to shag you .... and it shows. I’ve never been woken up in the middle of the night by a working girl who wants to be fucked again!  A rare situation but it’s fab when it happens! 

The cost is a bit prohibitive but as the government kindly gives me around £200 a week old age pension I’m happy to spend it wisely!

[hungrypunt]

The overriding thing about seeking is time and cash
gather a good few reg contacts and fun times are ahead if you click and meet them regularly. Variety is the spice of life eh
The first real serious Girl I met on SA I still see at least twice a week now, she turns 26 in June and we met just before she was 21 

[Convince Me]

The first real serious Girl I met on SA I still see at least twice a week now, she turns 26 in June and we met just before she was 21
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Lucky bastard or should that be fucker? Suffice to say I’m jealous.

[Steve2]

The overriding thing about seeking is time and cash
gather a good few reg contacts and fun times are ahead if you click and meet them regularly. Variety is the spice of life eh
The first real serious Girl I met on SA I still see at least twice a week now, she turns 26 in June and we met just before she was 21

Spot on HP. I'm not jealous at all 

[ik8133]

The overriding thing about seeking is time and cash
gather a good few reg contacts and fun times are ahead if you click and meet them regularly. Variety is the spice of life eh
The first real serious Girl I met on SA I still see at least twice a week now, she turns 26 in June and we met just before she was 21

Yeah! You lucky so and so! Do you still pay her an allowance or do you just meet as friends?

[hungrypunt]

Yeah! You lucky so and so! Do you still pay her an allowance or do you just meet as friends?

No Mate , not really. Steve2 generally knows the score, shes serioulsly an older guy girl, Ive done lots for her and her family in the past, but no there is no allowance but she gets benefits different ways.
Funny thing is we met and went for Costa and Cinema last night, she paid he he, first time in ages and boy did she let me know. It was a side bet .

Shes does well out of it dont worry, and her mum U& here lives in one of my places at cheap rent ( no I havent but could have  ) ....but its like a sly relationship without living together. We are heading to llandudno tomoz for a couple of nights in a nice Conwy hotel, and then back to reality Sunday/Monday.

Its very easy going, and shes not interested in a bf. Dunno if you rememeber but SA did a promo a while back asking for couples who feel they had hit it off properly and she said me and her should be interviewed, LOL no princess, fuck that.

One more point, a couple of guys from the SA thread spoke to her back in the day ( shalll remain nameless) who are on here, and Im glad to say, shes still going strong. Shes a darlin

 

[ik8133]

No Mate , not really. Steve2 generally knows the score, shes serioulsly an older guy girl, Ive done lots for her and her family in the past, but no there is no allowance but she gets benefits different ways.
Funny thing is we met and went for Costa and Cinema last night, she paid he he, first time in ages and boy did she let me know. It was a side bet .

Shes does well out of it dont worry, and her mum U& here lives in one of my places at cheap rent ( no I havent but could have  ) ....but its like a sly relationship without living together. We are heading to llandudno tomoz for a couple of nights in a nice Conwy hotel, and then back to reality Sunday/Monday.

Its very easy going, and shes not interested in a bf. Dunno if you rememeber but SA did a promo a while back asking for couples who feel they had hit it off properly and she said me and her should be interviewed, LOL no princess, fuck that.

One more point, a couple of guys from the SA thread spoke to her back in the day ( shalll remain nameless) who are on here, and Im glad to say, shes still going strong. Shes a darlin

 

Sounds like a good arrangement for all parties concerned.