I don't like the "whatever you like" answer.
It pretty much tells me the girl is just going to go through the motions and will get nothing out of things bar the £££.
Even worse when you reach down with your fingers and "no fingers" or try to kiss her and "I don't kiss", the head turns away and she either scowls at you or might be fine with the neck only etc. Hardly "anything you like" when the list grows and ultimately involves little more than getting on top and finishing ASAP with her hand possibly reducing penetration.
Going with the flow is good but a mood killer when she refuses this and that.
One girl I went with did ask me to cum in her mouth one time, and another time to fuck her up the ass. Probably not something I would come out with but I did oblige and positive experiences that made a change from the norm.
Did get the second to last girl I was with to show me, twice, how she liked to masturbate. Glad I asked her as my favourite thing
No half measures either i.e. a few seconds of fake moaning.
Have asked a girl before if she was fine if I used her Hitachi on her and that worked out very well
No "that'll be £20 for me to use my vibe (half heartedly for <10 seconds)" from some Spanish girl who was probably about as Spanish as a born and bred Romanian from Bucharest.
I do sometimes ask where they would like me to cum. Makes a nice change plastering her face or chest area and a few do like seeing the result of your time together.
Some girls can be open to things, others won't be. It's as simple as that.
Unfortunately, there's no guarantees.