What's your understanding of talking dirty? Has it changed its meaning?

[belamy85]

I always like a bit of dirty talk during a punt, it's so much better than the girl being silent. However, I know some girls either don't like talking dirty or just can't do it. So I always check beforehand to see if they're up for. It's never a deal breaker but if I have a choice of SPs the one who is an enthusiastic dirty talker will always get my visit.

Anyway, what I wanted to know is has the meaning of talking dirty changed? In the past week I've contacted 3 different girls and asked if they are happy to talk dirty and all 3 replied 'I don't do role plays'. Although there can be some cross over, I've always thought role play and dirty talk to be separate services.

Has there been a shift in meaning?

[Aldebaran]

Not particularly into it myself, but yes, I would agree with you that dirty talk such as "Oh Yes! Fuck me harder!" or whatever,  is totally different from role play where the SP and the punter are pretending to be certain characters. I'm not more well endowed than average, but I must admit that the occasional girl who has whispered "Wow, lovely big cock!" has turned me on quite a bit, even though I know they are exaggerating. Dirty talk  doesn't seem to be very common though, in my experience.

[Lou2019]

I always like a bit of dirty talk during a punt, it's so much better than the girl being silent. However, I know some girls either don't like talking dirty or just can't do it. So I always check beforehand to see if they're up for. It's never a deal breaker but if I have a choice of SPs the one who is an enthusiastic dirty talker will always get my visit.

Anyway, what I wanted to know is has the meaning of talking dirty changed? In the past week I've contacted 3 different girls and asked if they are happy to talk dirty and all 3 replied 'I don't do role plays'. Although there can be some cross over, I've always thought role play and dirty talk to be separate services.

Has there been a shift in meaning?

Did you expand on what you was actually looking for when you was told 'I don't do role plays'? Could there have been misunderstanding due to a language barrier?

Perhaps another way to phrase it would be are you vocal during sex?

[JontyR]

I think it means very different things to different people.

Some folks like being called names. Some like hearing praise. Some like having some distinct encouragement.

Personally i quite like just hearing a description of what is being done in the most gutteral and base terms possible. Also with the use of some very closed questions.

If the talk doesn't match what you want / expect it can have the opposite effect to what is wanted. I remember one porn starlet with a fame for quite vigourous sex demanding it harder and harder asking "come on harder! is that all you've got?"  - well yes love, actually it is, and I'm going to have to slow even from this!!   

[Razor Boy]

I agree Jonty...unless the talk is exactly what you like/need it has the opposite effect and can be a bit of a mood killer if the timing is not right.
This is no criticism of the SP's, how the fuck do they know what to say at the right time ? 

[belamy85]

Dirty talk  doesn't seem to be very common though, in my experience.

Very true indeed. Over the years of punting I've only found a few girls who are genuinely talented at it.

[belamy85]

Did you expand on what you was actually looking for when you was told 'I don't do role plays'? Could there have been misunderstanding due to a language barrier?

Perhaps another way to phrase it would be are you vocal during sex?

All 3 SPs I approached were British so not a language issue. I just asked if they were happy talking dirty and didn't go into any more detail than that - which is why the role play reply confused me. I'll certainly try the 'are you vocal during sex' line in the future!

[belamy85]

Personally i quite like just hearing a description of what is being done in the most gutteral and base terms possible. Also with the use of some very closed questions.

+1 

[belamy85]

I agree Jonty...unless the talk is exactly what you like/need it has the opposite effect and can be a bit of a mood killer if the timing is not right.
This is no criticism of the SP's, how the fuck do they know what to say at the right time ? 

Agree on this too. If it's done right it's a turn on. Done wrong, wrong timing or 'fake dirty' talk and it has the opposite effect entirely.

[Lou2019]

All 3 SPs I approached were British so not a language issue. I just asked if they were happy talking dirty and didn't go into any more detail than that - which is why the role play reply confused me. I'll certainly try the 'are you vocal during sex' line in the future!

Ah ok, hope you find what you are looking for

[chatbite]

I'm one of those blokes that likes someone to be vocal during sex but so far it's eluding me on all the punts I've had. Like others have said I'm not interested in stuff that's way over the top but if someone gives me some encouragement like "fuck me harder" or "fill my pussy up" I'm pretty much putty in their hands. Once they start telling me where they want my cum it's pretty much a guarantee I'm going to pop. I don't know why but I just get off on it.

I always say I like dirty talk whenever a WG asks what I want, I'm normally quite specific but for one reason or another they all seem to be a bit shy about it and struggle to deliver. Horses for courses I guess 

[lamboman]

All 3 SPs I approached were British so not a language issue.

Lack of common sense or any idea how to please a client might be as they were British.
Fuck my pussy is about the only dirty talk I've ever encountered.

[petermisc]

All 3 SPs I approached were British so not a language issue. I just asked if they were happy talking dirty and didn't go into any more detail than that - which is why the role play reply confused me. I'll certainly try the 'are you vocal during sex' line in the future!

Personally, I would say being vocal during sex is not the same thing as dirty talk.  Being vocal could mean anything from just not staying silent to  enthusiastically screaming the roof off. 

If you want her to pretend as though you are both in some cliched 60s porn movie, isn't that role play?

[belamy85]

I always say I like dirty talk whenever a WG asks what I want, I'm normally quite specific but for one reason or another they all seem to be a bit shy about it and struggle to deliver. Horses for courses I guess 

It's funny isn't it? Girls will suck us off and swallow the lot, let us fuck them in all 3 holes etc... But ask them to talk dirty and they go shy!

[petermisc]

It's funny isn't it? Girls will suck us off and swallow the lot, let us fuck them in all 3 holes etc... But ask them to talk dirty and they go shy!

Not too long ago, if you asked a WG for a kiss, you would be told sharply "I'm not your girl friend!"

[Kool Keef]

Not too long ago, if you asked a WG for a kiss, you would be told sharply "I'm not your girl friend!"

"You are for the next 30 mins/hour!" i'd have replied 

[king tarzan]

I've never sworn at escort during sex..
I remember Bailey wanted me to use foul language during sex, I declined, she was annoyed that I was far too polite and gentle..

I thought you like the opposite then I'm sure you'll easily find them..

Not my style..

[Stevelondon]

Did you expand on what you was actually looking for when you was told 'I don't do role plays'? Could there have been misunderstanding due to a language barrier?

Perhaps another way to phrase it would be are you vocal during sex?

Only if the wife picks up the phone when I ring.

Oh I see what you mean.
No. 

[mr.bluesky]

" hurry up I've got another client in 5 minutes " does that count as dirty talk 

[PaulRuff]

Not a huge fan of dirty talk, encouraging noises much more my cup of tea.

[Thephoenix]

The only talk or noises I like, whether with civvy or SP, are those which I believe to be genuine.
Any hint of fake talk or noises, particularly when I'm trying to climax is a no no.

[Colston36]

Very true indeed. Over the years of punting I've only found a few girls who are genuinely talented at it.

They generally come out with very dreary stuff. "You dirty fucker" is simple, accurate and will do for me 

[CanOfRedBull]

Before the dawn of the internet, if you wanted a sexual kick you would phone a 0909 number.  Obviously being a non visual service this was all about dirty talk to get your sexual kick.  Someone describing a situation and you talking back about it.

Fast forward to 2021 and I think dirty talk isnt’ what it use to be.   I agree that when I try dirty talk the vast majority of women don’t like it, find it embarrassing or would prefer to not get involved.  Unless I’m just not meeting the right women.

[Shagswell2001]

Speaking from the other side of things, kinda. I enjoy a bit of FemDom from time to time. Nothing is a bigger turn on to me than to hear a girl while she is fucking me with a strapon, tell me that I am her, dirty little,  bitch, slut,  whore etc and she is gonna piss in my mouth and make me eat my own cum 😊😊😊😊😂😂😂

[Ali Katt]

I always like a bit of dirty talk during a punt, it's so much better than the girl being silent. However, I know some girls either don't like talking dirty or just can't do it. So I always check beforehand to see if they're up for. It's never a deal breaker but if I have a choice of SPs the one who is an enthusiastic dirty talker will always get my visit.

Anyway, what I wanted to know is has the meaning of talking dirty changed? In the past week I've contacted 3 different girls and asked if they are happy to talk dirty and all 3 replied 'I don't do role plays'. Although there can be some cross over, I've always thought role play and dirty talk to be separate services.

Has there been a shift in meaning?

With regards the latter "I don't do role plays" doesn't mean they don't do dirty talk. I think escorts are bombarded with fantasists and silly wankers asking for impossible scenarios and stuff like that.So they think a lot of men aren't genuine.

I think dirty talk is two way thing. I've never had anyone ask me to stop. If the girl isn't that into me, I don't bother.

[lillythesavage]

With regards the latter "I don't do role plays" doesn't mean they don't do dirty talk. I think escorts are bombarded with fantasists and silly wankers asking for impossible scenarios and stuff like that.So they think a lot of men aren't genuine.

I think dirty talk is two way thing. I've never had anyone ask me to stop. If the girl isn't that into me, I don't bother.

Just offer more money  , with the ever growing extras one more will not hurt 

[belamy85]

Before the dawn of the internet, if you wanted a sexual kick you would phone a 0909 number.  Obviously being a non visual service this was all about dirty talk to get your sexual kick.  Someone describing a situation and you talking back about it.

Fast forward to 2021 and I think dirty talk isnt’ what it use to be.   I agree that when I try dirty talk the vast majority of women don’t like it, find it embarrassing or would prefer to not get involved.  Unless I’m just not meeting the right women.

0909 numbers and their equivalents. Not thought of those in years! Always found them a mixed bag.

I agree dirty talk isn't what it used to be. I wonder if this is bcs our culture has become more visually based than it was a few decades ago. No need to describe / talk about things these days when you can just see it...

[belamy85]

Speaking from the other side of things, kinda. I enjoy a bit of FemDom from time to time. Nothing is a bigger turn on to me than to hear a girl while she is fucking me with a strapon, tell me that I am her, dirty little,  bitch, slut,  whore etc and she is gonna piss in my mouth and make me eat my own cum 😊😊😊😊😂😂😂

Interestingly I've always found SPs who offer dom services good dirty talkers, and to a lesser extent subs too. Perhaps offering services on the sub/dom spectrum means you have a better verbal imagination.

[Ali Katt]

Interestingly I've always found SPs who offer dom services good dirty talkers, and to a lesser extent subs too. Perhaps offering services on the sub/dom spectrum means you have a better verbal imagination.

Dom yes as a large part is about giving instruction and I think most Dommes offer humiliation which verbal plays a large part. Subs, depends on the sub; huge difference between a brat and someone who is a sub, but more into say being instructed.

[Hobbit]

Most hookers I have seen over the years have not been good at talking dirty. They are good at talking but that's it.  The term "talking dirty" has different requirements for various people. Some people like to be sworn at or verbally abused, whereas others may just prefer the words like "cock" or "fuck" being said in a clear and sexy manner.

I remember seeing one girl who said that she had a client who requested her to racially abuse him during sex. So each to their own I guess. 

[LLPunting]

Loud vocalisation may be too indiscrete given the location/situation of an SP's incall arrangements.

SPs get loads of timewasting callers tossing off whilst making enquiries about dirty talk, most aren't inclined to provide free jollies.

Most of us can tell the recognise an insincere statement so what's said and how/when it's said can very well be a turn off, especially when you know you're paying for it; Fantasies can be fragile.

As a GFE punter I prefer the illusion of a willing partner and that is usually best feigned/demonstrated by her physical reactions and efforts, "talk is cheap".  If her lips/heart/groin are in the game then the vocalisation usually follows whether it's the "quality" of the sighs and gasps or she's putting sailors to shame with her vocabulary. 

[belamy85]

Most hookers I have seen over the years have not been good at talking dirty. They are good at talking but that's it. 

I can certainly agree with that. Why is it some SPs just talk and talk? I used to wonder if it was nerves but that's clearly not the case for the more seasoned girls. Nor is it to waste time as I've seen girls who have gone way over the hour and even when I'm finished and ready to leave are still chatting!

[rathbone]

I can certainly agree with that. Why is it some SPs just talk and talk? I used to wonder if it was nerves but that's clearly not the case for the more seasoned girls. Nor is it to waste time as I've seen girls who have gone way over the hour and even when I'm finished and ready to leave are still chatting!

It's possibly because they find silence uncomfortable - same reason that many have a soundtrack or playlist on in the background.  Talking also helps to fill up any silences.

Meantime I've never had much success asking for dirty talk.  An SP I saw regularly said she just didn't do it which is fair enough, another one I saw a couple of times did it reluctantly and a bit unconvincingly.

[Stevelondon]

My understanding of really dirty filthy disgusting talk.
Is when she says,
“Is Essra bby”

No idea why she talks like that. She’s from bloody Scunthorpe.

[JonasG]

I can certainly agree with that. Why is it some SPs just talk and talk? I used to wonder if it was nerves but that's clearly not the case for the more seasoned girls. Nor is it to waste time as I've seen girls who have gone way over the hour and even when I'm finished and ready to leave are still chatting!

I always thought it's cos they get bored just sitting there all day usually by themselves so they just wanna talk to someone.

Cos even when I've cummed and I've dressed they're still rabbiting on, when you'd think they'd want the punter out of their sight ASAP.

[signy]

I always thought it's cos they get bored just sitting there all day usually by themselves so they just wanna talk to someone.

Cos even when I've cummed and I've dressed they're still rabbiting on, when you'd think they'd want the punter out of their sight ASAP.

Maybe it means that you are a good punter and they want to encourage you to visit them again. Five minutes chat is a small price to pay if they can get repeat bookings with clean, reliable, non-threatening clients.

[Home Alone]

When I began punting in 2004, it was a big step into a sordid world for me.

So I kind-of wanted affirmation of what a drastic step I'd taken by seeking out girls who offered "dirty talking". I'm not saying they were rarer than hens' teeth, but they weren't easy to find. And the numbers offering that specialism seems to have dwindled over the years so I've stopped asking for it.

It's a bit like asking for a pint of Mild in a pub!!

[Rapha]

I find if a girl initiates it I will run with it & it can get quite filthy, with both of us using words we probably never use in regular conversation. I enjoy it & I find if it's a 2 way thing it's really hot.

Its possibly something more likely to occur with a SP who knows you well etc.

[willie loman]

I always thought it's cos they get bored just sitting there all day usually by themselves so they just wanna talk to someone.

Cos even when I've cummed and I've dressed they're still rabbiting on, when you'd think they'd want the punter out of their sight ASAP.

in the swimming pool girls talk to each other as they do lengths, they talk while jogging, they talk while walking, guys are not like this, surprised you havent noticed.

[JonasG]

Escorting a bit different though, a lot of WG girls look down on us.

[king tarzan]

Escorting a bit different though, a lot of WG girls look down on us.

Why??

Very intriguing

[Stevelondon]

Escorting a bit different though, a lot of WG girls look down on us.

Yes…… an interesting comment that.

How’d you know.

Oh yea……. An SP told you. 

[lillythesavage]

Yes…… an interesting comment that.

How’d you know.

Oh yea……. An SP told you. 

Interesting in what way?

Not found that at all  , would need to be outrageously tall 

[Rapha]

Escorting a bit different though, a lot of WG girls go down on us.

FTFY 

[Keema]

Might be a bit niche, but I love a SP to say "fuck me harder/you are driving me wild etc" in her original language. So far I've had Latvian, Russian, Romanian, Portuguese, Spanish, Polish and Urdu.  Of course they could just be saying I want chicken for dinner, but it sounds authentic.

[usroads]

Standing doggy - up her arse - and she says "Fuck the shit out of me"

[Thepacifist]

I’ve never thought of dirty talk as role play. To me it’s a part of a PSE.

[belamy85]

I’ve never thought of dirty talk as role play. To me it’s a part of a PSE.

My thoughts exactly!

[signy]

I’ve never thought of dirty talk as role play. To me it’s a part of a PSE.

I might be over-pedantic here, but isn't PSE (or GFE for that matter), just a different form of roleplay? There might not be the costumes and defined roles, but it is still a performance, at least on the SP's part. She will play the pornstar/slut, including the dirty talk, for the punter.

Similarly, what we more usually think of as roleplay, might require some dirty talk on the SP's part, for example the "desperate housewife" scenario. That's before we get to the roleplay within the dom/sub experience and the dirty talk that might be involved there.

These things aren't closed boxes; there is a lot of merging between and within experiences.

[Punterperson1971]

Why??

Very intriguing

Some maybe but there are some wg’s who do go the extra to make a punter happy.