When you don't perform to your best ability

[Thepacifist]

How do you feel?

I feel shit afterwards. When you know what you're capable of and you don't perform to that level it's disappointing. Especially when meeting a girl for the first time leaving me feeling like I've left a bad impression. Things I'm talking about are such things as cumming too early when you don't want too, going soft etc. Sometimes I feel like these girls expect a porn star like fuck for 10 minutes straight and I can't live up to that. It makes me want to go back and rite the wrongs but I only punt once a month so when it goes wrong I tend to think about it for a while. I just wanted to get this off my chest and see what others think or if it's just me..

[TomBjork]

I suppose it matters more when you are spending £100 an hour to fuck someone.

But in reality it doesn't matter, we are human afterall and not machines, we will have downtimes sometimes as well as up.

Maybe don't wank or watch porn for a week leading up to seeing someone for sex, you'll naturally be horny more. And exercise.

[Donnie69]

I wouldn't worry too much.  They want your money, rather than a pornstar shag.

I think most prossies know a lot of clients could have erection or ejaculation problems, they are used to it.
I do think a lot of prossies like guys that cum quite quickly, but possibly not in 30 seconds. I personally am not into intercourse lasting for ages.  5 or 10 minutes max is fine. Sometimes I can't cum thru intercourse, this is were CIM is crucial.  CIM is pretty good for me because I normally shoot a big load, filling up the prossies mouth.  I try to save my cum up before a punt (2-6 days). 

[cueball]

I wouldn't worry too much.  They want your money, rather than a pornstar shag.

This ^^

I'm a shit shag but I'm welcomed back to many a lass and I'm sure it's not my sexual skills that makes em say yes.

Stop over thinking it op

[fairfield]

I wouldn't worry too much.  They want your money, rather than a pornstar shag.

Same here. i just perform to the best of my (limited) ability on the day. The WGs can take it or leave it - they've already took your money. Most of them have been relieved the 'dirty deed' was over.
Only once in 12 punts has the pros$$ie got shirty after my one shot pop. "What about me!" - she hissed. I thought - 'what u think i am, a  fuckin' sex object!!' Made her get off me, but not before she had given my poor soft member and crotch a heavy pounding. Walked funny for 2 days. Lesson learnt - never book BDSM specialist for a GFE. 
But OP, i am sorry you "when it all goes wrong, tend to think about it for a while."  My sympathy is all with you. .... i  always blame the WG - after all she's the one tripping happily all the way to the bank whatever the outcome.

[smiths]

How do you feel?

I feel shit afterwards. When you know what you're capable of and you don't perform to that level it's disappointing. Especially when meeting a girl for the first time leaving me feeling like I've left a bad impression. Things I'm talking about are such things as cumming too early when you don't want too, going soft etc. Sometimes I feel like these girls expect a porn star like fuck for 10 minutes straight and I can't live up to that. It makes me want to go back and rite the wrongs but I only punt once a month so when it goes wrong I tend to think about it for a while. I just wanted to get this off my chest and see what others think or if it's just me..

If I get soft cock central which happens sometimes I do other things like FK or DFK, it doesn't really bother me. I certainly don't take into account the WG might want me to fuck her solid for 10 minutes as its very likely to be the opposite in reality as that's less work for her. Ultimately I punt to suit me NOT WGs, as its not a date it doesn't concern me what the WG wants over and above me turning up on time, clean with the agreed cash.

[smiths]

I suppose it matters more when you are spending £100 an hour to fuck someone.

But in reality it doesn't matter, we are human afterall and not machines, we will have downtimes sometimes as well as up.

Maybe don't wank or watch porn for a week leading up to seeing someone for sex, you'll naturally be horny more. And exercise.

Not for me it doesn't, it matters far more when I am in a relationship or even better in love with somebody as then its a two way thing whereas in punting its very much for me what I want only. But of course if a punter is feeling like the OP does sometimes they aren't getting the best out of punting that they could in my view.

[smiths]

This ^^

I'm a shit shag but I'm welcomed back to many a lass and I'm sure it's not my sexual skills that makes em say yes.

Stop over thinking it op

Indeed, if my technique mattered no WG would want me back, fortunately its cash they want.

[uutarn]

While i completely agree with all the above comments, my overwhelming empathic nature personally demands that i at least try to perform adequately.
I know it doesn't matter, but its a personality trait that emcompasses my whole life and i have to deal with it.

So the answer is yes, i feel down when i didn't perform well.

[threechilliman]

This ^^

I'm a shit shag but I'm welcomed back to many a lass and I'm sure it's not my sexual skills that makes em say yes.

Stop over thinking it op

That's how I view it. I'm there to enjoy myself, she's there to let me and get paid for it.

tcm

[hendrix]

That's how I view it. I'm there to enjoy myself, she's there to let me and get paid for it.

tcm

This.

I'm not there to put on a performance. She's paid to provide the agreed services. If I have an off day (from my perspective) then it's just wasted money and I don't have to have the "Sorry, it's not you, it's me" conversation

I could give exactly zero fucks about whether a prossie enjoys my "performance"

[cueball]

I'll add to this thread, if any of you lads want to make a prossie happy, turn up... on time, clean, polite, don't push boundries and don't be a weirdo.

You'll be amazed how suddenly you become a sex good then.

Your payment, hygiene and behaviour will dictate to her whether you're a good punter or not.

Your porn star skills will make no odds.

[TomBjork]

Not for me it doesn't, it matters far more when I am in a relationship or even better in love with somebody as then its a two way thing whereas in punting its very much for me what I want only. But of course if a punter is feeling like the OP does sometimes they aren't getting the best out of punting that they could in my view.

I agree with the loving someone part bit, I want to give them the best.

But you know? It's OK if sometimes you can't give them the best. It happens. She has periods when you want to shag but you understand, so will she.

Get off the porn
Get off wanking

To me what the OP wrote suggests the guy's mind has been influenced by watching porn. This is not how sex works in reality. He seems inexperienced to me.

Also get good at using your hands and tongue when the little general is dozing off.

[vw]

How do you feel?

I feel shit afterwards. When you know what you're capable of and you don't perform to that level it's disappointing. Especially when meeting a girl for the first time leaving me feeling like I've left a bad impression. Things I'm talking about are such things as cumming too early when you don't want too, going soft etc. Sometimes I feel like these girls expect a porn star like fuck for 10 minutes straight and I can't live up to that. It makes me want to go back and rite the wrongs but I only punt once a month so when it goes wrong I tend to think about it for a while. I just wanted to get this off my chest and see what others think or if it's just me..

sorry to hear you feel like that, don't personally think the girls expect porn stars and don;t judge either way they earned their money.  Used to feel similar when I had my delayed ejaculation problem could not cum for love nor money, many of the good escorts felt disappointed to that they couldn't get me over the line to which in turn made me feel bad.

Chin up and onwards and upwards and try not to over think it, it doesn't help !

[DickDiver]

Genuinely could not give a monkeys. I'm paying for the privilege of not caring how I perform.

I'd be more down if it was a civvy I liked.



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[Placebo88]

Giving an escort sexual satisfaction is irrelevant to me in a booking and I do the things that I want to as I am the one paying.No escort offers any sort of discount per orgasm given to her so that shows where their priorities lie.Besides , it is not like they are short of sex and they are pinning all their hopes on  me.

Performance issues only bother me if they impact on my own enjoyment of a booking.I have had meets where this has happened and it has been a disappointment.I am sure the escorts were as happy as ever , probably more so as they ended up as very easy bookings for them.I returned on one of these occasions for my own pleasure , not to redeem myself with the WG or prove anything to her ; neither of these things matter.

My advice ; do all the decent things like clean , polite , punctual , no hassle etc. , these are all the requirement a WG has of any punter.With those covered , focus on your own enjoyment and don't put any unnecessary pressure on yourself.Any good escort would tell you the same if asked.

[MrMatrix]

I think most escorts want you to have a good time cos there's a good chance you will return. My biggest issue op is I don't cum too easily. I can last ages. Now that is frustrating... I can be with a beautiful girl and the little man doesn't chuck up - the little sod. So i often end up having a wank which I can do at home. Last few times if I have struggled its been into the WG's mouth which is as good as any thing IMO.
As one escort said "too much wanking, doesn't feel the pussy"...she may have a point.

[Rod trotter]

Last time i saw a little stunner for the third time i came quite quick and felt i let myself down, and didnt get my fill.

Im not at all bothered about pleasing the girl, i want my fuck to be all about me and its her job to make me think im the shag of her life.

Do that, she gets paid, gets a repeat and everyones a winner, easy.

[Razor Boy]

I know what you mean OP and just like any "sport" confidence is the thing to get the best out of your performance.
In real life I can fuck the shit out of the OH and its just that I know I can and never question this in my mind. When I am paying for it the pressure and nerves seem to kick in and the confidence side of the brain disappears sometimes leading to not performing my best and that is frustrating.
I have worked on this since returning to punting after a 5 year break and initially having issues going soft etc and now a combination of wearing a cock ring and taking half a blue pill will ensure that I leave the punt a happy chap.
It is the confidence in the knowledge that I have taken these performance precautions that has made all the difference for me and the fact that I can knock a hole in a brick wall with the enhanced hard on     

[oring123]

just do the best you can and i agree
combination of wearing a cock ring and taking  a blue pill will ensure that I leave the punt a happy chap.
It is the confidence in the knowledge that I have taken these performance precautions that has made all the difference for me and the fact that I can knock a hole in a brick wall with the enhanced hard on 
do your best and enjoy your time punting is the secret to a good punt .

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[OakTree]

The only time I feel anxiety is when I've realised too late I should of walked but even then I'll make the best of a bad job.

The truth be known I probably do like to think I've left a good impression in shagging performance, it's ego. It's pointless worrying about it though as you'll never know. If you asked her she's hardly going to say "Actually you're a shit shag and you've got a tiny cock" she'll tell you the exact opposite in fact.

I think having done this a fair few years does help. I rarely if ever get nervous and the sight of an extremely fit slutty woman doesn't send me into a quivering wreck. Foremost in my mind is I'm doing this as pure enjoyment and it's a totally selfish and indulgent thing.

[Bluefin]

Its great to read this forum and know that there are others like me.
I hate it when I don't perform to my potential especially with a new girl because I know what I'm capable of yet performance anxiety kicks in for whatever reason and the more you think about it the worse it gets.
I read somewhere on here about going for owo only for a couple of meets first, to build up confidence with a new girl
and I think that is good advice.

[Jock D]

Your payment, hygiene and behaviour will dictate to her whether you're a good punter or not.

Your porn star skills will make no odds.

Spot on Sir 

[Nagilum]

How do you feel?

I feel shit afterwards. When you know what you're capable of and you don't perform to that level it's disappointing. Especially when meeting a girl for the first time leaving me feeling like I've left a bad impression. Things I'm talking about are such things as cumming too early when you don't want too, going soft etc. Sometimes I feel like these girls expect a porn star like fuck for 10 minutes straight and I can't live up to that. It makes me want to go back and rite the wrongs but I only punt once a month so when it goes wrong I tend to think about it for a while. I just wanted to get this off my chest and see what others think or if it's just me..

You have some misconceptions here.

1. Don't feel bad cumming too quickly, some find it flattering and most WGs prefer that. Leading on to my next point.
2. You assume they want a hard pounding for a prolonged spell, they do not. They have more clients to service after you. There are exceptions of course, but in the main, no.
3. They see many clients and have seen it all before. You do not leave a bad impression, you are leaving the right one. Horney client, cums and is not hard work. Perfect.

Why are you depressed again?

[budz]

I have always suffered with PE and have found a combination of watching a very small amount of porn and no masterbating between punts has really helped. The OH and I don't have sex so by the time a punt comes round I am super horny, pop a blue pill before a punt, first pop is usually pretty quick but second one takes a lot longer.

[Thepacifist]

Thanks lads, I'm glad I posted this thread now as I feel better reading the responses. I stopped watching porn when I found out about escorts. I never wank on the day of a punt because it would kill my drive, perhaps this is why I cum quick sometimes. On to the next one 

[oring123]

Try a wank 1 day before may help ?

[MrMatrix]

I avoid having a wank for a minimum of 3 days before a punt. And still struggle to unload 

[oring123]

its a what works for you best problem
answer should be try all options
but at punting rates £
hard to do

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