Author Topic: Drop after sex (Read 2955 times)

Ali Katt · « **on:** September 09, 2019, 09:08:44 am »

I don't normally post threads. I've got a really bad case of drop after sex. It wasn't because the sex was bad, I had a good time, a review will be posted when I get round to it. But fuck me I feel drained, and no it isn't sub drop, I also wasn't that dominant compared to what I can be like.

So, in short do other people feel emotionally drained after sex and how do you deal with getting back to the daily grind after punting? Usually I'm ok.

jesse4585 · « **Reply #1 on:** September 09, 2019, 10:13:38 am »

Especially these last 10 years I typically feel a little drained after sex. I deal with it by never having a punt in the day time, unless I had no work to do for the rest of day.

I guess the general things for boosting your energy help - make sure you get some exercise, have a good diet or if that's hard take vitamin tables, make sure you have a good mattress for restful sleep.

Its interesting that for much of history there was a strong belief that sex was draining for men. There used to be a theory in Taoism, esoteric Christianity etc that if you don't have sex & you don't wank, you'll have more energy for work. This was in folk wisdom to, it used to be the fashion for football managers to tell players not to have sex the night before a match. This was from the top division professionals right down to the Sunday league games I used to play in. Interesting that advise seemed to have gone out of fashion by about the late 90s, but I think it's still true, at least for some of us. The word to search for for is sexual sublimation, if you're interested in this topic.

Another thing is, for some reason this summer people seem to have been reporting feeling more fatigued than normal:
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django0700 · « **Reply #2 on:** September 09, 2019, 10:16:27 am »

Emotionally drained -no. I find I that after the initial buzz I tend to get more relaxed and mellow after sex, which tends to diminish until the beast needs to be satisfied again..

mradventures · « **Reply #3 on:** September 09, 2019, 10:25:37 am »

i think im abit like a drug user, if im happy i tend to have a come down later on thats painful
apart from im just not taking drugs, its just everyday stuff :/

threechilliman · « **Reply #4 on:** September 09, 2019, 10:30:07 am »

Quote from: django0700 on September 09, 2019, 10:16:27 am

Emotionally drained -no. I find I that after the initial buzz I tend to get more relaxed and mellow after sex, which tends to diminish until the beast needs to be satisfied again..

Me too.

jeanphillipe · « **Reply #5 on:** September 09, 2019, 10:35:08 am »

Quote from: Ali Katt on September 09, 2019, 09:08:44 am

I don't normally post threads. I've got a really bad case of drop after sex. It wasn't because the sex was bad, I had a good time, a review will be posted when I get round to it. But fuck me I feel drained, and no it isn't sub drop, I also wasn't that dominant compared to what I can be like.

So, in short do other people feel emotionally drained after sex and how do you deal with getting back to the daily grind after punting? Usually I'm ok.

never a bad idea to go cold turkey for a while, sort of 'cleanse your system' or give it a rest as it were.

i have set my self the challenge in the past to have utter control for a couple of weeks, no sex, no porn, not even fantasising, not even checking out that ass that walks past.

the benefits include, getting a whole load of other tasks done; a lot of time and energy is wasted thinking about pussy, imagine all that energy put to other uses. the second and more important beneficial to punters or for me anyway is the session after this period is usually a great one ! come back with renewed vigour! as it were.

we all differ tho, hope you figure it out bud.

smiths · « **Reply #6 on:** September 09, 2019, 10:47:31 am »

Quote from: Ali Katt on September 09, 2019, 09:08:44 am

I don't normally post threads. I've got a really bad case of drop after sex. It wasn't because the sex was bad, I had a good time, a review will be posted when I get round to it. But fuck me I feel drained, and no it isn't sub drop, I also wasn't that dominant compared to what I can be like.

So, in short do other people feel emotionally drained after sex and how do you deal with getting back to the daily grind after punting? Usually I'm ok.

Yes I can feel drained but only psychically, the worst has been after 4 hours or more of sex parties, I sometimes could hardly make my way to my car afterwards, I was friar tucked.

If a WG is good and becomes a regular I may well fill my boots while I can, that can be tiring but the fun trumps the tiredness as long as I can still punt.

OakTree · « **Reply #7 on:** September 09, 2019, 12:23:47 pm »

If it’s a good session I’m quite often very horny for a few hours after. I sometimes don’t shower after fucking her and then when I go home with her juices and smells on me I replay it all with a wank. I would say I’m quite the opposite of being drained.

Moby Dick · « **Reply #8 on:** September 09, 2019, 12:30:07 pm »

I tend to recover in the car on the way home.
Very often by the time I’m home I’m ready for a few wanks whilst still vivid in the brain.

atego · « **Reply #9 on:** September 09, 2019, 12:48:44 pm »

Good post . After I’ve punted I feel a real buzz, which wears off the minute I get home and realise how vanilla my home life is . This turns into a down alleviated only by my next punt . As I punt infrequently it makes me a miserable git , who knew good sex was so addictive ? Definitely has a bearing on my wellbeing .

king tarzan · « **Reply #10 on:** September 09, 2019, 01:44:22 pm »

Some leave me legless..
Gasping for energy....
Need a curry & nan or 2 burgers milkshake FIX straight afterwards!!
So all round 😋😋😋😋😋👅👅👅👅👅😋😋😋👅👅

stevedave · « **Reply #11 on:** September 09, 2019, 01:51:14 pm »

Maybe you just need a break AK, it does us all good from time to time, reinvigorates us for future conquests.

I've been punting far less in the last 12 months or so, for many reasons but one was feeling drained and tired for sure. Quality (hopefully) over quantity from now on.

smiths · « **Reply #12 on:** September 09, 2019, 01:54:55 pm »

Quote from: stevedave on September 09, 2019, 01:51:14 pm

Maybe you just need a break AK, it does us all good from time to time, reinvigorates us for future conquests.

I've been punting far less in the last 12 months or so, for many reasons but one was feeling drained and tired for sure. Quality (hopefully) over quantity from now on.

Having a long punting break certainly works for me nowadays, its mainly because I meet a civvie but I come back to punting refreshed.

GreyDave · « **Reply #13 on:** September 09, 2019, 03:48:27 pm »

was` nt James Hunts slogan

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Bonker · « **Reply #14 on:** September 09, 2019, 06:10:10 pm »

I've had the drop many times. My thoughts and feelings have been :

Mentally deflated
A little depressed
Regret the money outlay
Listless /don't know what to do next

Obviously much worse after a bad punt.

What I find helps is - having an activity lined up for after the punt, having something to eat, having a drink and keeping positive.

Of course, I don't always feel like this otherwise I wouldn't do it.

Sms097 · « **Reply #15 on:** September 09, 2019, 06:47:36 pm »

Hi AK. I can 100% say I feel like absolute shit when I cum (normally twice after each pop). It got so bad at one stage I didn't feel like doing the hobby for a while. For me I felt lonely, depressed and worthless but none of this is true in my day to day life. I still to this day can't correlate the two. What helped me is arranging outcalls.

I think part of the feeling was having to travel a long way back and doing the walk of shame. I think one of the worst times was after receiving a HJ in a dingy massage parlour by a relatively old Chinese woman.

After each outcall I feel like I can compartmentalise it and I feel in a great mood. Try it and see if it works for you

londonroad · « **Reply #16 on:** September 09, 2019, 06:58:54 pm »

I used to but no longer. Not sure why but I have now become a lot fitter, try to eat healthy food (well some of the time!), and drink lots of water. All helps build up the energy levels. The only negative after a good sex session is thinking going to have to wait and save up for my next punt.
I am a mature punter - so maybe different for you younger guys?

Ali Katt · « **Reply #17 on:** September 09, 2019, 07:10:27 pm »

Thanks for the responses, a lot of rhem really good advice and heartfelt. I left a month gap between this and my last punt. I could eat healthier, but I do exercise regularly. I also very rarely masturbate.

Moby Dick · « **Reply #18 on:** September 09, 2019, 07:50:31 pm »

Quote from: Ali Katt on September 09, 2019, 07:10:27 pm

Thanks for the responses, a lot of rhem really good advice and heartfelt. I left a month gap between this and my last punt. I could eat healthier, but I do exercise regularly. I also very rarely masturbate.

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Shadow314 · « **Reply #19 on:** September 09, 2019, 10:22:58 pm »

Could also be low zinc, perhaps try a couple of eggs day of the punt.

Meat and dairy good too...so there's a medicinal reason for the two burgers & milkshake.

Bonker · « **Reply #20 on:** September 10, 2019, 12:37:27 am »

Rather bewilderingly, I often fancy junk food after a punt. I never have a burger/pizza/take away other times.

Must be some deep Freudian reason.

Maybe my father was on the council of a fortified German town

Watts.E.Dunn · « **Reply #21 on:** September 10, 2019, 12:44:24 am »

Quite possibey low Testosterone level?..

Cellular40 · « **Reply #22 on:** September 10, 2019, 02:58:19 am »

Quote from: mradventures on September 09, 2019, 10:25:37 am

i think im abit like a drug user, if im happy i tend to have a come down later on thats painful
apart from im just not taking drugs, its just everyday stuff :/

This is the same for me.

Cellular40 · « **Reply #23 on:** September 10, 2019, 03:00:53 am »

Quote from: smiths on September 09, 2019, 10:47:31 am

Yes I can feel drained but only psychically, the worst has been after 4 hours or more of sex parties, I sometimes could hardly make my way to my car afterwards, I was friar tucked. If a WG is good and becomes a regular I may well fill my boots while I can, that can be tiring but the fun trumps the tiredness as long as I can still punt.

Haha, I can relate.

Also with my ever increasing age I find the physical drain takes longer to fucking go.
Sex parties can really take it out of you, the last one I went to was about 18 months ago and I felt more fatigued from that than I did going to the gym. Even a colleague at work mentioned I look like I’d had no sleep.

WASA38 · « **Reply #24 on:** September 10, 2019, 09:58:22 am »

I feel physically knackered after a punt; mentally too if my performance has been disappointing. Not sure how much of it is just age and how much blue pill blues.
Main reason why I prefer late afternoon punts. Not too long to endure before sleeping the effect off. Would be too dozey for late evening ones.
Begs the question ; why do it ? Just can't resist it; too damned nice!

mradventures · « **Reply #25 on:** September 10, 2019, 07:56:04 pm »

Quote from: Bonker on September 10, 2019, 12:37:27 am

Rather bewilderingly, I often fancy junk food after a punt. I never have a burger/pizza/take away other times.

Must be some deep Freudian reason.

Maybe my father was on the council of a fortified German town

when your tired you fancy high energy food thats easy, and junk food is high in sugar,fat,salt. which your body craves

MustaphaShag · « **Reply #26 on:** September 11, 2019, 10:47:12 pm »

I usually find myself on a mental high,a sense of euphoria. Physically I can be either be initially tired or ok. By the time I reach home I'm ready for a nap for an hour or so after a cuppa and a snack (old age creeping up

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hendrix · « **Reply #27 on:** September 11, 2019, 11:15:55 pm »

Interesting thread. I don't really put enough into punts physically for them to have much effect tbh. Once I'm done, I just usually feel pretty good in general. I have occasionally felt like I didn't want to be there, and that's led to long breaks.

Ali Katt · « **Reply #28 on:** September 12, 2019, 02:27:47 pm »

Thanks feeling a bit today. I'm not sure if it was the intensity of the scene that threw me. Also work's been quiet so nothing to distract me really, reading up on dom and sub drop was an eye opener.

Horizontal pleasures · « **Reply #29 on:** September 13, 2019, 01:41:47 pm »

After sex I feel totally drained and have to lie there to recuperate, or stagger to the car and put on eyeshades, wind down the seat and have a nap.

But on the other hand I am more energetic than most men of my age at 77, still working full time, and volunteering also. Regular sex helps keep me active, asfar as I can tell.

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knob rocker · « **Reply #30 on:** September 13, 2019, 02:01:48 pm »

The French refer to this feeling as "La Petite Mort" or the little death.

As in most things, I think this feeling affects us all differently and I have suffered it to a greater or lesser degree as well. The better the punt, the more physically drained I feel but less emotionally. A shit punt however affects my mood to a much greater degree and not just because of the waste of money!

MrBeano · « **Reply #31 on:** September 13, 2019, 03:05:16 pm »

if i fancy a girl then she takes a lot of energy out of me cos i would be so into the punt, i also punt on my days off work only so i get home and recuperate there.

tesla · « **Reply #32 on:** September 13, 2019, 03:05:50 pm »

Quote from: knob rocker on September 13, 2019, 02:01:48 pm

The French refer to this feeling as "La Petite Mort" or the little death.

very apt, I can totally relate

Watts.E.Dunn · « **Reply #33 on:** September 13, 2019, 04:56:16 pm »

Quote from: knob rocker on September 13, 2019, 02:01:48 pm

The French refer to this feeling as "La Petite Mort" or the little death.

As in most things, I think this feeling affects us all differently and I have suffered it to a greater or lesser degree as well. The better the punt, the more physically drained I feel but less emotionally. A shit punt however affects my mood to a much greater degree and not just because of the waste of money!

As best I remember this la or le petit death referes to the woman who after a good cum almost passes out!

holeymoley · « **Reply #34 on:** September 13, 2019, 05:25:26 pm »

Quote from: Horizontal pleasures on September 13, 2019, 01:41:47 pm

After sex I feel totally drained and have to lie there to recuperate, or stagger to the car and put on eyeshades, wind down the seat and have a nap.

But on the other hand I am more energetic than most men of my age at 77, still working full time, and volunteering also. Regular sex helps keep me active, asfar as I can tell.

Hats off to you Sir at 77, it give me a lot of hope ( I’m 71 )

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Home Alone · « **Reply #35 on:** September 16, 2019, 04:57:36 pm »

Quote from: Cellular40 on September 10, 2019, 03:00:53 am

Haha, I can relate.

Also with my ever increasing age I find the physical drain takes longer to fucking go.
Sex parties can really take it out of you, the last one I went to was about 18 months ago and I felt more fatigued from that than I did going to the gym. Even a colleague at work mentioned I look like I’d had no sleep.

Me, too. Whenever - increasingly rarely, at my age - I have sex, I make sure I have NOthing planned for the following day. My mobile's calendar shows it as a Take It Easy Day.

I'm retired so have nobody to be as disrespectful/?envious as Cellular40's colleague.

Bonker · « **Reply #36 on:** September 19, 2019, 01:07:10 am »

This thread, together with my recent punting experiences has eroded my desire.

In the next few days, I'm travelling on business and normality I would have a punt or 2 lined up. This time, trawled through AW and couldn't get excited about any of the candidates.

So I've decided to have a couple of beers and a nice dinner instead. Will have a fatter wallet and stomach and no regrets.

Has my last punt floated away on the river of life? Was my last oar, my last one? Is Bonker bonked out - or bonkers?

Mr Farkyhars · « **Reply #37 on:** September 19, 2019, 02:18:40 am »

Quote from: knob rocker on September 13, 2019, 02:01:48 pm

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londonroad · « **Reply #38 on:** September 19, 2019, 09:20:07 am »

Quote from: Bonker on September 19, 2019, 01:07:10 am

This thread, together with my recent punting experiences has eroded my desire.

In the next few days, I'm travelling on business and normality I would have a punt or 2 lined up. This time, trawled through AW and couldn't get excited about any of the candidates.

So I've decided to have a couple of beers and a nice dinner instead. Will have a fatter wallet and stomach and no regrets.

Has my last punt floated away on the river of life? Was my last oar, my last one? Is Bonker bonked out - or bonkers?

I can relate to this. Being a mature punter I do sometimes wonder if I should ‘retire’ after a good punt. However, I then spot a stunning young lady and this makes me change my mind about ‘retirement’ ! So I am then back on the hunt again and the cycle goes on! I now trying to be more relaxed about the whole matter and just go with the flow and enjoy the experience. Also I believe keeping active in the bedroom can help keep prostrate cancer away for us older guys - so I will just have to keep on punting into my old age!

jesse4585 · « **Reply #39 on:** September 19, 2019, 10:12:37 am »

Quote from: Mr Farkyhars on September 19, 2019, 02:18:40 am

I think that's the actual orgasm.

Yes, and I think it was the more philosophical /poetical Frenchies who described it like that. Maybe folk who didn't have much sex, but when they did their orgasms were really intense. So cumming could be like a 'little death' as it gave a brief experience of being free from tensions, cares and even the sense of self.

Back to the post coital drop, folk wisdom seems to be that women can gain energy from good sex, men can lose it. But the energy drop is only short term. Long term everyone has more engery & health from sex in moderation. The only exceptions being folk very good at sublimation, like devoted relgious mystics. Which I guess are in short supply round here.

So my point is I hope no one uses this thread as an excuse to give up on punting!

Bonker · « **Reply #40 on:** September 19, 2019, 10:51:09 pm »

Why would I, or anyone, need an excuse?

Plan R · « **Reply #41 on:** September 20, 2019, 01:14:27 am »

Quote from: jesse4585 on September 19, 2019, 10:12:37 am

The only exceptions being folk very good at sublimation, like devoted relgious mystics. Which I guess are in short supply round here.

earlgreyman · « **Reply #42 on:** September 20, 2019, 06:27:26 pm »

Sorry to hear man! For me, depends on the punt - if the chemistry was there with the lady and everything was clicking, I always feel up - like, post gym/endorphins up. If i meet a money grabbing lazy ass WG, and i know i've wasted my money by sticking my winky in before I realised how bad she is, then that makes me wanna give up punting.

rubric · « **Reply #43 on:** September 21, 2019, 03:49:35 pm »

I think it's mainly mental - as above - additionally when I first started seeing WGs i'd be consumed by mild disgust/loathing and just want to get out of there after the act. These days I'm a bit more chill about the whole thing - regarding recovery time, the biggest tip I found was just to really get into whatever sensation you feel the second time around, and not worry at all about cumming again - when doing this I'm usually pleasantly surprised by my fast recovery.

Razor Boy · « **Reply #44 on:** September 21, 2019, 07:22:48 pm »

I just get what I call “post punt brain” after a punt and it happens especially when the session has ended and there is just general chit chat.
I talk way too much, reacting to what the SP has said. My brain seems on standby, I forget things ( phone, cock ring, car keys, my shower gel, the list goes on)
It’s worse after an awesome punt and I have to watch out when driving home that I don’t go over the limit and get nabbed by a speed camera/cop.I’ve been done before and got 3 points whilst replaying the punt in my head on the way home. It’s quite a euphoric feeling and I have the urge to punt ASAP again.
Doesn’t happen when I fuck the wife !

Jeremy · « **Reply #45 on:** September 21, 2019, 07:24:25 pm »

I think it's tied somewhat to your physical fitness. I have felt the biggest 'drop' after punts during times when I've been at my fittest, oddly enough. Like I'm able to put more energy into fucking, which in turn drains me more. Kind of like being knackered after a good workout.

Grumpy Pumpy · « **Reply #46 on:** September 24, 2019, 03:32:53 pm »

A bit late responding to this. I do feel knackered after a punt and get the almost inevitable and immediate post coital desire to have a kip.

But, if it's been a good punt. with an enthusiastic, good looking, fit (or even just enthusiastic) SP I'm on a high for the rest of the day.

Where I feel really shit is when its being a poor punt. I don't just feel I've wasted my time and money. But I feel really guilty about punting. And often convince myself I'm giving up this hobby.

Happily, those shit punts and feeling of despondency are a lot less since I've been a member here

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