Anyone into BDSM

[FlaccidChimp]

Or more specifically femdom type stuff? I don't see many posts about it on this forum but I'm pretty sure it's popular as so many women can make a living off of it.

[Home Alone]

Well, I'm into face-sitting, FC; which, unlike Femdom, is shown on that long list of Likes/Dislikes down the right-hand side of the AW Search facility.

Unfortunately, I've never found a SP who provided that service in a 1-hour session. Maybe you could find one who offers it as a prelude to other services in a longer booking?

[FlaccidChimp]

Well, I'm into face-sitting, FC; which, unlike Femdom, is shown on that long list of Likes/Dislikes down the right-hand side of the AW Search facility.

Unfortunately, I've never found a SP who provided that service in a 1-hour session. Maybe you could find one who offers it as a prelude to other services in a longer booking?

I did facesitting once with a thick voluptuous sp.

[FlaccidChimp]

Well, I'm into face-sitting, FC; which, unlike Femdom, is shown on that long list of Likes/Dislikes down the right-hand side of the AW Search facility.

Maybe you could find one who offers it as a prelude to other services in a longer booking?

I'm communicating with an sp who does femdom. The working girls aren't difficult to find but the punters on here seem few and far between by the lack of posts on here.

[Thephoenix]

I've had lots of sessions with femdom SP's in the past, long before I joined this site, not as a regular event, more just to add some variety.
The sessions I enjoyed always involved a mixture of pain and pleasure including a HE.

Just for the experience, I did try one femdom who ran a local swinger's venue, but her service didn't include the HE, although she did insist I wanked off in front of her.
Never saw the point of that.

Devi, advertises as Tantric Healing in Wirral provided a good femdom service, but not been for years.

[Waterhouse]

Love it, but more so on the sensual side and for the eroticism of it.

I think a lot of the stereotypical Femdom perceptions come from the likes of Xhamster and Pornhub which can differ substantially in a real- life setting or booking with an SP.  I like to watch some of this stuff on porn sites, but in reality I doubt that I’d like to experience the hard-core side of it - much prefer the kinky, sensual side of bdsm.

[Colston36]

Or more specifically femdom type stuff? I don't see many posts about it on this forum but I'm pretty sure it's popular as so many women can make a living off of it.

I've tried quite a few ladies, sometimes ffm, though I'm not that keen on pain. But curiously quite a few here seem to like being fucked by trannies, which doesn't appeal to me at all.

[ulstersubbie]

Or more specifically femdom type stuff? I don't see many posts about it on this forum but I'm pretty sure it's popular as so many women can make a living off of it.

There was a recent thread about BDSM on the forum. Members have contributed BDSM reviews including myself.

[JamesKW]

If you are going to dabble in BDSM see a specialised provider,who has a well stocked dungeon rather than an amateur.There are plenty of smallish clubnights in most areas of the country (which have a dungeon setup) where a resident dom will provide you with services for free,if you ask,but it will be infront of an audience.Try Fetlife for events in your area,the bigger events do provide it but the resident doms are busier.

[Mr_Shins]

started off in the world of "mistresses" before I did sex escorts. With many of them you ended up with a "happy ending" i.e. you wanked yourself. In others you didn't even do that.

That is completely different to the "BDSM scene" which seems to be about personal slaves (lifestyle) and is intended for the slave to "serve" the master and get pleasure from that and not expect anything.

Most BDSM sites seem to be dating sites, looking for the perfect partner, or discussion of it. Not looking for casual play-mates, which is what I would like. "Fetlife" may work if you are willing to spend long enough there and get to know how it works, I never got it personally, you couldn't search for women in your location for example, because they didn't want it to be used that way.

The problem I see is very much a "this is how it works, this is our set of rules" approach to it. I even saw one site that said if you want to set up as a "domme" you need to get yourself "domme" outfits. There are loads of fakes there who have no intention of meeting you and try to take your money or just get you to join a website.

[Mr_Shins]

If you are going to dabble in BDSM see a specialised provider,who has a well stocked dungeon rather than an amateur.There are plenty of smallish clubnights in most areas of the country (which have a dungeon setup) where a resident dom will provide you with services for free,if you ask,but it will be infront of an audience.Try Fetlife for events in your area,the bigger events do provide it but the resident doms are busier.

"well stocked dungeon".. very stereotypical, why do you need one of those?

Depends what his kink is, I guess, as to whether it needs any special equipment.

Assuming no Covid etc, "events" may work for you if you are into exactly the thing they do. What has put me off going to any such club is they require "fetish-wear" and I am not turned on by that at all...

[Colston36]

Well, I'm into face-sitting, FC; which, unlike Femdom, is shown on that long list of Likes/Dislikes down the right-hand side of the AW Search facility.

Unfortunately, I've never found a SP who provided that service in a 1-hour session. Maybe you could find one who offers it as a prelude to other services in a longer booking?

I have found several who do that as part of a session. In fact one of my most memorable experiences was with two large ladies in Devon last year - £200 for the hour. Sadly they're off the piste at the moment but I bet they'll be back. And I'll lay odds there are quite a few more. Kelly-Ann-Kink in Newport (who happens to have a delicious arse) would certainly oblige. For a dominatrix or indeed any escort - it's easy money. I sent one guy who sought to be a seat and nothing else to Lottie in Gloucester, and she was happy to make £80 just to sit there and wiggle every now and then.

[jeanphillipe]

i dont like full on bdsm , but do like aspects of it, e.g face sitting. best experience was with a pawg in london, its in my reviews.

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=270470.0

[JamesKW]

Assuming no Covid etc, "events" may work for you if you are into exactly the thing they do. What has put me off going to any such club is they require "fetish-wear" and I am not turned on by that at all...

I agree the bigger clubs insist on fetish wear, but in the smaller ones the definition is quite loose  and some dont require it.

[JamesKW]

"well stocked dungeon".. very stereotypical, why do you need one of those?

Depends what his kink is, I guess, as to whether it needs any special equipment.

I have tried a few different things,a fem dom which takes it seriously normally has a fair amount of equipment,also they need to clean well between use.I have been to your amateur types which just pluck something out of a box.A professional dom doesnt need to cost the earth, one I was visiting in a rich part of London was only £100/hour,for many years,it has increase to £120/hr since COVID.

[Discord]

I'm into femdom and I've had a number of such themed bookings in the past some good and some not so good.  It's difficult to find someone through Aduktwork in my area currently though who offers the service.  Or at least it's difficult to find someone who is also attractive and not Romanian.  For me the voice of the woman is a big part of the turn so if they have a noticeable foreign accent is kills it a bit.  Due to this I keep it as a fantasy mainly nowadays or watch related porn. 

Another issue is that in the last few years a lot of the younger and more attractive girls getting into the BDSM side of things are very lazy and essentially want money for nothing.  As in they mostly all lean very heavily into the findom/paypig side of things while offering very little in return. 

[Cambridgy]

You can also try moving into the civvie world if BDSM floats your boat - sites like Fetlife will usually have details of your local munch. Kinky folk are generally very welcoming and getting familiar with the etiquette, expectations for safe-play etc. - and putting in the time to build some trust can pay massive dividends. Good luck!

[ulstersubbie]

Another issue is that in the last few years a lot of the younger and more attractive girls getting into the BDSM side of things are very lazy and essentially want money for nothing.  As in they mostly all lean very heavily into the findom/paypig side of things while offering very little in return.

This is very true unfortunately, your point is well made. It pays to do a bit of research, a well established domme with a good rep is becoming rarer in my experience.

[purple_t]

I am into it, and have seen many femdom SPs up and down the country, mostly good experiences, and very varied. I haven't reviewed any on here as I didn't think there was an appetite for it, but judging by this thread there does seem to be some interest.

I think what I will do, that I hope will be useful to some guys here, is a thread for anyone interested in taking the plunge - namely, the main differences between booking a punt and a femdom session, and the etiquette surrounding it etc. Besides the obvious (i.e what happens during a session), there are some pretty major differences.

Once the pandemic is over, I am seriously looking forward to some more sessions - I find it more exciting than punting to be honest, although I do it less frequently. My first femdom session actually pre-dated my first ever punt

[sub_marine]

"well stocked dungeon".. very stereotypical, why do you need one of those?

A Prodomme will have loads of gear to cater for the varied tastes of clients, some guys might like to be spanked for 30mins with a wooden spoon, but the next guy will into restrictive bondage, then the next into wax play, then the next like to dress in womens underwear and do house work.  The more niche your interest the more likely you'll need to visit a Pro that caters for that interest.

But ammount of equipment is irrelevant if the Domme isnt genuinly into whatever fetish you have.  I've visited a few Prodommes and had a few play-partners from Fetlife.  There is a very wide range of people on Fetlife, some women have husbands but they have a dynamic where they can have some BDSM fun on the side with others as it won't incluse sex, and is maybe something that the hsband isnt interested in.  Or the husband might be locked in a chastity cage and get off on his wife seeing other men. 

Prodomme or play-partner, it will take a few sessions to get the most from it once you have learned from each other and know how the other gets turned on. 

If you single then the munches can be a great place to meet other like minded induviduals, although depending on your age some munches are mainly students and cap the age limit at 30.  It can be quite social, in Aberdeen some of the people from the munches also did pub quiz nights, hill walking, and travelling to Edinburgh in groups for the bigger fetish events.  However if your married and wanting to keep things quiet, stick to sessioning with Prodommes, lot more discreet.

[Mr_Shins]

I have my own fetish and that is all I am interested in having met. Not "serving" anyone. How does a "local club" work? Do I wear a sign saying what my kink is, or fill in a form so they women know what to do to me?

I never found anything of use on fetlife, as I couldn't search for women in my area that may have been interested in what I am looking for. Have no idea how anyone found a play partner, and many of the potential ones would never consider any kind of sex work but may think it's a good laugh to do.

For the one who is based in Aberdeen, have you ever met Silvercityblondie?

[signy]

I think what I will do, that I hope will be useful to some guys here, is a thread for anyone interested in taking the plunge - namely, the main differences between booking a punt and a femdom session, and the etiquette surrounding it etc. Besides the obvious (i.e what happens during a session), there are some pretty major differences.

Great idea - I look forward to this thread. Thanks purple_t.

[Mr_Shins]

For me, the etiquette on both sides needs to be:

- Agree on what the session is about
- Agree on the amount and the duration
- Agree on limits and safe words.

If both agree and then carry it out, we don't need any other rules really do we?

[donnybob]

around 17 years ago ( so not reviewed lol ) I found a wg through the Hull Daily mail.

Arranged a pro dom meet and discussed what I wanted, I had a tie and tease session with another wg a few months before and wanted to try similar but more advanced lol

Anyway found her flat door sandwiched between shops on Hessle road, no answer to the bell or her phone, thought fuck it and went to the pub and to look up a plan b

Anyway an hour or so later she rang me offered me a free session and said she would make it up to me, luckily I was still close  by.

Into the flat and she asked again what I wanted I  said why don't you take  the lead and I will tell you if I get to my limits

Tied by my wrists naked to her bed, she crouches between my legs with a tight leather top on unzipped so a lot of cleavage on display, then she used pin wheels, electric stimulation to my nipples, cock etc, then a small whip teasing me then her hands to get me fully erect

Pulled my legs down and across her hips so my ass was off the bed and she had easy access to my bum hole, used her fingers and asked if I wanted to be fucked, I  saw the strap on and said no  so she decided to wank me and I asked to see her tits, she unzipped her top all the way down and let them hang down as she wanked me to completion

It was only when I was  getting dressed it occurred me I had not touched her at all, bloody enjoyable though, and free as well

[Home Alone]

It was only when I was  getting dressed it occurred me I had not touched her at all, bloody enjoyable though, and free as well

Sounds like a Yorkshireman's dream punt, donnybob!!

[donnybob]

Sounds like a Yorkshireman's dream punt, donnybob!!

Unfortunately a total one off

[sub_marine]

I have my own fetish and that is all I am interested in having met. Not "serving" anyone. How does a "local club" work? Do I wear a sign saying what my kink is, or fill in a form so they women know what to do to me?

I never found anything of use on fetlife, as I couldn't search for women in my area that may have been interested in what I am looking for. Have no idea how anyone found a play partner, and many of the potential ones would never consider any kind of sex work but may think it's a good laugh to do.

For the one who is based in Aberdeen, have you ever met Silvercityblondie?

Fetlife doesn't work like that, the sites that do allow searching certain attributes have a membership of about 90% males looking for females, 8% males pretending to be females looking for men and about 2% actual females looking for men.  That's why fetlife has been so successful and retains its female members so well. 

So to get the best from fetlife, you need to fill out your profile with as much information as your happy to supply, then join which ever groups pique your interest.  Once you get into your groove you will start to find people with similar interests.  You can read each others profiles and maybe have a social meet.  The munches that fetlifers meet at are in vanilla environments usually, just a group of peoples having a drink together.  Once you start building social relationships then the trust can be built which will allow people to engage in some of the kinky shit your interested in.  A lot of prodommes are on fetlife but not using it for work purposes, they use it as a mainly social site like facebook but full of kinksters who they can relax with and not have to worry about posting weird kinky memes.  There are pages where prodommes can advertise, and some prodommes do have details of there work on their profile, but most have a second work profile.  I once got chatting to a girl in one of the national shibari groups and was setting up to meet her as a rope bottom, but work schedules ended up getting in the way, it was only afterwards that I realised she once a very well known prodomme, but she had created a new profile to keep her private play away from work life.  If your really into the scene and get involved you'll get a lot more back, if your just wanting to message attractive local girls and tell them your fetish, you'll probably get nowhere

Hopefully you can understand why its called Fetlife and not Fetsession, its aimed and used mainly by people who are out about their kinks. and have no reason to creep about. 

Silvercityblondie has an account on Fetlife, she is into some pretty submissive stuff going by her pictures, she might even go to the local munches.  I've met and reviewed my meet with her but under her previous name

[Shantaram]

This may well be a stupid question but I’m not entirely sure where what I want fits in - is it femdom when I want sex but the woman to takes charge? No nipple clamps (at least not right away-maybe in the future) but more slapping me and demanding I do. Far short of being tied up and whipped but more aggression than a normal punt.

Best approximation would be Demi Moore in Disclosure, for those of us old enough to remember

[signy]

This may well be a stupid question but I’m not entirely sure where what I want fits in - is it femdom when I want sex but the woman to takes charge? No nipple clamps (at least not right away-maybe in the future) but more slapping me and demanding I do. Far short of being tied up and whipped but more aggression than a normal punt.

Best approximation would be Demi Moore in Disclosure, for those of us old enough to remember

This is not a stupid question; probably one of the most common things that go through all subs' minds, especially when they start.

There is a full range of dommes out there. From those that don't even get undressed and certainly won't touch you, to those that will do some sexual activity such as oral on them and a handjob at the end, to those that will allow you some sex if you are a good boy, to those for whom some BDSM is a starter for full sex, to those who offer a GFE that is a bit more aggressive with you doing what she tells you.

All you can do is plough through profiles and read them carefully, as always check reviews on here and also read field reports on AW. This is one time when the latter can be useful as it gives you some idea of what services other punters experienced, even if not the quality.

Finally, if in doubt, email the escort. If she is a proper femdomme she will be used to people asking questions and ensuring the service is right for them, and will be far more open to email questions than a standard escort would tolerate.

[Mr_Shins]

Fetlife doesn't work like that, the sites that do allow searching certain attributes have a membership of about 90% males looking for females, 8% males pretending to be females looking for men and about 2% actual females looking for men.  That's why fetlife has been so successful and retains its female members so well. 

So to get the best from fetlife, you need to fill out your profile with as much information as your happy to supply, then join which ever groups pique your interest.  Once you get into your groove you will start to find people with similar interests.  You can read each others profiles and maybe have a social meet.  The munches that fetlifers meet at are in vanilla environments usually, just a group of peoples having a drink together.  Once you start building social relationships then the trust can be built which will allow people to engage in some of the kinky shit your interested in.  A lot of prodommes are on fetlife but not using it for work purposes, they use it as a mainly social site like facebook but full of kinksters who they can relax with and not have to worry about posting weird kinky memes.  There are pages where prodommes can advertise, and some prodommes do have details of there work on their profile, but most have a second work profile.  I once got chatting to a girl in one of the national shibari groups and was setting up to meet her as a rope bottom, but work schedules ended up getting in the way, it was only afterwards that I realised she once a very well known prodomme, but she had created a new profile to keep her private play away from work life.  If your really into the scene and get involved you'll get a lot more back, if your just wanting to message attractive local girls and tell them your fetish, you'll probably get nowhere

Hopefully you can understand why its called Fetlife and not Fetsession, its aimed and used mainly by people who are out about their kinks. and have no reason to creep about. 

Silvercityblondie has an account on Fetlife, she is into some pretty submissive stuff going by her pictures, she might even go to the local munches.  I've met and reviewed my meet with her but under her previous name

That probably means spending a fair amount of time on the site. And investing a lot of social effort when in reality it isn't my "lifestyle" and after lockdown I find social events like that totally awkward, especially if I'm new in with a bunch of people who all know each other.

[Shantaram]

This is not a stupid question; probably one of the most common things that go through all subs' minds, especially when they start.

There is a full range of dommes out there. From those that don't even get undressed and certainly won't touch you, to those that will do some sexual activity such as oral on them and a handjob at the end, to those that will allow you some sex if you are a good boy, to those for whom some BDSM is a starter for full sex, to those who offer a GFE that is a bit more aggressive with you doing what she tells you.

All you can do is plough through profiles and read them carefully, as always check reviews on here and also read field reports on AW. This is one time when the latter can be useful as it gives you some idea of what services other punters experienced, even if not the quality.

Finally, if in doubt, email the escort. If she is a proper femdomme she will be used to people asking questions and ensuring the service is right for them, and will be far more open to email questions than a standard escort would tolerate.

Cheers for that. As there’s a name for every little niche and hobby nowadays, I’m slightly disappointed that the name for my particular inclination is ‘Tentative dabbler before becoming a full sub’. That and I really shouldn’t post when I’ve been lying awake for hours.

Still, I’m sure I’ll muster up the enthusiasm for doing loads of research on the AW sweet shop!

[Cambridgy]

That probably means spending a fair amount of time on the site. And investing a lot of social effort when in reality it isn't my "lifestyle" and after lockdown I find social events like that totally awkward, especially if I'm new in with a bunch of people who all know each other.

This is very good advice though - another place that I’ve been reasonably successful with is seeking.com if you search for profiles including “kink” then you can turn up some real gems...that said it’s another significant investment in time.

[advent2016]

I like sensual BDSM by that I mean a scenario like  I face sit, then I'm spanked, maybe caned and then fucked with a strap-on and then get a hand job or preferably a blowjob and try various combinations with the same provider.

I don't like "lifestyle" dominatrix where there is no chance of anything sexual.

[Mr_Shins]

My kink is so unique though that in spite of my extensive search, whilst there are many people who are into the kind of things I like, there is nobody I have come across so specific as mine.

Firstly, if you look up all the key words, you never see the word "kicking". There is trampling, there is ball-busting and there is shoe-fetish (as well as foot fetish). But the word "kicking" is never on the list.

And neither ball-busting nor trampling (nor shoe fetish) involves being kicked in the shins.

Nor does it appear that anyone is so specific about the shoes as I am. So much so in my case that the wrong footwear would totally repulse me and I'll keep a distance from anyone even wearing them. One way social distancing rules works well for me at present!

So if I'm booking a session I can say all this in open text. It often gets difficult when I start asking for what shoes she has, as maybe she doesn't quite get quite how important that part is, and thinks I'm wasting her time, but I've known many times for the dialogue to pretty much end there. Also when I say I like trainers - well it's "nice" trainers I like - dressy style. They've sometimes asked me to send them photos of what I like but then it appears the dialogue again ends.

Even with my regular, I have bought her most of the shoes she kicks me with. Only her white converse did she already own.

So where do I go on fetlife to discuss all this? Because it would be something interesting to discuss, but where do I go?

[sub_marine]

My kink is so unique though that in spite of my extensive search, whilst there are many people who are into the kind of things I like, there is nobody I have come across so specific as mine.

So where do I go on fetlife to discuss all this? Because it would be something interesting to discuss, but where do I go?

I guess the first step in a very niche fetich like that would be to use the writings section of your profile.  You could explain how you came to realise you had the particular fetish, how it has developed over time, maybe some funny or sad stories about trying to find somebody that would like to indulge.  Don't make it too advert like, try to make it interesting. 

That way if you start chatting to people in the groups section you can point them to your writing to save explaining a over and over. 

Some of the groups have nothing to do with fetish topics, such a local bunch of fetlifers that go hill walking, or a pub quiz team.  if you can find some sort of common interest then join the group.  If you travel for work then maybe join a group for that city asking for site seeing tips or something.  I can't see anybody being offended by your fetish, and by and large they are a very non-judgemental group of people.

I attended the cinema with a few fetlife people one night, then we met another few for a pint after the film, next thing you know 9 of us were heading to a flat.  About couple of hours later there was a girl hog tied on the floor, and a guy on the sofa with his hands cuffed and getting tickled, all just having a laugh.  As long as you have some interests beyond your fetish then I'm sure given a bit of time you'll find somebody that might like to help you. 

[nbarnes]

Well, I'm into face-sitting, FC; which, unlike Femdom, is shown on that long list of Likes/Dislikes down the right-hand side of the AW Search facility.

Unfortunately, I've never found a SP who provided that service in a 1-hour session. Maybe you could find one who offers it as a prelude to other services in a longer booking?

Really? I think every wg I've seen in the past 2 years has sat on my face naked or clothed with minimal prompting! All within 30 mins sessions as well...i find most girls get off on it.

Almost none have had a problem with swapping round both holes either.

When it comes to BDSM (in civvie and WG context) - the most exquisite find (and thus rare) is a true switch. That way you get to dominate them and be dominated by them, and switches usually allow sex as part of the routine - hard to find one that is extreme enough, and it takes a few meets to build a bit of trust.
The other main problem with switches is that they usually leave being a professional switch quite quickly - most become dommes or quit entirely.

[mj]

Probably about 50% or more of my encounters are of a femdom nature.  I don't usually review these ones because, as someone else said, I didn't think there was that much appetite for it on this site, and also to avoid identifying myself to any SPs that might be reading.

Down here in the Devon & Cornwall there didn't used to be many options, but there do seem to be more ladies offering these services now.  However they tend to be older than elsewhere.

There is a big difference though between visiting a 'pro domme' and visiting an escort who says she likes BDSM etc.  In my experience, there are very few 'escorts' who, when you ask for BDSM, deliver anything more than dressing up in their ann-summers mistress outfit and waving around their toy whip.  The downside of visiting a 'pro domme' is that there are very few who offer any kind of sexual service (even hand-relief), though there are some.

Look forward to reading more BDSM threads on here now as there seems to be a bit of interest.

[Mr_Shins]

Probably about 50% or more of my encounters are of a femdom nature.  I don't usually review these ones because, as someone else said, I didn't think there was that much appetite for it on this site, and also to avoid identifying myself to any SPs that might be reading.

Down here in the Devon & Cornwall there didn't used to be many options, but there do seem to be more ladies offering these services now.  However they tend to be older than elsewhere.

There is a big difference though between visiting a 'pro domme' and visiting an escort who says she likes BDSM etc.  In my experience, there are very few 'escorts' who, when you ask for BDSM, deliver anything more than dressing up in their ann-summers mistress outfit and waving around their toy whip.  The downside of visiting a 'pro domme' is that there are very few who offer any kind of sexual service (even hand-relief), though there are some.

Look forward to reading more BDSM threads on here now as there seems to be a bit of interest.

I've reviewed mine. My experiences with "Blonde Martha Kama" and the one brilliant session with "Sexy Joanna" were just the kind of thing I was looking for when visiting a "girl-next-door" style escort for BDSM. Blonde Martha Kama (late GFE Kama) was actually one of the best kickers with trainers I have encountered, and loads of others visited her for regular GFE. For the hybrid kicking with sex then it's Melysa (NaughtyMelysa4U) who is my regular. She has a few regulars but I'm the only one she kicks, all her others are vanilla.

[mj]

I've reviewed mine. My experiences with "Blonde Martha Kama" and the one brilliant session with "Sexy Joanna" were just the kind of thing I was looking for when visiting a "girl-next-door" style escort for BDSM. Blonde Martha Kama (late GFE Kama) was actually one of the best kickers with trainers I have encountered, and loads of others visited her for regular GFE. For the hybrid kicking with sex then it's Melysa (NaughtyMelysa4U) who is my regular. She has a few regulars but I'm the only one she kicks, all her others are vanilla.

Looks like you have really endulged your fetishes, well done!  I'm guessing there is a lot more choice in your area.  The kicking thing doesn't do it for me, but I do have fond memories of visiting a pro mistress in the midlands where, after being given a good caning, had me lying on my back and hooked up to her 'milking machine' whilst she sat on my face for an hour or more.  And being tied down and punished with a Canadian prison strap was quite an experience too.  Can't wait until this Covid crap is over - 2021 could be a busy year!

[Colston36]

I am into it, and have seen many femdom SPs up and down the country, mostly good experiences, and very varied. I haven't reviewed any on here as I didn't think there was an appetite for it, but judging by this thread there does seem to be some interest.

I think what I will do, that I hope will be useful to some guys here, is a thread for anyone interested in taking the plunge - namely, the main differences between booking a punt and a femdom session, and the etiquette surrounding it etc. Besides the obvious (i.e what happens during a session), there are some pretty major differences.

Once the pandemic is over, I am seriously looking forward to some more sessions - I find it more exciting than punting to be honest, although I do it less frequently. My first femdom session actually pre-dated my first ever punt

What I think would be helpful to those of us into this would be reviews of those you have seen. They have varied a lot in my experience - just as escorts do.

[ulstersubbie]

What I think would be helpful to those of us into this would be reviews of those you have seen. They have varied a lot in my experience - just as escorts do.

+1

[binbag]

I too wuld be very interested to read BDSM reviews

[Mr_Shins]

So I went back and revisited fetlife and will probably leave again (or simply not log in again).

Fetish doesn't mean porn and I see it on every page.

To me punting means "Cute girl-next-door or smartly dressed woman you can fuck for money". But no, everywhere just porn, porn, porn. They're all the same.

BDSM and fetish world no better. Either full of nakedness or archetypal outfits.

No "cute girl next door or smartly dressed woman who will trample all over you or squeeze your dick, or hit you with a crop".

Not saying neither of these exist, it is just very difficult to find. Maybe the way these things are portrayed in this country or the world at large.

[plums]

The BDSM taught me how to drive.  I thought the seatbelts were a bit tight...

[B4bcock]

The BDSM taught me how to drive.  I thought the seatbelts were a bit tight...

 

Did you suffer any whiplash injuries???

[advent2016]

What I think would be helpful to those of us into this would be reviews of those you have seen. They have varied a lot in my experience - just as escorts do.

I saw Lauren at the London Retreat years ago several times and stretched me physically and mentally, but another provider even with a safe word went beyond what I was comfortable with.

[Jimmyredcab]

I saw Lauren at the London Retreat years ago several times and stretched me physically and mentally, but another provider even with a safe word went beyond what I was comfortable with.

.

The London Retreat has been around for roughly 20 years, fair pricing at £100 for 30 minutes and they cater for most services, a different girl on each day, situated a few minutes walk from Earls Court station, they only accept same day bookings.

[Sunny]

Not into BDSM stuff ballbusting/dungeons/strap on/cross dressing etc

But I am into female bodybuilders who do muscle worship/mixed wrestling/smothering/facesitting/who like to be sexually in control.

Amber Deluca is one of my favourites but she charges £1000 for her sessions

External Link/Members Only

[timsussex]

I suppose one problem is the difficulty in searching this site for BDSM reviews
Not all of them - and that includes mine - mention BDSM

[Mr_Shins]

The BDSM "scene" is totally dominated by the "domme-sub" side.

In addition, on most sites (including fetlife) people are looking to form "relationships". Now I'm happy in finding compatible people but that's different from relationships. There are far more men than women which is fine as long as they don't all try pairing up, which would leave a load of men on the shelf.

If it remains open then it would simply mean women get to play more than men do, but everyone will still get their chance.

Of course it is this huge imbalance that opens the way for women to charge men money, thus the pro-domme scene. Which brings us to this site - transactional "BDSM" where we pay for someone else to provide us with our fantasy.

Now if it's a hybrid session then yes, we need to look for escorts as they are selling sex.

I think there is however a place for a new site based on pure fantasy punts. It could attract far more women who don't want to sell sex but may well be willing to provide this kind of kinky activity. A proper "reverse booking" system where we state our fantasy and advertise for women who are willing to do it.

Ideally I would keep the site totally free of porn / nakedness. The women advertising there can wear latex suits and carry whips if they want, but it won't be necessary, "fetish-wear" is totally optional (and isn't what everyone is looking for anyway).