For the benefit of the (very) small and (fairly) close-knit community of UKP members with an interest in the
External Link/Members Only /
External Link/Members Only scam, here’s an update. It largely confirms or repeats material already posted in this thread, but may nonetheless be of interest.
1. Aftermath of ComplaintI duly complained to Secret Benefits (just as I long ago did to the Sugar Daddy version of the site) about the lack of replies from girls who had messaged me, and was given 100 fresh credits. Those male members of the site who express a major grievance or are strongly accusatory appear to get a refund and a ban. Those who take the faux-naif “more in sorrow than in anger approach” that I took seem to get a fresh set of credits.
As soon as I had received my new credits, messages to me from girls on the site – which until then had been at the rate of two or three a day for almost six months – stopped completely. There hasn’t been a single one since I got my refund. This may be because the site knows it has got all the money out of me that it is ever likely to get; or it may be because the site doesn’t want a repeat of my complaint about not getting replies from girls who had (supposedly) messaged me. I can’t really complain if my non-replies are from girls I myself messaged out of the blue.
It can, I think, safely be assumed from the above that every single one of the hundreds of Secret Benefits messages I received over a six-month period were sent by bots. Dirty Harry (Reply #36) told us how this works: “When an SB sets up a profile they are asked to write a generic message that the site will automatically send to 'the best sugar daddies'.” The gullible man pays his fiver and replies to the message in the belief that he is replying to a girl who has viewed and liked his profile – when in fact until that point she does not even know of his existence.
2. “Bumping Up” of Dormant ProfilesThe second part of my update concerns the possibility that the site bumps up old profiles that have long ago lapsed into dormancy. This was first raised in Reply #56 on this thread where Bru1901 wrote: “Basically profiles that show online or appear online haven’t been online for days even months.”
I have three reasons for thinking Bru1901 is right.
(a) There is a hard core of girls in my area who I believe to be genuinely active. Week after week their status is “Online” or “[Active] Today”. However there are also girls who turn up out of nowhere, are active for a brief period, and then disappear. If I search for their profile in the “Newest” rather than the “Recently Active” sequence, I often find it pages and pages down. Therefore the profile was set up a year or two ago – and in all likelihood it long ago lapsed into dormancy. The site’s bots are bumping up these dormant profiles and sending out generic messages from them. Men will spend a fiver replying, unaware that the girl in question long ago lost interest in the site and has no idea that her profile has become active again.
(b) A girl I know who tried the site and abandoned it months ago suddenly started apparently being very active on it again. When I mentioned this to her, she denied that she had been back to her profile. I can’t be 100% certain that this denial was truthful, but on balance I think it was, since in this particular case there would have been no major embarrassment in her admitting she was back on the site. Also, more tellingly, at the time that she supposedly became very active on the site again, she had just got into a serious relationship with a new boyfriend – hardly the moment to go looking for new sugar daddies.
(c) The post from another site that I quoted in my Reply #60 reported the experience of two girls whose “dormant for many weeks” profiles had been bumped up by the site without them knowing, causing them serious problems with sugar daddies to whom they had promised exclusivity.
That the site seems to bump up dormant profiles is an even more shocking fraud than the primary fraud involving bot messages sent from profiles that are genuinely active – because in the latter case there is a (very small) chance of your reply to the bot’s initial contact receiving a response, but in the former case there is no chance at all. Any reply you send is vanishing into the depths of a profile that hasn’t been accessed by the real girl for months. Only the bots have been active on it.
Also – even worse – this second type of fraud can cause major awkwardnesses for girls who are in “monogamous” sugar daddy relationships.