There is a difference between "breaking the ice" with a 40 minute convo and being civil. As I've said maybe I'm biased, but it sounds pretty soulless if there isn't any attempts made by either person to talk, and of course certain topics I never talk about and expect the same in return: never politics and religion, but also work, money, relationships and family. But, it does depend asking if am married, where I work or have children I find obtrusive, but telling a story about a work colleague is different.