How forgiving are you ?

[timsussex]

Had arranged a late afternoon punt for last week - a week in advance, unusual for me. Re-confirmed in the morning and I arrived a couple of minutes late so paid parking fee and knocked on door - no reply. Checked phone to find a message that she was having slight car trouble - but didnt explicitly cancel - then radio silence
Now its partly my fault as I was running late, rushed and missed the message that was sent 25mins before the punt and other than the silence I don't have any firm evidence that she didnt have genuine problems - but frankly I have suspicions.

I'm sure most of us have been similarly let down and I must admit my previous experiences of giving an SP the benefit of the doubt have not worked out well. Probably 4 out 5 let me down again so am I being a mug giving her another chance ?

[badsin]

Is she really fit? 

[Spacecowb0y]

With so many providers about, I don't give them the benefit of the doubt once my journey has begun. If she can do it once, she can do it again.
Spend my hard earned on another provider.

[timsussex]

With so many providers about, I don't give them the benefit of the doubt once my journey has begun. If she can do it once, she can do it again.
Spend my hard earned on another provider.

sadly its a bit of a desert around here or I would agree with you.

[Fuzzyduck]

You don't have to give her the benefit of the doubt. She sounds flaky and probably ghosted you. Reliable SPs have better comms than that.

However, if you still want to punt her, then you just have to draw a line under it and try again. If she does it again, then it's a name and shame in a review.

[Southernbloke]

I give 2 chances. If they muck me about twice, I move on and find another SP .

[Blackpool Rock]

Had arranged a late afternoon punt for last week - a week in advance, unusual for me. Re-confirmed in the morning and I arrived a couple of minutes late so paid parking fee and knocked on door - no reply. Checked phone to find a message that she was having slight car trouble - but didnt explicitly cancel - then radio silence
Now its partly my fault as I was running late, rushed and missed the message that was sent 25mins before the punt and other than the silence I don't have any firm evidence that she didnt have genuine problems - but frankly I have suspicions.

I'm sure most of us have been similarly let down and I must admit my previous experiences of giving an SP the benefit of the doubt have not worked out well. Probably 4 out 5 let me down again so am I being a mug giving her another chance ?

It's not partly your fault at all as the outcome would have been the same if you had been on time 

A link to the girl would help so we can see any other threads and comments on here, has she got previous Negatives for pissing punters around etc 

I'd say if you particularly want to punt her then perhaps a 2nd attempt but with a backup plan and go into it expecting to be let down then as you say review

[Colston36]

Unless the lady/couple apologises and gives a good reason, I never try again.

[lewisjones23]

Less and less as time goes on, likely only give WG one chance now

[FLYING BLUE]

Being somewhat naive, generally speaking, if someone tells me something, my 1st instinct is to assume it's truthful & therefore I tend to be forgiving in most circumstances (not just punting).

However, I know that I've been lied to, blatantly, by several SP's over the years & I find that hard to forgive.

Radio silence is also difficult to forgive - On a few occasions, I have driven 170 miles & booked a night in a hotel, only to hear nothing whatsoever from my booked & confirmed SP

This to me, is unforgivable & made much worse given the fact that the SP's in question knew I had a considerable distance to travel - the cost alone of a hotel plus 300 mile round trip £££££

[timsussex]

It's not partly your fault at all as the outcome would have been the same if you had been on time 

A link to the girl would help so we can see any other threads and comments on here, has she got previous Negatives for pissing punters around etc 

I'd say if you particularly want to punt her then perhaps a 2nd attempt but with a backup plan and go into it expecting to be let down then as you say review

Partly my fault because I missed the text just before I set off
I decided not to name as I had no actual evidence of being mislead - she has no reports on here - so as a TOFTT I may give her another chance - I'm good to you lot 
Local Backup plans are not possible

I'll prob

[mandy18]

I gave gave a Brazillian a second chance, because nothing else was really available, turned into one of my best ever punts.

[berksboy]

Had one cancel on me this  week, no reports on here but looks hot .As she give me 2hrs notice i will try again when she is next local but if she blows me out again i will just move on.

[RandomGuy99]

Provided I get a few hours notice then it's all good. It hasn't cost me any money at that point and I can choose whether to risk finding someone else or just keep my money in my pocket and wait until someone who I want to see who has good reviews is available.

[marksmith1986]

I got a call from an sp once on my way to a pre arranged booking saying she had car issues. Seemed genuine and was happy she made an effort to call.  Long story short, arranged another booking with a discount (her suggestion) and that went through perfectly. Got to dump a load on her face as payback haha   

[GoodLookinGuy]

If she generally seems okay, plenty of good feedback I generally have a 2 strikes rule. We all have lives and things can sometimes happen.

If there were red flags anyway, it would have just confirmed these so single strike.

[DeeptoSleep]

Had one who had cancelled on me more than once and I'd been accommodating, but then cancelled on me when I'd specifically booked time off work and was too late to arrange anything else. At that point felt like a bit of a pattern and suspected I'd been bumped for a longer booking with no offer of a reason until I asked. I don't think I hid my frustration very well via text and gave a negative review on here, clearly touched a nerve as has since ignored mails and messages from me when I decided to give her another chance, probably for the best.
Live and learn, it's happened again to me today, but with a normally very reliable regular. Whilst frustrating, I've no reason to believe not a genuine issue so hoping to rebook when she is available.

End of the day, sometimes stuff happens that can't be helped, it's the way the SP handles it that makes the difference.

[Stevelondon]

I’ll go with Fuzzy on this one. A good reliable (usually) 😂 SP will have better communication skills.
Not just better but also more considerate.

I had a very well known and well thought of SP on here……. Cancel about three hours before the meet. I had no reason to doubt that her feeling unwell was anything other than the truth. I’d also seen her before and my spider sense told me she is very genuine.
Sadly never got round to a re-match 😂

I’ve also had an SP apologise profusely as she said she could not see me in our ore-arranged time. But could see me a couple of hours later. Again I’d seen her a few times previously so knew she wasn’t just messing me around. I actually got to near where she did her work  so I could park up and watched her walking towards the venue.

In this game it’s all about comms. Some SP’s care more than others. As we all know. Some just don’t give a shit about the blokes who pay them.

[Colston36]

To be honest I fear I've been more of a pain than any woman has to me because I don't drive, am old and generally clueless.

[signy]

If I have a booking, travel to the venue (usually 1hr+ for me) and then get ghosted or fobbed off with some lame excuse, that's a negative review in my book.

If I get cancelled in advance, then it depends on time allowed and reasons, so some exceptions, but normally I will reply politely and then cut them from my HL never to be seen.

I am not very forgiving.

[Munter84]

I'm probably far too forgiving, but giving the benefit of the doubt is always my first instinct and I believe overall it's served me better than taking offence off the bat - all things being equal, assume cock-up rather than conspiracy, basically. Some of my best regulars have come from first meets that were delayed or with crappy comms. I've also been messed around, of course, but that's only ever really apparent in hindsight.

[ShadowProclamation]

Every punt is different, but I am probably less forgiving than I used to be. If a meeting goes ahead, after being delayed, then that's acceptable. If it doesn't go ahead, then the SP won't get a second chance. The worst is incurring expense on travelling, plus hotel, only to be let down. That is why I always make a holiday out of it, so as to not have a completely wasted trip.

[willie loman]

in my experience, scottie girls and i assume its the same for english girls, let you down quite often, you just have to accept that , in an ideal world you would never contact them again,,,,,, it never happens when its foreign girls. for them its a business, its one of the reasons foreign girls have such contempt for the locals.

[Blackpool Rock]

in my experience, scottie girls and i assume its the same for english girls, let you down quite often, you just have to accept that , in an ideal world you would never contact them again,,,,,, it never happens when its foreign girls. for them its a business, its one of the reasons foreign girls have such contempt for the locals.

The last girl to Ghost me was Thai and i've been pissed around by Roms a few times when I was stupid enough to book them as despite having a timed booking if someone contacts them a few minutes before the scheduled time and says they are at the address they will bump you without thinking twice 

[8MillionDollarMan]

1 strike and out for me.

[myothernameis]

Here's one for the married guys, how forgiving would your wife be, if she found out 

[simon07]

I was cancelled by a WG on a communication misunderstanding. My stance was i need confirmation before i set out on a long drive through roadworks.
Got an olive branch and decided to try again and Bingo - it was a good punt.
A lot depends on UKP reviews too.

[newhere456]

Had a similar situation about a year ago with a SP in the next town, so really handy travel-wise.  Everything was booked, parked up and texted, no reply.  Waited a bit and then drove to Homebase to drop off the carpet cleaner that was in the back of the car (AKA my alibi).  Was just at homebase when very apologetic text received.

Drove back to hers,  she made it up to me in more ways than one - among my best punts.  I saw here a few times before she retired. 

[GorillaWarfare]

I have been cancelled on twice, both strangely enough by WGs with far more positive reviews than negatives. One ghosted me whilst I was stood waiting for the go ahead to come up and the other cancelled on the confirmation call on the day (which she requested I do) with what sounded like a gigantic hangover - and probably wouldn't have informed me she needed to cancel had I not made that call.

I didn't give them a second chance, punting's too expensive a game to be given the run-around like that. Maybe it's a little harsh as things happen but at least make the effort to let me know ASAP if they do.

[nwluvit]

If it is something I could rearrange with little travel or time/effort would probably try again.

[Punterperson1971]

Had one or 2 regulars cancel no issues rearranged a visit even I’ve had to cancel meets as long as they are ok with it don’t see any issues.
I Had to actually cancel today to see a well reviewed lady on way from work but I’m now seeing her tomorrow rearranged with no fuss etc,my regular couldn’t make my booking last week pushed it back to next day and then she’s said she’s still not well it’s fine they are normally alright as long as I have them notice and not at last minute

[Sperminator22]

I'm rather forgiving if the booking gets cancelled in advance, or at least before my journey begins.
Not very forgiving if my time is wasted (journey already started, or no show).
The "no show" has happened only once, and i forgave her, as I met her a few times before, and I know she makes an effort to make it up (no clock watching, filming porn video allowed with no extra charge).

[shagmore]

If given a plausible reason, and notice then ok. But not phone silence.
There are plenty of WGs out there, why go for one that does not respect that you are the customer and paying for her time

[Jujy78]

Back in 2009 I arranged to see a WG at lunchtime whilst at work approx 10mins drive got there text her and she made me wait 10mins or so and then text to say she was having problems and couldn't see me. So I thought fine. Arranged again following day and the same thing happened. She apologised but I said it's happened to me twice. So I never contacted her again. When I joined here I saw plenty of positive reviews about her on here but never bothered seeing her. Punting is absolutely dry in my area so I one day I decided to contact her and make arrangements. Everything was agreed got there and again she made me wait about 10-15 mins. I got frustrated and left and thought it's happened again. She lives next to a McDonald's so I thought I'll go in there and grab something to eat before I left. As I got in to McDonald's she said she was ready and gave me the door number. I decided to go and I really enjoyed the punt. In the last 2 years I've probably seen her about 6 times. She still makes me wait about 10mins before texting me to tell me to come in but it don't bother me that much anymore as long as she don't cancel. I know wish I made attempts to see her back in 2009 atleast she would've been 15 years younger. No doubt I probably would've carried on seeing her from then onwards.

[Dylanbob]

Is she really fit? 

This

[Atrueyorkie]

Really depends, if it’s a sound clear reason why I will double back.

However if it’s nonsensical or I doubt it it’s never a revisit and simply cut off and move on.

[Dipper]

Is she really fit? 

All comes down to this and her reputation to me. One more chance maximum maybe.