Alenski
I applaud your altruism.
I too have highlighted some charitable works I do in another part of this forum. But have found some members to be totally cynical and feel that I am lying. I have tried to explain why I do it and how its not actually a big cost to me, but some taxi drivers and right wing loonies still think its a lie and constantly bring it up in threads in a mocking tone. Even though I would have no reason whatsoever to make it up, why do I care if anyone here thinks I am a saint or a total cunt?
I have made a comment about Canadians as they are well known to be nicey nicey.
Whatever your reasons are for the altruism, good on you mate.
However, giving a prossie gift is something I struggle to understand - they are not necessarily in need of help - their hourly rate is usually very much higher than 95% of people here. They have a product that is never ending, their working life can be relatively long (I get that the rates might reduce towards the end), the only reason they would be in financial difficulties is if they grossly mismanaged their financial lives, or have been excessively indulgent.
I get it that you want to form a friendly and emotional attachment with the gifts. Herein lies the real risk. You have to remember this is merely an economic transaction and any form of attachemnt, either on your part or even on the part of the prossie is dangerous for both of you. It can only ever end in tears.
I have seen Sopihie many years ago and she was good but do not remember her as being outstanding as in your review. Maybe thats because of your approach in making a friend, and am pleased for you. But this too is an economic transaction.
I know you are (ahem) experienced in life, but let me give you a little bit of friendly advice. You would be better off finding a young civvy girl friend/ pal (with some benefits) and shower her with gifts, rather than substitute prossies for the emotional attachement that you are obviously seeking. You seem a great guy and many women will be lucky and indeed glad to have you as a friend. All you need to do is to meet them and get over the initial peak. Website, nurses, support workers etc. might be a good place to start- discreetly of course (But of course I dont know your circumstances).
Gifts and presents for prossies to induce an emotional attachement is not the answer and will inevitably go wrong.