What makes a girl choose escorting?

[Ponty]

I've been intrigued by what makes a girl choose escorting as a career path for quite a while now. Clearly escorting is not every girls cup of tea, no matter what the financial reward. For instance, having to get intimate with someone you didn't find attractive, the smelly, potentially violent, and occasionally deviant, would be enough to put most off.

Yet it's a career path that many respectable, and not necessarily vulnerable, girls are willing to take; so clearly it's not just about the money. Mia Khalifa, when asked why an intelligent woman from a wealthy and respectable family went into porn, replied that none of that legislated against low self esteem. Is the thrill of escorting partly the recognition and affirmation you receive? Another ex-pornstar, Tracey Lords was more brutal when asked about the new crop of pornstars coming through in the 90s, saying they were all "fucked up". I don't think that is entirely true for most escorts I've met but to be honest I've yet to meet one who isn't concealing some kind of emotional challenge, but of course that could apply to many in society.

We're not talking about the vulnerable here, for instance those who have substance problems or are actively coerced but only those who have a measure of independence and can make rational choices.

Any ideas?


 

[Lou2019]

What are you looking for here? Stories from SPs, or assumptions from SS as to why we chose it?

[alabama1]

I've been intrigued by what makes a girl choose escorting as a career path for quite a while now. Clearly escorting is not every girls cup of tea, no matter what the financial reward. For instance, having to get intimate with someone you didn't find attractive, the smelly, potentially violent, and occasionally deviant, would be enough to put most off.

Yet it's a career path that many respectable, and not necessarily vulnerable, girls are willing to take; so clearly it's not just about the money. Mia Khalifa, when asked why an intelligent woman from a wealthy and respectable family went into porn, replied that none of that legislated against low self esteem. Is the thrill of escorting partly the recognition and affirmation you receive? Another ex-pornstar, Tracey Lords was more brutal when asked about the new crop of pornstars coming through in the 90s, saying they were all "fucked up". I don't think that is entirely true for most escorts I've met but to be honest I've yet to meet one who isn't concealing some kind of emotional challenge, but of course that could apply to many in society.

We're not talking about the vulnerable here, for instance those who have substance problems or are actively coerced but only those who have a measure of independence and can make rational choices.

Any ideas?

Yes it is !

[LLPunting]

Why do you ask about prostitutes and then conflate them with porn stars?  There are known prostitutes who have written various commentaries and books available in the public domain.

[finn5555]

Let’s be frank it’s not a career as such albeit they claim it’s the oldest profession in the world.

I am sure many come into it for a multitude of reasons. Money I would say is the No1 factor 

[MissWolf]

What are you looking for here? Stories from SPs, or assumptions from SS as to why we chose it?

 

[dunhill]

For instance, having to get intimate with someone you didn't find attractive, the smelly, potentially violent, and occasionally deviant, would be enough to put most off.

Quite the assumption.  I know I have not been intimate with or even come into contact/been in the same room with any of the above thanks to a little something called screening and personal choice. 

[Lou2019]

OP has chosen to ignore the question 

[southcoastpunter]

so clearly it's not just about the money.

Yes it is !

and you know this applies to EVERY WG (and not just to many or most) because........??

[Bonker]

I wonder where this is going.
<sigh>

[Lou2019]

I wonder where this is going.
<sigh>

God knows 

[standardpostage]

Only guessing "but" I would say, some do it for the money. It's just a job, to them.

Some may do it, because they like sex, and their good at it.

A few may do it to find a husband.

One or two, may have professional massage qualifications, and one thing, leads to another !

As I say, I'm just guessing 

If I was a woman, I may have gone down that road myself 

PS Other reasons: support family, pay for education, pay energy bills, etc etc etc.

[tp69]

Quite the assumption.  I know I have not been intimate with or even come into contact/been in the same room with any of the above thanks to a little something called screening and personal choice.

I believe it was presented as more of an example than an assumption. He's providing a few reasons that may deter women from choosing the path.

A well articulated question and I'm sure something many of us wonder about.

[daviemac]

A well articulated question and I'm sure something many of us wonder about.

And it's one that only an individual escort can answer. It's pointless even trying to guess, blokes think differently to women and are not capable of having multiple sex partners in one day, men need to be aroused women just need a tube of lube and some imagination.

[tp69]

And it's one that only an individual escort can answer.

Thought perhaps some of our resident gal's might throw a few answers out there, though none are seemingly keen to do so as yet.

To be fair, I'd be pretty surprised by anything other than money being the driver. Why else would you be willing to shag a bunch of hairy blokes.

[Lou2019]

Thought perhaps some of our resident gal's might throw a few answers out there, though none are seemingly keen to do so as yet.

Because it’s personal and no one else’s business but our own to put it bluntly

[tp69]

Because it’s personal and no one else’s business but our own to put it bluntly

Nobody is forcing you to answer, it's a fair question to anyone that does want to.

[Lou2019]

Nobody is forcing you to answer, it's a fair question to anyone that does want to.

That is my answer.

Why does the OP need  to know anyway  ? He maybe disappointed to learn that it’s not because all SPs are raving nymphomaniacs 

[daviemac]

Thought perhaps some of our resident gal's might throw a few answers out there, though none are seemingly keen to do so as yet.

To be fair, I'd be pretty surprised by anything other than money being the driver. Why else would you be willing to shag a bunch of hairy blokes.

There aren't very many SPs active on here and those that are active are careful to stay withing the rules.

Is money not the motivating factor for any of us to work?? 

The OP has brought porn stars into it, but there's no comparison, an escort, for the duration of a booking is concentrating on the punter but porn, like any film, is shot is scenes which may not be continuous action.  We might as well ask why someone becomes a plumber and not an electrician, both are in the building industry. 

[Moby Dick]

That is my answer.

Why does the OP need  to know anyway  ? He maybe disappointed to learn that it’s not because all SPs are raving nymphomaniacs 

Aren’t they?
Or have I been lucky to get the best out of most?
 
But you are right, not all. There’s always the sour faced fuckers in it just for the money honey 

[JonasG]

That is my answer.

Why does the OP need  to know anyway  ? He maybe disappointed to learn that it’s not because all SPs are raving nymphomaniacs 

I think it's just out of morbid curiosity tbh, I know when I first started punting I used to think this to myself sometimes just because I found this new hobby quite fascinating. But as the years have gone by, you just take punting from both sides for what it is. Good money for the escorts and easy sex for the client.

Sometimes a few of my regulars tell me their life story with a few doing this 10+ years, but the gist I've kinda got from them is they sort of fall into it maybe a mate recommended it and then they realise it's not too bad when you factor in you make your own hours, you're your own boss etc.

Some have even said once they get a decent base of regulars and get skilled at avoiding the "riff-raff" clients and general screening, it's ultimately not that bad when you factor in all the positives re: money, hours you choose.

Obviously taking at face value what a few of my regulars have said to me, but it makes sense to me why an escort would choose to stick to this once they become more knowledgeable and skilled at what escorting entails.

[Moby Dick]

Because they want to get into the highest tax bracket, own 5 or so houses to rent and then retire before they are 45.
If I had a pussy, I would.

[Stevelondon]

Because they want to get into the highest tax bracket, own 5 or so houses to rent and then retire before they are 45.
If I had a pussy, I would.

Worked for me. 

[Thephoenix]

In the words of that famous philosopher Frank Bruno:-

"Too much thinkin' damages yer brain, 'Arry!

Just be thankful for the ladies who 'give'.

What the fuck would we do without them?

[Doc Holliday]

For instance, having to get intimate with someone you didn't find attractive, the smelly, potentially violent, and occasionally deviant, would be enough to put most off.

Quite the assumption.  I know I have not been intimate with or even come into contact/been in the same room with any of the above thanks to a little something called screening and personal choice.

So you screen out punters you don't find attractive? How do you screen for smell if they don't get into the room? How do you screen out the potential for violent behavior without seeing them?

[jesse4585]

...  they sort of fall into it maybe a mate recommended it and then they realise it's not too bad when you factor in you make your own hours, you're your own boss etc. ...

Good post Jonas.  There's been a major study finding that UK WGs have on average higher job satisfaction than women working in entry level jobs in retail / care work etc.  This was credited mainly due to them being their own boss, not having to put up with crappy managers etc.   Even in ancient times, there are records that women chose to be sex workers as a way to have a more independent life.

Having a high sex drive has to be a factor for some, there's stories of WGs saying they get better sex form punters than they do at swinger parties...  But yeah, money likely to be by far the main reason > 95% of the time.

[Vice Admiral]

For some reason the "D" word is rarely mentioned on this forum.

In the case of virtually every escort or sugar babe I have got to know well enough to know about their "lifestyles", money for drugs has (regrettably) been the main reason they are willing to have sex for financial reward.

Most people who smoke weed are weed-dependant, and are therefore daily users.  Once you've factored in tobacco and papers as well as the weed itself, even moderate daily weed use costs at least £600 a month.  And a cocaine binge once or twice a week doesn't come cheap either.

Of course this doesn't apply to every escort, but – as I have indicated – it certainly applies to the vast majority of those I have known well over the years; and I don't think there is anything about my "sample" that is untypical or self-selecting.  But we can only report as we find.

[JustaPunter]

I've been intrigued by what makes a girl choose escorting as a career path for quite a while now. Clearly escorting is not every girls cup of tea, no matter what the financial reward. For instance, having to get intimate with someone you didn't find attractive, the smelly, potentially violent, and occasionally deviant, would be enough to put most off.

Yet it's a career path that many respectable, and not necessarily vulnerable, girls are willing to take; so clearly it's not just about the money. Mia Khalifa, when asked why an intelligent woman from a wealthy and respectable family went into porn, replied that none of that legislated against low self esteem. Is the thrill of escorting partly the recognition and affirmation you receive? Another ex-pornstar, Tracey Lords was more brutal when asked about the new crop of pornstars coming through in the 90s, saying they were all "fucked up". I don't think that is entirely true for most escorts I've met but to be honest I've yet to meet one who isn't concealing some kind of emotional challenge, but of course that could apply to many in society.

We're not talking about the vulnerable here, for instance those who have substance problems or are actively coerced but only those who have a measure of independence and can make rational choices.

Any ideas?

I’ve been intrigued by what makes a person visit an Escort/SW/Prostitute.

Clearly visiting a SW is not everybody’s cup of tea.

You go first.

But I guarantee asking that question will get many different answers.

And each one will be individual to that person, some may be very similar of course, but each will likely be slightly different

[simon07]

Some may do it as a part time hobby or something to help bring extra money. I remember there was a thread mentioning some did work like hairdressers, bakers, pub, nurses, paramedics, students, teachers and i remember one gal who was a merchant banker.

[Doc Holliday]

There's been a major study finding that UK WGs have on average higher job satisfaction than women working in entry level jobs in retail / care work etc. 

The Leeds University study circa 2015, found that money was main factor leading to greater job satisfaction compared to entry level jobs ... in fact many sex workers who responded had previously been employed in care work or retail.

If the remuneration for sex work was only the same as entry level jobs then very few would be doing it.

The study also reported the following which is unlikely to be a problem when working in Tescos



While 91% of respondents found their work flexible and 56% found it rewarding, 71% experienced stigma and said they had lied about their job and lived in fear of being recognised.

The research found 113 sex workers (47%) had been victims of crime, including rape and robbery, while 86 (36%) had received threatening texts, calls or emails.

“I’ve had a stalker for almost the entire time I’ve been working,” said one respondent. Another said: “I am single because most men don’t want to date a prostitute.”

Intimidation was another problem raised, and one sex worker cited “clients that mess with your head” as a problem. “There are some very clever, sick men out there who abused my mind,” she said.

One woman asked what the negative parts of the job were said: “Rape, not being able to fall in love, and the things some men ask you to do in order to make lots of money.”

[dunhill]

So you screen out punters you don't find attractive? How do you screen for smell if they don't get into the room? How do you screen out the potential for violent behavior without seeing them?

Not exactly, but you can tell a lot by the way someone conducts themselves during the booking process, or even at the first point of contact. Maybe I have been luckier than most, but have never met a single client like the ones outlined in the original post.  But then again, my screening process, even the way I (used to) advertise, is designed to ensure those kinds of men don't waste their time, or mine, by contacting me.

As for attractive, that's all subjective anyway.  For me, looks matter very little, but manners do. 

Hope this clarifies things.

[jesse4585]

The Leeds University study circa 2015, found that money was main factor leading to greater job satisfaction compared to entry level jobs ... in fact many sex workers who responded had previously been employed in care work or retail.

If the remuneration for sex work was only the same as entry level jobs then very few would be doing it.
...

Yeah thanks Doc - great balancing post to my excessive optimism.  While some did indeed credit the higher job satisfaction to an increased sense of autonomy,  I'd accept that those who carefully studied the details found money to be the overriding factor.

[dunhill]

As for the question at hand, why did I choose to escort?

Well, if it was purely for the money, then I would be doing things very differently.  I also have a full-time civvy job, own my flat, am financially stable, so money really isn't the motivation. But yes, to quote a well-known supermarket, every little helps.  (All income from this side of my life is declared and put into my pension and savings account.)

The long and short of it is that escorting is a pleasant diversion on a very very part-time basis.  Quite simply, it affords far more control than dating, and as someone who has no desire to get married or have children, but loathed the oft disingenuity of dating, escorting seemed like a suitable an option.  But, it was only an option if I could make it work and could guarantee that not only was it fun, but absolutely stress-free. And it is, but only because I have put a lot of thought into my processes, and my main motivator was how could I make this like the very best bits of dating - the excitement, the genuinely thrill of connecting with someone on the same wavelength and of course, the kind of sex where you're both so hungry for each other.

True, being physically intimate with strangers isn't for everyone.  But, how many of us have had a one-night stand, or ended up having sex with someone because it was easier to acquiesce?  I don't know, but looks have never really been of interest to me - some of the best looking men I have dated/slept have been awful in bed and garbage human beings.  Intelligence is attractive, as are manners and someone being considerate of my needs and boundaries, as well as treating me well (a phrase so many of you scoff at). The great paradox of escorting is that I have found the men - my clients - to be far more honourable, interesting and decent than many of the men I have met in the dating world. 

I sometimes I worry I will never return to romantic relationships.  To date, they have always disappointed, but my clients never have. And so I continue in this world.


Note - this has been incredibly hard to answer while trying to staying within the parameters of what is acceptable for SPs to post.  Hopefully, I haven't crossed any lines.

[lillythesavage]

The Leeds University study circa 2015, found that money was main factor leading to greater job satisfaction compared to entry level jobs ... in fact many sex workers who responded had previously been employed in care work or retail.

If the remuneration for sex work was only the same as entry level jobs then very few would be doing it.

The study also reported the following which is unlikely to be a problem when working in Tescos



While 91% of respondents found their work flexible and 56% found it rewarding, 71% experienced stigma and said they had lied about their job and lived in fear of being recognised.

The research found 113 sex workers (47%) had been victims of crime, including rape and robbery, while 86 (36%) had received threatening texts, calls or emails.

“I’ve had a stalker for almost the entire time I’ve been working,” said one respondent. Another said: “I am single because most men don’t want to date a prostitute.”

Intimidation was another problem raised, and one sex worker cited “clients that mess with your head” as a problem. “There are some very clever, sick men out there who abused my mind,” she said.

One woman asked what the negative parts of the job were said: “Rape, not being able to fall in love, and the things some men ask you to do in order to make lots of money.”

If you have ever been in the position to find out, this is very true, one thing that pops up often is debt caused by other people, breaking free of them and getting into the game, which equals money as the main reason.

[Stevelondon]

You have not crossed any lines as far as I am concerned dunhill. Thank you for your post.

[dunhill]

PS.  I forgot the most important bit -

I don't pay them for sex, I pay them to leave.

So said Charlie Sheen, Jack Nicholson, and pretty much every single man who has pad for an escort's time.

Well my friends, it works both ways.  I am paid for my time, and once I walk out of the door, like Garbo herself, I want to be left alone by my clients (and until the next time we meet).   

Escorting allows this total separation and for me to live my life unencumbered, dating does not!

[Doc Holliday]

Hope this clarifies things.

Not really. You haven't really answered my questions. How do you screen out ugly, grossly obese, smelly or potentially violent punters? You said you had never been in a room with one due to your screening processes?

Intelligence is attractive, as are manners and someone being considerate of my needs and boundaries, as well as treating me well (a phrase so many of you scoff at). The great paradox of escorting is that I have found the men - my clients - to be far more honourable, interesting and decent than many of the men I have met in the dating world. 

I sometimes I worry I will never return to romantic relationships.  To date, they have always disappointed, but my clients never have. And so I continue in this world.

Once again you use the absolute term 'never'. That's one hell of a screening process?

[jesse4585]

...
Quite simply, it affords far more control than dating, and as someone who has no desire to get married or have children, but loathed the oft disingenuity of dating, escorting seemed like a suitable an option.  But, it was only an option if I could make it work and could guarantee that not only was it fun, but absolutely stress-free. And it is, but only because I have put a lot of thought into my processes, and my main motivator was how could I make this like the very best bits of dating - the excitement, the genuinely thrill of connecting with someone on the same wavelength and of course, the kind of sex where you're both so hungry for each other.
...

Outstanding post, and especially great to read how sex work can be such a +ve for a WG for non financial reasons.  Being a romantic, I hope you eventually get better luck in your civvie sex life. But yeah, as you probably know there's been studies finding women on average get less out of marriage than men and that some types are women are likely to be happier staying single. Especially if they are still getting plenty of good sex. As per my earlier post,  youre far from the only one who finds punters give better sex than civvy encounters. Much as some here may find that impossible to believe.

[hendrix]

No idea, but I'm glad they do else I'd never have sex.

[akauya]

No idea, but I'm glad they do else I'd never have sex.

This!  100% especially with fit young women   

[dunhill]

Not really. You haven't really answered my questions. How do you screen out ugly, grossly obese, smelly or potentially violent punters? You said you had never been in a room with one due to your screening processes?

Once again you use the absolute term 'never'. That's one hell of a screening process?

You have answered your own question; I have one hell of a screening process. 

It is also worth considering that how one chooses to represent themselves online (along with the where and how they advertise) also serves as screening and why those kinds of punters would never waste their time even contacting me.  It seems strange to me that you haven't considered that how an escort chooses to advertise plays a large part in the kind of clientele they (want to) attract.

I consider this Q&A now closed.

Thank you.

[RandomGuy99]

I think women choose escorting because:

1. They can make good money.  It's just like choosing any other job
2. It pays more than most regular 9 to 5 jobs and doesn't need lots of qualifications to start
3. They can work whatever hours they like, so it fits well with family or other commitments
4. It gives them flexibility to work, study or take a holiday whenever they like
5. They are in control of what they do and who they see instead of dealing with idiot managers, boring tasks, etc. in a regular job
6. They can do it reasonably discreetly and leave little trace when they retire
7. It allows them to reach some of their goals in life (buy house, retire, get a degree, train for a longer term career, emigrate, settle down to a comfortable family life) faster than they could doing a regular job.

Obviously it does have a lot of risks and stress associated it e.g health risks and stress from timewasters, no shows, weirdos, etc. and these all need to be managed.

An escort could work 12 hrs a day 7 days a week and make loads of money, but it's probably not good for them in the long term.  It really depends on what their goals are and if they want to do it for the long term. Just like any job you have to manage the job, so that it doesn't take over your life and you maintain a healthy work/life balance and you don't end up burnt out.

I do wonder if more women now choose to do OnlyFans or other online content selling as they still make good money, but without many of the negatives of escorting although escorting may be easier to do more discreetly without your face and bits being on the internet forever.

Ultimately, it's just a job.  It pays the bills.  It has some positives and negatives.  As long as the positives outweigh the negatives we keep doing it.

The media portrays escorts as being stupid, vulnerable and exploited. In my experience that is not the case for the majority of escorts. Most of the professional escorts are educated, intelligent and have understood the job and gone into it with their eyes open.   They know what they're doing and why.

[MysteryManNo.7]

I think women choose escorting because:

1. They can make good money.  It's just like choosing any other job
2. It pays more than most regular 9 to 5 jobs and doesn't need lots of qualifications to start
3. They can work whatever hours they like, so it fits well with family or other commitments
4. It gives them flexibility to work, study or take a holiday whenever they like
5. They are in control of what they do and who they see instead of dealing with idiot managers, boring tasks, etc. in a regular job
6. They can do it reasonably discreetly and leave little trace when they retire
7. It allows them to reach some of their goals in life (buy house, retire, get a degree, train for a longer term career, emigrate, settle down to a comfortable family life) faster than they could doing a regular job.

Obviously it does have a lot of risks and stress associated it e.g health risks and stress from timewasters, no shows, weirdos, etc. and these all need to be managed.

An escort could work 12 hrs a day 7 days a week and make loads of money, but it's probably not good for them in the long term.  It really depends on what their goals are and if they want to do it for the long term. Just like any job you have to manage the job, so that it doesn't take over your life and you maintain a healthy work/life balance and you don't end up burnt out.

I do wonder if more women now choose to do OnlyFans or other online content selling as they still make good money, but without many of the negatives of escorting although escorting may be easier to do more discreetly without your face and bits being on the internet forever.

Ultimately, it's just a job.  It pays the bills.  It has some positives and negatives.  As long as the positives outweigh the negatives we keep doing it.

The media portrays escorts as being stupid, vulnerable and exploited. In my experience that is not the case for the majority of escorts. Most of the professional escorts are educated, intelligent and have understood the job and gone into it with their eyes open.   They know what they're doing and why.

Very good points and most echo my own. I don't agree however that Onlyfans is an easy or particularly profitable thing to do, I've seen quite a few articles detailing how most make somewhere in the region of approx £130 per month from it with the top few content creators making the lion's share of profit.

A hardworking and professional escort stands to make way, way more than the average person will on OF.

[Payyourwaymate]

Complex circumstances. Each individual persons reasons differ, there is no fixed answer as cliche as that might be.

I do think however, that potential earnings and flexibility plays a large part in why, when compared to alternative typical low skilled paying jobs to choose from. Comparing with high skilled paying jobs it makes no sense financially to escort. There is a low barrier to entry to start escorting, compare that to something like being a software engineer or a niche industry where you need time to develop specific skillsets before you can earn good money.

Escorting also requires specific skillsets but not as stringent as other industries and does not require as much time, mostly as much as no one would like to admit, the womans body is essentially commoditised and is already ready as the product, compared to jobs where you must create something or deliver something to get paid over time. Most guys are going in happy just to have sex, and some require "GFE" or other niche services which would of course require more skillsets to deliver. We see some are very professional and treat it like a business and others, not so much. However, once again...complex circumstances for each individual.

[RobT22]

Thank you to Dunhill for your excellent insight into how one SP thinks about her paid role. Your replies have helped me greatly understand the female attitude to our activity. I think you have also answered well the OP 's original question.

[RandomGuy99]

A hardworking and professional escort stands to make way, way more than the average person will on OF.

True, but I guess it all helps. I think success on OF requires you to spend time marketing/advertising yourself, making the right content and developing a fan base.  If you manage to a few hundred fans then you may make the money, but obviously OF take their percentage for letting you use their platform.  The alternative is to sell direct via streaming platforms like kik, twitch, etc. but they have their own issues to manage.

[ShadowProclamation]

When I go to work, I become an alter ego to make money. Once the work uniform is off I become myself again. Perhaps it is the same for an escort? They become an alter ego, to make money.

[RandomGuy99]

When I go to work, I become an alter ego to make money. Once the work uniform is off I become myself again. Perhaps it is the same for an escort? They become an alter ego, to make money.

I think all escorts put on a bit of an act as it can't easy getting random people to wash properly and then shag them. A bit like infant school every day.

Us in regular jobs have to tow the company line to keep the management happy and get paid every month, so sometimes we have to bite our tongues and do stuff we would really rather not do.  I am sure escorts do exactly the same, but they have total control over what they do and who with.  If they don't want to do something then they just say no and wait for the next person.

[Doc Holliday]

You have answered your own question; I have one hell of a screening process. 

Have you thought of running workshops for other SP's on how to detect smelly punters by talking to them online? Does your screening include asking for a photo?

It is also worth considering that how one chooses to represent themselves online (along with the where and how they advertise) also serves as screening and why those kinds of punters would never waste their time even contacting me.  It seems strange to me that you haven't considered that how an escort chooses to advertise plays a large part in the kind of clientele they (want to) attract.

I have considered it. You have made it clear that you are very part time and have implied you work(ed) high end. This means you may see far less clients than the average.

If you advertise as high end it just means you may attract someone willing to pay you more money. It does not guarantee they will not attempt to treat you like a piece of meat. Your 'those kinds of punters' also seems very condescending towards other SP's. "The dross will book them not me"
At least you acknowledge problem punters exist. Just that they choose not to see you.

All SP’s screen clients to varying degrees, but I have never come across one who claims she has 100% success record and where they have never encountered a problem client. I repeat no amount of screening will detect some of the criteria you mention.

UKP can be a hostile place for SP’s, but it’s very unusual for me personally to give SP’s a hard time (many others do) Sorry, but I am calling bullshit on this.

In addition, your subsequent post about “why you personally do it" is classic playing to the fluffy punter gallery. Some will love what they hear and are already white knighting you. Good luck.

[hendrix]

This!  100% especially with fit young women   

I literally *cannot* have sex unless it's in exchange for cash, so this business is made for me