I've read the main post on this thread, and some of the comments. So I'm not sure if this has been covered. Recently been reading a lot of forms on Reddit, after a member on the London seeking thread, mentioned theres substantial sa discussion there, there's been some very useful ideas, mainly around 'freestyling' as they call it. Insights from both sugar babies and sugar daddies, which I found work well this past few weeks.
Seeking hasn't had anyone I've been interested in since January, however, I've seen a lot of people are finding sugar babies/daddies on dating apps outside of ukp. I followed methodology and been on a couple of arrangement dates on that basis from vanilla dating apps recently. The girls weren't quite what I was looking for, the quality on dating apps isn't what it was, I went through all the girls within 100 miles of me, sat and scrolled for an hour when I first downloaded and they're about 10 profiles that were decent. It's seeming apparent that the hottest young girls now exclusively date through Instagram, so it's not just punting missing them, it's also the vanilla dating scene. Unfortunately, I don't have any social media presence, due to preferring privacy, so only get to bang those girls when they come on seeking.
However, looking at other forums, sugardaddymeet seems to potentially legit, however, has very few members, and without the subscription, you can't set your radius to anything more than 0 miles, so whilst I shifted around other areas, it didn't look like there was any valuing subscribing.
On secret benefits, the consensus seems to be, the same as this thread saying it's a black hole for your money. However it does seem that people have figured out ways to have success on there, essentially the verified profiles are legitimate. So the advice is to set your filter to verified profiles only, doing this, i've seen plenty of girls I recognised from seeking and aw in the correct regions. The verification videos are great, the way I imagine the site presented to the girls is that they think this will not be seen by anyone. Nearly every profile has the girl lying in bed under the covers with no makeup on, looking worlds apart from their pictures. It's literally them before they go to bed or wake up. I found girls that I considered meeting on seeking, but weren't sure about, now I'm definitely sure I have no interest after seeing their veri videos. I've also found girls who only had professional shots on their aw profile, who have these unfiltered verification videos. It's certainly got value as a way of checking what girls look like irl on seeking.
One particular girl who reached out to me on sa a couple of months ago, I was considering meeting, but decided against it, as I wasn't sure what she looked like, I found a picture of her, looking hot in a bikini on secret benefits, and realised she has huge tits. So resubscribed to sa today & i'm going to try and set up a meet with her.
Once I know her a bit better, I'm going to ask her if she'll log into a secret benefits account, while I'm on mine, and see if the last active changes on her profile in real time. Currently it's showing she's not been on SB for a month.. wondering when she logs in whether it'll say online, and immediately after she logs out, it says 'active today', as with that, and the knowledge to only message verified profiles, it could well have potential, given that it's only approx £5 per girl to message. That may not be better for everyone style, but on seeking, I may only find 1-3 girls a month worth messaging, then if they go off for a bit, I have to resubscribe next month to reply.
Additionally i've been wondering why seeking is getting less and less popular for my type, I tried googling how to find a sugar daddy/how to find a sugar baby? to see what would be seen on both sides of the fence for someone looking to get into it. Seeking doesn't really make an appearance in current advice articles, hence new girls getting into it are seemingly directed to secretbenefits, sugardaddy, and sugardaddymeet. Currently the best for my type & value for money I found is the vanilla dating apps, using template messages I've found on the Reddit threads for 'freestyling'.
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Interested to know if anyone's tried filtering for verified profiles only on SB, and messaging them when they're online. I'll update this thread if online and last active features are at least genuine, then will give it a go if I find someone I like there and report back.