Why do you punt guys?

[Warwick]

Desperation, loneliness... Those are the basics.

I first did it because I was fed up with being dangled on the end of a lead. Sex being used as means of having power over me - a tool of manipulation. Never knowing where I stood. Lots of women do that, and it's not pleasant being on the receiving end of it. It can screw you up, big time. I know several people who are victims, and one or two quite well known who turned to drugs and that is far worse what happened to them. Having the independence of being able to find other sexual outlets reduces the stress and empowers you - if you use it in a positive way.

The next stage is where it becomes habit forming. If you enter into the first stage it then becomes recreational if you are not careful. I would far rather never have done it. But sometimes needs must, and you cross the dividing line where one accepts that one is a client, and it's a one way trip. You can never go back. On the positive side, it widens your horizons too. One thing about female sex workers is that many of them have a tremendous depth of knowledge about what makes people tick sexually. You can't get that anywhere else. Counsellors and the like haven't a clue. I would go for relationship counselling if the counsellor was an ex-escort or prostitute, because they have the necessary depth of understanding. I feel strongly that is a very promising career path for the ladies who want to retire and would like something else worthwhile to do. With most others who haven't that kind of life experience it's a waste of time, believe me. Been there, done that.

Another reason is to improve one's skills. I went through a stage where I was having real problems with my partner over a very long time, and I was coming to the conclusion I was crap in bed. I can't begin to explain how awful that period was in my life - for both my partner and I. It did actually make a difference, it was like going to a therapist. It also made me realise it was proper communication and understanding that was missing. The fault of both of us, but experiences with others helped break the cycle - at a cost though. Very difficult to live with oneself when you resort to things like that, and have someone you love dearly back at home. I don't know whether it's better or worse than having an affair. I don't think it's as bad, but most women would not understand it. They immediately think their partner would rather pay for sex that do it with them, and that's a crushing thought. But that is not at all how it is at all, and that is very difficult, if not impossible, to explain to anyone. Few people understand without having gone through it.

Finally, being single again - because there is nothing else.

This is very much one male point of view (others probably have different angles) - but that's why you asked isn't it.

[Warwick]

You have women clients as well?

Do they want a hug afterwards?

 

Probably.

One of the very best WG's I ever met was a lesbian. She was very feminine and I was quite surprised. She told me most of her clients were married women, and she gave me quite an insight into female sexuality, because I met her several times. Not lesbian women, but all women. Really very enlightening, and she was fantastic in bed as well. Amazing because sex with a guy was not her preference, but she was so good at it she was awesome.

[TaniaM]

You have women clients as well?

Do they want a hug afterwards?

 

Errrr nope no female clients, but I do have friends 

[willbred]

At the beginning, to get experience..or a better quality experience than I had been getting. Later, variety. Now mainly excitement and the temporary company of attractive horny ladies.

[Marmalade]

Do I really need an excuse??????????

[TaniaM]

Do I really need an excuse??????????

Absolutely, utterly, totally NOT

[WestCountryLad]

Because fucking a hot chick is one of life's pleasures 

[ghighi]

Desperation, loneliness... Those are the basics.

I first did it because I was fed up with being dangled on the end of a lead. Sex being used as means of having power over me - a tool of manipulation. Never knowing where I stood. Lots of women do that, and it's not pleasant being on the receiving end of it. It can screw you up, big time. I know several people who are victims, and one or two quite well known who turned to drugs and that is far worse what happened to them. Having the independence of being able to find other sexual outlets reduces the stress and empowers you - if you use it in a positive way.

The next stage is where it becomes habit forming. If you enter into the first stage it then becomes recreational if you are not careful. I would far rather never have done it. But sometimes needs must, and you cross the dividing line where one accepts that one is a client, and it's a one way trip. You can never go back. On the positive side, it widens your horizons too. One thing about female sex workers is that many of them have a tremendous depth of knowledge about what makes people tick sexually. You can't get that anywhere else. Counsellors and the like haven't a clue. I would go for relationship counselling if the counsellor was an ex-escort or prostitute, because they have the necessary depth of understanding. I feel strongly that is a very promising career path for the ladies who want to retire and would like something else worthwhile to do. With most others who haven't that kind of life experience it's a waste of time, believe me. Been there, done that.

Another reason is to improve one's skills. I went through a stage where I was having real problems with my partner over a very long time, and I was coming to the conclusion I was crap in bed. I can't begin to explain how awful that period was in my life - for both my partner and I. It did actually make a difference, it was like going to a therapist. It also made me realise it was proper communication and understanding that was missing. The fault of both of us, but experiences with others helped break the cycle - at a cost though. Very difficult to live with oneself when you resort to things like that, and have someone you love dearly back at home. I don't know whether it's better or worse than having an affair. I don't think it's as bad, but most women would not understand it. They immediately think their partner would rather pay for sex that do it with them, and that's a crushing thought. But that is not at all how it is at all, and that is very difficult, if not impossible, to explain to anyone. Few people understand without having gone through it.

Finally, being single again - because there is nothing else.

This is very much one male point of view (others probably have different angles) - but that's why you asked isn't it.

When some small things with your partner fall apart, it is like a trigger for a big argument which may ended up with separation.
But, IMO how you perform in bed is not that important in terms of a relationship. She still going to love you if you are crap in bed. I agree, is very difficult to maintain a long relationship.

[Mwtp]

Good question.  I'm very shy in the "real world."  I had a short thing when I was about 15/16, then nothing for another 10 coming up 11.  Now hear I am, 26, and unable to chat up any females.  A female friend has said I'm not that bad looking, so that's not the problem.  Now that I have decided to work past it, I just don't know how.

I have some personal space boundaries too, so it's difficult.  a little OCD, made worse by stress.  And now that I have been actually trying with women, and my lack of ability is making it near impossible, I'm getting more stressed, making the obsessive behaviour worse.  All a downward spiral for me.

So, I knew I needed to break the cycle, which is why I made an effort with women again in the first place, but my lack of ability was still holding me back.  I therefore needed to break the other cycle then.  As soon as I mess up, i destroy my chances as a way of self sabotage.  To break this I concluded I had to just practise with women, and break the sexual tension.

So, I can see somebody and get it out of the way.  As a result I'm far more relaxed than I have been in years.  I'm able to focus on my coursework again (I'm a student, just went late back to a degree, as my odd behaviour made it difficult for me when I was 18), I can chat to women without that massive testosterone rush, and makes me feel a little less undesirable, which had become a massive problem to me.

I am now happy and satisfied, and a girlfriend is less of an issue.  I'd prefer that by far, but this makes it easier for me to overcome my women issues.

There is a girl I have been trying to chat up for ages, with minimal success.  She has a great body, not the prettiest girl, but with the amazing body, she is not far off what I like.  She really really likes sex, so i figured not that hard to chat up... I still screwed it up repeatedly, and went into self destruct mode each time.  managing to turn it around, to do it again.  Well now I am suddenly less desperate, and have managed to turn it around again, with all my women issues slightly resolved, I can talk to her without freaking out.  I'd feel bad about trying to pull her while also paying some other women, but I know for certain she has paid a guy on more than one occasion, and as we aren't a couple at present, it's ethically ok in my books.

So rather a long explanation I guess, but all boils down to confidence I guess.  It has helped massively.  I feel more like me, and can do my normal things again, without all my own personal brand of crazy stopping me.  I haven't felt this great in years.

And of course it helps that I get to do things with girls who are waaaayyy out of my league.  I can only realistically get average girls.  I passed up some opportunities when I was younger, and still in my unable to touch people phase.  Some really hot girls too.  I'll never get those opportunities back, so feel I have to make it up to myself.

Only tried two girls, one of which twice.  I'd like to try a few more, get some more experience in, but am not in any rush (and finances agree!).

[Ravanelli]

I started about 10 years ago when at the start of and throughout my marriage split. Started in parlours first but then graduated to independents. I wasn't interested in a relationship for a while and I got exactly what I needed from punting which was sex. I guess somewhere along the way I got hooked on the excitement and variety which is a very difficult thing to give up. I've had a few relationships since then and have had subsequent spells of temporary abstinence from punting but I find I always return to it once I become dissatisfied with sex in a relationship or I have ended the relationship. I can't be arsed chasing women anymore and I don't go to the sort of places where opportunities present themself to me. I'll try a dating site if I want another relationship but punting serves my needs just fine at the moment and for the foreseeable.

[TaniaM]

Some really insightful and thoughtful replies. many many thanks.

Rav I almost know what you mean, but I do know that doing this for a while means I won't ever go back to relationships myself. I've gotten too independent and too intolerant.

[Curious6705]

Never punted a guy to be honest - girls all the way for me.

[TaniaM]

Never punted a guy to be honest - girls all the way for me.

Ok my grammar was a little off, but it was a genuine question for all that.

[Jabba the Slut]

Certain things trigger me off !!! If i see a nice looking girl in the street then i get the horn and start thinking about a punt !!! Agree with a lot of the things been said here !!! Moaning girlfriend being the number one for me and taking them out for meal drink and not even a kiss afterwards 

[haystacks79]

I'm sure I've answered this question on here in the past, but I can't find it (shame, I was hoping to be lazy and just copy it).

I've always been rather shy, and lacking in confidence - getting together with girls just didn't work for me. Then I ended up in a rather odd relationship which was on and off a bit for a few years, and then ended in a bad way - though it hadn't been going well for a while. I wasn't into trying some of the things that she wanted to do, and she decided not to take no for an answer one day.

Well, after that I just retreated from the idea of sex and a relationship. Saw a counsellor a few times who persuaded me that it wasn't my fault at all, which is all very well, but still left me with a kind of physical fear of anything to do with sex. And that's how things went on for just over 10 years. The fear of sex, and not knowing how I'd handle that, meant that I avoided any relationship as well, even though looking back there were some clear signs from a couple of girls that they'd have been interested in something.

Then one day while doing some random searching online (pick a subject, google it, and see where you end up... and keep going) I somehow came across the BathBabes website, and it got me thinking that perhaps here was a way for me to see if I could get over my problem with sex itself, and relax a bit, in a situation where it  really didn't matter if in the end I just couldn't cope with it. Then it took me almost a year to actually get up the courage to make a booking.

And here I am now... 30+ punts later, mostly repeat visits to the couple of girls that I feel really comfortable with, and I'm now not a nervous wreck who jumps at the slightest touch, and have actually been enjoying sex again. So I have a lot to thank them for.

The next step, although I don't really feel ready yet, is to actually try to do something about the relationship side of things, and I guess at some point I'll have to actively start thinking about meeting some girls to see where that can lead.

So. a little bit different to most of those that have already posted.

[Warwick]

  To break this I concluded I had to just practise with women, and break the sexual tension.

That's something I forgot to mention.  It can be a big confidence booster, even if perhaps a little misplaced  - lol

That's as good a reason as any to do it.

[lancashireman12345]

It's easier and cheaper than to go on a date etc and have to go through all the BS of her then dangling the threat of withholding sex.

Also I can see whoever I want, and not have to go through rejection if I ask some girl out.

[ManBat]

I realise it's probably done to death somewhere else on the site, but I got a tonne of results when I searched.

I know why I do it, and get asked the question all the time, but I've never quite had the balls to ask a client why he visits me.

because we want sex? its hardly rocket science.

[Thepacifist]

You have women clients as well?

Do they want a hug afterwards?

 

I like hugs 

[TaniaM]

because we want sex? its hardly rocket science.

Sarcasm or a knock to my intelligence? Not hearing a voice I'm not sure.

[Ravanelli]

Rav I almost know what you mean

Only almost? 

[Ravanelli]

I've gotten too independent and too intolerant.

+1 

[TaniaM]

Only almost? 

Yup only almost, brain running well below par today

[Uglybugball]

First time, curiousity, as some friends has tried punting with some success.

Lucky to find a real hottie, Adriana - Bournemouth, couldn't believe how easy it was and she opened my eyes to a whole new world. She was still around a couple of years back with her friend Serena. Never got the chance for a threesome with them. 

If I'd had any crap ones early on, could have been a different story.

[sucky2dollar]

I think most men will stray unless married to an absolute sex beast.
If you're afraid to go home after work because your missus is waiting to fuck your brains out before dinner then you probably wont have the energy to punt!

A few of the things that haven't been mentioned: Punting is satisfying and fun. It allows access to a variety of women you'd probably never get to enjoy in civvy life (stunning 20 year olds, black girls, indian girls, hot lesbians etc). It offers excitement, fantasy, fetishes, convenience and most importantly no-strings and no commitment. Some guys will punt for confidence either to build it or because of lack of self esteem, some will punt to fill other personal voids (i.e lonliness or being widowed). Some will punt because their missus wont do certain things like anal. The bottom line (no pun intended) is everyones reason is just as a valid as everyone elses.

Many punters that are single could get into relationships and not pay for sex but as someone said you always pay for sex one way or another.
Whenever it's strung out in a relationship - you're paying for it.
Whenever she rolls over and goes to sleep after leading you on - you're paying for it. 
Whenever she closes her legs because you didn't do something or get her something - you're paying for it. 
Whenever she sees you with a massive boner wimpering like a dog and still makes you wait till saturday - you're paying for it 


If giving a stunner £60 to satisfy me when i'm horny makes me a sad bastard then i'm one happy sad bastard!

[Rochdull lad]

I'll try a dating site if I want another relationship but punting serves my needs just fine at the moment and for the foreseeable.

Picking up Rav's point, a female colleague in my last job before retirement met her husband through one of the "Would like to meet" adverts in the local paper.  They were very happy [still are, for all I know] but one of the phrases she used at the pre-nuptial party we threw in the office for her has always stuck in my mind: "I kissed a helluva lot of frogs before I met my Prince Charming!"

Okay; that's a bit  , I know; but equally it's a good reason for punting rather than dating, specially when you get to my age!

[Melb]

Because it's there

[LL]

Just for the excitement of being intimate with a complete stranger.  It's not just the act itself that gives me a rush but also the anticipation of it.

I'm walking along a street lined with bars in the centre of the city at night-time - dim light hides the faces of the people milling around and helps me to stay anonymous.  Folks coming in and out of the bars and clubs, walking home, going about their business.  They walk past me but they don't know about my quest.  It's an operation I've been planning for days.  I've meticulously selected the perfect girl, having scoured the internet to prepare a shortlist, then reduced this down until just one remained.

Now I'm following directions to a postcode using my iPhone, then looking for the right door, without making it obvious to the passer's by.  I reach the doorway and make the call, standing back a little from the entrance. I'm cautious.

A girl answers. "flat 36". I eagerly approach the doorway and press the buzzer.  I hear the sound of the entrance door fizzing and then the click. I pull nervously at it, my face feeling flushed and my fingers tingling.  I step inside and approach the stairwell, never the lift - too much risk that I'll meet someone. The entrance door slams behind me silencing the bustle of the street outside.  I'm committed.  There's no turning back.

I climb the stairs and continue along a dimly-lit hallway looking for the rendezvous flat. 36 - here it is.  I wrap on it, quietly, aware that the girl on the other side is peering at me, judging whether it is safe for her to open.  The door clacks ajar and at first I just see the inside of the flat. It's shadowy like the hallway in which I am standing. Then as the door opens further I catch my first glimpse of her. Scantily clad, smiling and with a fragrance of perfume and freshly shampooed hair, she ushers me in and whispers, "hello".

I punt because I guess I don't get this same excitement from anything else in my life.

[hurry up harry]

A lucky friend of mine is married to a nympho. She is constantly on at him for sex to the point where he gets exhausted. And even when he hasn't had sex she won't let him out of the door til she's sucked him dry. Apparently her mother told her from an early age "if he isn't getting it at home he's getting it elsewhere". My friend has never punted.

[Lz-129]

Just for the excitement of being intimate with a complete stranger.  It's not just the act itself that gives me a rush but also the anticipation of it.

I'm walking along a street lined with bars in the centre of the city at night-time - dim light hides the faces of the people milling around and helps me to stay anonymous.  Folks coming in and out of the bars and clubs, walking home, going about their business.  They walk past me but they don't know about my quest.  It's an operation I've been planning for days.  I've meticulously selected the perfect girl, having scoured the internet to prepare a shortlist, then reduced this down until just one remained.

Now I'm following directions to a postcode using my iPhone, then looking for the right door, without making it obvious to the passer's by.  I reach the doorway and make the call, standing back a little from the entrance. I'm cautious.

A girl answers. "flat 36". I eagerly approach the doorway and press the buzzer.  I hear the sound of the entrance door fizzing and then the click. I pull nervously at it, my face feeling flushed and my fingers tingling.  I step inside and approach the stairwell, never the lift - too much risk that I'll meet someone. The entrance door slams behind me silencing the bustle of the street outside.  I'm committed.  There's no turning back.

I climb the stairs and continue along a dimly-lit hallway looking for the rendezvous flat. 36 - here it is.  I wrap on it, quietly, aware that the girl on the other side is peering at me, judging whether it is safe for her to open.  The door clacks ajar and at first I just see the inside of the flat. It's shadowy like the hallway in which I am standing. Then as the door opens further I catch my first glimpse of her. Scantily clad, smiling and with a fragrance of perfume and freshly shampooed hair, she ushers me in and whispers, "hello".

I punt because I guess I don't get this same excitement from anything else in my life.

Brilliant post, its what its like for me too, I just couldn't write like this
The bit for me is when the door opens slightly, and there's no one in sight until you walk in and the door closes, whether its a regular or someone totally new there's nothing quite like it

[Matium]

A lucky friend of mine is married to a nympho. She is constantly on at him for sex to the point where he gets exhausted. And even when he hasn't had sex she won't let him out of the door til she's sucked him dry. Apparently her mother told her from an early age "if he isn't getting it at home he's getting it elsewhere". My friend has never punted.

Jammy sod has the perfect wife!

 

[Melb]

Because my wife doesn't understand me but a prossie does e.g. When I say "Do you know my favourite place to fuck?"
My wife will think of the beach, penthouse suite etc. and be upset by my answer.
"Up your arse".
A prossie won't be.

[hurry up harry]

Jammy sod has the perfect wife!

 

I'm not sure it'd be what I'd want. I like sex when I want it and on my terms.

[Tailpipe]

Because my wife doesn't understand me but a prossie does e.g. When I say "Do you know my favourite place to fuck?"
My wife will think of the beach, penthouse suite etc. and be upset by my answer.
"Up your arse".
A prossie won't be.

Great post

[Rochdull lad]

Because my wife doesn't understand me but a prossie does e.g. When I say "Do you know my favourite place to fuck?"
My wife will think of the beach, penthouse suite etc. and be upset by my answer.
"Up your arse".
A prossie won't be.

I don't know if it's an urban myth or not; but years ago, I heard a tale about a local commercial radio station which used to do a "Mr & Mrs"-type phone-in on its breakfast programme.

One of the questions was "Where did you last have sex?"  The rather naïve wife, thinking she was being quite daring, replied "Over the dining table".

When it was the husband's turn to answer the same questions, he [of course] said, "Up her arse!"

[Rochdull lad]

Because my wife doesn't understand me

Btw, Melb; you know, don't you; what you wrote makes as much sense if you punctuate it as follows,

"Because my wife doesn't.  Understand me?"

Right; definitely time to go to "me pit"!

[Secondskin69]

I don't know if it's an urban myth or not; but years ago, I heard a tale about a local commercial radio station which used to do a "Mr & Mrs"-type phone-in on its breakfast programme.

One of the questions was "Where did you last have sex?"  The rather naïve wife, thinking she was being quite daring, replied "Over the dining table".

When it was the husband's turn to answer the same questions, he [of course] said, "Up her arse!"

Well they do say "location, location, location", just women and men have a different spacial awareness 

[Melb]

Right; definitely time to go to "me pit"!

Goodnight. Keep your hands off your dick!

[Secondskin69]

A lucky friend of mine is married to a nympho. She is constantly on at him for sex to the point where he gets exhausted. And even when he hasn't had sex she won't let him out of the door til she's sucked him dry. Apparently her mother told her from an early age "if he isn't getting it at home he's getting it elsewhere". My friend has never punted.

Can she cook a decent Sunday roast?

[hurry up harry]

Can she cook a decent Sunday roast?

Funny you should ask that... her cooking is famously aweful

[TaniaM]

Now cooking is the one thing I excel at, shame its not relevant to NOW

[Ravanelli]

Funny you should ask that... her cooking is famously aweful

Reminds me of the Micky Flanagan routine about him trying to choose between his nymphomanic ex girlfriend who is nuts and the current GF who is shit in bed but makes a lovely sandwich! Fuckin hilarious and more than a little accurate!

[smiths]

I realise it's probably done to death somewhere else on the site, but I got a tonne of results when I searched.

I know why I do it, and get asked the question all the time, but I've never quite had the balls to ask a client why he visits me.

For the no strings sex innit.

[Ravanelli]

Now cooking is the one thing I excel at

Surely not the one thing? 

[andy_nine]

Reminds me of the Micky Flanagan routine about him trying to choose between his nymphomanic ex girlfriend who is nuts and the current GF who is shit in bed but makes a lovely sandwich! Fuckin hilarious and more than a little accurate!

I've been married twice and that's pretty much how i'd describe the difference between both women

[TaniaM]

I mean I really really excel at cooking.

I do have other skills, untiring jaw springs to mind, but if I'm honest, kitchen is my real area of expertise.

[ParisB]

Now cooking is the one thing I excel at, shame its not relevant to NOW

I can't cook in fact my speciality is boiling eggs forgetting about them and then they explode

My house alarm is linked to the fire alarm and I set it off so often tat the monitoring company fined me for misuse of service

[TaniaM]

I can't cook in fact my speciality is boiling eggs forgetting about them and then they explode

My house alarm is linked to the fire alarm and I set it off so often tat the monitoring company fined me for misuse of service

My mother did that time after time. I used to be afraid to visit because she'd be expecting me to paint the kitchen

[Ravanelli]

untiring jaw springs to mind

Does this mean you nag a lot? 

[Ravanelli]

I mean I really really excel at cooking.

BTW, so do I, we should swap recipes!