Conscience and feeling guilty after punt

[Smartstav]

After many years of punting I think I have developed a guilty conscious. I have been with many wg over the years but the last few times I have gone I feel more and more guilty each time. Looking at my young children makes my guilt and shame even more unbearable.

I am scared and worried to pass on somthing through to their mum. I always wear protection even with oral so I know I am at low risk but I think the mental strain is having a negative effect. 

I get the urge and after I feel the bag the emotional guilt sets in. Its been a week since my last punt , she was a stunner and i really enjoyed it while I was there. After though I thought about what I did it has started to effect the way I function from my every day activities. Does anyone else have these guilty emotions

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[django0700]

No

[signy]

I think a lot of punters get these sort of thoughts at times, especially after a rubbish punt when thinking "why did I waste my time and money on that".

However, I would suggest that at your stage of life and personal relationships, punting is not for you at present. If you are getting a guilty conscience that bad, then you know something is wrong.

[Lou2019]

I’m sure there has been threads about guilt before

[Thephoenix]

It's the conflict and dilemma many punters have to face.
It's the price we pay for having a cock and testosterone.

Only you know your circumstances and the reasons you punt.

Only you can decide whether you can come to terms with your conflict

As the saying goes 'A standing Prick Has No Conscience'

[Smartstav]

I read a post on here about a punter seeing a girl with a rash and called it a HIV rash, after I  was balls deep in another WG i felt some rough skin around her hips and its ruined punting for me psychologically. It was more than likely dry skin but the experience has put me off.

[daviemac]

I read a post on here about a punter seeing a girl with a rash and called it a HIV rash, after I  was balls deep in another WG i felt some rough skin around her hips and its ruined punting for me psychologically. It was more than likely dry skin but the experience has put me off.

Can you link to that please, I would be very surprised if that had gone unreported and not deleted.

[Smartstav]

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=311680.msg3258142#msg3258142

Obviously we are not naive to STI but this one got me thinking when ever I see a rash now on a WG

[oddson1970]

HIV rash is a new one to me, can anyone elaborate on this?

[Slow grinder]

I, for one, have never ever felt guilty. I've been punting for 41yrs and started due to my wife's cancer and the fact that I would and will never have a sexual liaison with another female/person unless I was paying for it. That way I suppose any perceived guilt is muted by the fact that the liaison can be viewed as a transaction between a seller and a purchaser. While I'm outside of the 'Home'. If I want a beer, I buy it. If I want a meal. I buy it and the same with sex, if I want a shag/titillation or something sexually different, I'll buy it. If I had any guilt pangs, I wouldn't do it.

[daviemac]

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=311680.msg3258142#msg3258142

Obviously we are not naive to STI but this one got me thinking when ever I see a rash now on a WG

Thanks for that, I'm surprised it went unnoticed , maybe people didn't realise what it meant. I've taken it out now.

HIV rash is a new one to me, can anyone elaborate on this?

Google it. It isn't something to accuse an SP of having.

[Simon1977]

I only just started punting because my wife doesn't really want sex it seems. In the last 10 years we've had sex about 50 times and I thought I need more emotional and physical contact. I too feel guilt but I think well if I'm not getting it at home to keep me happy in my relationships i'll punt elsewhere. Don't do it very often about 3/4 times per year. I'm not getting any younger. I miss the touch and contact of a woman which i cant get at home. When I see WG's i like to think "I'm making love to them." I know I'm not... but this makes me happy if a bit guilty. I don't want an affair as I love my wife but things ain't happening.

Sounds like a Dear Deidre letter!!!

[mradventures]

you could go see a counseller to help you, if your really stuck mentally

perhaps you need to work out why you punt, as a starting point.

[Jonestown]

Probably feeling bad because you know you are short changing your wife and family. Punting is not an economy hobby, its a lot of money and would in all certainly be better put to use inside the family for current or future expenditures, plus you run the risk of destroying the entire family unit, with the ensuing psychological & emotional fallout if your activities were to come to light. No one is forcing you to punt, its your choice, if you're not comfortable doing it any longer then stop and walk away, you'll probably feel much better for it.

[Comicman]

I feel guilty because deep down i know the girl doesn't want to get fucked by guys she's not attracted to but she needs the money  but for me the urge to fuck different women will always exist

[standardpostage]

No

+1

[Stevelondon]

Perhaps married punters or those in relationships with partners can think this way.

Your paying for a service that is pleasurable and you are NOT looking to have a relationship with another woman....or take on a mistress.
To me that is real cheating.

Its just sex innit.

[shed]

Man is a hunter and will always want sexual experiences outside of his personal relationship. Some decide to actively punt, others dip their toe in and then stop, whilst the minority just keep it in their head and stay loyal to the family. Easiest thing to do is stop when you feel guilty. So Don't understand why it's an issue

[geostorm1]

No point feeling guilty about it. If you're married then you are no doubt shagging WGs because your home sex life is dead and irrecoverable. I've tried to abstain from punting and put a lot of effort into home sex life but for various reasons it just isn't fixable, at least not right now. Even when sex is on the cards at home, once or twice a month just isn't enough for me, on some weeks I might see 4 or 5 girls.

[Straightsix]

Marriage is a social construct, you are in violation of your vows to be faithful. That's probably where your guilt stems from.
Inserting your penis into a vagina is innate desire, like breathing you have to do it otherwise things go wrong.
I'm single but still get the guilt on occasion. This could be feeling sorry for the SP because she has young children or from a bad punt where I was taken advantage of.

[mr.bluesky]

I have guilty feelings, they last for about 5 seconds then I start thinking about my next punt.

[Lush1pot]

I can understand how you might feel this way. When I have been in a relationship I have tried to be a good boy and i have with one girl as I was so into her.. However I recently ended a relationship because I was not happy with my sex life with her and so now I can do whatever I want guilt free. I had daily urges to see escorts.  I had communicated to my ex about the sex so it’s not like I hadn’t tried or wasn’t honest. At the end of the day if a woman you are married to is not loving you in a physical contact way then no offence however she is not really keeping to her vows either. Isn’t one of the sayings when you marry “to love and to cherish”? Also to “have and to hold” well to my way of thinking if a wife is not having sex with her husband then she is breaching these vows.
I also am of the view no matter what if someone is unfulfilled in a relationship there is always the option to leave even with children in the frame. It’s just hard to do it especially if you live with them in a rented place or a mortage however it can be done. I and my friend both did it and have just come through it. Just focus on the end game then you can see whoever you want when you want and focus on a new relationship when you are ready that does satisfy you.

[mradventures]

I feel guilty because deep down i know the girl doesn't want to get fucked by guys she's not attracted to but she needs the money  but for me the urge to fuck different women will always exist

its (hopefully) their choice, and they can refuse to see someone if they want to, for whatever reason. the smarter ones are probably doing it to earn alot and then retire

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Well single now so no guilt trips was married now no longer cost a fucking fortune but now free!

Oddley enough would like a full time partner again and if there was a coupling once a week that would be fine..

With age comes less of a rampant issue!

Mind you till then "Target for tonite" now lets see who she'll be;)...

[Watts.E.Dunn]

I feel guilty because deep down i know the girl doesn't want to get fucked by guys she's not attracted to but she needs the money  but for me the urge to fuck different women will always exist

Some of the more established women have mentioned from time to time there are guys who they'd fuck for free!

[WestCountryLad]

I feel guilty because deep down i know the girl doesn't want to get fucked by guys she's not attracted to but she needs the money  but for me the urge to fuck different women will always exist

I don’t really want to use my skills for my wanker of a boss but we’ve all got bills to pay...

[Link7]

Pointless feeling guilty after the event (and continuing to behave in the same manner). If you really cared about loyalty to your wife or not endangering her sexual health, or putting the money towards your kids instead etc etc, you wouldn't be doing what you're doing. It's completely optional.

I'm not saying you're a bad person if you don't quit - I dont know your circumstances. But, as punters, let's not encourage each other to be hypocrites.

[Slow grinder]

Oh Lordy Lordy, how many more Snowflakey posts are we going to put up with? " ooo I think I'm falling in love with a Wg"!  " Oooo, I worry that she might be being forced" etc etc etc.  Punting is about having some sort of paid sexual experience with a female or male, where a person ACTIVELY looks for said person to ' perform ' with... If you're going to have guilt... then the best punting for you is in a boat on a river. MANUP.
 

[Bond]

I think a lot of punters get these sort of thoughts at times, especially after a rubbish punt when thinking "why did I waste my time and money on that".

Same here. I never feel guilty after a good punt.

[hunkybc]

I do feel guilty, not straight away but sometimes a few hours after. In fact this time of year I always say I'm going to get out of the game...normally lasts until around February and then I get drawn back in

[Smartstav]

Pointless feeling guilty after the event (and continuing to behave in the same manner). If you really cared about loyalty to your wife or not endangering her sexual health, or putting the money towards your kids instead etc etc, you wouldn't be doing what you're doing. It's completely optional.

I'm not saying you're a bad person if you don't quit - I dont know your circumstances. But, as punters, let's not encourage each other to be hypocrites.

This why I am drawing the line after 15 years in the game. I will be going to the clinic and I will not be seeing escorts for the foreseeable future.  Never say never but for now I think its best I call it quits while I am ahead

[Stevelondon]

Link 7 mentioned that thing about punting money and i think thats worth a word or two.

Yes there is always going to be that moral conflict issue for blokes in relationships, married, partners, kids etc.
I think it would be worse if punts were taking cash away from family......above the loyalty to wife issue.

I suspect there are wives and partners who suspect or know their husbands are playing away with SP's.....but as long as the family is kept together and looked after.......is a sort of ok.

Besides as I said earlier. There an awful lot of divorces nowadays because blokes play away in the vanilla world. Maybe if they simply had sex (because most of the time thats all us blokes are after) with a SP every so often. Marriages would last longer 

[Dipper]

It's the conflict and dilemma many punters have to face.
It's the price we pay for having a cock and testosterone.

Only you know your circumstances and the reasons you punt.

Only you can decide whether you can come to terms with your conflict

As the saying goes 'A standing Prick Has No Conscience'

None more true than those last six words. 

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Besides as I said earlier. There an awful lot of divorces nowadays because blokes play away in the vanilla world. Maybe if they simply had sex (because most of the time thats all us blokes are after) with a SP every so often. Marriages would last longer 

And that is want Cinq à Sept,is over le channel what a man in Paris does between 5 and 7 is his business, not his wifes concern;!..

[king tarzan]

Don't do it then
Simpletto

[Stevelondon]

And that is want Cinq à Sept,is over le channel what a man in Paris does between 5 and 7 is his business, not his wifes concern;!..

Bugger...I was getting it wrong. I was going to the pub at half past five.

[Bluelight85]

My first punt was in 2017 which was a largely quick covered BJ from a thai SP, I felt very guilty as her indoors had been nasty to me once again and we hadn’t done anything for weeks so in haste I just went out and went to the most local SP and I felt very guilty after ….. however nowadays I don’t feel any guilt at all be it a HE massage or hook-up with someone - why? I have a crappy married life with a frigid boring wife who just treats me like $h!t I have no reason to feel guilty, however should I begin to feel guilty I would simply stop punting, which is the same advice I would give to anyone feeling guilty enough.

[Brompton]

.... however nowadays I don’t feel any guilt at all be it a HE massage or hook-up with someone - why? I have a crappy married life with a frigid boring wife who just treats me like $h!t I have no reason to feel guilty, however should I begin to feel guilty I would simply stop punting, which is the same advice I would give to anyone feeling guilty enough.

Good advice too, I’m single now but I really can associate with this & I bet many can also 

[king tarzan]

For fucks sake if your a guilty conscience person than find another hobby..
This hobby isn't for the soggy digestive biscuit dipped in hot tea pussy cluutz!!!

[alabama1]

For fucks sake if your a guilty conscience person than find another hobby..
This hobby isn't for the soggy digestive biscuit dipped in hot tea pussy cluutz!!!

What he said...

[ollielon]

quite the opposite ... I feel better and better after few years in the hobby ... I found some really nice WG who have really nothing to be ashamed of .. and as long as it is done in a mutually respectful way I just don't see where the guilt come from ...

[P Hughes]

I feel guilty because deep down i know the girl doesn't want to get fucked by guys she's not attracted to but she needs the money  but for me the urge to fuck different women will always exist

     

I'm actually glad to read this comment. This issue caused me so much mental anguish when I was properly punting a few years ago now. I knew the solution would be to quit punting, but back in those days, if I didn't punt I wouldn't be able to get any sex at all. Having sex with a WG who you know is repulsed by the idea of having sex with you, used to make for a really unfulfiling experience. I would then feel guilty about putting the WG in that situation,  where she had to have sex with someone she wasn't attracted to, even though it was her choice. Hence the guilty feeling. One  experience in particular
really brought it home to me. I was with this really pretty WG once, she was just my type. During the session I was really going to town in missionary, but she kept her head to the side which was no problem,  but I saw her face in one of the hotel room mirrors and the look of disgust in her face was blatant. I instantly felt awful and ended the session. This experience lead me to question why I was punting and what I was expecting to get from punting. I eventually realised I actually wanted reciprocation and to feel desired when having sex, which obviously you can't get from punting. I was wrongly placing an emotional attachment on punting.

[MrMatrix]

I feel guilty because deep down i know the girl doesn't want to get fucked by guys she's not attracted to but she needs the money  but for me the urge to fuck different women will always exist

I dont feel guilty as she has advertised her self to receive sex. She knows shes going to get the good, the bad and the ugly. I feel thats her problem to deal with, as I'm there for a fuck and she knows it.
Now hopefully I will get a GFE with all the DFK , OWO and CIM if I'm lucky. Thats what I aim for.
So why do I need this. Well like majority on this forum we aint getting it at home. If we were I wouldnt be here at all. But I'm not. This isnt my decision its not what I wanted but it remains a fact. So no I dont feel guilty, the OH should feel guilty as she knows what the issues are.
In the early days I did feel ashamed that this is what I'm doing but not guilty.
After all these years I pay my money and hopefully get a nice GFE. What I'm after is a regular who I'd see 2-3 times a month. Perhaps one day, but I wont feel guilty

[willie loman]

no single man has any reason to feel guilty, however if you  are depriving your family of money, thats something else.

[king tarzan]

     

I'm actually glad to read this comment. This issue caused me so much mental anguish when I was properly punting a few years ago now. I knew the solution would be to quit punting, but back in those days, if I didn't punt I wouldn't be able to get any sex at all. Having sex with a WG who you know is repulsed by the idea of having sex with you, used to make for a really unfulfiling experience. I would then feel guilty about putting the WG in that situation,  where she had to have sex with someone she wasn't attracted to, even though it was her choice. Hence the guilty feeling. One  experience in particular
really brought it home to me. I was with this really pretty WG once, she was just my type. During the session I was really going to town in missionary, but she kept her head to the side which was no problem,  but I saw her face in one of the hotel room mirrors and the look of disgust in her face was blatant. I instantly felt awful and ended the session. This experience lead me to question why I was punting and what I was expecting to get from punting. I eventually realised I actually wanted reciprocation and to feel desired when having sex, which obviously you can't get from punting. I was wrongly placing an emotional attachment on punting.

Then just give her the fucken money and talk about the royal family then.
This nonsense annoys me..
I'm paying for sex . She's willingly taking the money..
I want to have sex because that's what I've paid for..
She very happily took the money..

Simpletto...


You think feeling guilty then don't go..
Simpletto

[Straightsix]

     

Although you may not be attractive (not that i know),  you still have something she needs. Its not your fault that men are programmed to fuck women. The world would be a different place if we weren't so hindered.

It must be terrible for these women to have no other option but to fuck fat, ugly, smelly, one legged invalids .....for money. Poor things.

[king tarzan]

no single man has any reason to feel guilty, however if you  are depriving your family of money, thats something else.

Eye of the 🐅🥊🥊🥊👊🥊👊

[boardyhell]

no single man has any reason to feel guilty, however if you  are depriving your family of money, thats something else.

exactly ,good chance you are feeding somebody else's family

[FLYING BLUE]

I used to, a long time back, in the years immediately following Mrs FB's untimely demise

The passing of time has cured those feelings - I do my damndest to thoroughly enjoy it these days

[Hobbit]

Guilt will always be there unless you leave yourself outside before knocking on that door. Many hookers do it all the time, it's no different.