Disclaimer: First time punter, on travel to London so decided to try it... whatever trolls, go away because this is this is an honest question... I am currently waiting for my "date" to finish with a customer who kept extending i have basically been researching esorts for the last 4 hours (hence my use of acronyms - i am trying to fit in....). So here is my question....
I understand that dfk is intimate. I watched "Pretty woman" in my 20s with richard gere and Julia Roberts....
. I got it - kissing to a WG is more intimate than sex. Not to me though as i have had one night stands with sex but not felt intimate.
But as a newb escorts question is this.... I am going to london on travel from the US and was looking for GFE on an outcall basis with an agency. I spoke to two girls - both had dfk as a boundary after i talked to them. The agency site, unlike adultworks, provides almost no information about what their likes/willing to do activities are... Is this normal? To me there is no GFE without DFK - that's an integral part. I can't imagine a date proceeding to actual physical intimacy without DFK. But i do understand that working girls looking at a client feel this is more intimate than banging....... And as a first time punter i am LOOKING FOR SOMEONE WHO _AT LEAST_ PRETENDS TO LIKE ME. I get it i am a 40+ year old man and she may was a relatively attractive (ie 6/10) 20-30 year old girl who i am paying for sex. I
I am an average looking clean and upper class type man in my mid 40s. i am hygenic and will shower and brush teeth before my FIRST date ("anna") arives. am not disgusting or skeevy or should not revolt any ACTUAL date i had. But.. this is not a date. I get it. This is a girl who has a profession who sees many different men in a single day (in fact she's coming from another date that extended her) and needs to set boundaries that i as a john/punter want to understand......
Background provided ad nauseum.... here is my question....
Is dfk considered a rare option for outcall working girls or was i just unlucky with my first two contacts from
External Link/Members Only. I ABSOLUTELY understand that if i showed up with bad breath, smelling, dirty, etc, a girl would have to set limits at a VERY basic level... But... Is DFK rare for a first time with a WG if you are a normal looking man (ie i am professional, clean, "dad body" man who dressed, looks, and is successful)?
For ME (no relevance to the WG who is doing this as her business and may well have a boyfirend and has seen other "me's" already today), intimacy was the most important part. I wasn't looking for a more physical relationship and/or prettier girl than i have been with before as my desirable partner here. What i am looking for is a different experience with a different (and prettier/younger/etc) girl than my current relationship. But my experience and value to this not being a physical function will be based on MY VIEW of intimacy which is not supportive of "don't kiss me deeply because that is too intimate for a john i don't care about". The girl, on the other hand, has a very understandable and very different perspective on this......
SO..... My question is... Is DFK boundary and an impression from the girl of "hey perv let me functionally get you off but i disdain you" something i should just deal with and respect? or was i 0/2 with bad luck with the two girls i spoke with tonight (one of which i selected and had a poor encounter with... Should i set my hopes for GFE lower?
NOTE: Please don't respond trolling with "check out their profile in advance on AW and see about DFK". AW is sadly basically clear of Outcalls (outcall only, without the GBP 50 markup) , which is what i am looking for. Agency profiles have NO data in them on like/dislike. So i went with a highly rated outcall only agency and was sorely dissapointed.
