My punting blitz actually ended when I retired a wg, we had an 'arrangement' of sorts for about 8 months.
3 months in I found out she was a heroin addict,
She wasn't some street walker or anything just an outwardly regular girl from a middle class English family who was at uni when I met her. I assumed she was a wg to fund her studies as a single mum.
First sign of her problem was on a day we met early to take her child to Knowsley Safari Park as we were introducing me for the first time, by afternoon she was agitating, when we got back to hers she immediately ordered what I jokingly called a 'pizza' as it was delivered to her door, over the coming weeks I asked her what does her pizza begin with, she said H... and I was scared, I had zero experience with drugs, let alone the devil's own drug!
After some time to steel myself, I had a new Mission, to help her get clean I was not about to abandon her and she was co-operative else it would have been impossible.
I executed my Mission over the next five months, it culminated in one hectic weekend that I had been envisaging and preparing for.
Like that scene from Trainspotting! Just with much more planning and preparation for the bit after.
She's been clean now for well over 3 years.
It was down to her but again I was the catalyst for change.
Similarly in the same way I needed to get banned on here, after all the Tough Love I had to give her I needed to exit her life. I knew she would have known if she relapsed in those difficult early months I'd have not abandoned her so I removed that temptation and risk from her by banning myself from her life.
I was happy and relieved.