Doc Holiday.. Too many times in 'Keyboard' debates the person or people argue or put forward their point,we find out are 'Keyboard' warriors who argue for arguments sake, yet actually have no real understanding...so thank you for your answer..so now at least I can see you understand as mean what your saying i.e. The sanctity of marriage... I disagree with your 'argument' as you do with mine.
This is not marriage specific but applies to the terms of any relationship. There are exceptions but most relationships are based on monogamy. In the general population the overwhelming majority view, irrespective of whether this was an emotional or sexual relationship (including paid sex) or a combination would be deemed cheating.
However my main point is that there is a view prevalent among punters, that punting is some kind of special category immune to the T&Cs of a relationship. This view becomes self propagating/perpetuating on forums, but it is still cheating if the other party has not given consent. This is my personal opinion and that of the majority of the population outside of punting forums.
Guilt is a separate issue. Some people will have feelings of guilt others none. My other point is that punters often categorise punting as not cheating in order to justify it and in their own minds mitigate that guilt.
There are frequent threads on here about relationships between SP's and punters and I can tell you from personal experience that, apart from a multitude of reasons this may be seen as a bad idea, there is a common one among SP's that punters represent a very high risk of not being faithful and therefore poor relationship material. An element of this is that many do not see punting as being unfaithful.