Paying for a hotel room

[dobob]

I sent a text to an old favourite of mine, whose AW page has been saying she's not been taking clients since the start of the pandemic, to find out what her plans were. She came back with a friendly reply saying that her day job is now full-time and that the flat she used to use is no longer available. Beer-brain led me to suggest that I could pay for a hotel room if she wanted to see a client or two some evening. She thanked me for the offer and said she would think about it. Now I am thinking "what the hell shall I do if she takes me up on this?".  I was naively thinking that she'd book the hotel and I'd just bowl up, have my hour of fun and then pay the bill and maybe a bit on top to her, but is she likely to be happy with that (as the booking would be at her risk)? Or should I offer to make the booking at my risk? I guess a beer-free phone call to get a better idea of how serious she is about this is my least worst option. Does anyone have any thoughts about or experience of this kind of arrangement?

Cheers!

[Steely Dan]

Are you worried about confidentiality, or worried about paying for a room and not getting to fuck her?

My advice is to not risk your privacy (no matter what), and to pay for any sex you expect to have.  Complicated plans to get a discount seldom work out for either escort or punter. Keep it simple.

[Ghost89]

She’s trying to move on. Bin the number and do the same.

[dobob]

Are you worried about confidentiality, or worried about paying for a room and not getting to fuck her?

My advice is to not risk your privacy (no matter what), and to pay for any sex you expect to have.  Complicated plans to get a discount seldom work out for either escort or punter. Keep it simple.

I wasn't concerned about confidentiality or not getting laid or getting a discount, but just about who was taking responsibility for the arrangements. My main concern was that it would just turn into a convoluted mess. I think I'm just going to keep my head down.

Thanks!

[dobob]

She’s trying to move on. Bin the number and do the same.

I don't know about that. She's an in-your-face person, so I think she would have said for definite if she had moved on. I'll keep the number but keep an open mind (just like she keeps up her AW account). But I'm not going to lose any sleep about it.

Thanks for your input.

[Home Alone]

I hear the sound of a penny - finally - dropping!

Wasn't it Del Boy who said, "You know it makes sense!"?

[Home Alone]

Second thoughts: I think I hear the sound of a penny - finally - dropping!

My guess is she won't go back on AW, in which case, your "least worst option" will be to whizz the piece of paper with her number on it - keeping it in a pocket means you risk it being found by a future partner your wife (I've just read your post on the other thread you started recently) and look elsewhere for your oats.

[Jimmy The Gent]

Your least worst option is to do nothing. The ball's in her court, if she gets back to you agreeing to a booking you can sort it out from there. I would have thought the easiest way would be to book the hotel yourself and pay her for her time like a standard outcall - like you say it could get a bit convoluted otherwise.

You know her better than I do, but it sounds to me like she's saying 'no thanks' in a nice way. Hopefully I'm wrong!

[dobob]

Second thoughts: I think I hear the sound of a penny - finally - dropping!

My guess is she won't go back on AW, in which case, your "least worst option" will be to whizz the piece of paper with her number on it - keeping it in a pocket means you risk it being found by a future partner your wife (I've just read your post on the other thread you started recently) and look elsewhere for your oats.

Thanks for the tips, but she has had an AW profile throughout and I don't keep phone numbers on pieces of paper.

Cheers!

[dobob]

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You know her better than I do, but it sounds to me like she's saying 'no thanks' in a nice way. Hopefully I'm wrong!

I expect you are right. I'll keep you posted if things turn out differently.

Cheers!

[Al R]

I wasn't concerned about confidentiality or not getting laid or getting a discount, but just about who was taking responsibility for the arrangements. My main concern was that it would just turn into a convoluted mess. I think I'm just going to keep my head down.

Thanks!

Did exactly that with an old reg for about 2 years. She was happy with a Travelodge or similar, I would agree a day and time with her and make sure she confirmed before noon on the day as I’d book a flexible rate room. We had to rearrange once or twice but other than that it worked well enough.

[Fuzzyduck]

I wasn't concerned about confidentiality or not getting laid or getting a discount, but just about who was taking responsibility for the arrangements. My main concern was that it would just turn into a convoluted mess. I think I'm just going to keep my head down.

Thanks!

I assume she remembers you.

You made the proposal; you should take care of the booking arrangements. Pushing that on her puts her back in the SP world which she has somewhat distanced herself from but not cut all ties. I would think of it as a seeking type arrangement rather than a per hour fuck. Maybe go for a drink first.

If I hadn't heard back from her, say within a week, I'd contact her again asking if she had any thoughts about my proposal. I might offer to have a call with her to talk it through and to say it's a bit of fun (for old times sake). Good luck.

[marc_hotsteppa]

Keep in mind that if you book the hotel it's going to be under your name. 

So, you go and have your hour of fun and if she stays in the room afterwards and other punters see her and cause any grief or damage then it's on you as you paid for the room. 

I'd get her to book the room and pay her for the sex and a contribution to the room cost or all of it depending how flush you are. 

As others have said, wait until she contacts you to see if she is up for it as the ball is in her court.

[Fuzzyduck]

Keep in mind that if you book the hotel it's going to be under your name. 

So, you go and have your hour of fun and if she stays in the room afterwards and other punters see her and cause any grief or damage then it's on you as you paid for the room. 

I'd get her to book the room and pay her for the sex and a contribution to the room cost or all of it depending how flush you are. 

As others have said, wait until she contacts you to see if she is up for it as the ball is in her court.

Be clear on the scenario: dobob has made a proposal and, at face value, that's an outcall so he arranges it. She leaves after the fun is done.

She currently isn't whoring nor advertising and has taken a very low profile. Why on earth would she change all that for just one evening? She has to sort out the logistics, sort out her profile or go touting for old clients, take the risk with the hotel etc.. and she might be lucky to get one or two other punters. She is more likely to accept an outcall IMO and this the basis I would approach this.

[Al R]

Keep in mind that if you book the hotel it's going to be under your name. 

So, you go and have your hour of fun and if she stays in the room afterwards and other punters see her and cause any grief or damage then it's on you as you paid for the room. 

I'd get her to book the room and pay her for the sex and a contribution to the room cost or all of it depending how flush you are. 

As others have said, wait until she contacts you to see if she is up for it as the ball is in her court.

All he has to do is make sure she leaves first which is what I used to do

[marc_hotsteppa]

Be clear on the scenario: dobob has made a proposal and, at face value, that's an outcall so he arranges it. She leaves after the fun is done.

She currently isn't whoring nor advertising and has taken a very low profile. Why on earth would she change all that for just one evening? She has to sort out the logistics, sort out her profile or go touting for old clients, take the risk with the hotel etc.. and she might be lucky to get one or two other punters. She is more likely to accept an outcall IMO and this the basis I would approach this.

While we are "being clear"

I refer you to the OP

Beer-brain led me to suggest that I could pay for a hotel room if she wanted to see a client or two some evening

Much obliged 

[Fuzzyduck]

While we are "being clear"

I refer you to the OP

Much obliged 

Sure, but that is less likely scenario IMO. This is about keeping it simple and getting the deal over the line.

[myothernameis]

Beer-brain led me to suggest that I could pay for a hotel room if she wanted to see a client or two some evening

Very bad idea, I would say, so if your providing her with a room for the day, arent you almost pimping her

[Hobbit]

I have done this before but only with a regular that I trusted. I certainly wouldn't do it for a random hooker. They could end up ordering things under your name or clear out the minibar and then you would be ending up paying for it.

[Fuzzyduck]

Very bad idea, I would say, so if your providing her with a room for the day, arent you almost pimping her

I have done this before but only with a regular that I trusted. I certainly wouldn't do it for a random hooker. They could end up ordering things under your name or clear out the minibar and then you would be ending up paying for it.

I think OP has the smarts to know this is a bad idea. If, and it's a very big if, she wants to use the room to work, then she books and pays. In that situation I'm not sure OP is on the hook to cover the cost of the room but a contribution towards it might help make it happen.