Stating the bleeding obvious

[dub6747]

I've come to the realisation that I've probably got an unhealthy relationship with sex. Don't get me wrong, if I was in a healthy relationship it would be bubbling under but nowhere like it is now...had my first punt aged 18 and didn't punt again for another 10 years and then only a few times but around 2004 I found out how easy it was to punt and haven't stopped since

The reason I'm starting to think it's an unhealthy relationship is that sex dominates my thinking most of the time and I act on this which costs money and also because I'm posting this 😁

This is also quite a self absorbed post too,  which I know but the reason for posting is that I'm wondering if anybody else has had similar thoughts etc ... it's not guilt because I'm over that ...

[lewisjones23]

pointless rambling IMO

[Charliehutton]

I don't mind a bit of pointless rambling. Most of us can pointlessly ramble about all sorts of things in real life, but not about punting. For what it's worth, I can't see anything unhealthy about wanting to have it off with attractive young women.

[PilotMan]

I don't mind a bit of pointless rambling. Most of us can pointlessly ramble about all sorts of things in real life, but not about punting. For what it's worth, I can't see anything unhealthy about wanting to have it off with attractive young women.

 

[dub6747]

pointless rambling IMO

😂 ... yeah, I agree

[dub6747]

I don't mind a bit of pointless rambling. Most of us can pointlessly ramble about all sorts of things in real life, but not about punting. For what it's worth, I can't see anything unhealthy about wanting to have it off with attractive young women.

😂😊

[whiskeygogo]

I think it can be very unhealthy, personally I wish I'd used the money I've spent to escape the sexless relationship I'm in, instead I have chosen short term happiness and long term misery.

[Jonestown]

The reason I'm starting to think it's an unhealthy relationship is that sex dominates my thinking most of the time and I act on this which costs money and also because I'm posting this 😁

So cut all links to commercial sex, set a target, say 3 months, and start developing other interests and activities to fill in the empty space in your life. See how you get on, maybe you won't want to come back, or maybe you will.

[dub6747]

So cut all links to commercial sex, set a target, say 3 months, and start developing other interests and activities to fill in the empty space in your life. See how you get on, maybe you won't want to come back, or maybe you will.

Yes, like this advice  ... particularly bringing in new interests... just need to think of some...my personal circumstances can make this difficult but like you say if I can find something to do for a couple of hours a week that should be doable...I guess what I struggle with is anticipating the next punt

[Southernbloke]

I found myself thinking about punting a lot of the time too . I started taking breaks from it and now because of work I have enforced breaks.
It really helped focus my attention back on work and when I get the chance to punt I enjoy myself a lot more.

[Stevelondon]

All about not letting it just become habitual.
If anything becomes too self absorbing it’s unhealthy in my opinion anyway.

Went through fazes myself. Too much porn yonks back and now the majority of the stuff just bores me.

With punting it was the same. A long time ago it was something I did a lot and it definitely became clear to me that it was just something I did cos I’d got into the habit of it all.

I never really took a break. Just slowed down, started doing other stuff outside of the business/work etc and I guess I have reached a compromise of sorts.

I definitely agree that perhaps a break is a good idea and that things may feel a lot more exciting in the return…….. so to speak 😂

[jamiekinkxxx]

It can become addictive, simple really... not saying you are but...

[Chazz]

For years I had an extremely unhealthy relationship to sex - I wasn't having any!

[dub6747]

It can become addictive, simple really... not saying you are but...

Very true .... during covid had times when I was thinking about and anticipating the next punt but got on with life pretty well without it ... but when it came back I  became much more intense about it ... anyway I'll stop boring you all 😉

[Haderach]

For years I had an extremely unhealthy relationship to sex - I wasn't having any!

Exactly, the way I look at it, we are all a long time dead. When my time comes I won't be looking back saying I wished I had more sex than I did.

[mr.bluesky]

For years I had an extremely unhealthy relationship to sex - I wasn't having any!

  a bit like a joke I posted some time ago, " my sex life is like my Lamborghini, I don't have one"

[shagmore]

Know the feeling, I can abstain for ages, then its like a drug, even if i just think abut see a WG, I have to go, it just keeps coming to the front of my thoughts and can do nothing about it till I go and have a punt, then this leads into a cycle of wanting more and more until something occurs that means I am not able to punt, work, money (or lack of  ) time and this breaks the cycle.
I feel I am addicted to sex - could be worse things to be addicted to I suppose

[akauya]

There's that saying isn't it that men think about sex every 7 seconds. I always thought that was bollocks, every 3 seconds more like.

Joking aside I don't think there's anything wrong with thinking about sex often; it's just part of a healthy mind/body and healthy living. As long as you don't find yourself compelled to act out some weird fantasies in inappropriate moments/places and/or without other people's consent it should be fine.

There's this weird stereotyping of men as sex obsessed machines, but women also think about sex - granted, not as much as men do but they do. Especially if they are not getting any. I have had illuminating conversations with female friends about this.   

With the relatively easy access to sex workers nowadays it's not wonder we feel like punting all the time. What's not to like about having intimate moments with beautiful women making themselves available for you (for a fee).

It's like being a kid in a sweet shop, all those yummy things around you! Just don't get obsessive about it and as always everything in moderation is OK.

[Trpy]

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I feel I am addicted to sex - could be worse things to be addicted to I suppose

Plenty of worse things.   Think of the alternative.  You could be addicted to celibacy   

You really need to consider yourself very lucky

[myothernameis]

I've come to the realisation that I've probably got an unhealthy relationship with sex.

In my youth, I guess this was what I was like, obsessed with sex, and in all formats, escorts, nudie mags, porn movies, and constantly wanking 

Any money I had would go on escorts, and mags, and weekly porn vhs movie hire.   Weekly pay, and paid on a Fri first thing I did was to head to the local sauna, and spend my good and hard earned money

Now in my mid 50's, interest in sex, keeps on dwilding, and now a days enjoy other things in my life

[mr.bluesky]

Plenty of worse things.   Think of the alternative.  You could be addicted to celibacy   

Or worse , train spotting