Which is better, regular WG?

[Jacobs]

While it is good walking in knowing what kind of service you're going to get, for me nothing beats chapping on a door of a girl I've never met before knowing my dick will be inside her in a few minutes. Sure it can go downhill fast with a new SP, especially one not reviewed on here, but I still prefer the surprise element.

totally agree, its a buzz and a shot of adrenaline visiting someone new.

[Henchmanlet95]

It's rare I go back to the same WG unless the service is absolutely amazing. I like variety and the thrill/adrenaline rush of going to see someone new, pretty much never been back to the same escort more than twice tbh.

[simping]

It's good to have one regular girl especially if she offers amazing service. As many have pointed out there's a thrill in seeing someone new, however you could end up losing money 😅
Best to see 3 WGs: your regular, a quick p&d, and a semi-regular.

[the_exile]

Like others have said, seeing a regular means you know what you will be getting, often better sex when you have been with someone a few times. With someone new, there's the thrill of the unknown!

[Payyourwaymate]

I've never been one to have a regular WG that I would see frequently over a long period of time. I used to get irked by the idea of spending an increasing amount of money on the same woman when I could see others instead. It just felt like diminishing returns to me. The max I would usually see a WG would be 3-4 times.

However, now I am starting to understand the value of having one with the current punting environment we are in. They are a safe bet when all else seems to be lost lol. I think I will try to start to cultivate some regular customer relations in the future.

[P Hughes]

It depends on what you prefer.

I had two regulars in 2007/2008 (both students, both long since stopped working). I always preferred seeing them to finding someone else I liked (bit hit or miss), but one of them left me in no doubt it was just a business transaction when I asked her what her real name was, and she just said it was something similar to her 'stage' name, and seemed a bit uncomfortable with me asking.

   

It's perhaps not pleasant at the time, but in the long run, it's good when  the WG let's you know it's strictly business.  Speaking from personal experience, years ago I had a regular who I used love shagging,  gave me a huge reality check and basically let me know we weren't friends. I call it punter alienation. It will happen to all punters at some point. When you realise you are nothing but another punter to them. Some WG's are brilliant actors, but even they cannot prevent their mask from slipping sometimes.

[Punterperson1971]

   

It's perhaps not pleasant at the time, but in the long run, it's good when  the WG let's you know it's strictly business.  Speaking from personal experience, years ago I had a regular who I used love shagging,  gave me a huge reality check and basically let me know we weren't friends. I call it punter alienation. It will happen to all punters at some point. When you realise you are nothing but another punter to them. Some WG's are brilliant actors, but even they cannot prevent their mask from slipping sometimes.

Is that what stopped you punting then EAS?

[Payyourwaymate]

   

It's perhaps not pleasant at the time, but in the long run, it's good when  the WG let's you know it's strictly business.  Speaking from personal experience, years ago I had a regular who I used love shagging,  gave me a huge reality check and basically let me know we weren't friends. I call it punter alienation. It will happen to all punters at some point. When you realise you are nothing but another punter to them. Some WG's are brilliant actors, but even they cannot prevent their mask from slipping sometimes.

But we are just punters to them, is that not the whole point? Why would we go to a provider looking to make friends? We can do that with civvy women instead. It's their job.

[Payyourwaymate]

I've never been one to have a regular WG that I would see frequently over a long period of time. I used to get irked by the idea of spending an increasing amount of money on the same woman when I could see others instead. It just felt like diminishing returns to me. The max I would usually see a WG would be 3-4 times.

However, now I am starting to understand the value of having one with the current punting environment we are in. They are a safe bet when all else seems to be lost lol. I think I will try to start to cultivate some regular customer relations in the future.

I've changed my mind on this. I will never get a reg lol.

[Drcoco]

Its rare that I see the same girl often saying that there are a few I have repeated on and would see them again when I can - my mentality is to punting the same as a supercar experience I get to ride something sexy hard and to the limits that I could never own and girls that sell a gfe / pse is just the same it's the experience I'm buying from them.
I have seen a few girls more then once I deal with it the with the same thought process I can't afford to own a Bentley or Ferrari just fuelling it prob brake my bank but I know how to open it up and take it for a good spin

[LLPunting]

I've changed my mind on this. I will never get a reg lol.

Developing more than an SP/SS transactional encounter with regs is just as variable as dating.  Some SPs are all act and no substance, some SPs will be more human and can become genuinely friendly, trusting and fond of you, on the rare occasion you may well both get emotionally involved.  Just like a relationship mileage may increase dramatically and then just as suddenly one or other of you may get spooked and back off.  Sussing whether chemistry is real or just her playing you for a fool is just like civvies too, except you have the added salve of punter cynicism.  Never say never just guard your wallet, it's all part of the human relations experience.

[Payyourwaymate]

Developing more than an SP/SS transactional encounter with regs is just as variable as dating.  Some SPs are all act and no substance, some SPs will be more human and can become genuinely friendly, trusting and fond of you, on the rare occasion you may well both get emotionally involved.  Just like a relationship mileage may increase dramatically and then just as suddenly one or other of you may get spooked and back off.  Sussing whether chemistry is real or just her playing you for a fool is just like civvies too, except you have the added salve of punter cynicism.  Never say never just guard your wallet, it's all part of the human relations experience.

The potency of oxytocin is too strong. That's why I don't think I can do seeking, it will lead to ensnarement of one of the two parties. Women that know how pair bonding and the impact of oxytocin on people can manipulate men to the essence who are clueless and the man will be strung along thinking they have some sort of relationship but he really is just a solid income source to them. The male would have to really be able to discern through the emotions they feel and logic to still be able to keep a grasp of reality to be able to have a reg without crossing boundaries or falling victim to their tricks. How many men can do that?

[southcoastpunter]

over the years, i have had a number of regulars - no more than two at a time but they of course don't last forever. we are all different in what we seek and what is good for me may not be good for someone else.

For me the issues were continuing to provide a consistent good service, at a reasonable price, convenient location and other options or lack of them.  the single longest regular i had was one that i saw most weeks for over 2 years. she ticked all the boxes for me and i could see her in my lunch hour and/or on the way home. we had a good relationship - business and friendly but (a bit like a SA relationship) we both knew it wasn't a real life one and would end one day in the not too distant future.

[LLPunting]

The potency of oxytocin is too strong. That's why I don't think I can do seeking, it will lead to ensnarement of one of the two parties. Women that know how pair bonding and the impact of oxytocin on people can manipulate men to the essence who are clueless and the man will be strung along thinking they have some sort of relationship but he really is just a solid income source to them. The male would have to really be able to discern through the emotions they feel and logic to still be able to keep a grasp of reality to be able to have a reg without crossing boundaries or falling victim to their tricks. How many men can do that?

To me that sounds like you're questioning how one navigates a "mature" approach to a romantic relationship when you know that you're susceptible to addictive/obsessive behaviour and cannot assess or control your emotional and financial involvement  Sadly regardless of the SS/SP origin of the situation it's still a matter of intuition, self-awareness, honesty, trust and communication between the parties to keep the relationship in an agreeable lane rather than heading prematurely for the off-ramp or onward into a punter fireball.

Cynics/realists might like to slap fluffies in the face and just shout "She's a whore you idiot!" but most GFE punters with over a couple of dozen different notches on the bedpost at a variety of price points will have likely met at least one SP who gave them more than the time of day even when they thought they were being guarded and "punter pro" about it.   

If it were a forum darling then a punter might slap himself out of it for the practiced professional that she is, even if the connection is genuine (because those can happen).  The real danger comes when the SP is an unknown and seems to be blurry on her boundaries for intimacy, conversation, off-menu free extras and personal details backed by vulnerable behaviours.  It may still be a very elaborate con or psychological instability but that's not all too different to a civvy opening up.   
Christ!  With the games being played out by the schemers and spoilt women on "dating", "agreement" and "content" sites there are plenty of grifters poisoning the well.  Punter suspicion should rightfully be high but whether his capacity for misogyny will be over-ruled by his desire for meaningful connection is all down to how damaged he is.   
Even veteran P&Ders aren't immune from Cupid's folly in placing an absolute corker of a newbie in their crosshairs when the magic door opens.  She might even be Romanian!      

[Payyourwaymate]

To me that sounds like you're questioning how one navigates a "mature" approach to a romantic relationship when you know that you're susceptible to addictive/obsessive behaviour and cannot assess or control your emotional and financial involvement  Sadly regardless of the SS/SP origin of the situation it's still a matter of intuition, self-awareness, honesty, trust and communication between the parties to keep the relationship in an agreeable lane rather than heading prematurely for the off-ramp or onward into a punter fireball.

Cynics/realists might like to slap fluffies in the face and just shout "She's a whore you idiot!" but most GFE punters with over a couple of dozen different notches on the bedpost at a variety of price points will have likely met at least one SP who gave them more than the time of day even when they thought they were being guarded and "punter pro" about it.   

If it were a forum darling then a punter might slap himself out of it for the practiced professional that she is, even if the connection is genuine (because those can happen).  The real danger comes when the SP is an unknown and seems to be blurry on her boundaries for intimacy, conversation, off-menu free extras and personal details backed by vulnerable behaviours.  It may still be a very elaborate con or psychological instability but that's not all too different to a civvy opening up.   
Christ!  With the games being played out by the schemers and spoilt women on "dating", "agreement" and "content" sites there are plenty of grifters poisoning the well.  Punter suspicion should rightfully be high but whether his capacity for misogyny will be over-ruled by his desire for meaningful connection is all down to how damaged he is.   
Even veteran P&Ders aren't immune from Cupid's folly in placing an absolute corker of a newbie in their crosshairs when the magic door opens.  She might even be Romanian!      

I feel you. It just seems too stressful for the average punter to navigate and a challenge for a vet too. One would think you go into punting for convenience and less stress right?  . I'm not sure what you mean by a punters capacity for misogyny though. Are you implying punters have an inherent degree of misogyny to them and are potentially "damaged goods"?  . Come on man we ain't that bad.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

The potency of oxytocin is too strong. That's why I don't think I can do seeking, it will lead to ensnarement of one of the two parties. Women that know how pair bonding and the impact of oxytocin on people can manipulate men to the essence who are clueless and the man will be strung along thinking they have some sort of relationship but he really is just a solid income source to them. The male would have to really be able to discern through the emotions they feel and logic to still be able to keep a grasp of reality to be able to have a reg without crossing boundaries or falling victim to their tricks. How many men can do that?

Solid income source?, you sure?, the number of women over time i've known off who seem enslaved to wasters, ner-do-wells and downright useless wankers who leech of them?, let alone acholics...

[Payyourwaymate]

Solid income source?, you sure?, the number of women over time i've known off who seem enslaved to wasters, ner-do-wells and downright useless wankers who leech of them?, let alone acholics...

I mean punter regs becoming infatuated with them and becoming in the WGs eyes a regular income source from seeing them repeatedly due to their infatuation, not the WGs boyfriends. Unless I have misunderstood what you mean. Apologies if I have misunderstood.

[DouglasReynholm]

I never see an SP more than five times because they fall in love with me.   Have a laugh at that, I am. I have no regulars and haven't had over the past 4 years. I joined UKP soon after I started. I don't want punting to feel like a relationship. I have seen some SPs 5 times, but no more. I don't get attached easily, sex can be like tennis to me. I saw a civvy for six months and it stayed sexual. Her husband wasn't servicing her properly.

It came as a shock when the first SP asked if she could be my girlfriend. In no way did I think she was serious, but she was acting like she was. I just thought "putting on an act like that is NOT a service I want" and I didn't see her again. I've been asked for my number and texted by girls too.

SPs are not a needy bunch on the whole, they're impressively hard to get! 

[Punterperson1971]

I find with a regular nothing will be to much trouble like if you ask for different things in the session,I find you don’t get much huffing and puffing and moaning from a regular and it’s more relaxed

[pantywetter]

I tend to find a girl I like then see her 4-5 times before I get bored.  I have had one or two multi year regulars but always interspersed with newbies.

I do agree with the risk of EAS though.  I know it’s just a business transaction but have wavered with it a few times when you really click with someone and the barriers start to come down.

[Punterperson1971]

It also opens up a bit of mutual trust between yourself & a regular I mean I get to fuck her mate and also had a threesome with her and her mate too and I also try a bit of strap on as well or anal play and she knows when to take it easy or stop as well

[pantywetter]

Despite what I said a few days ago, think I’m struggling with a spot of EAS now for the 2nd time in 20 years of punting.

My advice is to put the barriers up at the first sign as it absolutely sucks!

[lillythesavage]

Despite what I said a few days ago, think I’m struggling with a spot of EAS now for the 2nd time in 20 years of punting.

My advice is to put the barriers up at the first sign as it absolutely sucks!

 

It happens, not surprisingly if you think about human nature, take a break from that person but not put the barriers up just yet, you may be able to get past the situation and regret those barriers.

[Bloodymary]

I’ve had regulars in the past but I try to mix it up more now to avoid the danger of EAS.   That said there are a couple of SPs I’ve seen many times and I really enjoy my visits but I try to space them out. 

I’ve been close to EAS a couple of times over the years and know how to avoid it now

[hullad]

I gave had two regulars over the years one is virtually the last one standing and I have explored lots with her. More then I could have done with a one off visit, I have some one who knows me in depth and vice versa.

The other one retired couple of years ago and I keep in touch with her, coffee and a chat its quite civilised these days. EAS  has never been involved I am not stupid, I know they spent time with me for money. I don't yearn for a relationship with them. I can and do become sort of friends  no favours offered not required but I can see where it could be used to advantage on both sides.

[P Hughes]

In hindsight I definitely believe having regulars  was an error on my part. I often found that the sex would become very mundane quite quickly and familiarity definitely lead to complacency in my experiences. Also, I personally found it affected how the WG perceived you. I had one regular I saw for over 3 years, and out of the blue one day, she just said "why can't you get a girlfriend?" I was speechless as i had never discussed my personal life with her. But because I had seen her so regularly she assumed I was some major saddo who couldn't get a girlfriend . In her mind, she was thinking if I had a girlfriend  there was no way I would of seen her regularly over such a period of time. I suppose it was a reasonable assumption by her, but definitely a reality check for me. She obviously pitted me. After that I decided not to see a WG long enough for her to form those types of perceptions.

[itk]

In hindsight I definitely believe having regulars  was an error on my part. I often found that the sex would become very mundane quite quickly and familiarity definitely lead to complacency in my experiences. Also, I personally found it affected how the WG perceived you. I had one regular I saw for over 3 years, and out of the blue one day, she just said "why can't you get a girlfriend?" I was speechless as i had never discussed my personal life with her. But because I had seen her so regularly she assumed I was some major saddo who couldn't get a girlfriend . In her mind, she was thinking if I had a girlfriend  there was no way I would of seen her regularly over such a period of time. I suppose it was a reasonable assumption by her, but definitely a reality check for me. She obviously pitted me. After that I decided not to see a WG long enough for her to form those types of perceptions.

100% agree. Definitely found the sex and the effort with a regular became mundane. As you say, I also found out the questions become more personal, I’m one for giving absolutely nothing away, and most of what I say is complete bollocks.

[DouglasReynholm]

In hindsight I definitely believe having regulars  was an error on my part. I often found that the sex would become very mundane quite quickly and familiarity definitely lead to complacency in my experiences. Also, I personally found it affected how the WG perceived you. I had one regular I saw for over 3 years, and out of the blue one day, she just said "why can't you get a girlfriend?" I was speechless as i had never discussed my personal life with her. But because I had seen her so regularly she assumed I was some major saddo who couldn't get a girlfriend . In her mind, she was thinking if I had a girlfriend  there was no way I would of seen her regularly over such a period of time. I suppose it was a reasonable assumption by her, but definitely a reality check for me. She obviously pitted me. After that I decided not to see a WG long enough for her to form those types of perceptions.

That's a bad review you got there. Why not give her one?

[Gordy555]

I also prefer to have a couple of regulars. More of a GFE and easier to book when needed.  As others have said, like the excitement of meeting someone new and offering something different.

[sim0256]

There is almost an element of this question / thread being pointless. No other person will convince that what you going is wrong and that they are right, its horses for courses, and depends what you what to get out of it.
I started punting late , didn't even know the term punting meant seeing WGs) and hit lucky with my first girl.  half a dozen times there and she suggested , for a change that a see another girl and named one who turned out to be one the best in town. mentioned first girls name and got a meeting setup no bother while others report they couldn't get to see her.  She really is the business.. In turn she gave a couple of names of girls she knows and I visit them but always return to my favourite as I call her.

I find trusting and being trusted is the route to good meet ups and getting comfortable with a girl adds to the experience.. While these girls are all locals I did the usual run of foreigners and while lower priced the satisfaction factor just wasn't there.

So it depends what you want out of it and no other contributor will change your mind.

[pantywetter]

To me that sounds like you're questioning how one navigates a "mature" approach to a romantic relationship when you know that you're susceptible to addictive/obsessive behaviour and cannot assess or control your emotional and financial involvement  Sadly regardless of the SS/SP origin of the situation it's still a matter of intuition, self-awareness, honesty, trust and communication between the parties to keep the relationship in an agreeable lane rather than heading prematurely for the off-ramp or onward into a punter fireball.

Cynics/realists might like to slap fluffies in the face and just shout "She's a whore you idiot!" but most GFE punters with over a couple of dozen different notches on the bedpost at a variety of price points will have likely met at least one SP who gave them more than the time of day even when they thought they were being guarded and "punter pro" about it.   

If it were a forum darling then a punter might slap himself out of it for the practiced professional that she is, even if the connection is genuine (because those can happen).  The real danger comes when the SP is an unknown and seems to be blurry on her boundaries for intimacy, conversation, off-menu free extras and personal details backed by vulnerable behaviours.  It may still be a very elaborate con or psychological instability but that's not all too different to a civvy opening up.   
Christ!  With the games being played out by the schemers and spoilt women on "dating", "agreement" and "content" sites there are plenty of grifters poisoning the well.  Punter suspicion should rightfully be high but whether his capacity for misogyny will be over-ruled by his desire for meaningful connection is all down to how damaged he is.   
Even veteran P&Ders aren't immune from Cupid's folly in placing an absolute corker of a newbie in their crosshairs when the magic door opens.  She might even be Romanian!      

I really think this post nails it.

I’ve had 500-1000 punts in 20 years.  Over the time I’ve got close to 3 WGs only even though I tend to keep returning to the same girls.

Punting is just business for me, but I do feel as though I am on a quest to find the perfect working girl, almost searching for “the one”.  Once every 5 years I’ll knock on the door and she opens it when I’m least expecting it.  She has the looks, the personality, the style and the service which really pushes my buttons.  Because she drives me wild I think she picks up on it too and chemistry kicks in on both sides from the first meet.

With me it then starts with the long eccentric bookings, then free extra time, then texting, then revealing of personal details and vulnerabilities on the WG side.  It can then move into free meets and bordering on dating. 

Almost immediately for me, it also starts to go south emotionally.  She takes over your head, and the self doubt and turmoil creeps in.  Is this really what you want with the collateral damage and considering how you met?  This stage can get really miserable really quickly, it is far stronger and more confusing than a normal relationship. 

The middle one of my 3 nearly bought me down.  I had a great job, long term relationship, really happy life etc and out of nowhere I totally lost my head over her.  I couldn’t think straight, my personal life and job performance became a shambles  and the lies I told at work and at home to keep that going were off the charts.  We were so bad for each other, it was a total head fuck.  It went on for nearly 6 months till she fortunately went home. 

For the last month or so I have been doing this again and it feels fucking horrible.  It has totally messed with my head, even though this time is the least reciprocated of the 3.  Each time they get more ridiculous as the age gap, outlook and physical appearance widens, but it’s very difficult to keep yourself on the straight and narrow even though you can see exactly what is happening and know all of the advice.

I don’t think that any of my experiences were just out for money, but I do think punters vulnerable to EAS need to tread very carefully as a skilled girl could absolutely rinse you financially with just a few well placed words. 

My advice again is to really tread carefully and cut this stuff off as early as possible.  Ideally before it begins, or as soon as you feel it developing.  It only gets harder with time.  This is particularly true if you are settled or married with a comfortable setup at home.  You are really playing with dynamite having affairs of the heart with a working girl.

[PaulRuff]

I really think this post nails it.

I’ve had 500-1000 punts in 20 years.  Over the time I’ve got close to 3 WGs only even though I tend to keep returning to the same girls.

Punting is just business for me, but I do feel as though I am on a quest to find the perfect working girl, almost searching for “the one”.  Once every 5 years I’ll knock on the door and she opens it when I’m least expecting it.  She has the looks, the personality, the style and the service which really pushes my buttons.  Because she drives me wild I think she picks up on it too and chemistry kicks in on both sides from the first meet.

With me it then starts with the long eccentric bookings, then free extra time, then texting, then revealing of personal details and vulnerabilities on the WG side.  It can then move into free meets and bordering on dating. 

Almost immediately for me, it also starts to go south emotionally.  She takes over your head, and the self doubt and turmoil creeps in.  Is this really what you want with the collateral damage and considering how you met?  This stage can get really miserable really quickly, it is far stronger and more confusing than a normal relationship. 

The middle one of my 3 nearly bought me down.  I had a great job, long term relationship, really happy life etc and out of nowhere I totally lost my head over her.  I couldn’t think straight, my personal life and job performance became a shambles  and the lies I told at work and at home to keep that going were off the charts.  We were so bad for each other, it was a total head fuck.  It went on for nearly 6 months till she fortunately went home. 

For the last month or so I have been doing this again and it feels fucking horrible.  It has totally messed with my head, even though this time is the least reciprocated of the 3.  Each time they get more ridiculous as the age gap and outlook widens, but it’s very difficult to keep yourself on the straight and narrow even though you can see exactly what is happening and know all of the advice.

I’m not a fluffy punter at all and do this as business only, but I do know that I can lose my head a bit during the infatuation stage in real life so I have to be very careful with this stuff.  I am going to try very hard not to even start down this path again.

I don’t think that any of my experiences were just out for money, but I do think punters vulnerable to EAS need to tread very carefully as a skilled girl could absolutely rinse you financially with just a few well placed words. 

My advice again is to really tread carefully and cut this stuff off as early as possible.  Ideally before it begins, or as soon as you feel it developing.  It only gets harder with time.  This is particularly true if you are settled or married with a comfortable setup at home.  You are really playing with dynamite having affairs of the heart with a working girl.

Great post.