Can’t get hard- help

[Pakimans768]

Anyone else have this problem?

Just turned 40 but can’t seem to get hard no more, googled it and even visited doc, he prescribed some blue pills, that works but still a worrying issue for me

If I don’t take pill, I rarely get a semi, occasionally might get a semi when I wake up but that’s about it, even when I get semi and try doing the deed it gets floppy soon as I think of anything else outside sex. I’m not fat/overweight, fairly fit with excerise 2/3 week

Any tips guys? Or even ladies?

[easyzx6r]

Anyone else have this problem?

Just turned 40 but can’t seem to get hard no more, googled it and even visited doc, he prescribed some blue pills, that works but still a worrying issue for me

If I don’t take pill, I rarely get a semi, occasionally might get a semi when I wake up but that’s about it, even when I get semi and try doing the deed it gets floppy soon as I think of anything else outside sex. I’m not fat/overweight, fairly fit with excerise 2/3 week

Any tips guys? Or even ladies?

mmm this could be interesting

[Lancastrian1]

You taking anything like decca for training? Because that can stop erections. They call is decca dick.

[PhelTGrik]

How's your blood pressure?

If you're getting morning wood that'd suggest the oestrogen part of the brain-bollock feedback loop is working....as the poster above eluded to if you happen to tinkering with any performance enhancing drugs these can affect oestrogen but it's a very specific issue/population.

Things that commonly affect getting/maintaining erection are blood pressure (if it's high this tends to negatively impact erectile quality), pyschological stress (myriad of things can contribute) and physical fatigue (being under the weather, under recovery, dehydration and/or nutritional deficiency).

If across all physical measures you've been checked out then that would point to the issue being more mental than physical/hormonal.

Viagra and related are what's known as PDE-5 inhibitors, it opens up blood vessels hence it being advised not to use it alongside blood pressure lowering substances otherwise rather than an iron boner your whole body becomes a bit of a terminally wet noodle....so if the blueys are helping I'd be inclined to make do with them but also rule out blood pressure, and perhaps ask the doc for cholesterol and triglyceride panels just to rule out if there is any age/lifestyle so far related concerns that may be creeping in.

[Steve McQueen]

I think the advice given  is correct. Given your age and if you are still experiencing the morning hard on and without taking into account your medical history as that is confidential to you, I would suggest it is more likely a psycho-sexual issue. The pressure on males to perform is substantial and can create anxiety. We’re all not porn stars so relax take the medication and enjoy the sex whatever form it takes. Good luck.

[JoJo93]

I would get your doctor to check your cholesterol and get him to do a full blood test to rule everything out. If all is clear it is either a circulation or mental problem. All the best.

[Rauls]

If all the tests come back normal, you could try Kegal exercises in addition to the blue pill - but be warned, some people find it could cause / worsen PE!

[threechilliman]

How much porn do you watch and how often do you wank? Too much can have an effect.

[marlboro20]

How old are you P768?

[rizzy00]

Get your bloods checked / cholesterol / diabetes - look at your diet and get rid of the rubbish. concentrate on food groups that release nitric oxide such as leafy greens

[cueball]

If you're healthy etc and it's just a mind thing. I'd do this....

No wanking, no porn.

Take it back to basics. Book a massage with no pressure. Have massage and let it flow. Nothing lost if you're not feeling it and just enjoy the massage.

Build it up from there.

We've all had it, your head can kill it as much as make it rise.

Don't rush it and don't beat yourself up of it don't happen.

I've learnt one more thing too, if civvie life trouble seep into your punting life it can have a real effect on you, just like letting punting life seep into real life.

Don't beat yourself up and (daft as this sounds) let your dick do the thinking 

[Pakimans768]

Thanks for replies, I’m just a normal guy, don’t take drugs or protein powders etc, I did go docs to check a few things over and just came back with a little lack of vitamin D

Don’t really watch Porn, or wanking.

Maybe mentally struggling, before anything even starts I’m thinking I hope I can get hard, and if I can’t ive had snide comments that destroys confidence, just comments like “why you can’t get hard, what’s that? Is that a midget? Just comments like that

I already struggle lasting long but that’s a different story, right now I’m just concerned about getting hard. I can’t remember last time I had a full erection, and I mean a proper hard on.

Sometimes when I half half one and I’m doing business with condom I have to fake ive come because I can feel it shrinking, mentally it’s tough having a shag just for the fear I’m gonna so small

[hungrypunt]

Maybe mentally struggling, before anything even starts I’m thinking I hope I can get hard, and if I can’t ive had snide comments that destroys confidence, just comments like “why you can’t get hard, what’s that? Is that a midget? Just comments like that

Cues advice is sound advice.
To give you the confidence your gonna get hard just do as your doing and take a pill, you can get em over the counter or online at dr fox. It sounds mentally not physical atfet what the doc said,  thats your problem.

Get to cosco see if they do em in bulk, fuck it get on t pills lad.

[winkywanky]

You taking anything like decca for training? Because that can stop erections. They call is decca dick.

What's decca when it's at home?

[bigmc]

Depression can have a huge effect. Are you or have you been feeling low lately ?
I have been suffering the same thing for last 6 months, only just starting to put my life in order and feeling a bit better for it. Had no real interest in sex, not bothered me in the slightest, just wanted to get a one way ticket somewhere and disappear.

Take time out and take all the pressure off yourself.
As Cue says, may well be all in your head, it was for me.

[houseboot]

What's decca when it's at home?

Deca

"Deca Durabolin injection contains the active ingredient nandrolone decanoate, which is a type of medicine called an anabolic steroid. Anabolic steroids have the same properties as the natural hormone testosterone. They are believed to increase the production of protein by the body and to enhance muscle development."

[houseboot]

How old are you P768?

"Just turned 40"

[winkywanky]

Deca

"Deca Durabolin injection contains the active ingredient nandrolone decanoate, which is a type of medicine called an anabolic steroid. Anabolic steroids have the same properties as the natural hormone testosterone. They are believed to increase the production of protein by the body and to enhance muscle development."

Thanks hb. I know exactly what nandrolone is and what it does, just never heard it called decca or deca before.

I have no sympathy for anyone that takes that shit, so if their dick fell off it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

[Hungarian Lover]

Have you tried a cock ring, I always use one with a small amount of the blue pill and I can guarantee to be hard enough to get the job done every time, I'm heading towards 70 so I know I'm never going to be as rock hard as when I was 20. Normally a man of your age should be alright from a physical point of view so maybe you're worrying to much about being able to perform, I was like that to start with but now in the swing of things I'm ok.

[winkywanky]

Yes, a cock ring's a good idea because once the blood is in your cock (which is what makes you erect) it can't escape easily with the ring on.

[Pakimans768]

I can get hard with blue pill, that’s not the problem


It’s just I can’t get hard without it, occasionally I’ll pop the pill but I’m not Old and should really be getting hard naturally, hence just wondering if similar aged guys have same problem and what they do to cure

It’s just the blue pill gives me headaches and I can feel my blood boil literally, doc gave me 100 mg but I normally take a quarter pill

By the way any working girls on here that would understand and be willing to see me without discrimination

[Pakimans768]

Some guys may find the post funny and unbelievable but the ones with similar situations will know it’s a genuine problem

[cueball]

Some guys may find the post funny and unbelievable but the ones with similar situations will know it’s a genuine problem

Nobody is laughing pal.... we've all podged a lot of lasses and know full well what can happen

[TheGreatCornholio]

Take it back to basics. Book a massage with no pressure. Have massage and let it flow. Nothing lost if you're not feeling it and just enjoy the massage.

I think this is the best advice, just don't try going punting for a bit and relax, I find that even though I'm never one to have a problem getting it up that if I get inside my own head it'll make any issue magnified ten fold. I remember my cock literally going soft inside a WG on a meet last year when I was particularly worried about it 'cause she was smoking hot and I didn't want to waste the opportunity, but then in other meets have finished 3 times in two hours when I get on well with them.

If you're not on any medication it'll most likely be mental.

[goldwing1]

Thanks for replies, I’m just a normal guy, don’t take drugs or protein powders etc, I did go docs to check a few things over and just came back with a little lack of vitamin D

Don’t really watch Porn, or wanking.

Maybe mentally struggling, before anything even starts I’m thinking I hope I can get hard, and if I can’t ive had snide comments that destroys confidence, just comments like “why you can’t get hard, what’s that? Is that a midget? Just comments like that

I already struggle lasting long but that’s a different story, right now I’m just concerned about getting hard. I can’t remember last time I had a full erection, and I mean a proper hard on.

Sometimes when I half half one and I’m doing business with condom I have to fake ive come because I can feel it shrinking, mentally it’s tough having a shag just for the fear I’m gonna so small

There`s all sorts of causes, but it is generally accepted that psychological factors are the biggest part, could be stress at work, or generally worrying about stuff that that can cause it.

Your quote "  Maybe mentally struggling, before anything even starts I’m thinking I hope I can get hard, and if I can’t ive had snide comments that destroys confidence, just comments like “why you can’t get hard, what’s that? Is that a midget? "

That doesn`t help confidence, try to fine someone who is  sympathetic - one of the more mature escorts and explain your problem when enquiring about a booking as they may have experienced clients in the past who have had similar problems and they will most probably adopt a no rush no pressure attitude and take things at your pace - it`s in their interests to look after you as you are more likely to go back when your problem is fixed -   the last thing you want is someone taking the piss especially when you have handed her a load of your hard earned cash.

I suffered a bit years ago, but that`s because I had so much shit going on in my life that it affected my bedroom performance.
It`s old age now, but that`s cured by refraining from watching porn / wanking a few days before a punt and taking sildenafil ( generic viagra ) just before the punt - and that stuff does work, I can keep 2 women busy for an hour.

[Itzmurph]

If all the tests come back normal, you could try Kegal exercises in addition to the blue pill - but be warned, some people find it could cause / worsen PE!

You sure about that? Kegel exercises are medically recommended to TREAT premature ejaculatiln, and the tightening of those muscles can stop an oncoming orgasm sometimes.

[Itzmurph]

Thanks for replies, I’m just a normal guy, don’t take drugs or protein powders etc, I did go docs to check a few things over and just came back with a little lack of vitamin D

Don’t really watch Porn, or wanking.

Maybe mentally struggling, before anything even starts I’m thinking I hope I can get hard, and if I can’t ive had snide comments that destroys confidence, just comments like “why you can’t get hard, what’s that? Is that a midget? Just comments like that

I already struggle lasting long but that’s a different story, right now I’m just concerned about getting hard. I can’t remember last time I had a full erection, and I mean a proper hard on.

Sometimes when I half half one and I’m doing business with condom I have to fake ive come because I can feel it shrinking, mentally it’s tough having a shag just for the fear I’m gonna so small

From what I just read mate you’ve got absolutely classic anxiety caused ED. Completely text book symptoms as a doctor might say (I’m not I hasten to add, first aider but that’s it).
Because you think you might lose it, it becomes so.

1. Go back to a different doctor, get cholesterol, blood pressure and very importantly diabetes test.

2. Never mind viagra, it’s a harsh medicine which lasts an hour or so. See if you can get tadalafil or Cialis to give it it’s brand name. BIG reason I recommend this is because it firstly is way more “gentle” than viagra, less side affects. Second it lasts days. This means you will be a lot more likely to get your confidence back. It’s been known for guys to think it lasts a week or so.... it doesn’t really but because they think it does, the mind stops worrying and things happen naturally.

Maybe pop one of these, take a warm shower to relax and go to your favourite massage place. Don’t be surprised when asked to turn over you’re pointing to the ceiling after those “swipes” hehe.

Good luck and let us know how you get on with the docs

[Waterhouse]

How's your blood pressure?

If you're getting morning wood that'd suggest the oestrogen part of the brain-bollock feedback loop is working....as the poster above eluded to if you happen to tinkering with any performance enhancing drugs these can affect oestrogen but it's a very specific issue/population.

Things that commonly affect getting/maintaining erection are blood pressure (if it's high this tends to negatively impact erectile quality), pyschological stress (myriad of things can contribute) and physical fatigue (being under the weather, under recovery, dehydration and/or nutritional deficiency).

If across all physical measures you've been checked out then that would point to the issue being more mental than physical/hormonal.

Viagra and related are what's known as PDE-5 inhibitors, it opens up blood vessels hence it being advised not to use it alongside blood pressure lowering substances otherwise rather than an iron boner your whole body becomes a bit of a terminally wet noodle....so if the blueys are helping I'd be inclined to make do with them but also rule out blood pressure, and perhaps ask the doc for cholesterol and triglyceride panels just to rule out if there is any age/lifestyle so far related concerns that may be creeping in.

Interesting hypothesis of combined PDE-5 inhibitor coupled with hypertension meds having the reverse effect when it comes to erections.

Do you know if this is likely with all HBP meds i.e. CCBs, ACEs, angiotensin II receptor antagonists? Or just certain types?  I'm not sure but I am sure I've seen somewhere that a guy who was on HBP meds and high dose of statin was also taking daily 5mg tadalafil? 

[scutty brown]

Lose weight!
Stop drinking

[Pakimans768]

Lose weight!
Stop drinking

Not really overweight, 154 pounds 5’8”

Don’t drink, never touched the stuff

[Pakimans768]

Some really good advice and I appreciate you taken time to reply, and some of them quite lengthy too

The blue pill prescribed was slidenfil

Possibly another visit to doc would be best. Just embarrassed to keep bothering them on this issue.

[PhelTGrik]

Interesting hypothesis of combined PDE-5 inhibitor coupled with hypertension meds having the reverse effect when it comes to erections.

Do you know if this is likely with all HBP meds i.e. CCBs, ACEs, angiotensin II receptor antagonists? Or just certain types?  I'm not sure but I am sure I've seen somewhere that a guy who was on HBP meds and high dose of statin was also taking daily 5mg tadalafil?

It was more don't mix Viagra with poppers, leads to a very sudden drop in blood pressure....I imagine there's a similar contraindication with GTN spray...by terminal effects I mean fatal.

I'd need to go back to the original Viagra research but it was an inadvertent discovery that PDE5 inhibition improved blood flow to the groin but didn't have the desired effects on cardiovascular health.

In the example you give I imagine it's more dose makes the poison (or cure in that instance).

[SmoothieNeil]

Also the type of girl can might not be helpful either 

Went to a local place few years back and the girl was really up her own arse, kept most of her outfit on and i struggled to communicate with her and that didn't help at all and was first time i left a place without being able to cum.

Following day went into Cherries under its old name, got this Colombian bird, proper curvy and big arse, she was all smiley,fun and chatty and i ended up fucking the arse off her!

Also, dont drink anything before you go as midway you might need the loo which wont help things

[Itzmurph]

Some really good advice and I appreciate you taken time to reply, and some of them quite lengthy too

The blue pill prescribed was slidenfil

Possibly another visit to doc would be best. Just embarrassed to keep bothering them on this issue.

Hey, your health is important. Sure they won’t mind you asking, sure we all know of dickheads who bother doctors for no reason, with imaginary or exaggerated problems .... and you ain’t one of them. You have a physical problem which could be symptom of (let’s not beat around the bush) it could be due to something serious like blood pressure or diabetes, it could even be signs of artery furring (I forget the technical term). Unlikely so please don’t worry but the point is doctor wont mind and neither should you. It’s the old saying....there’s only one you!

Btw sildenafil is the chemical name for viagra. It’s like Panadol and paracetamol. Both identical but one is a brand name.
Tadalafil = Cialis

Sildenafil, last an hour or so. Tadalafil bit more general and lasts 3 days approx. Similar but different I guess

[Rauls]

Hi Itzmurph - Kegals can make PE worse if you tense the wrong muscle - which is what I did! Reverse Kegels trains the right muscles for PE but doesn’t help with erectile dysfunction.

Hi Pakisman - i understand your problem 100% - i started with it in my early 30s . Again no obvious cause - Viagra would help but didnt want to rely on it. Saw my GP - bloods and BP were fine. I came to realise it was pyschological and I started to get into a negative cycle. I saw a counsellor privately and realised that was a waste of time. Tried Kegal exercices and that worked - but I didnt balance Kegal and Reverse kegal exercises so ended up with PE but strong erections !! Over time i have tried to relax and things have improved. However I still intermittently take a blue pill if I’m worried I won’t perform eg if I’ve had a few drinks etc. I think one reason was that my sex drive lowered because of stress - I’m still trying to deal with that , but that’s another story.

[ProtocolDroid]

Lots of good advice here already OP. Cue's post seems especially useful to me. I was going to raise the porn addiction issue as well, but see that tcm has done so already and it doesn't apply to you.

If you do decide to go for a few HE/B2B type massages to get you back in the saddle, mentally and hence also physically, I'd use the information on this forum to pick a suitable SP. One reason is that the quality of massages differs wildly, and if it turns out you're still too stressed on the day to get hard and cum then you'll want to at least have the satisfaction of having had a nice, relaxing massage.

Another reason for making the most of the reviews on here is that it can be harder to find photos of SPs who specialise in this than for FS providers. To me personally this is an issue, as I'm the kind of superficial cunt to whom looks matter a lot. For many guys on here service and attitude are far more important, but while I care about those things as well I can never have a *really* good time if I'm not seriously attracted to the SP. This is an important part of the reason why last year I wrote so few reviews; I'm struggling to find WGs that I find hot enough to spend my hard earned cash on. Anyway, if you're a bit like me then you'll want to try and ensure that in addition to offering a quality massage those skills also come wrapped in a pretty package.

Lola, who I think I have reviewed, is to my mind the best looking massage+HE provider in the region, although I'd like her boobs to be (much) bigger. I'm not sure I'd recommend her to you, as not everyone appears to find it very easy to get on with her. She advertises on VS: External Link/Members Only

Second in terms of looks to me is Leya in Buckshaw Village. Again, I think I've reviewed her, and if I haven't then others will have done. I've seen her several times but not recently as I've got a bit bored with her service, which is good but which she fails to vary and ramp up (her choice of course, but I can respect that without liking it). Anyway, she gives a proper massage but also lots of swipes and reach unders, right from the start, and she's laid back enough that I doubt she'd make fun of you if you explained to her that you've been stressed and are not sure you'll get fully hard after the turn over. She advertises on Gumtree: External Link/Members Only

There are a few other well reviewed and highly rated HE massage providers, such as Claire in Ashton. She's extremely professional and has a legendary double handed HR technique. Again, I've personally got a bit bored with her service, for the same reason as with Leya, and although she's not unattractive for me she doesn't come close to Leya and Lola in this respect. She used to have a website together with her partner in crime Sofia, who provides a raunchier service but isn't as good at massage itself, but the link I've tried seems to be down. She does appear to be in the Yellow Pages, however, at External Link/Members Only

Hope this helps. Do let us know how you get on, if you feel like sharing of course.

[Blue Moon]

I have a similar problem with maintaining a hard-on. A few years ago I went to the docs for a check-up and mentioned this. We did a few tests, including one for diabetes and it turned out that I don't have actual diabetes but I was heading that way. I was diagnosed with Glucose Intolerance. Having received the heads-up about it, I was able to change my lifestyle (increase exercise, better diet, reduce alcohol intake) and that seems to have halted the journey to proper diabetes. The GI though, appears to be irreversable and I take Sildenafil (on prescription) whenever I have an appointment - about an hour before. It appears that GI can cause a reduction in blood flow to the extremities (I often have cold hands and feet, particularly when I'm not moving around) - and the penis is a blood-dependent extremity. Generally, the Sildenafil sorts out the problem but it's not ideal because of the side effects and it doesn't get me hard to the same extent as I used to.    Bm

[Moby Dick]

If it ain't working take a break or try something different.

Don't force it, save some money and do nothing. When you get the urge go for a low cost massage, without any expectations.

You'll soon get back into the swing off things.
I reckon most of us have gone through this stage, some earlier than others.

[Warm-Hands]

OP, I think you have most of the good advice I would dispense already given above. I am impressed with the support everyone has given too - the NW board seems a lot more supportive and less brutal than the ones I normally frequent (SE, London boards).

As mentioned above, you might find some unstressed visits to massage parlours would help - if HE is on the cards then maybe go for it but a simple no-demands sensual massage just to get relaxed and used to being manhandled without the pressure to perform. Its cheap too without the HE so you can get lots of practice in.

I use Sildenfil (Viagra) and Tadanfil (Cialis) as appropriate, which I get from Dr Fox. This is mostly as I am old now (in my early 60's) and my body doesn't behave like I want it to. I find Sildenfil is more of a one-hit wonder and can be quite effective and reasonably quick. I was getting 100mg and cutting the pills in two for cost effectiveness, but sometimes I take the whole 100mg, but it can give headaches and seems to only work once. I would typically take this about an hour or two before the encounter and experienced no problems with performance. Tadanfil is in some respects gentler and longer lasting - it can give you hard-ons for days after, and you wake up in the night with a massive hard-on. I prefer this, but I have a stack of Sildenfil left still so will alternate between the two. One approach you might consider is to start with a full dose Sildenfil and wean yourself down with lower doses as your confidence improves.

The glucose intolerance and diabetes aspects are worth exploring as these can have longer term effects on your health. It's worth getting checked for this as you can reduce the diabetes risk if you are not actually diabetic but heading that way (as I was).

But it sounds mostly as if you have mental and life pressure so you need to sort these out if you want a permanent solution to your problem - until you get old that is and your body lets you down. Going for no-pressure encounters can help this but life pressure in particular is an erection killer.

Good luck

[Gordon Bennett]

If you are not getting erections at all, or barely ever, that sounds totally different from simple performance anxiety and is definitely something to vigorously pursue with trained medical professionals. Basically, if you're struggling to even have a meaningful wank in comfort of your own home you need the GP.

[Roadster]

Don't know if anyone else has mentioned it, I didn't read the entire thread.  Have you had your testoserone levels checked?  Low testosterone can cause the symptoms you suggest along with the added delight of increased risk of heart attack and stroke amongst other things.  Simple blood test from the GP to check.  The fix is a three monthly injection of Nebido.

[Pakimans768]

Genuinely really appreciative with all the advice given. A visit to doctor will be on cards

Will let you know in due course the outcome

Personally I think it’s a medical issue, and when I don’t get hard it’s also becomes a mental issue.

And hopefully this thread is a wake up call to others who are in similar issue to go and see a doc

[stresshead]

Def go to docs, you might have to keep on their case. Blood tests for testosterone,,thyroid, liver, kidneys.,Shgb, prolactin, All mine were within normal 🤬🤬., the testosterone rangevwas 9.5 to 24 or sonething, mine was 10 !, so you are within normal so go away!.. I would not let it drop, so got a referral and paid to see an endrocrynologist. Now on quarterly nibido injections , but gotta pay private fir em, no nhs as I was normal !.

Its very stressfull not feeling horny and not getting to the reason, stress is also s big part, along with high blood pressure.

Hope you get it sorted..

[PhelTGrik]

Def go to docs, you might have to keep on their case. Blood tests for testosterone,,thyroid, liver, kidneys.,Shgb, prolactin, All mine were within normal 🤬🤬., the testosterone rangevwas 9.5 to 24 or sonething, mine was 10 !, so you are within normal so go away!.. I would not let it drop, so got a referral and paid to see an endrocrynologist. Now on quarterly nibido injections , but gotta pay private fir em, no nhs as I was normal !.

Its very stressfull not feeling horny and not getting to the reason, stress is also s big part, along with high blood pressure.

Hope you get it sorted..

If you don't mind my asking/disclosing, were you told by the endo if you were cause of your test issue was primary or secondary? Primary is insufficient output of T at the testes because of something at the testes (injury) whereas secondary is the gland in the brain not sending the signal to the testes to do their job.

[Rauls]

Stresshead,

Do the injections help? Did you have other signs of low testosterone eg hair loss / weight gain?

[Waterhouse]

Def go to docs, you might have to keep on their case. Blood tests for testosterone,,thyroid, liver, kidneys.,Shgb, prolactin, All mine were within normal 🤬🤬., the testosterone rangevwas 9.5 to 24 or sonething, mine was 10 !, so you are within normal so go away!.. I would not let it drop, so got a referral and paid to see an endrocrynologist. Now on quarterly nibido injections , but gotta pay private fir em, no nhs as I was normal !.

Its very stressfull not feeling horny and not getting to the reason, stress is also s big part, along with high blood pressure.

Hope you get it sorted..

Stresshead... do you have high bloodpressure also?  If so, what do they precribe for it?

Cheers.

[Itzmurph]

Hi Itzmurph - Kegals can make PE worse if you tense the wrong muscle - which is what I did! Reverse Kegels trains the right muscles for PE but doesn’t help with erectile dysfunction.

Hi thanks for that. I don’t want to hijack the fellas thread so keeping it short but.... very interesting. I’m going to go away and look further into this. Much appreciated, interesting info

[winkywanky]

...could even be signs of artery furring (I forget the technical term).

Atherosclerosis.

[Ce95]

Well I’m 24 and using viagra unfortunately. Physically Im fine so must be mental

[JohnEv]

If your doctor decides you are depressed ffs don't take any pills that mess around with serotonin, not only can they make it slightly harder to get an erection but they can stop you coming, this can be a life-long after effect.

While it sounds great that you can bonk away for hours without coming, in reality the target/objective is missing so the bonking becomes boring and mr limp steps in.

It took me two years to half-recover and ten years on its still not right.

I thanked one wg profusely after she patiently spent ages to get me to come properly, the first time in eight months of serious trying.