Invasive questions or just friendly?

[Atrueyorkie]

Obviously it’s nice from a WG’s perspective to build up some type of rapport as you’re going to have sex with this punter/stranger

Standard questions like name is fine, like nobody in their right mind would give their real one but giving a example question.

However, when do you feel like it steps over from just being friendly to invasive?

[contentguy]

Any questions about my OH or reference to my wedding ring.

[daviemac]

However, when do you feel like it steps over from just being friendly to invasive?

Do you feel obliged to answer truthfully? they can ask me what they like and I'll answer in my punting persona they don't know what's true and what isn't.

[OakTree]

Obviously it’s nice from a WG’s perspective to build up some type of rapport as you’re going to have sex with this punter/stranger

Standard questions like name is fine, like nobody in their right mind would give their real one but giving a example question.

However, when do you feel like it steps over from just being friendly to invasive?

I’ve always used my first name. She’s not to know wether it really is or not and in my experience they don’t care.

As I punt mainly the NW but have a cockney accent, a common question I get asked is have I come far and I know they don’t give a shit because after answering them they’ve often asked again later in the meet.

I can’t remember anytime thinking the questioning has crossed a line. They’re just not that interested.

[petermisc]

It depends on how paranoid you are.  I have no problem with revealing the kind of generic things I might reveal to a stranger in a pub.  Profession, area where I live, holidays, interests, married or single, kids, etc.  However, if she started asking detailed questions, such as the road name or what company I work for, that would make me wary.   The context is also important: if she is asking a lot of you, without giving similar info about herself, that would also make me wary.

[Thephoenix]

Do you feel obliged to answer truthfully? they can ask me what they like and I'll answer in my punting persona they don't know what's true and what isn't.

Beat me to it.
Even years ago when I was more into FS punts and had a few regulars they knew little or nothing about my personal life.

[Atrueyorkie]

Do you feel obliged to answer truthfully? they can ask me what they like and I'll answer in my punting persona they don't know what's true and what isn't.

I like to be honest, it’s too long to keep of false narratives. that’s why some questions feel a bit uneasy to me. I’d never give my name, age is fine they can do what they want with that.

What I personally find invasive is more precise ones like what area or my status.

Had one very distinct encounter where it started of simple. What’s your name (fake name given), age (answered truthfully) where you from (vague answer). Then it started creeping into borderline invasive, do I have kids, my martial status etc. wasn’t sure if was being interrogated or just being friendly. I certainly didn’t know how it would help on a massage perspective

[Atrueyorkie]

It depends on how paranoid you are.  I have no problem with revealing the kind of generic things I might reveal to a stranger in a pub.  Profession, area where I live, holidays, interests, married or single, kids, etc.  However, if she started asking detailed questions, such as the road name or what company I work for, that would make me wary.   The context is also important: if she is asking a lot of you, without giving similar info about herself, that would also make me wary.

Hmmm +1, like most I keep my punting life and my normal civvy life worlds away from each other. I don’t tend to ask questions. Just simple to go enjoy the massage or FS punts. So sometimes feels like a barrage even if it’s not intentional. I usually count and if it starts going up the questions it just makes feel like they’re collecting 

[Dogfather]

When every other client is an astronaut I guess the prossy kind of gets you might be telling a porky.

[daviemac]

I like to be honest, it’s too long to keep of false narratives. that’s why some questions feel a bit uneasy to me. I’d never give my name, age is fine they can do what they want with that.

What I personally find invasive is more precise ones like what area or my status.

Had one very distinct encounter where it started of simple. What’s your name (fake name given), age (answered truthfully) where you from (vague answer). Then it started creeping into borderline invasive, do I have kids, my martial status etc. wasn’t sure if was being interrogated or just being friendly. I certainly didn’t know how it would help on a massage perspective

If you're talking about a masseuse then they have more time to talk than an escort, but I still can't understand the issue with them asking questions, no matter what you tell them they don't know if it's the truth or not and you don't have to answer them truthfully anyway.

[Munter84]

I like to be honest, it’s too long to keep of false narratives. that’s why some questions feel a bit uneasy to me. I’d never give my name, age is fine they can do what they want with that.

What I personally find invasive is more precise ones like what area or my status.

Had one very distinct encounter where it started of simple. What’s your name (fake name given), age (answered truthfully) where you from (vague answer). Then it started creeping into borderline invasive, do I have kids, my martial status etc. wasn’t sure if was being interrogated or just being friendly. I certainly didn’t know how it would help on a massage perspective

I know exactly what you mean. I'm not scared of being "outed" or blackmailed and therefore haven't gone to the effort of having a punting persona outside of a dedicated punting phone number and email (I'm single and if my employer discovered I use prozzies, he would have a great laugh but certainly not fire me). But I do sometimes find myself answering a bit too truthfully and later wondering if there could be any potential blowback from it, even if it seems farfetched.

If a WG started asking specifics about what postcode I live in, exact job, family and so on, I think my response (unless she was a trusted regular who I had very good rapport with) would be something along the lines of "I'm really not that interesting love, tell me a bit about yourself" - if she's just cheerfully jabbering away and making small talk then she should surely have no objection to changing the subject; if she's fishing for personal info then that should get her to shut up.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

If you're talking about a masseuse then they have more time to talk than an escort, but I still can't understand the issue with them asking questions, no matter what you tell them they don't know if it's the truth or not and you don't have to answer them truthfully anyway.

I reckon some of them are looking for a more stable or established life in the country, they may not be that fond of massage work and woul settle for a rerlationship with a bloke that has some rescouces and could give than that better life!

Whos to blame them?, one for two i've met i've often thought how would i get on with this lady maybe?..

[Atrueyorkie]

If you're talking about a masseuse then they have more time to talk than an escort, but I still can't understand the issue with them asking questions, no matter what you tell them they don't know if it's the truth or not and you don't have to answer them truthfully anyway.

The masseuse one, I was just referencing one encounter that I remember where it started crossing over to what “I” deemed as invasive. You are right, in the sense that you should expect more questions in a masseuse scenario. as if I’m getting asked questions during a FS then it definitely raise my eyebrows 

Usually in fs majority of the questions come at the end. Agree with the last part, neither side know if either side is legitimately telling the truth lol.

[petermisc]

Had one very distinct encounter where it started of simple. What’s your name (fake name given), age (answered truthfully) where you from (vague answer). Then it started creeping into borderline invasive, do I have kids, my martial status etc. wasn’t sure if was being interrogated or just being friendly. I certainly didn’t know how it would help on a massage perspective

You say you felt like you were being interrogated, which suggests the questioning was all one way.  Were you asking questions of her too?  If you were just giving short, vague answers, without asking anything in return, she might have been struggling to find anything in common to make conversation.

[Thephoenix]

When every other client is an astronaut I guess the prossy kind of gets you might be telling a porky.

I don't usually claim to be an astronaut, but a sexy masseuse can often make me shoot into space.

[Stevelondon]

I’m hardly likely to divulge and private information to an SP I’ve only just met. Or indeed one I probably have no intention of seeing again.
Over the years I’ve met some SP’s I’ve grown close too. Become friends with.
I possibly know just as much about them as they do of me.

[mr.bluesky]

This has never bothered me, I just see it as the lady in question being friendly and making conversation,  how you answer them and how much personal detail you reveal is up to you.  I don't use my real Christian name when I book and tend to vaguely reply to what I do for a living. I'd rather have this than stoney silence during a meet.

[Jayj]

Working girls I’ve been personally involved with would often have clients give full names and details, company they work for, location they live, family details and show photos, on one occasion this guy gave enough details for me to say “ I know who that is” I opened my FB and their he was one of my friends, even more mind boggling he visited her a few hours before I did 🤷🏻‍♂️

They were often asked out and guys wanted to be “friends” I think the fact they gave these details was to try and normalise themselves to the WG.

[lamboman]

I just answer them straight up I can't be arsed making stuff up but I appreciate others with OHs will be different.
Telling them what I did for a living confuses them anyway so that conversation doesn't go any further.

[Atrueyorkie]

You say you felt like you were being interrogated, which suggests the questioning was all one way.  Were you asking questions of her too?  If you were just giving short, vague answers, without asking anything in return, she might have been struggling to find anything in common to make conversation.

No I wasn’t asking questions. I can sit in silence and enjoy that same music all the masseuses seem to have a copy of. I think if I give vague answers on the first few it’s a sign to stop asking me more   

[Marmalade]

Make stuff up (beforehand of course) that's so outlandish it gets a laugh. Ice breaker. (And no worries wondering what to say.)
The questions are always generic. Like hairdressers.

[Marmalade]

When every other client is an astronaut I guess the prossy kind of gets you might be telling a porky.

Not too outlandish... Just lead into a bit, describe it oblliquely, straightfaced, then drop the bombshell once you've hooked them in. Same psychology as stand up comedians. 

[southcoastpunter]

No I wasn’t asking questions. I can sit in silence and enjoy that same music all the masseuses seem to have a copy of. I think if I give vague answers on the first few it’s a sign to stop asking me more   

presumably that doesn't work too well or you wouldn't have asked the question. If its not working too well they obviously don't pick up on it being a sign to stop asking questions. Some people find silence "uncomfortable"!

[chadpitt]

You're not obliged to tell them the truth and neither are they.

But one time at a parlour an SP was making a lot of suppositions about me e.g. that I'm picky and it did feel uncomfortable being psychoanalysed.

[Steely Dan]

I am pretty poor at small talk.  But I need a break between rounds.   I found this list that actually helped me.  Questions that are personal, but don't disclose any personal information.  I can't remember all 60, but I do use these:

'60 Good Questions to Ask to Get to Know Someone Better, According to Experts'

Here are the first 16:

1.   What’s your favorite sandwich and where did you eat it?
2.   What’s your favorite place on earth?
3.   What’s one place you've visited that you never want to return?
4.   What’s the best show on TV right now?
5.   If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
6.   What’s the worst movie you ever saw?
7.   What’s the best thing you've read in the last five years?
8.   What’s the one item of clothing you couldn't live without?
9.   If you could only bring three things with you on a deserted island, what would you pick?
10.   If you could save one material thing from a fire, what would you save?
11.   What’s your biggest pet peeve?
12.   What is your favorite movie of all time?
13.   What is the best concert you have ever been to?
14.   What’s the worst date you've ever been on?
15.   Would you rather be hot or cold?
16.   What’s your favorite karaoke song?
 

[southern punter]

Standard questions like name is fine, like nobody in their right mind would give their real one

I give my real name.  I'm fairly sure I'm still in my right mind

[lamboman]

I give my real name.  I'm fairly sure I'm still in my right mind

So do I how the fuck would an SP know if it's true or not.

[Marmalade]

Great list from Steely Dan! 

[MissWolf]

All I can say is there are a disproportionate number of men called Jon,  John, Steve, Mike,  Rob and Alan who punt 

Honestly I have no idea if a name is real or if its made up and frankly I don't give a damn either way, I chat general stuff and ask generically general questions about holidays etc that often leads to banter and memories being shared between rounds and plenty of laughter.

I'm normally none the wiser as to what a client does for a living, where he lives, his marital status or his financial stability when he walks out as when he walked in and I like it that way.

Some guys do tell me a lot of personal stuff, but like on a therapist's couch it never leaves the room and I have a terrible memory for information I don't need in my life so I've likely forgotten it 2 mins after they leave anyhow.

[Marmalade]

All I can say is there are a disproportionate number of men called Jon,  John, Steve, Mike,  Rob and Alan who punt 

Most would struggle to remember the name offered half an hour later anyway.

[Atrueyorkie]

I give my real name.  I'm fairly sure I'm still in my right mind

Why? Do you have nothing to lose?

[Atrueyorkie]

All I can say is there are a disproportionate number of men called Jon,  John, Steve, Mike,  Rob and Alan who punt 

Some guys do tell me a lot of personal stuff, but like on a therapist's couch it never leaves the room and I have a terrible memory for information I don't need in my life so I've likely forgotten it 2 mins after they leave anyhow.

I was scanning to see if one of my names was up there 

Yeah some punters just voluntarily offer up personal information, I know this because their same voluntary personal information is involuntarily given to me 

[southern punter]

Why? Do you have nothing to lose?

Why not?  They don't know if it's real or not.  My name is very common so a lot of them probably think I picked it as a generic fake name anyway.  And no I don't feel like I have anything to lose TBH, I'm single and not doing anything wrong. 

[lamboman]

Why not?  They don't know if it's real or not.  My name is very common so a lot of them probably think I picked it as a generic fake name anyway.  And no I don't feel like I have anything to lose TBH, I'm single and not doing anything wrong.

 

[Thephoenix]

All I can say is there are a disproportionate number of men called Jon,  John, Steve, Mike,  Rob and Alan who punt 

No Waynes?

[mr.bluesky]

All I can say is there are a disproportionate number of men called Jon,  John, Steve, Mike,  Rob and Alan who punt 

Honestly I have no idea if a name is real or if its made up and frankly I don't give a damn either way, I chat general stuff and ask generically general questions about holidays etc that often leads to banter and memories being shared between rounds and plenty of laughter.

I'm normally none the wiser as to what a client does for a living, where he lives, his marital status or his financial stability when he walks out as when he walked in and I like it that way.

Some guys do tell me a lot of personal stuff, but like on a therapist's couch it never leaves the room and I have a terrible memory for information I don't need in my life so I've likely forgotten it 2 mins after they leave anyhow.

I thought all punters were called John 

[snaitram99]

I just give my real first name. There are plenty of Daves about. That may even be my name.

I keep my wedding ring on. there would be an obvious mark if I took it off. Rarely commented on.

If they ask, I am retired but work if I feel like it.

Since I mainly go for massages now, can lie there not saying anything, but sometimes helps to build a bit of rapport with masseuse by a bit of conversation.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

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[tp69]

I find it way too easy to chat with them, especially regs that you get along well with. An hour is very short so I'm always careful not to spend too long chatting away. I'm pretty open with them and genuinely interested in finding out about them too.

A girl last week, at the end of the punt after I'd showered, asked if I had a partner (answer is no), and then took out some expensive looking hand and face cream and started applying it. Was pretty sweet of her, and smelled great.

[Marmalade]

For those getting free and easy, a wee reminder that a main point of not giving prossies infornation is to maintain your independence on the forum.

One day when you have to give a negative review there will some bitch on the other end of it whose vindictive nature goes into overdrive. You will wish you hadn’t been so free and fucking easy. Don’t do it.

It’s ok for her to tell you her private details, real or not. If you start getting into your favourite songs, movies blah blah blah, as well as real name, you become vulnerable. Either you start tarting up (watering down) you reviews ‘conscious’ that the prostitute with whom you shared so much identifying chitchat will probably read them, or you leave yourself open to attack.

Most prossies take a neg review in their stride or just sound off about that “that evil site”. A couple will go on Mumsnet to bleed their hearts out. One or two more will slag you off to other prossies. The occasional one is a cyberbitch.

It’s unrelated to how ‘sweet and friendly’ she can be during a session.

Old timers on UKP will remember with horror the case of Tony of Stoney who suffered beyond belief.

It’s easy to be taken in when you’ve only fucked about fifty whores. One or two may come over as ‘special’. They’re not. It’s a business arrangement. Beware. And enjoy.

[Whiteknight]

It’s easy to be taken in when you’ve only fucked about fifty whores. One or two may come over as ‘special’. They’re not. It’s a business arrangement. Beware. And enjoy.

+1 

[Atrueyorkie]

For those getting free and easy, a wee reminder that a main point of not giving prossies infornation is to maintain your independence on the forum.

One day when you have to give a negative review there will some bitch on the other end of it whose vindictive nature goes into overdrive. You will wish you hadn’t been so free and fucking easy. Don’t do it.

It’s ok for her to tell you her private details, real or not. If you start getting into your favourite songs, movies blah blah blah, as well as real name, you become vulnerable. Either you start tarting up (watering down) you reviews ‘conscious’ that the prostitute with whom you shared so much identifying chitchat will probably read them, or you leave yourself open to attack.

Most prossies take a neg review in their stride or just sound off about that “that evil site”. A couple will go on Mumsnet to bleed their hearts out. One or two more will slag you off to other prossies. The occasional one is a cyberbitch.

It’s unrelated to how ‘sweet and friendly’ she can be during a session.

Old timers on UKP will remember with horror the case of Tony of Stoney who suffered beyond belief.

It’s easy to be taken in when you’ve only fucked about fifty whores. One or two may come over as ‘special’. They’re not. It’s a business arrangement. Beware. And enjoy.

If there was a like button I would have pressed it. This comment +1

The more the share the less anonymity you have. The only time I’d share a lot of detail in a review is when it’s a negative for example. And that’s to help save another punter from not experiencing a horror show. That’s the only time I’d lower my anonymity protection per se.

Who is Tony of Stoney? What happened to him?

[Steely Dan]

Who is Tony of Stoney? What happened to him?

See reply 48

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=83654.msg1032988#msg1032988

[GreyDave]

For those getting free and easy, a wee reminder that
It’s unrelated to how ‘sweet and friendly’ she can be during a session.
It’s easy to be taken in when you’ve only fucked about fifty whores. One or two may come over as ‘special’. They’re not. It’s a business arrangement. Beware. And enjoy.

   

I wish I still had the inexperiance of the 50 Whores  that went along time ago , a WG told me she asked if punters had OH s and kids as if they did it meant they were "normal blokes" 
and it made her feel safer she said she could all ways tell the confirmed single guys as they just didn`t give off the relaxed around naked women vibe that the guys with OHs did funny thing to say i thought at time but years later after attending partie and swingers events  :cool:the Alfa shaven headed tatoo sporting whey protein drinking hogger is easy to spot  Just the sort of bloke she was talking about I think the most invasive questions I`ve been asked by a WG was did I suck cock?  was I a top or bottom  as she had a Bi partner for extra 
Punting eh ? I ve never met so many girls either used to be Nurses and studying Law

[Marmalade]

Tony of Stony

See reply 48
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=83654.msg1032988#msg1032988

That post by Smiths is entirely accurate. The long and heart-wrenching posts relating to said punter were, I understand, removed for his own safety.
btw, he didn't do anything wrong to any prossies, merely used a phrase to which one of them took intense umbrage.

[Atrueyorkie]

Tony of StonyThat post by Smiths is entirely accurate. The long and heart-wrenching posts relating to said punter were, I understand, removed for his own safety.
btw, he didn't do anything wrong to any prossies, merely used a phrase to which one of them took intense umbrage.

Damn it’s a cold world  seems this was before my membership. If he didn’t do anything wrong then that is very drastic to cause that much of a ripple effect. Hopefully the WG is flagged so nobody else has to go through that minefield?

In short I’ve never given any real information with questions asked, preferably not even directly answering them as once it’s spoken you can’t take it back. Can never be too careful  to think a one hour punt can bring your world crashing down. Not worth it, my anonymity will always be the top priority

[Thepacifist]

I doubt they really care. I think they’re just filling time with inane convo. Be whoever you want to be. I will go forth as Magic the magician 

Some people can’t be present in the moment so they say anything just to say something.