+1. All info on punts come from folks who have shelled out hard earned brass
Let's not forget that we are all in this for purely selfish reasons - the pursuit of sensual pleasure and sexual satisfaction.
And when we aren't indulging ourselves we like to talk about our experiences and take some vicarious pleasure in reading of the exploits of other punters. This selfish pleasure seeking benefits other punters on this forum like Adam Smith's hidden hand (I knew that economics A'level would come in useful one day).
Don't kid yourself that this is a team effort or that you're spending your money for anyone else's benefit.
Every question asked bumps a girl back into the limelight which, for me at least, is a useful reminder. I just don't see why you get yourselves so worked up about it - all that headbanging is needlessly aggressive.