Married 34 years, punted for about 15 of those years, sex at home was always average and the wife wouldn’t try anything new never had a bj from her, she was adventurous before we got married (anal) but it fizzled out in the following years, wouldn’t even do doggy nowadays hence why I started punting.
We still have sex a couple of times a month .........but it’s me that doesn’t want it with her, although she gives a great handjob.
Then 3 years ago I went on Oasis and have had a relationship with a woman I met, sex is great she’s open to anything, not only fantastic sex (bj, anal, strapon, anything) but she’s a fun person to be around and she absolutely loves me, and I feel she’s good for me mentally as she has an optimistic outlook on life whereas I can get quite down and my wife doesn’t appear to care................so thinking of ending the marriage as we are both unhappy and I certainly see no future in staying together, do I love my wife.....not sure, I care about her and wouldn’t want to see anything bad happen to her, but I will be retiring in 5 or 6 years and don’t relish being with her for ever more.
Punting in the back-burner for now as I now get everything I could wish for